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nankeen posted:the telltale clam how do you know my nickname
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She wasn't stealing clams, she was steaming hams.
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Sep 9, 2019 07:27
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"If I own the house I get to do whatever I want in the relationship because then I can threaten to make my partner homeless"
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Sep 9, 2019 07:37
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Sep 9, 2019 07:41
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nankeen posted:wealthy and compassionate women who can afford a literal weekly maid to clean up after their animals should be allowed to take in as many animals as they can reasonably take care of, and for some of them that's thousands. all that animal life and wellbeing outweighs the histrionic needs of some hand-wringing softboy who's scared of rats and also thinks that because he's loving the homeowner the house belongs to him THANK YOU. I have the same argument with my husband about the free range twink preservation in our backyard. I pay for everything but for some reason it's still our back yard. Anyway, they have a very large chicken coop left by the previous owner to sleep in and there's a Dreamcast in there, which is something I wish I had spent more quality time with in my younger years, and we can fit at least half a dozen more in there so I don't see why I shouldn't be allowed to hang out around the Greyhoud bus station near Hollywood Boulevard.
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Sep 9, 2019 07:52
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cumshitter posted:THANK YOU.
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Sep 9, 2019 08:01
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not wanting my sister to appear in adult content? NTA for not wanting her to get involved in the porn industry. Very TA for the stated reason that it might affect meeee. Worry about the psychological and possibly physical damage suffered by porn actors, the way the drive for new faces will see them pushed into more and more extreme stuff to make money for their 'agents' before being spat out, the future careers spent with the fear of being outed as ex-porn actors. Don't worry about 'people might think it's me!'
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I’m [F/32] struggling with husband’s [M/28] “my money, your money” view, especially now that we are having a baby together. Bit of a background about us - I [F/32] have been with my (now husband) [M/28] for 7 years (married 1.5 years). When we first got together I had just come back from traveling around Europe and had nothing to my name. After about 6 months things were going well and we decided to buy a house together. We went to a solicitor and drew up a prenup which stated if we broke up he would be entitled to the $68,000 deposit he paid on the house and his $30k boat and $10k ute he owned before we met (which is 100% fair and I totally agreed with). Income-wise he earns about $143k a year and I earn roughly $45k. He has options for as much overtime as he wants and works quite a lot of overtime (as well as doing quite a few "cashies"/perk jobs) whereas I work in a 9-5 desk job with no options of overtime. We have been paying off the mortgage fortnightly at a much higher rate than we are required to (our payments need to be $513 fortnightly and we are paying $1650). So of my $1528 take-home pay I am paying $1150 towards the mortgage and $100 towards a car loan (which I just finished paying off this week hooray). We have separate accounts at different banks that our pays go into so I have no idea how much he earns each pay and obviously it differs each week with overtime etc but his wages go towards bills and every day expenses, extra savings and capital gains taxes for an investment section we bought and sold. The rest is our "fun/play money" and up to us what we want to spend it on. In terms of our "fun money" of $150 a week (although mine was a little less due to car payments) he also takes a 30% portion extra on top of the $150 a week "fun money" out of his over time. When I questioned him about this he said he believes it's fair because he's "got to have some incentive to do all the extra hours." This means he has plenty of money for new rifles, fishing gear, he recently went halves with his mate on a 16k jetboat. We are expecting our first child in February and although I just finished paying off my car I am now trying to save for a bigger more reliable car that can fit a carseat/stroller etc with my "fun money" because he already has his own truck paid upfront. The other day I purchased a steam mop on our joint account and he said it was an unnecessary expense and we can't afford it right now with a baby on the way so I ended up having to use my "fun money" to pay for the mop. My fun money also has to cover things like my gym membership and if I ever want to get my hair coloured or if I go out for a girls night with my friends it comes out of that money too. I know that we are lucky to even have any "fun money." Anyway....sorry for the novel.....basically I have always struggled with the "my money your money" thing. It's not how I was brought up, my parents have always had a joint account. I have brought this up with him before and he writes down a whole lot of figures explaining what he contributes vs what I’m contributing…. and in his head he is trying to be fair and logical but it’s got to the stage where I don’t even feel like we are a team. I feel as though we are running more like a business than a relationship. When bubs arrives I will be on maternity leave for a year (I would love to stay at home with our child for a bit longer after that but he will want me back at work earning money) and I am petrified how a year of me not earning is going to go - and he is already stressed about how we are going to 'survive' on one income. It's such a hard topic to bring up. He always says "All my friends have separate accounts for their fun/play money and it works great" and he can't seem to understand my perspective. I guess I am just wanting advice on what to do from here? When I bring it up he's very good at just writing out numbers and saying it's fair given how hard he works and how much overtime he is going to have to do when the baby arrives. And he says things like he's doing it for us so we aren't in so much debt later on and I suppose I am a bit of a pushover and I just let it go in the end coz he starts making me think that I am being unreasonable. I feel like if we don't tackle this further now then it is going to get far harder once a child is in the mix. TLDR: Husband likes to keep our earnings separate & have a percentage of his overtime go towards his “fun/play” money. We are expecting our first child so I won’t be earning for at least a year & am worried how things are going to go with us both living off just his earnings.
