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Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; Ultra Carp

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for enforcing my boss's "decency rules" while at a conference in Vegas (even though he seems to have thrown them out the window)?

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# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:09

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MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

He clearly doesnt give a poo poo about his own kid. He is treating the custody he does have as a chore, the kid would probably be better off if he just fucks off and keeps sending child support checks.

What gives you that idea? I didn�t get that at all.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:10

Telemaze: Apr 22, 2008; What you expected hasn't happened.; Fun Shoe

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

He clearly doesnt give a poo poo about his own kid. He is treating the custody he does have as a chore, the kid would probably be better off if he just fucks off and keeps sending child support checks.

I'm not seeing that at all in that post. Wait, just because his kid gets bored when he's over? The dad said he finds fun stuff for them to do and invites people over for the kid to hang out with. Accommodating his son doesn't need to include babysitting his ex's child with another person.

eta: kids get bored at home a lot too, it's a pretty normal kid thing

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:12

AreWeDrunkYet: Jul 8, 2006

MarcusSA posted:

What gives you that idea? I didn�t get that at all.

The kid has explicitly said he is bored and lonely when he is there. The dad has tried to fix this by inviting ... neighbors. The kid wants company in his own age range, and unless the mother is lying that the two kids are close, not taking in the stepbrother just seems selfish because the dad doesnt want the hassle. Probably better to just let the kid stay with his mother where he is happy.

Telemaze posted:

eta: kids get bored at home a lot too, it's a pretty normal kid thing

Are we just inserting information here? If this is the case, it wasnt mentioned.

AreWeDrunkYet fucked around with this message at 01:18 on Jul 24, 2019

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:14

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

if you go to the now locked thread, he edited something like "the consensus is that I'm an rear end in a top hat, so I guess I'll stop making these jokes for a while until she's ready for them again"

And it may be childish but that's "just how he is"! Better never change and die alone because I drove away everyone who ever loved me!

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:17

sephiRoth IRA: Jun 13, 2007; "Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

The kid has explicitly said he is bored and lonely when he is there. The dad has tried to fix this by inviting ... neighbors. The kid wants company in his own age range, and unless the mother is lying that the two kids are close, not taking in the stepbrother just seems selfish because the dad doesnt want the hassle. Probably better to just let the kid stay with his mother where he is happy.

mmm nah I don't think that taking your ex-wife's kid that's not your biological child is a good idea at all. Let's say he does anything that for one second goes against his ex's wishes (known or unknown). She freaks out, he gets reamed. Plus there's liability issues. That situation is going to generate far more drama and pain than it could ever be worth.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:21

Telemaze: Apr 22, 2008; What you expected hasn't happened.; Fun Shoe

I assumed the neighbors include neighbor children. I doubt the dad is inviting random adults over to entertain his child.

Also that is an extreme extrapolation to make from a kid complaining about being bored or lonely. By all means the father should make his kid as comfortable as possible but expecting him to take on the responsibility of his ex's unrelated child is ridiculous. The older son is not being neglected by his father because he has to spend two whole weeks away from his half-brother.

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

Are we just inserting information here? If this is the case, it wasnt mentioned.

If by "inserting information" you mean that I'm basing this on my knowledge of raising children, then sure. You seriously never heard of kids complaining about being bored over summer, or when they go stay with their grandparents or whatever?

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:22

QuarkJets: Sep 8, 2008

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

He clearly doesnt give a poo poo about his own kid. He is treating the custody he does have as a chore, the kid would probably be better off if he just fucks off and keeps sending child support checks.

That's one of the hottest of takes, a 7 year-old being bored around an adult parent doesn't have anything to do with whether that parent cares about them. Most kids find most adults boring.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:23

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

AITA for saying I don't respect my sister's profession as Prostitute, but do respect my other siblings professions?
So I (16M) have three siblings (26F, 28F and 30M).

My youngest sister (26F) we'll call Roxy works as an Escort. Here in the UK this is legal. My other sister (28F) Elizabeth is a Doctor and my brother (30M) John is an Aerospace Engineer.

Everyone knows Roxy is an Escort and noone has had an issue with it. We let her do what she wanted and never discriminated against her in any form. I have no issue with it, its legal and work is work.

