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Inceltown: Aug 6, 2019

ParserGirl posted:

I know it's an inherently risky act, but I realized the ability to summon a ride has helped so many people get out of vulnerable situations that the benefits outweigh the risks.

The service Uber offers would be great if it wasn't done the way it is in basically every meaningful way for the people actually doing the work.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 12:09

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# ? May 30, 2024 23:33

Larry Parrish: Jul 9, 2012; by Jeffrey of YOSPOS

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Me [26F] with my gay coworkers [M] who talk about queer and sexual topics constantly and it's kinda annoying.

this is so funny is so many ways. we got the young presumably white girl who's somehow in a quantum superposition between queer and straight so she cant be homophobic, the gay dudes who if we believe the op get two beers in and then start talking about getting blown out by some dude they met online, the op apparently being a doormat who cant just say 'i dont want to talk about my sex life'.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 12:14

QuarkJets: Sep 8, 2008

Someone animated an old DWI story from BestOfLegalAdvice

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xEYZMPs6GQ

# ? Sep 28, 2019 12:33

100 HOGS AGREE: Oct 13, 2007; Grimey Drawer

when you're seemingly the only one who's not comfortable with it sometimes it's hard to say anything about it in the moment.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 12:35

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Haifisch posted:

AITA for telling my girlfriend she has to take my last name if she wants to get married?

"I find marriage archaic, so to protect my feminist principles, I made marriage more archaic. I think its better to make my wife choose between her career or me."

For a 'feminist' he'll never see her as an equal in the relationship. :sever:

# ? Sep 28, 2019 13:06

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

Necros posted:

Black Girl Magic

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M26wmKY-e3I

# ? Sep 28, 2019 13:13

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Older bf lasts a long time in bed. Is it my fault?

quote:

He is 50 and a smoker, he says with past gf he used cialis, but he is not using anything now.

I am 24,

The issue is he lasts a really long time in bed and sometimes can’t finish..

For example last night we had sex and he lasted maybe 15 min ....

Then he got hard again an hour or so later but couldn’t finish until the morning

It’s the same thing with blowjobs too.

He says he’s very attracted to me but I’m worried we’re not compatible? especially worried about sex like maybe I don’t feel as good for him? 😔

# ? Sep 28, 2019 13:25

LadyPictureShow: Nov 18, 2005; Success!

AITA for telling my girlfriend that I�d choose my fish over her

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I�m 25 and my gf is 26, we�ve been together for 4 years. I�ve kept a large amount of fish tanks since I was 17. My fish helped me get through depression when I was younger. Knowing that they depend on me kept me from falling too far. I�m much better now, and I�m still very much into keeping fish.

I live in a 2 bedroom apartment alone so that I have more space for my tanks. That was my sole motivation for renting this place over a studio or 1 bedroom. I have 34 tanks, from 5 to 300 gallons, most are 20 - 40. They require constant upkeep because of how many there are but I don�t mind because it really is what I love. My fish are to me what many people�s cats or dogs are to them.

Yesterday my gf brought up moving in together. I mentioned it�d be a pain to move, I moved out from my parent�s at 19 with 6 tanks and it sucked. I can�t imagine this many. She told my she thought I should �tone down my obsession� and sell at least half my tanks and fish so she can move into the second bedroom, instead of us renting a house together. I told her no, that it wasn�t reasonable for her to ask for that, and I would be willing to move into a house with her, as long as it had enough room for my fish. She got very mad and asked if I cared more about my fish than her, and I told her that if she made me choose, I�d choose my fish. She left and hasn�t talked to me since.

We�ve never had any problems before, I don�t get why she can�t understand that aquariums are what I love. She�s known how into aquariums I am from the start of our relationship, and I�m a bit offended that she�d ask me to choose her over them, which I won�t do.

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I have a lot of tanks mostly because I breed them for fun/to make money on the side. And she�d need her own room to put her stuff in?

How is it hoarding? Fishkeeping is my hobby. I make money off it. I�ve always taken care of them and they�re never neglected.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 14:16

Hellblazer187: Oct 12, 2003

100 HOGS AGREE posted:

when you're seemingly the only one who's not comfortable with it sometimes it's hard to say anything about it in the moment.

