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Boyfriend (26) got uncharacteristically angry when I (25) jokingly asked him to marry me. We’ve been together about a year and a half. Last night when he came home from the store, he said “hey babe, I got you some sweet tea at the store” to which I replied (with the inflection of Maebe from Arrested Development) “marry me!” He immediately whipped around and said “why did you just say that to me” and I said “huh?” And he said “what the gently caress am I supposed to say to that?” And I was kinda taken by surprise so I just said “um.. I don’t know. I’m sorry?” And then hit play on the tv. And then he screamed “no you’re loving not sorry” and got belligerent asking over and over what I expected him to say. “I was just trying to be cute, I thought you’d just be sweet and say Ok baby!” And he said “so what then we’re just loving engaged?!” And proceeded to yell for a solid five minutes about how I only said “marry me” to try to make him mad. To clarify, I’m not a confrontational person at all and was immediately trying to diffuse the situation by apologizing and trying to just move on. Also, I’ve never said anything to purposely anger him and I’ve never tried to pressure him into talking about marriage. I asked him to please stop yelling at me and he yelled “I’m not loving yelling” to which I kind of scoffed at and he mocked me laughing, said “gently caress you,” and went and got his shoes and keys and left. He came back maybe 40 minutes later and I was in bed and he came in and said “I’m sorry for yelling.” And I just asked if we could talk about it later. We still haven’t really talked about it because I don’t know what to even think. He has a quick temper but it’s usually just when he’s trying to do something and it won’t work. It’s never been directed at me like that. Like, this felt 100% insane and came out of nowhere. What do you guys think I should say? Til;dr: jokingly told my boyfriend to marry me, he went off the rails and screamed at me for ten minutes for purposely making him angry and we still haven’t discussed it
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Boyfriend (26) got uncharacteristically angry when I (25) jokingly asked him to marry me. perhaps take that as a no
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AITA for wanting my girlfriend to be naked less? To preface this, I have no issue with nakedness. I don't mind if she changes in front of me, we occasionally shower together, I don't mind if she doesn't wear a bra, etc etc. We have been living together for 3 years. Recently, my girlfriend has been naked a lot. Not just the normal "I'm home so I'm going to dress down" but full blown not wearing clothes. She'll be buck naked playing a game on her computer, or sitting on the sofa watching TV. I'll come home and she'll greet me naked. I find it... off putting. I don't mind short amounts of time obviously, and its not like a shun her, but would I be the rear end in a top hat if I asked her to tone it down? Edit: Yes, I have seen the seinfeld episode, and no, I will not buy a power sander haha
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Aug 29, 2019 05:30
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Well, that was a freebie. Edit: the marry me post. Break up, girl!
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AITA for not talking to my mom who suffers from Chronic Infidelity? My mom cheated on my dad with Jeff(common knowledge in family). She married Jeff, cheated on him multiple times over the 11 years of marriage(not common knowledge in family), and finally they got divorced this year. I liked Jeff, he was my stepdad for 11 years and we are pretty close. I recently found about about my mom cheating on him a bunch while they were married and found it pretty disturbing. The most disturbing part for me though was finding out that my mom cheated on Jeff with Charles. Charles was a mentor to me for the past 2 years. He was my favorite coach in HS, then asked me to be a volunteer for the team once I graduated. I would go to Charles with any problem and he would help me through it. To find out that for the past 1.5 years that my mom and Charles have been sleeping together is a real stab in the back. I stopped talking to them. I feel extremely used. My brother seems to think that I just need to get over it. He wonders why I care, but I think that my reasons for being angry run way deeper than just the fact that my mom is unfaithful. Charles and my mom both used me as a means to be around each other while they were sleeping together behind everyone's back. And now my mom and Charles are dating. AITA for being upset??
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Aug 29, 2019 05:33
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chitoryu12 posted:AITA for confronting my wife about who she masturbated to? So, there was an update.... Update: I [28M] think my wife [26F] of 2 years masturbated to my best friend [28M]. quote:u/throwawway747383 Well.... That sucks. Sorry dude. Miserable Maid fucked around with this message at 05:37 on Aug 29, 2019 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Boyfriend (26) got uncharacteristically angry when I (25) jokingly asked him to marry me. Good news! You discovered his anger problems while dating and not while married or staring down the barrel of a literal gun. It's time to leave
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Aug 29, 2019 05:36
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Miserable Maid posted:So, there was an update.... Well... I mean no one is really all that shocked. Sucks though.