Now all of them came over yesterday and while we were eating I kept asking Elizabeth and John questions about their jobs, etc, and of course they're always happy to answer.

I then told them that I really look up to them and hope to be like them one day. Roxy looked a bit annoyed and she was drinking quite a bit of alcohol so she said ''What about me huh? Not looking up to me?''. I was confused, I said ''What do you mean?''

So she said to me ''You keep banging on about their jobs and looking up to them as heroes but you're not including me much in the convo. Don't you look up to me like that?''.

I felt she was hostile but I answered honestly ''No I don't''. She looked a bit hurt by that and asked why, and I said ''I respect that you're so open about what you do, yeah, but I don't respect the profession anywhere near as much as I do a Doctor or an Aerospace Engineer.....so sorry but I don't look up to you''. She called me rear end in a top hat and left.

She's usually never so aggressive like that at all and has never spoken to me like that. Elizabeth and John said I acted fine and did nothing wrong, and my parents agreed with me.

I'm completely fine with what she does, we all are, but if I'm being honest I just don't respect her profession anywhere near as much as I do a Doctor or an Engineer. In fact, I don't respect MOST professions anywhere near as much as those two...because of how immensely competitive and difficult they are, as opposed to Escorting. I look up to Doctors, Engineers, Professional Athletes, etc as my idols and heroes, but John and Elizabeth are my personal inspirations. AITA?

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:24

sephiRoth IRA: Jun 13, 2007; "Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan

Anybody can catch or flash a dick, but not everybody can be a doctor or aerospace engineer. NTA.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:29

AreWeDrunkYet: Jul 8, 2006

QuarkJets posted:

That's one of the hottest of takes, a 7 year-old being bored around an adult parent doesn't have anything to do with whether that parent cares about them. Most kids find most adults boring.

Why force the kid to do something he clearly isnt interested in? If the kid says he is bored and lonely at his dad's house - and presumably this is not the case at home - why are they dragging him out there for half the summer except for some weird attachment to genetics? Or if the dad cares about his kid, why turn away his friend?

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:30

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for saying I don't respect my sister's profession as Prostitute, but do respect my other siblings professions?
So I (16M) have three siblings (26F, 28F and 30M).

My youngest sister (26F) we'll call Roxy works as an Escort. Here in the UK this is legal. My other sister (28F) Elizabeth is a Doctor and my brother (30M) John is an Aerospace Engineer.

Everyone knows Roxy is an Escort and noone has had an issue with it. We let her do what she wanted and never discriminated against her in any form. I have no issue with it, its legal and work is work.

Now all of them came over yesterday and while we were eating I kept asking Elizabeth and John questions about their jobs, etc, and of course they're always happy to answer.

I then told them that I really look up to them and hope to be like them one day. Roxy looked a bit annoyed and she was drinking quite a bit of alcohol so she said ''What about me huh? Not looking up to me?''. I was confused, I said ''What do you mean?''

So she said to me ''You keep banging on about their jobs and looking up to them as heroes but you're not including me much in the convo. Don't you look up to me like that?''.

I felt she was hostile but I answered honestly ''No I don't''. She looked a bit hurt by that and asked why, and I said ''I respect that you're so open about what you do, yeah, but I don't respect the profession anywhere near as much as I do a Doctor or an Aerospace Engineer.....so sorry but I don't look up to you''. She called me rear end in a top hat and left.

She's usually never so aggressive like that at all and has never spoken to me like that. Elizabeth and John said I acted fine and did nothing wrong, and my parents agreed with me.

I'm completely fine with what she does, we all are, but if I'm being honest I just don't respect her profession anywhere near as much as I do a Doctor or an Engineer. In fact, I don't respect MOST professions anywhere near as much as those two...because of how immensely competitive and difficult they are, as opposed to Escorting. I look up to Doctors, Engineers, Professional Athletes, etc as my idols and heroes, but John and Elizabeth are my personal inspirations. AITA?

Chalk this one up to missing the real problem. "I constantly talked about how awesome my sister and brother are and ignored my other sister, why does she feel bad?"

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:30

Pvt.Scott: Feb 16, 2007; What God wants, God gets, God help us all

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for getting mad at my younger sister wearing a bra while my friends are around?

