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its a medical dildo, its fine!
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jit bull transpile posted:yarp. you're gonna be so sick of it in three months whoa. your schedule is so different. i am using blue for 10 minutes and then green for 15. starting sunday i am incorporating orange into the mix at least once a day working up to all three also my dilation schedule is 4x a day until thursday when i drop to 3x holy poo poo lol
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iospace posted:So what's the distinction between the colors? dilator sizes--colours are from soulsource. orange is the largest one
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Lain Iwakura posted:dilator sizes. orange is the largest one Ah, ok!
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iospace posted:Ah, ok! if someone is curious about the dilators, these are the ones i have minus the purple one https://www.soulsource.com/collections/grs-vaginal-dilators/products/soul-source-grs-vaginal-dilators-large-set
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dumbass cis person question: is this a process with an end, or does one need to maintain forever?
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Jonny 290 posted:dumbass cis person question: so for me, i am doing them 4x a day until next week thursday at which point i'll do 3x a day until mid-september. after then it'll be twice a day until christmas at which point it becomes once a day and finally when i hit a whole year i can do it once a week OR just have penetrative sex just as frequent. since i am a lesbian and my primary partner is cis, it's probably going to be dilations for the foreseeable future failing to dilate can cause the muscles to contract to the point where you won't be able to properly dilate and it can lead to infection due to an air pocket forming inside
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gotcha, ty for informing me. super interesting
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Ms. Twiggy posted:strap ons are a thing tho gonna say they already know
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are the widths of the colors proportional? I really hope they are.
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I think it's great that the person i was dating just said, "well do you see this relationship going anywhere" when I asked him to talk with me today about maybe being intimate again, because the last few times (about a month ago) didn't go so well because I got too dysphoric to really go through with anything. guess it's over then. just feel loving awful. i thought i could just take a break and maybe gather up my courage and try again, but nope, guess a month of no sex is all it takes to get dumped, and after he assured me "oh i love you and i want you to feel comfortable" but yay for you all, loving rich assholes. Aren’t you so happy you can afford the poo poo that makes your lives happier because you code or whatever the gently caress it is you all do SunAndSpring fucked around with this message at 05:15 on Jul 13, 2019 |
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Ms. Twiggy posted:strap ons are a thing tho trust me I know 
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SunAndSpring posted:I think it's great that the person i was dating just said, "well do you see this relationship going anywhere" when I asked him to talk with me today about maybe being intimate again, because the last few times (about a month ago) didn't go so well because I got too dysphoric to really go through with anything. guess it's over then. just feel loving awful. i thought i could just take a break and maybe gather up my courage and try again, but nope, guess a month of no sex is all it takes to get dumped, and after he assured me "oh i love you and i want you to feel comfortable" hey friend I am sorry
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Lain Iwakura posted:trust me I know they aren’t a replacement for dilation tho? that’s what i didn’t get from your comment or maybe that’s the joke lol
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Ms. Twiggy posted:they aren’t a replacement for dilation tho? that’s what i didn’t get from your comment tbh I am not sure if they would be but honestly I wouldn’t treat them as so and for my own sake i will probably stick to dilation going forward
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Ms. Twiggy posted:strap ons are a thing tho *two women make a futile attempt at emulating hereto sex, both getting increasingly annoyed and frustrated, before giving up as a cat walks in front of the camera* “There must be a better way!”
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Shifty Pony posted:are the widths of the colors proportional? I really hope they are. They are. My so made sure to get the ratios right.
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fishmech posted:They are. My so made sure to get the ratios right. Give them a high five
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fishmech posted:They are. My so made sure to get the ratios right. add 4 vertical white dots, one on each band
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SunAndSpring posted:I think it's great that the person i was dating just said, "well do you see this relationship going anywhere" when I asked him to talk with me today about maybe being intimate again, because the last few times (about a month ago) didn't go so well because I got too dysphoric to really go through with anything. guess it's over then. just feel loving awful. i thought i could just take a break and maybe gather up my courage and try again, but nope, guess a month of no sex is all it takes to get dumped, and after he assured me "oh i love you and i want you to feel comfortable" I'm really sorry you're struggling but attacking other queers is not an okay way to express your frustration itt
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I knew about dilators but didn't know they were loving color coded and it's amazing.
