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AITA for getting upset at my husband for not being able to tell the difference between my queso dip and my sisters?quote:What started out as a nice Sunday with my family has led to the worst fight my husband and I have ever had (both 27, married for 3 years now). There's lots of background here and we've both had frustrating weeks so we are both pretty keyed up.
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Jul 22, 2019 14:45
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runchild posted:Where the hell do you live that restaurants DON’T ask how a party is gonna split the check by default? I have/do run multiple high volume fine dining restaurants in SF and program a lot of POS systems for them. Especially with the time it takes to run chip and pin CC swipers, you are seriously delaying the payment process for everyone. We have a pretty hardline policy of no separate checks and will only split payment up to four ways. I’ll make an exception for things like ‘my per diem can’t be used to buy alcohol can you give me a check with food and my cocktails on another?’ Or ‘it’s my friends anniversary and I’d like to buy this bottle of Champagne for them’ but otherwise nah, especially if it’s some bullshit like ‘so she and I are going to split THIS app and then he and I will split THIS entree and can you put X desserts on my check and I’ll pay for 1/5 of the first bottle of wine and 1/6 of the second’ nope nope nope. Back when I still worked on the floor, a ten top of Salesforce tech weenies came in for a ‘team meeting’ and tried to whip out ten different Salesforce company cards to split their meal in some convoluted way and it’s like holy gently caress dude, have the team lead put it on their card and then submit your receipts to accounting that’s literally why you have a loving company card. To run 10 cards via chip and pin reader would take about six minutes total when done as fast as humanly possible during which times you cannot access any other screens, ring anything on any other check or walk away to do anything else (and neither can any of the other ten servers with twelve table sections on shift use that terminal either.) And this is with a top of the line, newly upgraded system from Oracle, it’s not like we’re running a Ukrainian bootleg version of Aloha on windows 98 (oh, memories....) just loving give your friend cash or Venmo or take turns or something, gently caress.
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Jul 22, 2019 14:47
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:AITA for getting upset at my husband for not being able to tell the difference between my queso dip and my sisters? Now I want to see the sisters that look exactly like queso dip (whatever the heck that is).
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Jul 22, 2019 14:47
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Anyone who flat out refuses to even ask for split checks/pay for what they actually ate rather than doing an even split in a group situation is just looking to freeload. Yeah it's nice you want to get drunk on £12 cocktails Stacy, but some people have lovely jobs or lots of bills and need to actually spend less than an entire weeks wages on a single night out. With this in mind, if you end up in a group like and they refuse to back down this you are honour bound to hoist them by their own petard order at LEAST 5 cocktails at the same time when the waiter takes initial drink orders, as well as two orders of the most expensive item on the menu. Ask for the second lobster/steak/truffle souffle to be put in a doggy bag from the get go.
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Jul 22, 2019 14:53
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Jerry Cotton posted:Now I want to see the sisters that look exactly like queso dip (whatever the heck that is). it's a nacho-cheese type dip
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Jul 22, 2019 14:54
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Weird how the extremely busy mexican restaurant down the street has no trouble running separate checks during lunch rush.
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Jul 22, 2019 14:55
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for kicking my Grandson out for not respecting my authority? His grandson pays $400 a month in rent, does chores, but he can't buy junk food with his own money and has a curfew? gently caress off.
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Jul 22, 2019 14:56
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:AITA for getting upset at my husband for not being able to tell the difference between my queso dip and my sisters? The way this woman writes makes me want to declare her the rear end in a top hat, but they both sound pretty terrible. It's chip dip. Ebola Roulette posted:His grandson pays $400 a month in rent, does chores, but he can't buy junk food with his own money and has a curfew? gently caress off. I want to know how old the grandson is. I kept waiting for that to be revealed and it never was- my money's on 40.
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Jul 22, 2019 14:57
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Rubellavator posted:Weird how the extremely busy mexican restaurant down the street has no trouble running separate checks during lunch rush. I don't know why but I get the feeling the "six minutes is too long for people to pay for their meal" is also a landlord or something else as heinous as that.
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Jul 22, 2019 14:58
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Ebola Roulette posted:His grandson pays $400 a month in rent, does chores, but he can't buy junk food with his own money and has a curfew? gently caress off. Kinda want to know how lovely his parents are, that this was apparently a step up.