So my parents are away on a business related trip for a week, so me (21) and my 16 year old sister are home alone in that period. I invited 4 friends over for beers and playstation today. My sister was chilling her room.

Now, it's not hot at all today. One of my friends is shirtless, but when he drinks he sweats like a mfer anyways. That's besides the point, but i'm laying out the scenario.

Anyways, my sister comes out in a very revealing calvin klein bra and booty shorts. She asks for a beer as a joke (she's 16) and i told her 'No' sternly and she said 'jeez alright', grabbed a water and went back to her room. Now my friends are guys. They checked her out. Not denying it at all. Couple of them mouthed 'oof' once she left.

When my friends left, i went into her room and told her she can't be doing that poo poo when i have friends over. She replied, word for word - "You're just scared im gonna get with one your friends" i left and we haven't spoken in a couple hours.

I'm so shocked. AMTA?

If OP isn�t going to have orgies, they shouldn�t bring around the cock buffet.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:33

hawowanlawow: Jul 27, 2009

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

Why force the kid to do something he clearly isnt interested in? If the kid says he is bored and lonely at his dad's house - and presumably this is not the case at home - why are they dragging him out there for half the summer except for some weird attachment to genetics? Or if the dad cares about his kid, why turn away his friend?

you're a loving moron lol

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:39

LadyPictureShow: Nov 18, 2005; Success!

Smirking_Serpent posted:

if you go to the now locked thread, he edited something like "the consensus is that I'm an rear end in a top hat, so I guess I'll stop making these jokes for a while until she's ready for them again"

In the comments he had another real noodle-scratcher.

quote:

I appreciate the insight. I just gotta say though, because I had to laugh, like laugh REALLY hard at that last part because... she does have a phobia of dogs and our last big fight was because I fostered some for a couple of months.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:41

Patrick Spens: Jul 21, 2006; "Every quarterback says they've got guts, But how many have actually seen 'em?"; Pillbug

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

why are they dragging him out there for half the summer except for some weird attachment to genetics?

Were you raised by pod people? Particularly autistic wolves?

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:41

AreWeDrunkYet: Jul 8, 2006

Patrick Spens posted:

Were you raised by pod people? Particularly autistic wolves?

So just make the kid suffer because a judge ordered it so?

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:44

MagusofStars: Mar 31, 2012

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for saying I don't respect my sister's profession as Prostitute, but do respect my other siblings professions?

In fairness, if he's a male who posts on Reddit, it's probably not worth asking a bunch of questions to learn about how her job works, because "getting paid for sex" is not a viable career choice for him.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:49

sephiRoth IRA: Jun 13, 2007; "Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan

MagusofStars posted:

In fairness, if he's a male who posts on Reddit, it's probably not worth trying to learn details about how her job works, because "getting paid for sex" is not a viable career choice.

Thinking that being a doctor is a better career choice than sex worker is not that hot of a take

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:51

Eediot Jedi: Dec 25, 2007; This is where I begin to speculate what being a
man of my word costs me

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for suggesting it's a bit weird for my husband to hang out with the young crowd at work?

My husband (32) is young in spirit. So he usually hangs around the 20-24 year olds at work, goes to all the pub crawls till 5am and only really talks of them when I hear about work, despite the majority of people in his team being in his thirties. It's odd because these kids are as fit as ever when they sit at work three hours later, but my husband suffers BADLY for days from these drunk all-nighters.

I have noticed that despite both of us growing older, the friends and colleagues he hangs out with always sort of stay the same age. His only friend who isn't that age is soon becoming a dad for the first time and my husband barely initializes going out with him anymore.

So when I heard about another pub night coming up, I asked how old everyone was. He raised his eyebrows at me and said "I don't know". I asked who's coming, hd mentioned a few if the young colleagues and some new ones. Fresh from college. I said "Oh wow, you must be the oldest one there. Don't you feel like a grandpa?" to which by usually cocky husband reacts like I slapped him across the face. He mumbled something about me not understanding the office dynamics and then avoided me until we went to bed.

