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Zzulu posted:dont go on expensive vacations you cant afford Yeah seriously wtf
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Whorelord posted:cw: dead kids Ah yes, kids from the noted arabian country, Afghanistan. A country where blond and blue eyed people are so so rare.
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Aug 2, 2019 13:57
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Why didn't the guy call himself American-African?
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Aug 2, 2019 14:24
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Zzulu posted:dont go on expensive vacations you cant afford I mean, he's not? That's kinda the point, the parental income isn't enough to cover the airfare, but with the kids kicking in from their summer jobs, they have enough to go. If the kids don't contribute the family can't afford it and won't go, if they do contribute then they can and will. It's probably a bit much to require this of them when they're still so young, but it doesn't feel like anyone has done anything *wrong* here, just a crossed wires/a mistake combined with a lovely financial situation which prevents the dad taking his kids abroad on his own dime.
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Aug 2, 2019 14:32
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Lagomorphic posted:Go to the pound. Pick out a nice goofy looking mutt. Name it after your sister. Absolute power move, I hope she does this. a hot gujju bhabhi posted:Who. The. gently caress. Cares. Why are so many parents such insufferable morons? Naming your kid is an act of aggression.
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Aug 2, 2019 14:34
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Fatkraken posted:I mean, he's not? That's kinda the point, the parental income isn't enough to cover the airfare, but with the kids kicking in from their summer jobs, they have enough to go. If the kids don't contribute the family can't afford it and won't go, if they do contribute then they can and will.
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Aug 2, 2019 14:34
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Fatkraken posted:I mean, he's not? That's kinda the point, the parental income isn't enough to cover the airfare, but with the kids kicking in from their summer jobs, they have enough to go. If the kids don't contribute the family can't afford it and won't go, if they do contribute then they can and will. quote:I told her that she would have to pay the $775 or that she could not go. Kind of sounds like the parents are intent on going regardless.
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Aug 2, 2019 14:38
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Straight White Shark posted:Kind of sounds like the parents are intent on going regardless. yeah, but he also says quote:I feel that we wouldn't get to go otherwise and that most kids don't get to travel to Europe. so it's a bit unclear as to what they'll do if she can't afford the airfare I dunno, I think the teen kids are young enough that going with just one of them would be a dick move so he should probably just ditch the whole thing, doesn't sound like either of them were super enthusiastic about the trip in the first place. Going with just his wife is still an option since that would be a grown up couple holiday rather than a family holiday with one child left out, my mum would go on holiday without the kids most years (parents are divorced so we stayed with our dad). Fatkraken fucked around with this message at 14:46 on Aug 2, 2019 |
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Aug 2, 2019 14:42
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Leon Einstein posted:If things are so tight that they can't afford to take their kids, they can't afford a European vacation. So many people are horrible with money. Is it unreasonable to ask your kids at 16 to save up for a vacation opportunity? Kids should be making choices and learning finances at that time. My parents never took me on a vacation that involved flying due to the expense, but if I had the chance to go on a family trip to Europe for $1000 I would have jumped at the chance.
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Aug 2, 2019 14:44
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Crazy hot take here but one of the things you passively agree to sacrifice when you have children is the freedom to travel whenever you like BECAUSE YOU HAVE CHILDREN YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR.
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Aug 2, 2019 14:48
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Dr Strangepants posted:Is it unreasonable to ask your kids at 16 to save up for a vacation opportunity? Kids should be making choices and learning finances at that time. My parents never took me on a vacation that involved flying due to the expense, but if I had the chance to go on a family trip to Europe for $1000 I would have jumped at the chance.
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Aug 2, 2019 14:49
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idk seems like they can afford to go if the kids help defray ~$1600 in costs, can't if they don't. that doesn't seem particularly unreasonable? $1600 is a lot of money in a travel budget. e: if they're still planning on going by themselves without the kids if the kids can't save up the money, then yeah that's lovely.
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Aug 2, 2019 14:50
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Lol at being such selfish and lovely parents that you'd ditch your children because they couldn't afford nearly a grand with whatever summer job money they might be able to scrounge up.
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Aug 2, 2019 14:51
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They could at least wait a few years to go off on a couple's vacation.
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Aug 2, 2019 15:17
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PetraCore posted:They could at least wait a few years to go off on a couple's vacation. For that matter, they could wait another year to budget and save properly for a family vacation. Even if they still needed/wanted the kids to chip in, that's a much better way of teaching them about the value of money rather than showing up with your hand out and telling them to cough up their savings. And then they'd actually have money to spend doing things in Europe (I know it's possible to find interesting and worthwhile things to do on vacation without spending a lot of money, but it does probably sound like they were asking their kids to fork over most of their lifetime earnings to go sit around in someone's flat for a week.)