I think they did these experiments where they like got someone in a room with some workers who were in on it, and then like a bunch of smoke got into the room, but nobody got up to flee what appeared to be a fire. And the experiment subject looks uncomfortable but doesn't get up and leave most of the time, they just sit there unless and until someone else gets up to leave.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 14:21

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

How many tanks are needed to be profitable? What kind of gains are we talking here? I am always interested in picking up a side hustle.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 14:38

MrQwerty: Apr 15, 2003; LOVE IS BEAUTIFUL (づ￣ �￣)づ♥(�∀�●)

Dazerbeams posted:

How many tanks are needed to be profitable? What kind of gains are we talking here? I am always interested in picking up a side hustle.

I still miss keeping a betta in a 5 gal with a small plecostomus to clean the tank, that was pretty minimal work

He's talking about a fish store that he's running out of his house

# ? Sep 28, 2019 14:45

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Hellblazer187 posted:

I think they did these experiments where they like got someone in a room with some workers who were in on it, and then like a bunch of smoke got into the room, but nobody got up to flee what appeared to be a fire. And the experiment subject looks uncomfortable but doesn't get up and leave most of the time, they just sit there unless and until someone else gets up to leave.

Whenever the fire alarm sounds in my 7th floor office, my coworkers sit and wait for HR to send an email if it's a drill, a system test, or a false alarm. I'm usually at the front door when that email arrives. Some floors are better about getting out than us, but I'll also encounter people coming up the stairs to offices on other floors.

Is it just our slavishness to the pace of modern life? I think that's probably a portion of it.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 14:49

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Red Flag?

quote:

My bf (40M) and I (33F) got into an argument walking the dogs. He ended up slapping me across the face with his boxers poop bag, which is usually a five pounder. He had no remorse or even felt like he was wrong. Does his action qualify enough for me to totally ghost him? I feel totally disrespected and not sure I will ever fully get that out of my head now. Like who does that? What an immature way to handle anything.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 14:58

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

Ex MIL died and tried to stick me with the bill

quote:

Because it keeps coming up... To clarify, my MIL is not dead. My Ex MIL died and tried to hold me responsible for her funeral costs. I thought differentiating by using "MIL" and "Ex MIL" it would be enough. Sorry for the confusion.

UPDATE AT BOTTOM

This morning I got a call from a funeral home letting me know my MIL's body had been picked up and wanted to discuss the obituary as well as inquire about payment (with as much tact as possible).

One problem. My MIL isn't dead and she certainly wouldn't have been sent to a funeral home 4 or 5 hours from where she lives if she was.

I tell them they have the wrong number, even though they used my maiden name (which I have an extremely rare maiden name- less than 500 people in the world have it) and I previously lived in that town. The young man on the phone was apologetic and wished me a good day.

Not even 5 minutes later the number calls me again. This time it's a woman asking me if I was the DIL of Ex MIL. I said "Not in the last 10 years."

Turns out, my witch of an Ex MIL, who honestly was a practicing witch but also just a bitch of a woman, had known she was dying and decided as one last "gently caress you" thought she would try to stick me with her funeral costs.

Of course there's no legal recourse here, even though our state has that weird law where you legally have to take care of your parents if they aren't able to themselves. But she's not my mother and I was never legally married to her son thanks to his shady officiant friend not filing our marriage license.

From what I can gather, she pre-planned her funeral and told the funeral home that I was currently her DIL and would be covering all funeral costs. They apparently believed her, probably because she plays the victim so easily, and helped her make the plans. This is exactly what she did when I lived with her and my Ex. I busted my rear end working full time while she did nothing but spend all of her money at thrift stores and he worked 15-20 hours a week minimum wage.

Now they're holding a body and have no idea what to do with it as they don't have contact info for my Ex, nor do I. I suggested they call the nursing home.

But yeah, happy Friday. It's not even lunch time and I'm already stressed out and in a bad mood. But I refuse to let her ruin my entire day.

UPDATE: I found Ex on book of faces earlier today and sent a message including my number. He called, we spoke.

He knew what his mother was doing and tried to talk her out of it, but she apparently made such a fuss that he was concerned about her stroking out. He said he "knew nothing would come of the funeral plan" so he let her have her way and list me as financially responsible.