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Jul 22, 2019 15:01
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Rubellavator posted:Weird how the extremely busy mexican restaurant down the street has no trouble running separate checks during lunch rush. You mean fine dining is more complex than a taqueria/fast casual?!?! Whoa! I never would have guessed! I’ve been doing it wrong this whole time! Lol $12 cocktails, try $18+
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Jul 22, 2019 15:11
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"My House, My Rules" is rarely the cry of a reasonable person, but it automatically becomes an rear end in a top hat attitude when a) you are charging $400 a month and b) the rules are loving stupid.
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Jul 22, 2019 15:11
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:You mean fine dining is more complex than a taqueria/fast casual?!?! Uhh no what kind of hell idiot would think that? Anyway this was about paying not dining so unless it's a fine paying establishment, poo poo the gently caress off.
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Jul 22, 2019 15:12
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:You mean fine dining is more complex than a taqueria/fast casual?!?! Whoa! I never would have guessed! I’ve been doing it wrong this whole time! $56 per person including drinks and extra shots is not fine dining  If the restaurant can't/won't split the cheque, you can split it yourselves using cash/paypal/internet banking etc, this is what non-freeloaders do. (also pounds ain't dollars, hard as this government has worked to destroy the pound)
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Jul 22, 2019 15:14
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:You mean fine dining is more complex than a taqueria/fast casual?!?! Whoa! I never would have guessed! I’ve been doing it wrong this whole time! Jerry Cotton posted:I don't know why but I get the feeling the "six minutes is too long for people to pay for their meal" is also a landlord or something else as heinous as that. I would love for you to see the loving meltdowns people have when processing payments is not instantaneous. And yeah, six minutes is significant in the pace of a restaurant when the server has 8-11 other tables to tend to. I am the furthest thing from a goddamn landlord, string those fuckers up.
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Jul 22, 2019 15:14
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Fatkraken posted:$56 per person including drinks and extra shots is not fine dining Yes exactly do that.
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Jul 22, 2019 15:16
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:You mean fine dining is more complex than a taqueria/fast casual?!?! Whoa! I never would have guessed! I’ve been doing it wrong this whole time! Lol you suck at your job
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Jul 22, 2019 15:16
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Rubellavator posted:Weird how the extremely busy mexican restaurant down the street has no trouble running separate checks during lunch rush. split checks is a cultural thing When I lived in NYC, asking for split checks is considered rude as gently caress bc it slows down service. You either say it right at the start of the meal, or settle up with each other after. loving venmo bro. In fact, lots of places will straight up tell you they won't split it for you. Now I'm in GA and it's assumed as default to split the check and drives me loving bonkers because holy poo poo people have absolutely no shame taking up like 15-20 minutes of a server's time splitting up 10 different checks at their table I went out to eat a week ago and watching my poor waitress split out the checks for the table of rowdy folks pounding back margs and sangrias was so painful, and then they were so confused when they got the checks it took SO LOOOONNNNGGG The idea with splitting a check evenly is you trust each other who gives a poo poo about a few bucks among friends, if you really aren't able to do that more's the pity to you, weirdo StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 15:21 on Jul 22, 2019 |
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Jul 22, 2019 15:19
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Yeah if extracting money from ten separate customers disrupts your business in any way, you're business is literally a piece of poo poo. (The fact that they share a table is completely irrelevant process-wise. Unless you suck at processes.)
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Jul 22, 2019 15:19
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Of course you use hatch green chiles, you already said you were from the southwest. What, do you think I joined your club for fake reasons?
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Jul 22, 2019 15:20
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Jerry Cotton posted:Yeah if extracting money from ten separate customers disrupts your business in any way, you're business is literally a piece of poo poo. (The fact that they share a table is completely irrelevant process-wise. Unless you suck at processes.) it's not extracting the money, it's the logistics of splitting a check into separate checks takes extra time especially if it has already been rung up the once most other places they will do this because 'customer service' and white people expectations thereof in nyc some places will and some won't bc time is loving money and get out of our loving faces with extra work just bc you guys don't trust each other i like this system, maybe stop being such a piece of poo poo about a few dollars or just eat alone
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Jul 22, 2019 15:23
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Have you people worked in restaurants before? My guess is you haven't, or you worked at a place that did not get busy. Do you know what a pain in the rear end it is to print, drop in books, bring to table and then ring up 10 separate checks, especially when you're loving busy serving 7+ other tables? 10 minutes is a long loving time in the serving world during a rush. It's especially a pain in the rear end if the server didn't split things properly in the POS to begin with (this depends on the POS) because then they have to gently caress around at the terminal to move everything around.