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Aug 2, 2019 15:25
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Telemaze posted:Baby loss is the worst but most of the time it's no one's fault. It's just one of those lovely things that happens. It sounds like the sister died from twin to twin transfusion syndrome, which is definitely not the fault of the healthy twin (especially because they can also loving die from it!). To me it seems like the typical reaction is to treat the surviving child like solid gold. I knew a lady at work who lost an infant at 3 months and then admitted to spoiling the crap out of the next kid she had. I have a daughter and the thought of losing her is unimaginable but I just can't imagine losing a child and then treating the surviving one like crap  While the loss of her baby wasn't her fault, treating her other child like crap absolutely was her fault. Lady should've gotten therapy instead of holding a grudge and emotionally abusing her kid for decades.
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Aug 2, 2019 15:39
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is it really that terrible for parents to go away for a week without their 16 year old kids? like people honestly think it is? Like I said my mum would do a week long walking holiday in the Greek islands or w/e most years and none of us resented that even at much younger than 16. I guess having divorced parents might make a difference, it's not like we ever had FULL undivided family holidays after that anyway...
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Aug 2, 2019 15:42
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Fatkraken posted:is it really that terrible for parents to go away for a week without their 16 year old kids? like people honestly think it is? For the most part it seems people are fine with the parents taking a couples vacation. What they're doing is attaching a huge bill to each kid and calling it a "family" vacation.
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Aug 2, 2019 15:56
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Fatkraken posted:is it really that terrible for parents to go away for a week without their 16 year old kids? like people honestly think it is? Like I said my mum would do a week long walking holiday in the Greek islands or w/e most years and none of us resented that even at much younger than 16. I guess having divorced parents might make a difference, it's not like we ever had FULL undivided family holidays after that anyway... The exchange student's parents invited the whole family to stay in their apartment. I imagine said exchange student is looking forward to hanging with his two potential american friends he made while living here, and not opening the door to find two adults and no friends at his door, and an awkward week hanging out with them. This wasn't an anniversary vacation or something like that, and understandably you wouldn't want kids on that kind of vacation.
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Aug 2, 2019 15:57
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Fatkraken posted:is it really that terrible for parents to go away for a week without their 16 year old kids? like people honestly think it is? Like I said my mum would do a week long walking holiday in the Greek islands or w/e most years and none of us resented that even at much younger than 16. I guess having divorced parents might make a difference, it's not like we ever had FULL undivided family holidays after that anyway... Hey family, lets go on a trip together! It's going to cost quite a bit of your savings, but you don't want to be left alone while everyone else is having fun. Oh wait, you can't afford a plane ticket at all? See ya later losers!
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Aug 2, 2019 16:03
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the op didn't seem indicate one way or the other whether they'd still go if one or both kids couldn't cover their own airfare?
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Aug 2, 2019 16:05
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Please refer to Shark's earlier post on this very page.
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Aug 2, 2019 16:14
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We will deplete our savings and all our spare cash if we go on this vacation but lets not think, lets just do Quick, just do!
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Aug 2, 2019 16:18
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please refer to fatkraken's post even more recently pointing out the ambiguity! e: checked reddit and the op doesn't have any follow up post
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Aug 2, 2019 16:18
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I know he says that she wouldn't be able to go if she couldn't pay, but I just sincerely doubt the Prague parents would be cool with just the parents showing up when it was clearly intended for the kids to be probably the main focus of the invite, with an added, yeah bring the whole family why not. The fact that the kids didn't even want to go at all, but then "changed" their minds, followed up by the daughter crying when she realized the true amount of money she'd have to spend on a vacation she "wanted" to go on. Sounds like the father knows how brazen it would be to go without the kids, and is essentially forcing them to pay up so he gets his european vacation.
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Aug 2, 2019 16:27
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Dr Strangepants posted:Is it unreasonable to ask your kids at 16 to save up for a vacation opportunity?
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Aug 2, 2019 16:28
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Would you be particularly excited to say yes to going on a trip with your family when your parents make sure to tell you there's a price tag attached?
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Aug 2, 2019 16:33
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the heat goes wrong posted:Ah yes, kids from the noted arabian country, Afghanistan. Americans believe that every country between Turkey and India is entirely made of sand and contains only Bedouins. hth
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Aug 2, 2019 16:40
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Sagebrush posted:Americans believe that every country between Turkey and India is entirely made of sand and contains only Bedouins. hth You're giving us too much credit, it's more like everything from Germany to China.