So, side note... Their entire family reads like a soap opera. Long story short, Ex MIL was abandoned as a young child by her mom. Ex MIL was then adopted by her grandmother who raised her as her own (so her aunts and uncles became her siblings). When she had Ex, she did the exact same thing her bio mom did, only this time, Bio Mom took Ex in and raised him with her children as their sibling, but not before he got tossed around in the homes of various family members. Needless to say, entire family is a poo poo show.

Anyway, I told him that what he allowed her to do is the same poo poo that she was doing when she ended up in prison 40 years ago. I told him that I was going to file a police report with my local PD just to make sure there's nothing else she'd put my name on. I also told him that I would be including him as a participant, since he is 52 years old and should have been able to prevent his literally dying 69 year old mother from her abusive, insane behavior.

I also told him to contact the funeral home and hope that they can't file any legal action against him. He told me he'd already called them this morning, apparently after they had called me.

gently caress him. gently caress her. I'm not giving either of them any of my energy again after today.

Spite really is the force that drives the universe

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:00

AreWeDrunkYet: Jul 8, 2006

Pinecone Sample posted:

Whenever the fire alarm sounds in my 7th floor office, my coworkers sit and wait for HR to send an email if it's a drill, a system test, or a false alarm. I'm usually at the front door when that email arrives. Some floors are better about getting out than us, but I'll also encounter people coming up the stairs to offices on other floors.

Is it just our slavishness to the pace of modern life? I think that's probably a portion of it.

A fire drill or alarm test in any reasonably sized building has to be planned and coordinated in advance, including probably someone on your floor. Could your co-workers have caught wind of that? Some offices I've worked in it was such an open secret people got jackets ready in advance, others have kept it more closely guarded.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:08

Power Khan: Aug 20, 2011; by Fritz the Horse

Pinecone Sample posted:

Whenever the fire alarm sounds in my 7th floor office, my coworkers sit and wait for HR to send an email if it's a drill, a system test, or a false alarm. I'm usually at the front door when that email arrives. Some floors are better about getting out than us, but I'll also encounter people coming up the stairs to offices on other floors.

Is it just our slavishness to the pace of modern life? I think that's probably a portion of it.

Modern life disabled alot of the driving forces of human natural selection. Nature always finds a way though eventually.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:08

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AreWeDrunkYet posted:

A fire drill or alarm test in any reasonably sized building has to be planned and coordinated in advance, including probably someone on your floor. Could your co-workers have caught wind of that? Some offices I've worked in it was such an open secret people got jackets ready in advance, others have kept it more closely guarded.

They typically email us like 10-14 days in advance, people probably just assume (or want to believe) they missed the email or forgot by the day of. I usually remember if it says it's just a test and not to evacuate, plus those are only like a split-second.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:15

MagusofStars: Mar 31, 2012

Pinecone Sample posted:

Red Flag?

My bf (40M) and I (33F) got into an argument walking the dogs. He ended up slapping me across the face with his boxers poop bag, which is usually a five pounder. He had no remorse or even felt like he was wrong. Does his action qualify enough for me to totally ghost him? I feel totally disrespected and not sure I will ever fully get that out of my head now. Like who does that? What an immature way to handle anything.

The punctuation makes me wonder: Does she mean "boxers poop bag" like a bag of his own poo poo-stained underwear? Or is this "boxer's poop bag" because he just keeps a five pound bag of his dog's poo poo just lying around the house?

...I don't know which is more hosed-up.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:21

Power Khan: Aug 20, 2011; by Fritz the Horse

DemoneeHo posted:

Ex MIL died and tried to stick me with the bill

Spite really is the force that drives the universe

They're gonna burn her body in a dumpster, and that's totally ok.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:22

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MagusofStars posted:

The lack of punctuation makes me wonder: Does she mean "boxers poop bag" like a bag of his own poo poo-stained underwear? Or is this "boxer's poop bag" because he just keeps a five pound bag of his dog's poo poo just lying around the house?

...I don't know which is more hosed-up.

It's a plastic bag full of a hefty breed of dog's poo poo.

Even more hosed, this means he did this like in a park or a neighborhood.

The clickbait title made me look, and then it was like, well, that's not how I use that term.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:23

DragQueenofAngmar: Dec 29, 2009; You shall not pass!