I look at it as a bit of an early midlife crisis and am worried for him. I don't want him to be stuck in his personal development or worse, suddenly realize he doesn't really fit in anymore and be unhappy.

Am I an the rear end in a top hat here?

I love stories like this because I'm like 85% positive that husband has some form ADHD just from that.

Dude is impulsive, not self-aware enough to evaluate the actual consequences of his actions or is forgetting them by next time, "young in spirit", having trouble keeping friends his own chronological age so he's probably a few years behind maturity wise from his peers, is extremely sensitive to even gentle/constructive criticism. I bet if you asked the wife, you'd find things like hubby is forgetful, like chores, shopping etc, seemingly ignores simple tasks for too long, has trouble communicating, doesn't have concrete long term goals.

Eediot Jedi fucked around with this message at 02:05 on Jul 24, 2019

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:54

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

AITA for writing "please" on a bar check?

This past weekend I went to a bar with a bunch of friends of mine for a 21st birthday and it's safe to say that we had a lot of drinks.

It's around 1AM and last call is going to be happening soon, so I walk up to get a couple more whiskey sours. I walk up to the bar and the bartender spots me and walks over. He gives me a nod and I say "I'll just have two whiskey sours."

He responds with: "and?" I just think that he may believe I want something else because I had been ordering so many drinks before. "No, nothing else. Just the two whiskey sours."

"Okay, but and....?" he asks me again.

Now I'm just baffled. I give him the eyebrow raise and he's still just looking at me. "Dude, I just want two whiskey sours."

He then shakes his head and rolls his eyes and says "it starts with P and rhymes with knees." He's dead serious. Me being as intoxicated as I am all I can think of is him making a stupid penis joke which makes me even more confused.

I give him the questioning look again and he finally says: "Haven't you heard of please, kid. Be polite and you're more likely to get good service."

I'm generally a very good tipper. If you bring me a drink for 10 bucks I'll give you 15. The whiskey sours were around 18 dollars and I didn't tip him anything and wrote "Please" on the top of the check which then resulted in me being thrown out. AITA here?

EDIT: I see a lot of comments saying how they wouldn�t throw me out for not tipping and this is true I believe. They kicked me out for �being a smartass.� The writing of �please� was me being a smartass and is what got me thrown out.

EDIT #2: Im a 22 year old man.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:55

hawowanlawow: Jul 27, 2009

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for writing "please" on a bar check?

This past weekend I went to a bar with a bunch of friends of mine for a 21st birthday and it's safe to say that we had a lot of drinks.

It's around 1AM and last call is going to be happening soon, so I walk up to get a couple more whiskey sours. I walk up to the bar and the bartender spots me and walks over. He gives me a nod and I say "I'll just have two whiskey sours."

He responds with: "and?" I just think that he may believe I want something else because I had been ordering so many drinks before. "No, nothing else. Just the two whiskey sours."

"Okay, but and....?" he asks me again.

Now I'm just baffled. I give him the eyebrow raise and he's still just looking at me. "Dude, I just want two whiskey sours."

He then shakes his head and rolls his eyes and says "it starts with P and rhymes with knees." He's dead serious. Me being as intoxicated as I am all I can think of is him making a stupid penis joke which makes me even more confused.

I give him the questioning look again and he finally says: "Haven't you heard of please, kid. Be polite and you're more likely to get good service."

I'm generally a very good tipper. If you bring me a drink for 10 bucks I'll give you 15. The whiskey sours were around 18 dollars and I didn't tip him anything and wrote "Please" on the top of the check which then resulted in me being thrown out. AITA here?

EDIT: I see a lot of comments saying how they wouldn’t throw me out for not tipping and this is true I believe. They kicked me out for “being a smartass.” The writing of “please” was me being a smartass and is what got me thrown out.

EDIT #2: Im a 22 year old man.

this bartender is going places lol

# ? Jul 24, 2019 01:58

ulex minor: Apr 30, 2018

LadyPictureShow posted:

In the comments he had another real noodle-scratcher.

honestly think if this guy isn't trolling he is actually just a sadist and is enjoying sharing exploits of how funny he finds it to make his wife miserable

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:02

Xik: Mar 10, 2011; Dinosaur Gum

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for writing "please" on a bar check?

