Power Khan posted:

Think of how much piss that door must have taken over the last 450 years. It's probably the only reason why it's still there.

Whorelord posted:

how is 18 cold

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We met via e-harmony. I know that I specifically said I wanted to have a kid on that with a mandatory requirement. I thought it was safe to assume that anyone that got matched up with me felt at least close to that idea of having a family in the future. Since we have been together, never was it said that she specifically did not want kids, but I guess I never said I specifically wanted them while we were dating.

Fast forward 6 years from our first date, we're married and I brought up having a kid. She's shocked that I suddenly brought it up and thought that we had already agreed otherwise (to not have a kid). We're both taking some time to evaluate our stance and alternatives/options and we're going to return to the discussion in a few weeks, but since the initial conversation, there's been a cloud over the relationship with a lot of tension.

I don't think I'm specifically here for a definitive do this or do that, but maybe, though, someone does have advice that can help either short or long term.

Thanks everyone for reading.

tl;dr: Wife and I (together for 6 years) are on opposite sides of the fence on having kids; tensions are high while we take time to think about it.

MarcusSA posted:

How are so many people pissing on the door where it’s a problem???? Like wtf place is this?

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So i've been seeing this girl for like 3 weeks good now, we both really into it. She told me she is very insecure, which is fine by me since i only want to help get her confidence. (She is 19, almost 20 and im 20 aswell.)

So today i was at hers and we were starting to have sex. I made a inappropiate joke that touched her feelings, was not a good one, And with that my youngman shrimped. (it already did a little, read beyong). It hurted here feelings more than the joke, since here insecurities.

Besides that, my youngman shrimped the only 2 other times i had sex with 2 other girls. I've no clue what this is, since i was/am really into the three times. Is is normal that it shrimpes? Especially a first time with someone new. I mean she was soaking wet since she was 2 years dry, and after a couple minutes my youngman hosed it up. I mean wtf, does anyone recognize this, or has it either? It's afwul.

Thank you for your information/reaction kind stranger



TL;DR: My youngman gets shrimpy during sex, is this normal/ relatable?

Hellblazer187 posted:

My youngman gets shrimpy during sex, is this normal?

VanSandman posted:

Throw him into the Volcano.

Hellblazer187 posted:

Me [32 M] with my wife [31 F] of 6 years disagree on having a child.


HOW DO YOU NOT TALK ABOUT THIS BEFORE MARRIAGE??!

Hellblazer187 posted:

My youngman gets shrimpy during sex, is this normal?


, And with that my youngman shrimped

LadyPictureShow posted:

He mentioned it on his dating profile over six years ago, jeez!

Ouhei posted:

You'd think someone that cares enough to put it in his profile would care enough to talk about it (probably way too early) during the relationship.

Hellblazer187 posted:

My youngman gets shrimpy during sex, is this normal?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for watching porn with my boyfriend and his friends?

luxury handset posted:

he's embarrassed he was watching porn in a group with his bros and his girlfriend caught him. trash man

MarcusSA posted:

How are so many people pissing on the door where it’s a problem???? Like wtf place is this?

Sagebrush posted:

it could easily be somewhere in southern europe where it doesn't get all that cold. Spain, Italy, Portugal

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[USA/CT] I rear-ended someone and I was wondering if I can just let it slide?
(self.legaladvice)

submitted an hour ago by crapheadcart

I was at fault in a low speed collision at a stop sign in CT. The extent of the damage was minor scratches (I assumed buffing would fix 95% of damage). An officer came and tried to file a report but both of our insurance cards were expired and he said because of that this accident technically didn't happen (implied it was up to us as to what happened next).

My name is not on the insurance for the car and I don't want my parent's insurance to go up for something that I did (also haven't told them yet). The officer said the two of us could call our insurance providers and get the updated information and call the police department with the updated info to complete the report. I was wondering if I could just ghost this woman and if there would be any negatives for me down the line (legal action or huge hike in insurance rate).

Key Details: The woman has since called back the department and given her insurance information.

She has my plate #, my name and license #, and my insurance policy number (I think) and I have the same for her.

