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cumshitter posted:My(f32) mother(f54) is contacting my friends to find out how to contact my therapist. How do I deal with her? Step one, I think, is calling your therapist and telling her what's going on. 
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brugroffil posted:The trend of "not having garbage craftsmanship in a brand new home"? I think the issue is the phrasing “noun needs verbing” which I think is more of a british thing right?
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Jul 25, 2019 23:30
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EIDE Van Hagar posted:I think the issue is the phrasing “noun needs verbing” which I think is more of a british thing right? Britain is basically the American Midwest of Europe.
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Jul 25, 2019 23:42
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EIDE Van Hagar posted:I think the issue is the phrasing “noun needs verbing” which I think is more of a british thing right? it's how people in western PA have talked for years and it's completely correct. "to be" is totally redundant in a phrase like "the car needs to be washed". the car doesn't need "to be", it already exists. the car just needs washed.
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Jul 25, 2019 23:44
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EIDE Van Hagar posted:I think the issue is the phrasing “noun needs verbing” which I think is more of a british thing right? jesus christ no
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Jul 25, 2019 23:44
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Tiny Bug Child posted:it's how people in western PA have talked for years and it's completely correct. Pennsylvania gets to be an expert on exactly three things: Scrapple, being poor, and shutting the gently caress up. You're lucky we let you speak English. Whole state can fistfuck the turbines at a hydroelectric dam for all the Dutch they want to LARP as.
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Jul 25, 2019 23:49
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Tiny Bug Child posted:it's how people in western PA have talked for years and it's completely correct. "to be" is totally redundant in a phrase like "the car needs to be washed". the car doesn't need "to be", it already exists. the car just needs washed. it may be correct but it's also extremely ugly and terrible
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Jul 25, 2019 23:55
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Sagebrush posted:supremely hosed up, but fortunately any remotely competent therapist will say "of course I cannot even tell you whether the person you are referring to is my patient, let alone break any hypothetical doctor-patient confidentiality. Goodbye and do not call me about this again" I'm glad to hear that the therapist would have professional protocols to stop invasion of privacy like that. My suggestion would have been for OP to call the therapist and warn them about Mother trying to spy.
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Jul 25, 2019 23:55
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Tiny Bug Child posted:it's how people in western PA have talked for years and it's completely correct. "to be" is totally redundant in a phrase like "the car needs to be washed". the car doesn't need "to be", it already exists. the car just needs washed. But existence is not what the “to be” refers to, “to be” is referring to “being” in the state of having been washed.
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Jul 25, 2019 23:56
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The verbing/verbed part of the phrase is really more like an adjective, it describes a state. The state of being washed. Replace it with an actual adjective like the color red and see how it doesn’t work. you wouldn’t say “that car needs red” and assume that means the same thing as “that car needs to be red” the “to be” is doing something different than just stating that the car exists.
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Jul 26, 2019 00:02
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right but we're talking about the action that needs done for it to achieve that state. for the car to be clean, first it needs washed.
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Jul 26, 2019 00:02
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to repel a Pennsylvanian one must form a circle of fresh raw vegetables, being the one mortal foodstuffs they cannot consume. to hide from a Pennsylvanian one must wash oneself with both soap AND water, for the Pennfolk see only filth and cannot comprehend cleanliness when they observe it. edit- i want a venn diagram of people who defend this bullshit but sneer at African American Vernacular English and I want to ask them some fairly blunt questions about how they think of themselves, and their place in the world.
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Jul 26, 2019 00:03
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Noun needs verbing is fine, noun needs verbed is not.
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Jul 26, 2019 00:06
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Tiny Bug Child posted:it's how people in western PA have talked for years and it's completely correct. No it is not!
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Jul 26, 2019 00:16
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Tiny Bug Child posted:right but we're talking about the action that needs done for it to achieve that state. for the car to be clean, first it needs washed. i just want to say as someone who moved to pittsburgh 3 years ago you people all talk loving wrong
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Jul 26, 2019 00:19
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CannonFodder posted:I'm glad to hear that the therapist would have professional protocols to stop invasion of privacy like that. My suggestion would have been for OP to call the therapist and warn them about Mother trying to spy. This would be a good idea in any case so that the therapist isn't taken unaware if the crazy mom actually gets through to her.
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Jul 26, 2019 00:20
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I think I am addicted to getting into fist fights and I never realized it until now.quote:I made a post a few days ago about getting into a fight with a homeless man. Today, I ran into him again. I have been seeing him around for the past few months but haven’t had any contact with him other than him asking for a cigarette once until the other day when we got into a fight.
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Jul 26, 2019 00:23
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Tiny Bug Child posted:right but we're talking about the action that needs done for it to achieve that state. for the car to be clean, first it needs washed. How do you typing this and not did feel shame?