What an insufferable bartender.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:04

Pinecone Sample: Oct 12, 2010; THIS ACCOUNT HAS BEEN SEIZED
by the United States Federal Bureau of Investigation in accordance with a seizure warrant issued pursuant to 69 U.S.C Sec. 420

you know how Amerifats like those restaurants where failed comedians are mean to you at your table as a form of entertainment, there should be some where your server is a brat who you have to placate like the Anthony and the cornfields episode of The Twilight Zone, this is also probably an under-recognized sexual fetish

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:05

Xik: Mar 10, 2011; Dinosaur Gum

hosts that hate you is surely more british than american

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:07

Pinecone Sample: Oct 12, 2010; THIS ACCOUNT HAS BEEN SEIZED
by the United States Federal Bureau of Investigation in accordance with a seizure warrant issued pursuant to 69 U.S.C Sec. 420

Update about my boyfriend who grabbed someone's ice cream

quote:

So I finally got the explanation from him yesterday. Turns out he was in a Discord server chat where the members all dare each other to humiliate themselves by doing outlandish things in public they'd never normally do.

He told me he's left the group because the experience was really stressful to him. Not "exciting" like he'd thought when he joined. It was the first time he'd taken one of the dares. He said that afterwards he "just didn't know what to say and couldn't believe he'd actually done it."

He was extremely apologetic for acting like a lunatic causing me to worry about him. We had a long talk about it last night. I genuinely believe he regrets it. He knows what a stupid fuckup it was.

Not much else to say really, just wanted to come back now that I got the answers. Thank you to everyone who tried to make sense of it in the original post, and who gave me advice for talking with him.

I am almost as disappointed as I was with Nerve (2016)

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:12

Eediot Jedi: Dec 25, 2007; This is where I begin to speculate what being a
man of my word costs me

Dad refusing to host his son's brother for a while is an amazingly huge rear end in a top hat. He's your son's brother. He's not your blood but he's still your son's blood, he's your family too if you weren't such a giant fuckstick about the particulars. Absolutely do whatever you can to foster a close relationship between the two because good family loving owns even if growing up you'll want to murder each other at times. You can still invite random neighbourhood kids around too and they can all play together.

Bad family can get in bin, if four year old becomes a chud you can always sever and blame your ex.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for getting mad at my younger sister wearing a bra while my friends are around?

So my parents are away on a business related trip for a week, so me (21) and my 16 year old sister are home alone in that period. I invited 4 friends over for beers and playstation today. My sister was chilling her room.

Now, it's not hot at all today. One of my friends is shirtless, but when he drinks he sweats like a mfer anyways. That's besides the point, but i'm laying out the scenario.

Anyways, my sister comes out in a very revealing calvin klein bra and booty shorts. She asks for a beer as a joke (she's 16) and i told her 'No' sternly and she said 'jeez alright', grabbed a water and went back to her room. Now my friends are guys. They checked her out. Not denying it at all. Couple of them mouthed 'oof' once she left.

When my friends left, i went into her room and told her she can't be doing that poo poo when i have friends over. She replied, word for word - "You're just scared im gonna get with one your friends" i left and we haven't spoken in a couple hours.

I'm so shocked. AMTA?

get owned by 16 year old sister. Upside: your friends are gonna be real keen to hang out at yours this summer, and soon are gonna start asking things like "is your sister coming??"

also dump your trash friends because if you're 21, presumably they are too, and they're ogling a 16 year old.

Eediot Jedi fucked around with this message at 02:15 on Jul 24, 2019

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:13

Eediot Jedi: Dec 25, 2007; This is where I begin to speculate what being a
man of my word costs me

Pinecone Sample posted:

Update about my boyfriend who grabbed someone's ice cream

I am almost as disappointed as I was with Nerve (2016)

Hahahaha so why did he have to scoff it in the stairwell? Was getting caught by your partner part of the prank? Just say oh ok. Then ask him for an invite to the discord server, dump if not produced or adequately explained inside 30 seconds.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:15

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

Knobb Manwich posted:

Dad refusing to host his son's brother for a while is an amazingly huge rear end in a top hat. He's your son's brother. He's not your blood but he's still your son's blood, he's your family too if you weren't such a giant fuckstick about the particulars. Absolutely do whatever you can to foster a close relationship between the two because good family loving owns even if growing up you'll want to murder each other at times. You can still invite random neighbourhood kids around too and they can all play together.