It it possible for me to just never call her back and not give my information into the police department and have nothing come of this? Would she have grounds to (if she wanted) sue me?

tactlessbastard posted:

She ruined a larval circle jerk

luxury handset posted:

he's embarrassed he was watching porn in a group with his bros and his girlfriend caught him. trash man

feedmegin posted:

Are you sure about this because I am English and we definitely do not cook our steaks that way. Are you yourself English or are you an American yucking away with lazy stereotypes?

Tiny Bug Child posted:

Straight White Shark posted:

Did they find the One Weird Trick Insurance Companies Hate?

Business Gorillas posted:

Thinking as hard as I can about this post if the story was a boyfriend walking in uninvited to one of those sex toy events a girlfriend and all of her friends were having and just hanging out

chitoryu12 posted:

It’s a really hard decision to make for anyone who has empathy for their employees as human beings. On the one hand, they could legitimately have problems that need time to relax and recharge outside of work because of problems outside their control and you don’t want to work them to the bone. On the other, their absence might be putting undue stress on everyone else who now has to make up for it. There’s no good answer because either firing them or letting them have extra time is hurting someone.

StrangersInTheNight posted:

Yeah, this is a tough one bc both sides have legitimate grievances, but either way her tactic of just trying to find someone else who will do her work for her so her absences go unnoticed is a dick move

She's trying to sweep under the rug how much her continued absences are affecting everyone so she can keep getting the leeway to take the time as needed

Even if her needing those days is legitimate for health reasons, she needs to stop trying to hide that her absence means work could get left undone, because her manager needs to know how to best adjust to keep the system working, and your manager can't do that if you're trying to hide from them how much work is actually getting done

NTA because this person wouldn't have tattled if Mental Health Day lady hadn't tried to dump all her work on them.

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On reddit I saw that you could 'engrave' bananas and the engraving would eventually turn brown - effectively you could write on them with a knife but before it turns brown it's hard to see they've been engraved.

A couple of weeks ago I thought about playing a little joke on my wife and two girls (4 & 6). Wifey was looking after the girls on Sunday morning whilst I went to buy food. Upon my return I proclaimed that I bought rare magic bananas that would tell us a secret message if we put them outside on a rock for a little while.

I told my girls that we get good luck if we do what the bananas say. Girls weren't too interested at this point and my lovely wife was probably thinking this better be worth this stupidity. Joke on wife already failed but I still had hope in my two gullible angels who i'd told we'll go and check on the bananas in a bit. I'd put them on a rock on a table out front. The girls aren't allowed out the front and if they want to play they can go out the back. I was kind of scared my eldest would see the engraving if I put them out back.

The time comes and I act surprised and in total disbelief because what do the bananas say but '4 & 6 must eat chocolate' (their names were actually used). I show my girls and let them read it. I don't think 4 could make sense of the writing because it's actually harder than you think (skills have since improved) but her sister's expression was enough to convince her. They both get some chocolate for the good luck and have a great afternoon often asking for more chocolate or when can we get more bananas. HA! I explained magic bananas can only be used on Sundays and we have no more.

Last Sunday rolls around and I get more 'magic' bananas. At this point I think this is no longer worth it but the girls have remembered and wait eagerly (playing inside by the front door) whilst I ask them if they've had any good luck this week. They both ramble on about all the good luck they've had and I tell them I've had good luck this week as well. Leading questions and kids go hand in hand.

The wait is nearly over and I'm thinking chocolate was a small sacrifice. The change from excitement to disappointment on my girls faces when I say 'everyone tidy their rooms' was actually pretty funny. In all fairness their room did need a good tidy up as did wifeys and mine. To our surprise though, our girls immediately shot upstairs and tidied their toys etc. HA HA! I have become more powerful than any jedi has dreamed of.

Last night my wife told me that at 6's school, parents have come up to her asking about the magic bananas. I burst out laughing but it got me thinking my girls probably expect more good luck this week and may be disappointed. Other kids probably think there are magic bananas out there that give you good luck if you eat chocolate. My wife isn't too amused now and I kind of see her side but I still can't helping thinking this is a silly Dad joke. Or AITA?

hawowanlawow posted:

baffling that so many people keep/send nudes


morons

quote:

I recently took a trip to South Korea with my girlfriend. One of the highlights of the trip was the DMZ tour we took. On that tour, one of the places they take you is this train station that is supposed to be used for relations between North and South Korea. In practice it is mostly for show, but it is a symbol of reunification.