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Araenna posted:My boyfriend (28) has some behaviours that concern me(24) You forgot to mention any redeeming qualities about the dude and why you're still with him??? Things the education system fails to teach but are critical to life:
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Aug 29, 2019 05:46
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MarcusSA posted:Well... I mean no one is really all that shocked. Sucks though. What the hell is going on though? Is she just admitting she’s slept with him? Him and his girlfriend? I feel like that’s what’s been happening.
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MarcusSA posted:Well... I mean no one is really all that shocked. Sucks though. Yeah, for sure. I guess the only thing that kinda surprised me was it seems to be the couple sleeping with her rather then the friend alone That, plus the fact his wife didn't try to stop him from leaving at all, seems like she just wants the divorce already
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Aug 29, 2019 05:49
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Honestly, if a straight person needed my blood to live, the only responsible choice I could make is to deny it to them. Why should I enable their poor life choices and extend the duration of their misery? Straight people live meaningless lives devoid of joy or color. Hence why the rainbow is the sign of the gays. Note that no straights except some angry Irishmen ever cared about the rainbow before it got put up on the gay flag.
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Aug 29, 2019 05:53
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Cumshitter just constantly bringing joy to our gay lives
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Aug 29, 2019 05:56
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You can tell if you are straight if you look at cumshitters avatar and only see two flavors of ice cream
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Barudak posted:You can tell if you are straight if you look at cumshitters avatar and only see two flavors of ice cream What’s my sexuality if I browse from mobile without avatars on?
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Pirate Radar posted:What’s my sexuality if I browse from mobile without avatars on? gay
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Aug 29, 2019 06:28
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As a gay American of Irish descent I will never forgive this country for stealing and ruining River Dance. In the original River Dance their legs are as loose as their wrists. They ruined it by telling the American River Dance production to not move their arms.
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Aug 29, 2019 06:42
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AITA for telling coworkers they smell of unwashed pussy after her and some other colleagues CONSTANTLY made jokes that we smell of unwashed balls? This is more of a ‘are we the rear end in a top hat’ I guess. My colleagues and I work a very physically demanding job which amongst other things, also involves pools/ life guarding. Because of that we have showers located at work as we are constantly getting sweaty and grimy and need to wash off to attend to other duties/ be presentable. Whenever we finish ‘dry reccing’ which is basically us attending to whatever dryside clean ups (not pool related) we are expected to shower. Before you do that you go into the staff room to collect your personal belongings like towels etc. Our female colleagues started to yell at us at one point when summer got super hot, saying ‘you smell of unwashed balls, go shower!!’ And other stuff that’s pretty similar. We’d get called gross, some girls actually started to physically push us out the staff room in order to try and get us to not stink up the place. Like yeah, we know we smell, but we are literally going in to grab towels and leave not stand around and have a chat. This has become a near daily occurrence and frankly it’s so loving annoying to walk into the staff room and immediately there’s a group of girls making faces and gagging when you’ve literally just entered. Last week 3 of the girls had gone to attend to dryside activities which meant that when they came back, they were covered in sweat and grime too. (we work at an Olympic facility and we have to put in a LOT of physical work in the heat so yeah, it’s bad) and so jokingly I said ‘ew, smells like unwashed pussy, go shower’ One of the girls who is the most vocal about us smelling got super super offended and started mouthing off that I was an rear end in a top hat. A lot of the other guys, some whom I don’t even freaking talk to, joined in and said ‘yeah, go shower! Don’t you tell us to leave as soon as we get in?’. 2 of em took it well and laughed but the third has been telling everyone and anyone about it all day. My boss just shrugged and told her if she could dish it she can take it, so I’m not worried about being in trouble at work, but I just want to know if I’m the rear end in a top hat.
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Barudak posted:You can tell if you are straight if you look at cumshitters avatar and only see two flavors of ice cream What the gently caress I thought it was crocomire from super metroid for some reason.