Pinecone Sample posted:

They typically email us like 10-14 days in advance, people probably just assume (or want to believe) they missed the email or forgot by the day of. I usually remember if it says it's just a test and not to evacuate, plus those are only like a split-second.

that kinda seems like the most dangerous option of all? are they sending out an email that says �hey so we are gonna test the fire alarm sometime in the next 2 weeks so don�t worry if it goes off,� or am I reading it wrong? because 2 weeks is a long time window to block out in people�s heads as �safe, alarm is fake�

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:27

ParserGirl: Jun 3, 2005

MagusofStars posted:

The punctuation makes me wonder: Does she mean "boxers poop bag" like a bag of his own poo poo-stained underwear? Or is this "boxer's poop bag" because he just keeps a five pound bag of his dog's poo poo just lying around the house?

...I don't know which is more hosed-up.

A Boxer is dog breed.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:28

chitoryu12: Apr 24, 2014

MagusofStars posted:

Can you explain how it seems different?
The taxi I took home from the hospital as a kid: My mom called a company on the phone, told them we needed someone to pick us up. A stranger shows up in a car, we got in, rode home to the house.
Uber I take home from bars as an adult: I contact a company on my phone and tell them I need someone to pick me up. A stranger shows up in a car, I get in, ride home to the house.

As far as I can see, the only distinction between "Uber drivers" and "taxi drivers" is that Uber has ignored Department of Labor employee classification laws by intentionally misclassifying their employees as "independent contractors" in order to dodge all the normal legal requirements. The actual experience from the user's perspective is effectively the same.

As lovely as Uber and Lyft are, I live in an area with awful mass transit. Driving to work is 15 minutes, taking the bus is about 2 hours (including 45 minutes of walking). When I don�t have a car and can�t hitch a ride, rideshare apps are the only reasonable way for me to leave the house.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:29

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

WIBTA if I tell my friend about his surprise birthday party ?

quote:

I (23M) have a friend (22M) who is secretely in love with another friend (22F) of us. He is obviously friendzoned as she told me nothing would never happen between the two of them and that she is dating someone else.

However, yesterday she came to me to plan for a surprise birthday party for him.

Step by step, the plan is : - She invites him to a date at a restaurant (only the two of them) - She tell him they are going to her place first - "Surprise !" : some other friends and me are waiting at her place to party for the night, and there aren't any date.

I know my friend has a big heart and will be hoping for more when she will tell him she wants to go to a date. I don't know, it might crush him to understand that there is no date.

I was seeking for advice as someone told me that it will "teach him a lesson".

But i don't agree : I seriously consider revealing the plot to him. I don't want his birthday to be ruined.

I absolutely to know what to do here.

So, WIBTA if I tell my friend about his surprise birthday party ?

I look forward for your answers, thanks for your time.

(PS : sorry for my english, I'm French)

Edit : To clarify, the friend who wants to "teaching him a lesson" is not the girl, he is someone outside the circle of friends.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:32

Moon Atari: Dec 26, 2010

My (22F) father (52M) believes he is communicating with President Trump, I'm sure my brother (15M) is behind this.

quote:

My dad is a Trump voter, and a fairly typical one at that (we're a suburban family and he owns a small local boat dealership). He and many of his friends were very excited by the prospect of President Trump in 2016, and this excitement has built up and up into a kind of mania as his presidency has continued. Importantly, my dad is not a very smart man: he's fairly well-educated but is, in the ways that matter, a stupid person.

Anyway, this summer, I found out that he believes he has been personally communicating with President Trump. While my dad is clueless when it comes to technology, I (regretfully) helped him set up a Twitter account in 2016, using which he has become the type of person who regularly replies to Trump's tweets, getting into frequent arguments with people in the replies. This apparent line of personal communication began in July, when my dad recieved a text message from a withheld number, thanking him for his support and dedication to the President on Twitter, that was signed 'Donald Trump'. My dad freaked out with excitement when he recieved this message, and showed the whole family. Obviously, none of us believed that this was a genuine message from the President, and so he texted back. Eventually a small conversation started, wherein it was explained that the messages were sent from Trump's personal phone, and that he really appreciates my father's dedication to the MAGA cause.