Bad family can get in bin, if four year old becomes a chud you can always sever and blame your ex.

get owned by 16 year old sister. Upside: your friends are gonna be real keen to hang out at yours this summer, and soon are gonna start asking things like "is your sister coming??"

also dump your trash friends because if you're 21, presumably they are too, and they're ogling a 16 year old.

Love these spicy hot takes.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:16

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

I (31F) cut contact with my parents. Sister (25F) wants me to reconnect with them.

quote:

Background:

I was a "difficult child" growing up, to use my mother's favorite term for me. The oldest of five kids, never interested in boys, really into science and math, etc. My mom especially kept trying to pressure me into more traditionally feminine pursuits, and starting in my junior year of high school started trying to set me up with boys from families she approved of (arranged marriages are common in my parents' culture). We fought, a lot.

I was able to get through all of that and thanks to scholarships was able to go to college. My parents grumbled, but I have a passion for a field that happens to be very high paying, and my mom wasn't subtle about pushing me to get an MRS degree. Things came to a head when three things happened all at once:

I got a terrific job offer from a major company in my field. It required me to move to another state, but they'd pay me to finish my degree. I took the offer immediately, which gave me the independence to do the two other things.

I came out as gay. My parents went back and forth between refusing to believe me and insisting that it was wrong and brought shame on our family.

I converted to another religion. At the time I was getting serious with a woman of a different faith than the one I'd been raised in, and while I didn't convert purely because of her, she was a factor. My parents did not approve to say the least.

In short, the resulting series of fights lead to my parents declaring that if I took this job and continued on my course of being a lesbian and converting to this other religion, they'd disown me. I let them disown me and completely cut contact with everyone in my family except my little sister. She was still living at home with my parents and we'd always gotten along very well, so I quietly kept in contact with her.

I haven't seen or spoken a word to my parents or anyone in my family except my little sister in seven years.

I'm still working for the same company, now in a higher level position that gives me a very comfortable living. I'm also now married to a woman, not the one I'd been dating when I cut contact with my family but of the same religion and faith is important to us both. I have a lovely little girl, my wife's from a previous [heterosexual] marriage and through IVF I'm now pregnant. Our wedding was a small, private thing mostly with my wife's family and some friends. No one from my family was present.

Now:

A few days ago my sister was in a car accident. Drunk driver and she's not at fault, but I was able to step in and cover her medical bills since her job doesn't pay enough for how badly she was hurt. I was on the phone with my sister talking about possibly coming to visit and we were talking about whether my daughter should come with me when I suddenly heard my mom's voice yell "DAUGHTER?!"

My mom was apparently visiting my sister and grabbed the phone away from her. She started screaming at me about how could I have a daughter, why did I not tell her I was getting married, how could I steal her grandchildren from her, etc. Eventually I snapped, told her "I have a daughter, you do not have a granddaughter" and hung up.

Predictably my social media and phone have been blowing up with my parents and relatives who think they have a right to my life and my daughter (and child or children I'm pregnant with) after they disowned me for pursuing a life of my own, being gay, and converting to another religion. They've really focused on my daughter especially, I'm apparently the first of my parents' children to have kids and my parents have gone nuts with OUR GRANDDAUGHTER. I've blocked everyone I can, and my wife (who's been a champ about the whole thing) already took precautions to make sure no one can do something crazy like I've read about estranged parents pulling on this forum - trying to pick up our daughter from school without us, breaking into our house, etc.

Problem is, my sister thinks I'm being mean. She'd like to meet my wife and her niece without hiding it from the family, and thinks I can meet my family somewhere in the middle.

My gut feeling says no, my family burned their bridges years ago and I don't want my daughter exposed to people who think I'm sick, shameful, and sinful for living my life the way I've chosen. My wife agrees.

Still, from someone who's not intimately tied up in this mess, am I being unfair to my parents? Should I hear them out? Or should I just keep stonewalling them?

tl;dr: Cut contact with family over lifestyle choices 7 years ago, recently was put into contact with them on accident. I think I should keep them out, my sister wants me to try to reconcile, not positive what I should do.