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Aug 29, 2019 07:21
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Xik posted:gay Fair
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AITA for treating family more like acquaintances after I was purposely discriminated against age-wise at a family gathering? I(M24) am quite close to both my dad's side and mom's side of the family. I have about 15 families of aunts and uncles that I'm very close to. A few months ago, we all met up as we usually do a couple times a year. Now, I am unfortunately at the awkward age where I'm too old for the kids ( Oldest being 14) and slightly younger in age compared to the 'adult' crowd ( Closest in age is my oldest cousin being 32). Now, the ladies take the kids out to a movie/dinner night, and the guys all decide to make a trip to a local casino. Here starts the conflict. All of the guys, including my own dad, are subtly encouraging me to just not come to the casino with them and just go with the kids and ladies. Their excuse was that I would get bored as I had initially mentioned to them that I was only interested in slot machines, but wouldn't mind just chilling/grabbing a drink, etc. As a result, they pretty much kept pushing me to not go with them for no valid reason. They add at the end that it was my choice still, but that I would be better off not going with them. I was honestly taken aback at that time. I couldn't understand why I was the 'unwelcome' one. Despite my attempts to ignore the negativity and join in, I decided it wouldn't do me much good being the unwelcome one anyway. As a result, I ended up staying home and impromptu meeting up with a friend from college. The next day, all the guys were all smiles, talking about how fun the night was, how much they won/lost, etc. It really made me feel left out and honestly put me in such a crappy mood the whole week as it was clear that I was pretty much alienated and treated like a kid. I wasn't even bothered about the actual fun I missed out on, but rather the fact that no one stood up for me or anything. From that day onwards, I've purposely distanced myself from those uncles( Still close to the aunts and kids) and have only recently gotten back in good terms with my dad after he apologized profusely. Although my uncles did catch on to things, no one ever issued an apology. In fact, I was mocked about it, and called a toddler and snowflake. Honestly, I have been belittled and set aside in the past during certain conversations with my uncles, now that I think about it. Basically had my opinion discounted for no reason. As part of this 'distancing', I have done the following that my parents are saying I overreacted, and that I'm an rear end in a top hat: 1)Removed 3 of my uncles and their families from my cellular family plan ( I get a huge 50% discount). 2) Refused to loan an uncle some money he needed 3)Stopped participating as much in the guys group chat, 4) Stopped letting an uncle freeload on my costco/amazon/netflix memberships, 5) When I upgraded my car, I refused to transfer an amazing deal car lease to an Uncle who really wanted it, and just gifted it to my girlfriend. In a nut shell, I just decided that I didn't want to interact with people who didn't respect me. AITA for refusing to be a doormat?
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Power Khan posted:AITA for treating family more like acquaintances after I was purposely discriminated against age-wise at a family gathering? And a good laugh at the old fucks going "TRIGGERED much, kid" and then crying when their subsidized cell plan gets cut. Get hosed.
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Aug 29, 2019 07:43
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AITA for wiping my feet on my girlfriend's facial towel? I hate walking on carpeted floors with wet feet after a shower, so I dry myself with a towel, which I assume is common. My gf has this small cloth that I've seen her use while washing her face. Since we've started living together (about 5 months now) I've been using her cloth to wipe my feet because the texture feels SO GOOD. She recently caught me doing this and blew up, saying that I'm dirty and freaking out about her "skin cleanliness" or something. She's upset at the idea of unknowingly washing her face with something that has touched my feet, but I feel my body is exceptionally clean since I've just gotten out of the shower. She's disgusted with me and claims that you shouldn't wipe your feet, face, rear end with the same towel but I believe it's not a big deal. Come on, it's the same clean body after a shower. Note that she's not scared of dirt and frequently gets messy while skateboarding outside, so I don't know why she's suddenly so sensitive about this. Maybe she's upset because I took her facial towel but I strongly believe we should share items since we live together. It's not like those cloths are expensive, she swaps for a new one every few months or so but she's not at all concerned about my comfort. Is she too sensitive or am I really being an rear end in a top hat? edit: OK FINE maybe I'm an rear end in a top hat, I'll look into getting my own towel
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling coworkers they smell of unwashed pussy after her and some other colleagues CONSTANTLY made jokes that we smell of unwashed balls? YTA because you stink like one you reeking gently caress.