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Sep 9, 2019 08:32
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hockey jockey posted:NTA for not wanting her to get involved in the porn industry. Very TA for the stated reason that it might affect meeee. It does affect her though....
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Sep 9, 2019 08:38
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cumshitter posted:THANK YOU. I don't know if this was intentional or not but I can think of no better way to celebrate the 20th anniversary of the dreamcast than a cumshitter post. You keep playing power stone you wonderful twinks, you keep playing.
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Sep 9, 2019 08:38
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MarcusSA posted:It does affect her though.... yes, but that should be way down the list of concerns, not the only one mentioned.
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Sep 9, 2019 08:58
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hockey jockey posted:yes, but that should be way down the list of concerns, not the only one mentioned. quote:She thinks I'm being an hypocrite, how can I define myself as a libertarian while being against her freedom to do whatever she pleases with her body. I support that claim, but she's not considering she'll be harming me; as we are identical twins, she being nude and doing porn is just as me doing so.
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Sep 9, 2019 09:07
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hockey jockey posted:yes, but that should be way down the list of concerns, not the only one mentioned. The OP mentioned in that post that she's a libertarian i.e. she's a selfish sociopath. Not surprising that she only cares about herself.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I’m [F/32] struggling with husband’s [M/28] “my money, your money” view, especially now that we are having a baby together. She's paying more than half the mortgage, but he's paying for everything else. Weird but ok. Then they each get a set amount of fun money of 600 a month which is quite a bit, really. That accounts for everything she makes, but then he also has investments, and also buys a bunch of other stuff with his money, but then if he has free reign over his money what's the point of the fun money? Isn't all the remainder fun money, then? And what's with the 30% of some mystery amount of overtime she doesn't know. And apparently there's a joint account with more mystery money of unexplained quantity and origin? Then there's a mop and a future baby and I don't even know. If this is what people think having separate accounts is like then I can see why some are against it, it sounds like a nightmare. Though I get the sense they'd be constantly fighting about money if they had combined finances ao maybe the real issue is them.
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WIBTA if I don’t tell my boyfriend I just reported the illegal gambling games he’s part of?quote:Mobile and throwaway.
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There's a baby on the way, it's time to get out of the jetboat game, rear end in a top hat
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Sep 9, 2019 11:50
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TheAardvark posted:I'm legitimately interested in this, how did you get into being barefoot? it could just be a regional thing. if i'm walking on dirt or grass for maybe up to 500m and i'm not doing any heavy work i'll go barefoot, but likewise for pretty much anyone from hawaii building up a resistance to terrestrial bug poisons through the soles of your feet is not the goal, it's just a perk
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Sep 9, 2019 11:54
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hockey jockey posted:NTA for not wanting her to get involved in the porn industry. Very TA for the stated reason that it might affect meeee. No, remember? There was a part in this thread about something similar happening, and it actually did gently caress with the OP's life negatively
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I’m [F/32] struggling with husband’s [M/28] “my money, your money” view, especially now that we are having a baby together. Congratulations on your second child, Madam!