Admittedly, this validation really brought some life back into my father: just after Christmas our mother left, taking custody of one of my brothers, and then shortly after that he injured his knee in a fishing boat accident, and had to spend an awful lot of time indoors recovering (perhaps accounting for the large amount of time spent on Twitter). He seems to have displaced a lot of his personal pride and sense of achievement onto to President Trump as a response; one can imagine how it felt for him to feel recognised in this way. However, their ongoing conversation has gotten completely out of hand in a way that I worry is damaging him.

His conversations with President Trump have become fairly regular, they usually message at least every day, although my dad is very forgiving of the President's tardiness, as "he's busy being the President". My dad has begun to see his friends a lot less since this has started; the number of friends that believed he was actually talking to Trump got smaller and smaller, and so he began to cut them off. He's also begun to completely alienate himself from the town: even when he feels well enough to go and help out at the boat dealership, he ends up just scaring customers and staff by mentioning his conversations with the President, or talking about him in an overfamiliar tone ("you'll never guess what Donald just said to me!", or "that's classic Trump!").

The worst part of all of this, however, is that I know who the culprit is: my little brother, the one who moved states with my mom. I know this because 4 years ago I did the exact same thing to him (I obviously greatly regret this and think it was a terrible thing to do). I started an email conversation with him, pretending to be the popular gaming Youtuber Pewdiepie, and this went on for a few months before I finally revealed it was me (I haven't seen anyone as upset in my life, and again, I dearly regret this). It seems clear that my brother, remembering this, is using it as a way to get back at my dad (the two have never really gotten on, partly due to my dad's poltical beliefs, but he's been understandably angry at dad since the divorce).

How do I put an end to this? My dad is steadfast in his belief that he is talking to the President, and won't be convinced otherwise, and I feel unsure about confronting my brother about this, given that it would only damage any potential for their relationship to rebuild in the future if my dad knew my brother was behind this.

TL;DR - My dad is being catfished by a person pretending to be Donald Trump, and I believe my brother is behind this

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:35

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DragQueenofAngmar posted:

that kinda seems like the most dangerous option of all? are they sending out an email that says �hey so we are gonna test the fire alarm sometime in the next 2 weeks so don�t worry if it goes off,� or am I reading it wrong? because 2 weeks is a long time window to block out in people�s heads as �safe, alarm is fake�

Yeah, it's dumb, I should just propose I become a new job called Safety Coordinator that is mostly just yelling at people for leaving knives in the break room sink.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:36

SilvergunSuperman: Aug 7, 2010

Heh he's totally crushed, and embarrassed in front of a huge group of people.

Let that be a lesson to ye!

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:37

the holy poopacy: May 16, 2009; hey! check this out; Fun Shoe

SilvergunSuperman posted:

Heh he's totally crushed, and embarrassed in front of a huge group of people.

Let that be a lesson to ye!

The guy who thinks it will "teach him a lesson" is himself carrying a torch for 22F and wants to remove a rival.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:38

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

Straight White Shark posted:

The guy who thinks it will "teach him a lesson" is himself carrying a torch for 22F and wants to remove a rival.

Yeah, when there's multiple orbiters in the friend zone poo poo gets wild.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:41

SilvergunSuperman: Aug 7, 2010

In fairness 22f also seems like a bitch, I'm not sure if she even realizes how cruel that setup is, doesn't care, or thinks it's funny?

I'm torn on Trumpdad, that's pretty goddamn funny but then they mention depression, ehhh....either way that kid is gonna be grounded until 18.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:49

Sagebrush: Feb 26, 2012

LadyPictureShow posted:

I (25f) told my husband's (35M) department chair that I took a class from my husband and now he might be in trouble.

If she's been graduated for three years at this point and they weren't dating while he had control over her grades, there isn't any real ethical violation here. If he's already just skating by with his tenure application, and especially if there are people in the system who dislike him, then yes someone could try and use this against him. But, to be blunt, academia is full of relationships between academics of different ranks, including sometimes professors dating former students, so if no one is getting hurt the university is probably going to ignore it.

The worse thing is that they started dating when she was 22 and he was 32. Gross. I have 22 year old students and they are very obviously still mentally and emotionally immature.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 15:54

Johnny Truant: Jul 22, 2008

chitoryu12 posted:

As lovely as Uber and Lyft are, I live in an area with awful mass transit. Driving to work is 15 minutes, taking the bus is about 2 hours (including 45 minutes of walking). When I don’t have a car and can’t hitch a ride, rideshare apps are the only reasonable way for me to leave the house.