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Jul 26, 2019 00:27
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AITA for hiding alcohol from my husband? We're not alcoholics. That's definitely not a confidence-boosting title, but here goes... I love my husband, but one of his greatest weaknesses is that he never learned how to drink moderately. To be VERY clear: we are not alcoholics. I do not suspect him of alcoholism or anything like that. We don't have drinking problems. Through our initial dating phase, I learned that he didn't have the "party" stage growing up where he got drunk and learned valuable lessons. No problem, not everyone does. But it meant that he never learned his limits. So when it comes to adult parties, work events, etc, he will often times drink way too much. He never does anything super embarrassing, mean, aggressive, etc. But he does feel embarrassed, need to take a day off to recoup, etc. On the flip side, I partied in high school and in the first two years of college. I had my fun and learned my limits and how to balance alcohol, work, life, etc in a healthy way. On average, I drink moderately. Looking back at the past 6 months, I went out for drinks with friends three times where I had 2 drinks, I had a beer or a glass of wine most of the times we went out to eat (so like 4x a month), and I'll say probably at a friend's house I'd have 2 drinks. My limit is typically two. We don't keep alcohol at home, because we've learned that my husband will drink it. The thing is that he's that way with *any* "fun" snack or drink. I buy a jumbo box of Motts fruit snacks from Costco and he will eat 'em until they're gone. Self-regulation isn't his strong suit. So to the story. I changed jobs and had a week off in between where I could just relax and do my own thing. I haven't had a break since my last spring break, so I was kind of excited for my big plans: window shopping, solo lunches, long runs in the park, etc. One of the thing I was looking forward to was getting a bottle of wine and sitting out in the back yard with a book I'd been dying to read (The Last Mrs Parrish) a little bit every day. So maybe 1 glass per day, right? Well obviously I had to stow the bottle away from my husband, knowing he would see it and definitely drink it. I would drink it when he wasn't home, but of course on one of the days, he decided to surprise me by coming home early to take me out somewhere to celebrate the new job. He saw the wine and got really, really upset. He told me that I was a huge jerk for hiding my alcohol use from him, that there was no real reason for me to hide it except to selfishly not share the wine with him, that I shouldn't be hiding anything from my husband, etc etc. I argued that I wanted something for *me*, that I don't ask for *me* things ever, and that it was just *one bottle of wine*. He insists I'm the rear end in a top hat, I tried to explain that I wanted to be able to enjoy this wine without having to babysit him if he drinks too, and that only one of us has the ability to drink in moderation, and that person is me. Aghhh! Who is the butthead here?
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Please stop posting the fight masturbator
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Chairman Mao posted:How do you typing this and not did feel shame? oh i would have a long time ago. when i first left PA people were like "why do you talk weird" and i'd consciously try to avoid dropping "to be". but after i started learning russian i noticed they don't clutter up their sentences with a jillion useless lovely little words all over the place and how much nicer that is, so now i do it on purpose and correct people who try to correct me. "to be" in a sentence like "the car needs to be washed" is literally doing nothing useful, so it's more aesthetically pleasing and more correct to just omit it.
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realbez posted:Please stop posting the fight masturbator I'm instantly angry at this.
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Tiny Bug Child posted:"to be" in a sentence like "the car needs to be washed" is literally doing nothing useful, so it's more aesthetically pleasing and more correct to just omit it. if you want to omit the 'to be' then you say 'washing' not 'washed' - that's just the grammatical rule, russian also has grammatical rules which i am sure you noticed if you were learning it 
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chitoryu12 posted:My (23 F) boyfriend’s (23 m) apartment is so disgusting that it’s creating stress in the relationship. Advice? I hate the ones where germophobes have described something that is actually objectively disgusting because I don't know if I should trust their version of reality
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i vomit kittens posted:AITA for contacting my ex-husband’s fiancée to warn her about his severe erectile dysfunction? Maybe his ED isn't as severe as he let on if he went on to have three kids with the next wife
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AITA for proposing to my gf while on a vacation for a destination wedding? This was a year ago - I feel like I'd like some feedback from people. Since people said this is important - adding it here: I proposed two days after the wedding To set the stage - we went to the Caribbean for a destination wedding for my gf's sister. The wedding was always propositioned to us as "our vacation but we just have to show up for a wedding on saturday for an hour", that was the description from the bride to be. I got a ring the day before leaving for the wedding - my plan was actually to propose on the plane ride home or right when we got home. I brought the ring with me on the trip because I wanted to show her Dad when I asked for permission. My fiance is the oldest of 3 sisters, and was maid of honor a year prior in her middle sister's wedding. This was the wedding for her youngest sister. The first day we got there - I went to her middle sister (not the bride) and her husband because I was super excited and wanted to share. I told them I had an engagement ring and before I could say anything else - her sister started berating me. "Do no propose while you are here, I will kill you if you do that. I will make sure my whole family hates you." That is almost verbatim. I didnt say anything further; changed the subject and dropped it. Her parents arent around much so I only see them during holidays - so I still wanted to get permission as this seemed liked a good window. The wedding was Saturday, everything went well and was great. People started to leave on monday, we were leaving tuesday - so I took an opportunity to walk back to my room when her Dad was doing the same thing. I asked him, he got the biggest smile and gave me a huge hug - it was so awesome. The love and excitement her Dad was pouring out made me feel so much better about everything; that moment is still really dear to my heart to this day. He wanted to see the ring - so I showed him, he asked what/when/where so I told him my plans. He said I should do it while we were here and got excited - I should at dinner later, when their side of the family is mostly still there. I hesitated but didnt shoot it down - he was so excited and happy. I told him Id have to check with the bride/groom to make sure - I didnt want to step on any toes. I asked them, after a few hours they text message'd me it was ok - just not at dinner. So I proposed later that evening, in private, she says yes - we hang by the pool at night and celebrate. Cut forward a month - her sisters stop talking to her; they hate me because I proposed. I waited to even talk to her dad until people started leaving the resort, half the people were already gone the night I proposed. AITA? EDIT: I'll add info I keep seeing asked 1 - The wedding trip was not paid for, the guests had to provide themselves resort/flights (it was all inclusive). It was expensive and it was our only vacation for the foreseeable future. 2 - I have reached out to the sisters multiple times - the sisters are talking but they have not talked to me, yet. 3 - I had issued multiple apologies to them separately and together the past year 4 - I proposed in private, two days after the wedding ceremony, the night before everyone left (and the day that people started to leave)
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chitoryu12 posted:I'm instantly angry at this. It's generally considered bad form to involve bystanders in your fetish.