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spankmeister posted:I knew about dilators but didn't know they were loving color coded and it's amazing. not all are. there are different dilators but these are the ones that are commonly given out at least in Canada and the USA jit bull transpile posted:I'm really sorry you're struggling but attacking other queers is not an okay way to express your frustration itt I should at least acknowledge that I do have an extreme amount of privilege by living in a country where my government paid for my bottom surgery. it isn’t lost on me
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I just feel utterly miserable and it's all because I can't afford any of the stuff that would make feel less like a loving ghoul. I despise hearing from people with more than me talking about the poo poo they bought with their cash, why should I be unhappy just because I make less than you because of circumstances? Everyone is always like "oh sunny you should be happy for other people" but why should I, you have what I want and I'm never going to get it, that's loving demoralizing to see that poo poo
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SunAndSpring posted:I just feel utterly miserable and it's all because I can't afford any of the stuff that would make feel less like a loving ghoul. I despise hearing from people with more than me talking about the poo poo they bought with their cash, why should I be unhappy just because I make less than you because of circumstances? Everyone is always like "oh sunny you should be happy for other people" but why should I, you have what I want and I'm never going to get it, that's loving demoralizing to see that poo poo for what it is worth, I think it is awful that the United States is this way (I am not American just to be clear). i wish I had words for you to help but words don’t pay for things either. I really am sorry
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SunAndSpring posted:I just feel utterly miserable and it's all because I can't afford any of the stuff that would make feel less like a loving ghoul. I despise hearing from people with more than me talking about the poo poo they bought with their cash, why should I be unhappy just because I make less than you because of circumstances? Everyone is always like "oh sunny you should be happy for other people" but why should I, you have what I want and I'm never going to get it, that's loving demoralizing to see that poo poo You have every right in the world to be unhappy. Your negative emotions are legitimate, real, and valid and I’m sorry you feel as trapped, hurt, and distressed as you do when you encounter spaces filled with more fortunate and privileged trans folks. You don’t deserve to be inherently unhappy. No one does. But to come in here and denounce the perceived happy and contented emotions in this thread because you are unhappy is just as wrong as us trying to tell you to be happy. Just as your negative emotions are legitimate, real, and valid, so are the emotions of contentment or, at the very least, mild acceptance, of others in this thread. We as a community need to continue to fight for all trans people have access to the medical care and societal recognition they deserve, and we need to do this together without taking on a FYGM or spiteful attitude and without dismissing our successes and failures (both personal and communal). We all need to do better.
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SunAndSpring posted:I just feel utterly miserable and it's all because I can't afford any of the stuff that would make feel less like a loving ghoul. I despise hearing from people with more than me talking about the poo poo they bought with their cash, why should I be unhappy just because I make less than you because of circumstances? Everyone is always like "oh sunny you should be happy for other people" but why should I, you have what I want and I'm never going to get it, that's loving demoralizing to see that poo poo But try not to look at it so much in terms of what you don't have or what other people have, because someone is always going to have more than you. Think about what you do have. Everything aside, you've got your Truth. You've got your spirit. Stay true to the first and feed the second whatever scraps you can find. It's natural to feel that acid envy; to feel what's missing when you see where it isn't missing. I'm not some zen mistress in complete control with like, soooo much inner peace. I get jealous of other people's happiness. I have moments where others' laughter feels like a slap in my face. I get resentful that people are just waving their happiness in my miserable loving face. It's natural, but it's unhealthy. Feel it, yeah. Deal with it as best you can, and do what you can when you can to get where you have to go. It's lovely and frustrating, but it beats drowning yourself in bile. We will now return to our regularly scheduled programming. For more information send a self-addressed stamped envelope to PO Box 5318008 in Pueblo, Colorado
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i was reading a synopsis for the book "Adam" and am all "what the gently caress" right now
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yeah i just heard about that book/film and i am extremely What The gently caress Who Made This God drat
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seriously. what the hell is this garbage? https://twitter.com/itsspookygage/status/1150245822254264320
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Ms. Twiggy posted:seriously. what the hell is this garbage? holy poo poo... people still use tumblr??
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