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Jul 22, 2019 15:24
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yeah see asking people to be conscientious of the system so it works faster for everyone is hard bc they get all I'M PAYING FOR SERVICE, BARBARA HAD AN EXTRA MARG I MUST NOT BE INVOLVED IN HER TRANSACTION and think bc they're spending 30 bucks on food they are a King they do no realize they are being loving ingrates i hope when they die they end up in check-splitting hell
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Jul 22, 2019 15:27
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I always have the highest respect for people who believe that their industry is the only high-pressure industry where workers are habitually pushed for time and customers are demanding. NOT!
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Jul 22, 2019 15:28
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DJ Fuckboy Supreme posted:The way this woman writes makes me want to declare her the rear end in a top hat, but they both sound pretty terrible. It's chip dip. From the comments he’s loving 22 years old
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Jul 22, 2019 15:30
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it sounds like you should be blaming your lovely POS system rather than people who want to do a normal thing to do at a restaurant
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Jul 22, 2019 15:32
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Barudak posted:Of course you use hatch green chiles, you already said you were from the southwest. What, do you think I joined your club for fake reasons? The first rule of New Mexico Club is you don't talk about New Mexico Club.
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Jul 22, 2019 15:33
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Known Lecher posted:The first rule of New Mexico Club is you don't talk about New Mexico Club. but if you don't talk about it then how will you ferret out the fake New Mexicans trying to steal your superior New Mexico culture
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Jul 22, 2019 15:34
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I prefer hatch chile queso to meat quesos but the way she's talking poo poo about Texas I'm ready to piledrive her into the dirt 
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Jul 22, 2019 15:39
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Jul 22, 2019 15:52
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:AITA for getting upset at my husband for not being able to tell the difference between my queso dip and my sisters? MAKE NO BABBYS posted:I have/do run multiple high volume fine dining restaurants in SF and program
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Jul 22, 2019 15:53
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coronatae posted:I prefer hatch chile queso to meat quesos but the way she's talking poo poo about Texas I'm ready to piledrive her into the dirt “Poor New Mexico! So far from Heaven; so close to Texas.”
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Jul 22, 2019 15:56
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coronatae posted:I prefer hatch chile queso to meat quesos but the way she's talking poo poo about Texas I'm ready to piledrive her into the dirt Same. blugu64 fucked around with this message at 17:38 on Jul 22, 2019 |
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Jul 22, 2019 15:59
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Barudak posted:Man I wonder why this kid doesnt want to live with his parents AnoHito posted:Kinda want to know how lovely his parents are, that this was apparently a step up. It sounds like the parents weren't lovely, the grandson just wanted to live closer to the city. quote:He is 22 years old. He doesn't want to live with his parents because he likes the area I live in more than the area they live (small in the countryside where as I live in the suburb of a larger city).
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Jul 22, 2019 16:09
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StrangersInTheNight posted:it's not extracting the money, it's the logistics of splitting a check into separate checks takes extra time especially if it has already been rung up the once one time after a large family luncheon at a filled-to-capacity bruncherie i brought my own loving plate and cup to the bus bucket and a haggared rear end in a top hat in a lovely sunday school teacher vest nearly shat their depends right then and there. you could see them drain the humanity and mentally label my husk THE HELP.
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Jul 22, 2019 16:11
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Idgi just chant MY RESTAURANT MY RULES at the POS and it should split checks just fine?
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Jul 22, 2019 16:15
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AITA for wanting my daughter to stop texting her uncle videos of her doing ballet?quote:Me and my wife have a daughter who is 10. Her uncle (my wife's brother) is a gay man who is married to a guy who is a ballet professor. He used to dance but then he got injured etc. so he only teaches it now, as far as I know, to young adults.
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Jul 22, 2019 16:17
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DemoneeHo posted:It sounds like the parents weren't lovely, the grandson just wanted to live closer to the city. lol at a midnight curfew and "no junk food or soda!" rule for a loving 22 year old paying a decent non-token amount of rent (unless he's DANGEROUSLY obese and at risk of death from diabetes I guess for the soda/food thing but even then help the guy out with getting treatment for his mental disorder rather than making unenforceable rules that he'll just break any time he's outside the house)
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Jul 22, 2019 16:17
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for wanting my daughter to stop texting her uncle videos of her doing ballet? kid just wants to be better at ballet, you defo have at least a subconscious belief that the guy IS a creep but you're pretending that it's because you don't want her to take her hobby too seriously. Why even let her do lessons if you think "caring about being good at a thing" is bad?
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Jul 22, 2019 16:20
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA for getting a tattoo that my wife has "forbid"? OP seems to be taking this situation way too seriously.
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Jul 22, 2019 16:20
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