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Aug 2, 2019 16:42
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ad090 posted:The fact that the kids didn't even want to go at all, but then "changed" their minds quote:I researched airfares and asked my two kids if they would be willing to pay $1000 each to cover their airfare. At first, they declined but subsequently agreed.
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Aug 2, 2019 16:50
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Darkhold posted:My (24f) bf (24m) drives aggressively and won't stop. He probably is. Also, LOL at the 2017 Civic Couple not having enough "Street Cred." 97% of people don't give a gently caress about "street cred," and if he does, maybe he should get his own lovely Fast and Furious car to total. I'd say murder, but l think he'll kill himself before she gets the chance.
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Aug 2, 2019 16:50
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Lucrece posted:Reddit - What say ye? YTA for this alone
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Aug 2, 2019 17:08
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Straight White Shark posted:You're giving us too much credit, it's more like everything from Germany to China. Patently false. Germany to Moscow is where the reds live.
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Aug 2, 2019 17:13
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Fatkraken posted:is it really that terrible for parents to go away for a week without their 16 year old kids? like people honestly think it is? Like I said my mum would do a week long walking holiday in the Greek islands or w/e most years and none of us resented that even at much younger than 16. I guess having divorced parents might make a difference, it's not like we ever had FULL undivided family holidays after that anyway... If you can't afford it? Yes.
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Aug 2, 2019 17:30
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If that family can't squeeze together an extra $300 to cover the daughter's flight, they're going to be in for a serious shock when they arrive in Europe and go out for dinner and it costs $50 per person
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Aug 2, 2019 17:59
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Sagebrush posted:If that family can't squeeze together an extra $300 to cover the daughter's flight, they're going to be in for a serious shock when they arrive in Europe and go out for dinner and it costs $50 per person nonsense what you see is actually what you pay. USA food isn't much cheaper due to tip culture
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Aug 2, 2019 18:04
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There's an AITA post from an Asian-American 16-year-old who decided to quit gymnastics via a rampage in which she destroyed all her leotards, medals, and certificates, and then called her gym to say she hated them and wouldn't be back. But that's not why I've called you here. Check out this comment: That is so common in Korea, it’s such a different outlook there. Gangnam face is a thing. Eyelid surgery to have a double eyelid, shaving cheekbones and jawlines for a less round face, adding in a nasal bridge for a more “western” nose. It’s huge business. I had lasik done there when I lived there and they had a wall decoration of thousands of shaved bone fragments behind glass. An entire wall of human bone. As a decoration. Ick. e: AITA For throwing away my entire lifes worth of gymnastics training that I never wanted? quote:My parents have made me do gymnastics since I was three, both were immigrants from China and both are extremely overbearing an stereotypical Asian parents, everything must be perfect. As such, so must I in gymnastics, I've never enjoyed it but my mum used to be a high level gymnast but after being diagnosed with Osgood-Schlatter disease at a relatively young age (17) now lives through me. Today I finally tried to break free from this. Whilst my parents were away I did everything I could think of, I shredded my leotards, destroyed certificates and threw away trophies and medasl, I then called my gym and told them how much I hated them, safe to say I'm not welcome anymore. When my parents came home they were in shock, my mum went silent and won't talk to me, it's been three days and I fell horrible, but I just couldn't continue with something I hated so dearly at this stage in my life (I'm 16). AITA? OP makes it clear in comments that she tried to tell her parents directly, over and over, and she even asked the gym to ban her because she hated it so much and her parents wouldn't listen. Arsenic Lupin fucked around with this message at 18:18 on Aug 2, 2019 |
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Aug 2, 2019 18:10
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Vacation dad is an rear end in a top hat. Cover your kids airfare on a vacation they were ambivalent about going on in the first place. If you can't afford to cover your minor children on a family trip, you can't afford to take the trip. Save up for another year or something. I think expecting kids to get a summer job is fine, and telling them have to cover their own spending money would have been OK, but this guy is the one who wants to go to Europe so he should cover transportation. A thousand bucks is a lot for a 16 year old to come up with for airfare unless they are going on their own trip without mom and dad.
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Aug 2, 2019 18:18
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AITA for telling my boyfriend that his racist friends can't come over to my house?quote:I (24F) have been dating the same person (25M) for 8.5 years. We started dating in high school and while we do occasionally have verbal arguments, our relationship has generally been happy & stable.
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ad090 posted:AITA for telling my boyfriend that his racist friends can't come over to my house? how many comments are saying YTA because she’s not tolerant of their different beliefs
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