I remember reading the guy version of this story, but both he and this OP have the right idea. Hold your homophobic families to their words.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:20

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

Pinecone Sample posted:

Update about my boyfriend who grabbed someone's ice cream

I am almost as disappointed as I was with Nerve (2016)

Lame

I was hoping for something terrible, like the girlfriend hording condoms to throw at her sports rivals

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:21

dudeness: Mar 5, 2010; Cat Army; Fallen Rib

Knobb Manwich posted:

Hahahaha so why did he have to scoff it in the stairwell? Was getting caught by your partner part of the prank? Just say oh ok. Then ask him for an invite to the discord server, dump if not produced or adequately explained inside 30 seconds.

For real, it's the easiest thing to prove.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:23

Admiral Ray: May 17, 2014; Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Pinecone Sample posted:

Update about my boyfriend who grabbed someone's ice cream

I am almost as disappointed as I was with Nerve (2016)

That explanation, while plausible, is insufficient. Your boyfriend's soul was revealed that night. It is a cold soul, one that will compromise and fidget and wither, sacrificing itself for a brief shot at being popular in a small, backwater Discord full of smooth minds and distended stomachs. Now is your time to leave this troubled person and find someone warm, who melts ice cream rather than steals it for a cheap thrill.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:24

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

Pinecone Sample posted:

Update about my boyfriend who grabbed someone's ice cream

I am almost as disappointed as I was with Nerve (2016)

This is the dumbest loving explanation.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:25

Barudak: May 7, 2007

DemoneeHo posted:

I (31F) cut contact with my parents. Sister (25F) wants me to reconnect with them.

I remember reading the guy version of this story, but both he and this OP have the right idea. Hold your homophobic families to their words.

You already delivered the best burn on them, possible, you cant top it.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:30

Eediot Jedi: Dec 25, 2007; This is where I begin to speculate what being a
man of my word costs me

DemoneeHo posted:

I (31F) cut contact with my parents. Sister (25F) wants me to reconnect with them.

I remember reading the guy version of this story, but both he and this OP have the right idea. Hold your homophobic families to their words.

This owns, good on her. Sister is in a tough spot because mum already is and will continue to drill her relentlessly as a tool to get access to the granddaugther, but that ain't your problem.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:33

Bruceski: Aug 21, 2007; The tools of a hero mean nothing without a solid core.

ulex minor posted:

honestly think if this guy isn't trolling he is actually just a sadist and is enjoying sharing exploits of how funny he finds it to make his wife miserable

He's not the first person to be a real jerk about phobias. Not the first sadist either.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:52

MagusofStars: Mar 31, 2012

Knobb Manwich posted:

Hahahaha so why did he have to scoff it in the stairwell? Was getting caught by your partner part of the prank? Just say oh ok. Then ask him for an invite to the discord server, dump if not produced or adequately explained inside 30 seconds.

Especially when viewed in the context of his previous explanation (emphasis added):

quote:

I of course demanded an explanation. He had the balls to deny he'd done anything!! He insisted he didn't know what I was talking about! I sort of lost it and started yelling at him, the cup is down on the stairs, your hands and mouth are covered in it, a dozen people literally SAW you snatch it right out of a guy's hand, what the gently caress do you mean you "don't know". He then changed his story and said it was just a joke. Wtf? He decided to re-enact a youtube prank video. On a random stranger? How is that a prank. After I let us inside I kept asking what makes him think that's okay to do, and he changed the story AGAIN. This time he said he doesn't know why he did it, it was just an urge. I didn't even know what to say so I told him I needed some time to myself.

If he's lied about three times before, why exactly are you jumping to believe that the *fourth* different story is actually true?

# ? Jul 24, 2019 02:57

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# ? May 28, 2024 21:21

Barudak: May 7, 2007

MagusofStars posted:

Especially when viewed in the context of his previous explanation (emphasis added):

If he's lied about three times before, why exactly are you jumping to believe that the *fourth* different story is actually true?

Because this guy is so clearly a catch.

# ? Jul 24, 2019 03:01

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