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Admiral Ray posted:Understandable reaction on his part. Modern society has forgotten the power of the feet, their spiritual nature, and what foot rubs mean. In the past our feet were in constant contact with the ground, able to transfer vital energies from the world to ourselves. They acted as a conduit of cosmic information. Due to the prevalence of shoes we've lost that contact, lost the flow. It's become knotted and tangled and foot massages assist with that. What your boyfriend is hiding is that he knows that your are more powerful now. By massaging your feet they released just a touch of the energy within, allowing it to travel and be accessed by your greater being. He now knows you'll be more independent and is trying to quash that. Don't let him. Either crush his mind on the spiritual plane and move on or Yeah it's not exactly the same as stickin' your tongue in her holiest of holies though
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Jul 26, 2019 00:58
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, and always have an enemy out there, waiting to strike.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for proposing to my gf while on a vacation for a destination wedding? Waiting until after doesn't make it good because you got everyone off of their schedule from the start.
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Jul 26, 2019 00:58
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for proposing to my gf while on a vacation for a destination wedding? For once not the rear end in a top hat. Normally people who propose during weddings are complete narcissistic pieces of poo poo but this guy waited until after the wedding, let alone the rest of the mitigating circumstances. Sisters are petty jerks here.
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Jul 26, 2019 00:58
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Asking why people who think destination weddings are good would be so self-centered is like asking why a hornet stung you
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Jul 26, 2019 01:02
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People who have destination weddings and expect all their guests to foot the bill to attend are garbage. This dude paid for a vacation out of his own pocket, he can propose if he likes.
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Jul 26, 2019 01:03
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On one hand, dude isn't the rear end in a top hat On the other, when a really dramatic person says "don't do it or I'll blow everything the gently caress up" and you do it and she blows everything the gently caress up, you don't really have the right to be surprised
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Jul 26, 2019 01:08
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Sure, his biggest mistake was even asking the sisters permission. It was two days after the wedding on a trip he paid for, she doesn't get a say.
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Jul 26, 2019 01:19
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Smirking_Serpent posted:4 - I proposed in private, two days after the wedding ceremony, the night before everyone left (and the day that people started to leave) Jfc imagine being threatened by someone getting proposed to after your lovely expensive destination wedding. It honestly sounds like he's better off not having to deal with the sisters' drama bullshit, so win-win.
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Telemaze posted:Jfc imagine being threatened by someone getting proposed to after your lovely expensive destination wedding. It honestly sounds like he's better off not having to deal with the sisters' drama bullshit, so win-win. It’s not even the bride either, she was cool with it. Imaging being threatened by someone proposing two days after your sister’s wedding.
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^^^^ I completely skipped over the fact that the sister that refused isn't even the one getting married, what the loving christ. AITA for not outing my dad, who I found on a gay hookup site? quote:When I was in college I found out my dad was active on a gay hookup site. I've been able to log into his account and confirm that it is him. He chats with other older guys and occasionally meets up with them.
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tater_salad posted:Remember when that one guy (who we won't name) from AI on meth said he had poo poo crawling under his skin but then no one saw poo poo in the video he posted. It's why methheads turn into pickers. Amphetamine abuse does that.
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Jul 26, 2019 01:36
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I buy a jumbo box of Motts fruit snacks from Costco and he will eat 'em until they're gone. Self-regulation isn't his strong suit. Is her husband my 8 year old nephew? He will sneakily eat like 10 pouches an hour.
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Not telling people someone is cheating is a cowards move so after 10 years my only question is how many layers of concealer does it take to cover it up how yellow your belly is.
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