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Sep 9, 2019 12:23
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nankeen posted:wealthy and compassionate women who can afford a literal weekly maid to clean up after their animals should be allowed to take in as many animals as they can reasonably take care of, and for some of them that's thousands. all that animal life and wellbeing outweighs the histrionic needs of some hand-wringing softboy who's scared of rats and also thinks that because he's loving the homeowner the house belongs to him Agreed 100%, I want to make this hot take go supernova I would rather have a malnourished rat than a freeloader boyfriend any day
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Grape posted:How does anyone, even a complete rear end in a top hat, act like that at 30?? Because everyone has always let him get away with it.
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Sep 9, 2019 13:49
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My mother (40F) doesn't know the truth about my stepfather (45M)quote:TL;DR ~ Everything my mother knows about my step-father is a lie, but she might be better off not knowing. How do I go about confronting my step-father?
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Sep 9, 2019 14:12
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I (25/f) ended up telling my friend (28/m) I liked him and it blew up in my facequote:We've been friends since high school, almost 10 years. We don't see each other that often since he moved about 2 hours driving distance away but still see each other a few times a year. We always had a flirtatious friendship and joked around all the time. It never seemed too serious. Last year, I started to develop feelings for him, nothing major or worth telling in my opinion. Until yesterday. We were texting about how the dating scene is for people our age, he knows I hate dating, and he's been having some rough dates. He recently got back from a bad one. I told him that those women are clearly stupid, that he would be a great guy to date. He ended up flat out asking me if I had feelings for him. I said yes, I didn't want to lie, but it was just a crush, and wouldn't affect our friendship. He asked me if I was being honest, and reiterated that he knows I don't like dating. I said yes I was being honest and I am sorry it came out like this, that he knows I don't lie. Everyone tells her to calm down and wait a few days instead of freaking out over this. Two days later: (UPDATE) I (25/f) ended up telling my friend (28/m) I liked him and it blew up in my face quote:I ended up texting him yesterday that I was sorry if I wasn't more clear in my message, I didn't want to confuse him. I wrote "I apologize if I wasn't clear. I do have significant feelings for you and I believe if the circumstances were right, we could work and I'm willing to try that". He responded: "Oh, sorry I read it but then forgot I asked you and you texted me lol".
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Pinecone Sample posted:My mother (40F) doesn't know the truth about my stepfather (45M) Sounds more like your mum is living in miserable ignorance rather than blissful, go for the nuclear option and don't feel bad doing it.
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I kinda feel like DOD and the VA don't just hand out pensions to guys who served 3 years if they have a cool story. Like I'm sure bunches of jabronis have tried the "oh, it's top secret stuff that's why" and the VA doctors know to laugh at it. So, I'm thinking that if he's getting a check every month, there's more to his story than his family is letting on. However, obviously he's not PhD Millionaire Bond Mountain Man he's portrayed himself as, because literally nobody is. He should write novels about the character he invented though. Edit: Oh and also he's a piece of poo poo so Fatkraken posted:go for the nuclear option and don't feel bad doing it.
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:All this and I still have no idea how they're splitting the money and I don't know if it's because he's intentionally obfuscating things, because she doesn't understand it or because she's bad at explaining it. Yeah she seems to be bad at explaining it, but the gist seems to be that he keeps a ton of extra money to himself and is now getting panicky because he won't get to do that anymore. The whole separate/joint account thing only works if you also aren't a loving prick. My wife and I have them, mainly so we can easily see for ourselves what money we have set aside to do whatever we want with without worrying about draining a joint account. With that said all of the accounts are at the same bank and I will absolutely move money out of my personal accounts into the joint ones if we need it. It's all ultimately the same pool, having a separate account just helps mentally know if I've got extra "fun" money sitting around/feel less guilty about going out to lunch during the week.
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Miserable Maid posted:No, remember? There was a part in this thread about something similar happening, and it actually did gently caress with the OP's life negatively I did remember, it was the idea of this being the only possible reason to want her sister not to do it that bothered me. But I didn't know what a libertarian was. I was guessing by context and thought it meant someone who was really into liberty, ie people being free to do what makes them happy without being judged, which was why it jarred so much. But apparently it's the US version of being a committed Tory, in which case it is no surprise and she is a million percent the rear end in a top hat and if it wasn't for the fact that I, a complete stranger in a different country, care more about her sister's safety and happiness than she does I'd be hoping PornSis goes ahead and becomes internationally famous.