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AITA for refusing to paint a portrait of my aunt's new baby for a discount? I'm a senior in high school right now and I'm trying really hard to save up for college. I run a pretty popular art instagram page and regularly do commissions and make good income from them. Sometimes I'll post a pic of a piece I did of or for some of my best friends and say something like "This is a gift for my best friend ______. I love them so much....etc." So yes, I do give discounts to friends and if I want to, I'll do drawings for free for my best friends. An important thing to remember is that these free drawings are because I want to do them and I feel inspired. They aren't commissions. So my aunt on my mother's side just had a new baby recently. She knows that I do a lot of art and take commissions. She reached out and requested a painting of her new born that is "super realistic." She wanted 18"x24", which is quite big and requested that it'd be oil paint and not acrylic because acrylic "looks cheaper." I reluctantly agreed and told her that's going to be $300. She replied with, "That's the discount price??" I responded truthfully and said no, that's the full price and that I only give discounts to my friends who are students. She sent me a long message saying that the price was ridiculous and that she can't afford it. She also went on to say that I should do it for FREE since she was my family and that I "wasn't even a professional" and should be charging less than $50 for it. Finally she said that this was my cousin and that I was disrespecting her by being so selfish and heartless. This pissed me off because she obviously understands nothing about art and the amount of work that goes into it. I flat out refused her. I said that she can reach out again when she can pay the full price or I'm not doing it. Later, my mom gets angry at me because apparently my aunt called her berating her for raising me to be a "money-hungry brat." My mom basically told me to just do it for her and give it to her for free and to not spend a lot of time on it. I still said no. My mom was a bit angry and said that I was being selfish but she ultimately told me to deal with my aunt myself and to apologize to her at least. I'm still standing my ground. What do you guys think? Am I the rear end in a top hat in this situation?
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Power Khan posted:AITA for wiping my feet on my girlfriend's facial towel? Don't mind me just wiping my rear end crack with the towel that you put on your face, it shouldn't matter since I just showered because i can't be inconvenienced to get my own towel
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Aug 29, 2019 08:26
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Power Khan posted:AITA for refusing to paint a portrait of my aunt's new baby for a discount? 
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From Reddit: e_crabapple posted:There was a man named Thorgeir; he was the son of Thorleif Hard-Head and Thorgerd. He had a wife named Freydis. One day, Thorgeir took ship to Norway, where he entered the service of the Earl Haakon. There, he slew many vikings that had been raiding in the region, and received much honor. Impressed, the Earl named him Director of Operations. The Earl asked him to remain in Norway, but Thorgeir declared that he would return home, and so the earl gave him a gift of 120 silver pieces and Thorgeir set sail again. He returned home and showed the 120 silver pieces to Freydis. "You look upon the new Director of Operations," he said, but Freydis said nothing.
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Aug 29, 2019 08:38
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AITA For wanting to wear Japanese Clothing? I am a white American female, and I love and admire the beauty of Japanese culture and fashion. I would not go out in the streets wearing a full kimono, but I would really love to wear something kind of like one or even something similar in Japanese taste. However, I am worried some people will take it the wrong way. AITA for wanting to wear something like that?
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Power Khan posted:AITA for wiping my feet on my girlfriend's facial towel? As a frequent lurker of r/SkincareAddiction, my judgement is 
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AITA for unintentionally getting a co-worker fired and blacklisted? TLDR: Did a performance assessment with a new hire. She is a single mom and left her 9 y/o son in her hotel room while we were working. I reported this to our manager due to liability and after returning to the home office this afternoon, was informed her contract had been terminated and she would no longer be employed at our affiliate partners. This Monday l was in the Midwest evaluating a remote new hire still in her probationary period in my department. While working, we shared small details of our lives that you normally do with new co-workers. She mentioned she was a single mom to a 9 y/o boy and since it was still summer break, she had a hard time finding childcare while she worked. I nodded in sympathy and then she told me she brought him along with her on this business trip to enjoy the hotel amenities and get out of the house. I paused what I was doing and looked at her in surprise. I asked if she had gotten approval for family travel as it’s allowed, as long as it’s requested in advance and approved by our manager. She told me that she didn’t think it was a big deal and she’s done it before in other companies. I didn’t say anything else and we finished our day at the site. While at the airport, my manager called asking how the review had gone. I gave him my assessment but told him my biggest concern was outside of the site work and mentioned what she had told me. I also expressed my concern over leaving a young child alone for so long. My manager agreed and told me this was a possible liability issue for the company. He said he needed to speak with HR department after our call. I gave him the rest of my assessment and then boarded my flight when it was called. Today, I arrived at our office for a weekly in-person team meeting. My manager informed us that the new Midwest hire’s contract had been terminated. He added that she would not be receiving a referral and that she was now blacklisted from working on partner company projects. After the meeting, a few colleagues asked me what happened. I summarized the trip and a couple of