At this train station, they have a stamp you can get that says the name of the station and Pyongyang, like a ticket between the two locations. Our guide explained no train actually goes to Pyongyang, but it is like a wish for the future. We were told by the guide that we should absolutely not put this stamp in our passports because it could cause problems with immigration officers in both Korea and the USA in particular. There is also a sign next to the stamps telling you not to stamp your passports or currency.

So on arrival in Korea, my girlfriend was upset because they do not stamp your passports on entry/exit. Instead you get a little paper ticket. She has a fresh passport and likes to collect stamps from the places she's been, so she wanted to put the train station stamp in her passport. I said, for the reasons explained above, that she shouldn't do it. She pressed the issue, but I was holding our passports and ultimately refused to give her the passport. Instead, we put the stamp on our itinerary booklet which we have kept as a kind of keepsake.

Additional info:

We have gotten novelty stamps in our passports before (at Machu Picchu) but I don't think it's the same because the government doesn't care if you go to Peru.

There was a second stamp that said the train station name and some stuff in Korean I can't read, but it was with the other stamp with the sign that said not to put it in your passport. She asked about only doing this one but I still didn't give her the passport.

We saw other people putting the stamp in their passport, but I they weren't from the USA (which has banned travel to North Korea), and I don't think other people breaking the rules means it's ok for us to do it.

On the one hand it's not my passport, but on the other hand we always travel together and I would be very upset if we ever got held up by immigration agents over the stamp, potentially missing a flight or generally just being inconvenienced.

So AITA for not letting her put the stamp in her passport?

-----EDIT-----

While I appreciate everyone's feedback, to the people calling my girlfriend dumb, immature, etc. I would like to state that she is none of these things. She was mainly pushing for the stamp with the station name that I described in the additional info, which is probably less risky than the one that says Pyongyang in English. However, because we were still told not to put it in the passport, the minor argument happened. She's a lovely person so please be kind whatever your verdict.

Sagebrush posted:

it could easily be somewhere in southern europe where it doesn't get all that cold. Spain, Italy, Portugal

DemoneeHo posted:

AITA for not letting my girlfriend get a novelty stamp in her passport in the DMZ?

quote:

I unexpectedly got pregnant shortly after turning 22. There were some abnormalities noted throughout my pregnancy, but my husband refused to acknowledge that anything could be “wrong” with our baby, and wouldn’t have the “what if” conversation. He was against me getting an amniocentesis, and didn’t want me to see the doctor who first brought up a possible diagnosis.

3 weeks ago I gave birth to our child, diagnosed at birth with said suspected disability. Immediately I began speaking with my husband about adoption.

Throughout my pregnancy, my husband assured me that he would be able to provide for all 3 of us, with me staying at home with the baby. The raise he assured me was coming never did, and as he continued dodging my questions, I began looking into adoption on my own, knowing we could not afford to be parents without living in poverty and leeching off the government.

Our baby being born with a disability that will involve lifelong medical care and may not ever live independently confirmed to me that we were not the best people for this job. I began speaking with an adoption agency, and have found a few families who are wonderful and made me so excited for our child, who could have a drastically better life than what we can provide.

My husband is militantly against adoption. He refuses to even look at any of the family profiles, or speak to the agency with me. I know that there is no feasible way for us to do this, and that he is in denial.

I can’t, and won’t, force him to do anything, but I worry this is the end of our marriage, and that I’ll either be forced to raise a child I am not capable of raising, or that he’ll have to sacrifice being a father to our child, and resent me forever.

Tl;dr: Had an unplanned pregnancy, child was born with disabilities, husband wants the child without the resources to raise them, I want to place them for adoption.

Grape posted:

Get it on a separate piece of paper. That's what they tend to do in unrecognized countries that like nearly no one on earth sees as real.