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MarcusSA posted:Look if its fanfic the person is a very very good writer. Do people think that good writers are incredibly rare? I don't meant to single you out as much as highlight the general trend.
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JosephWongKS posted:The OP mentioned in that post that she's a libertarian i.e. she's a selfish sociopath. Not surprising that she only cares about herself. I get the feeling the doctor was using libertarian incorrectly in the sense of “keep your hands off my body”/“sex work is a choice that shouldn’t be stigmatized”/etc. rather than “Who Is John Galt?” Nuclear option: surgeon threatens sister that she’ll out aspiring porn star to the parents unless she gets a giant tramp stamp that says, “I’m the porn actress, not the surgeon, who is my identical twin and definitely not me.”
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Sep 9, 2019 15:57
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for buying myself a speed pass at amusement park and not one for my GF? I love the reddit comments on this one. Dozens of people saying he's unambiguously an rear end in a top hat, one incel saying the gf is obviously a moocher, and one rollercoaster enthusiast making the argument that its acceptable as long as it was to ride Steel Vengeance.
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chitoryu12 posted:I (25/f) ended up telling my friend (28/m) I liked him and it blew up in my face Wow a female perspective friend zoning. Ultra-rare Pepe.
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Chomp8645 posted:Wow a female perspective friend zoning. Part of me thinks he was trying to play hard to get and bungled it about as bad as one could.
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Dienes posted:Part of me thinks he was trying to play hard to get and bungled it about as bad as one could.
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Leon Einstein posted:Where are you getting this? He was pretty clear. On the other hand, guys are idiots
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Sep 9, 2019 16:27
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Chomp8645 posted:Wow a female perspective friend zoning. Eh, it's not really friend-zoning is it? They had a flirtatious relationship, she developed feelings and eventually told him, he clearly told her he didn't feel the same way (and was a dick about it). Now they're not even friends.
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FAUXTON posted:lmao Sagebrush posted:well duh she's just having triplets. Yeah. I mean, if you have to cook more stuff at once, it takes longer to cook it, and she's got 3 buns in the oven. Alternately, she is a pregnant elephant.  It's this one. She's proven she can count. That's how she knows it's twins.
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Dienes posted:Part of me thinks he was trying to play hard to get and bungled it about as bad as one could. "He told me that he has never had feelings for me and that I should have known that he never has and never will. Is he just playing hard to get?"
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My [37M] husband told me [26F] that he isn't sexually attracted to me since I gained weightquote:So, we've been married for 7 years. I am 6 feet tall, tall for a woman. I've never been much of a petite delicate flower. I was about 140 pounds when we got married, but that weight sits very slim on my figure. I honestly could have gained a few at that time. I'm now up to 185, which is significantly more than I was when we met. I'm tall mind you, and I play sports so I do have a lot of muscle weight. I'm not obese, but I am a little heftier than I used to be. Tummy, little muffin top, a bit of arm jiggle. My husband is a pretty average weight, I'm in better shape than he is honestly. He's a little rolly polly in the middle. I was honestly shocked when he told me. Our sex life has been winding down and we got into an argument about it yesterday. He hit me with "Not everyone wants to gently caress a fat miserable c***". Seriously the worst thing he's ever said to me. I was shocked. He then later apologized and said "I didn't mean to tell you so harshly, but I can't perform anymore because I just have no reason to be attracted to a saggy body." I asked him why he didn't tell me sooner and he just shrugged and said he hoped I would take care of myself better once my clothes got tighter and was just waiting for me to take action. Should I explain to him more why this was so hurtful, or does this sound like something problematic enough to consider divorce? It feels like he's just completely disrespecting the sanctity of our marriage, is that crazy? He told me he "wants what he married". Am I wrong to disagree? I need some help. My family is so traditional that when I told my sister about this she told me "well, your husband is telling you what he wants before running off to someone else. You're lucky you're getting a chance." Am I lucky?
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It's because she is older. The weight is just part of that.
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