colleagues, also single mothers, said I shouldn’t have ratted her out because she most likely didn’t have any other option, and now she was no longer employable in our field. I told them I didn’t expect the consequences to be so severe, but I still had to report what she did because of liability. They disagreed and said I should’ve been more sympathetic to her situation. Am I the rear end in a top hat for reporting her transgression? ADDITIONAL EDIT to answer repeat questions. Thank you to everyone who’s given judgement and for all the constructive comments. To those who have attacked me personally based on my post, fair enough. A lot of people are assuming that the new hire was poor or at least too poor to hire childcare. I never wrote that she was poor, only that she had a hard time finding childcare because of summer break. I’m not trying to be elitist, but to qualify for our job, you need a graduate degree or a BSN with at least a couple of years of experience. The new hire certainly has options with other companies not affiliated with our current one or its partners. Any major health network or any large private clinic certainly has openings for what we do with or without a referral. In regards to corporate loyalty, me, my coworkers, and her are all contractors. We work for ourselves and we pick and choose contracts that we want to take. Once your contract is up, you move on. I could care less who the higher ups are as long as I get a fair evaluation at the end of my contract. As for HR policy regarding employee information. My field review summary is not privileged information among departmental co-workers who are also field reviewers. This wasn’t water cooler gossip. This was me giving a factual account of what occurred to people who perform the same function that I do. The fact that 2 co-workers thought I was an rear end in a top hat is a result of this discussion. Some have asked what I do for a living. In broad terms, my co-workers and I audit clinics, hospitals, and insurance companies to be sure no fraud is happening on either end, and that government laws are followed in regards to procedures and practices. It’s literally our job to be meticulous in following and enforcing established policies. EDIT for Clarifications She knew about the travel policies and needing approval. We are all trained on company SOPs as contractors for several weeks before being certified. Once certified, we’re field reviewed and if approved are assigned work projects as remote workers. My role as a field reviewer was to assess her on her work ethic, site task abilities, and adherence to our SOPs including travel guidelines. I’m not allowed to give feedback to her as it’s her assigned mentor’s job to discuss strengths, weaknesses, and how to improve because they work one on one with new hires closely. I’m a essentially a proctor overseeing a field test. I’ve never met her or spoken with her or her son before this past Monday and only know what she mentioned in passing. Her mentor and my manager would have learned she was traveling with someone eventually because the hotel receipt lists the room service menu items purchased. There no possible way food could have been delivered to her room while she was at work with me without someone else ordering it. “Outside of site work” refers specifically to the tasks we do while at the clinic but doesn’t mean she isn’t evaluated for following guidelines while offsite during travel.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA For wanting to wear Japanese Clothing? Last I heard Japanese companies were trying to get kimonos to catch on overseas so traditional Japanese clothing doesn't die out.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA For wanting to wear Japanese Clothing? Japanese people in America will probably care but Japanese people in Japan wont give much of a poo poo so where do you live and also if you buy a cheap one and put it on yourself everyone will know and laugh at you forever regardless of country.
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The Lone Badger posted:From Reddit: Excellent.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for unintentionally getting a co-worker fired and blacklisted? The black listed thing is a lot of bullshit but I am leaning towards agreeing with him. 9 can be a weird age and while at 9 I was left home alone a lot there are quite a few 9 year olds that probably shouldn't be left at home that being said they weren't at home they were in a hotel in another city which is a problem if something happens. Sure the kid probably has moms number but if there were an emergency who knows what could have happened. Also the fact that she was aware that she should have gotten approval for the travel before hand is just another strike. Yeah it sucks she lost that contract but I'm not sure leaving your kid in the hotel room for (10-12 hours) is the smartest idea.
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Seems like it'd depend on the kid? Pretty sure most 9 year olds would be fine sitting around watching TV/Youtube/playing video games or whatever the hell for one day at least, maybe even getting their own lunch, so long as the parent checks in once or twice and comes back in time for (and possibly with) dinner.
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Why doesn’t my [24M] friend [27F] ever correct people when they assume we’re together?quote:I can never understand when we’re out together we always do things I’d never do with my platonic friends, and people always assume we’re dating/together. But she never stops and clarifies and has stopped me from saying anything. She just grabs my arm and winks. How could he even stand being friends with someone so dishonest!
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Seems like it'd depend on the kid? Pretty sure most 9 year olds would be fine sitting around watching TV/Youtube/playing video games or whatever the hell for one day at least, maybe even getting their own lunch, so long as the parent checks in once or twice and comes back in time for (and possibly with) dinner. You know who would be best able to determine if a given 9 year old could be left alone all day?
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Pinecone Sample posted:Why doesn’t my [24M] friend [27F] ever correct people when they assume we’re together? lol what a dummy.
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BF Watches Naked Neighbor— What Should I Do?quote:Hi.
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