How about a bike?

# ? Sep 28, 2019 16:01

Dienes: Nov 4, 2009; dee
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Moon Atari posted:

My (22F) father (52M) believes he is communicating with President Trump, I'm sure my brother (15M) is behind this.

This man has a friend circle consisting entirely of Nigerian princes.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 16:10

chitoryu12: Apr 24, 2014

Johnny Truant posted:

How about a bike?

Tried but there�s a lot of hills and no bike lanes, so you�re taking your life in your hands. Plus I�m in urban sprawl and suburbs so going to anything interesting is a 40 to 90 minute bike ride in the Florida heat.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 16:12

AreWeDrunkYet: Jul 8, 2006

chitoryu12 posted:

there�s a lot of hills .... Florida.

Seriously though, in most places sidewalks are legal to ride on and are often better choice than unprotected suburban roads in traffic. If you take it easy in the morning the sweat isn't too bad, 15 minutes of driving is what, 5-7 miles, so 20-30 minutes of riding? You can always still drive if the weather is bad or you need to go somewhere other than work and back.

quote:

Biking in the streets isn't as bad as everyone makes it out to be tbh

In some places it's worse.

AreWeDrunkYet fucked around with this message at 16:23 on Sep 28, 2019

# ? Sep 28, 2019 16:17

new boot goofin: Jul 23, 2007; like school in july

My bf’s mom wants his birthday dinner to be “family only”, as in I’m not invited. Am I wrong to feel a bit miffed?

quote:

I’ve been dating my bf for 3 years. He turns 40 today. With help from his mother....I threw him a surprise party this weekend. His family, a few from my family and mutual friends. The party was awesome. Now today is his actual birthday and last week his mom mentioned we would do family dinner on the night of his actual birthday. I reached out to her and said we could do it at our place if that was easier since our place is a bit bigger then his moms house. She said she would get back to me.

So my bf just let me know that tonight is “family only” at his moms house. Meaning myself and his sisters husband aren’t invited. Just parents and the three kids (him, sister and brother). I dunno...I feel a little offended? We’re shopping for engagement rings right now...so I will be family. I thought I was family. I’m not one to make a big deal over things but this feels like a bit of a power play since I was sorta in charge of the surprise party this weekend. Does this deserve some attention or just leave this one alone and let them have family time?

Edit: some suggested I mention that there are different languages involved. My bf and his brother speak fluent English and Spanish, mom speaks Spanish but very good English, dad speaks Spanish but very little English, the sister speaks English, Spanish to her dad and Portuguese to her husband, the husband speaks Portuguese, some Spanish, broken English. I’m the of bird out with just English a little Spanish. When we go out all together (minus dad) we usually converse in English but mom will switch to Spanish if she’s tired or can’t find the words to say something. My bf will usually translate for me so I don’t feel left out. When dad is around it’s primarily Spanish and sometimes I get translations and sometimes I don’t. I can sometimes follow a conversation if the speech is slow enough but can’t really answer beyond basic words in Spanish.

UPDATE: I just got a call from my bf’s mom. Apparently when she told him in Spanish that the night would be family only he misunderstood thinking it was only the kids and parents. She said she never meant that and was expecting the two of us. My bf is getting a smack when he gets home. 🤦🏼‍♀️

# ? Sep 28, 2019 16:20

Johnny Truant: Jul 22, 2008

chitoryu12 posted:

Tried but there’s a lot of hills and no bike lanes, so you’re taking your life in your hands. Plus I’m in urban sprawl and suburbs so going to anything interesting is a 40 to 90 minute bike ride in the Florida heat.

I just meant bike commuting to/from work

Biking in the streets isn't as bad as everyone makes it out to be tbh

# ? Sep 28, 2019 16:20

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

Dienes posted:

This man has a friend circle consisting entirely of Nigerian princes.

That's just boomers in a nutshell, they're all the most credulous people ever to exist even before dementia starts kicking in because they're used to the entire world being set up to serve them.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 16:22

chitoryu12: Apr 24, 2014

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

Seriously though, in most places sidewalks are legal to ride on and are often better choice than unprotected suburban roads in traffic. If you take it easy in the morning the sweat isn't too bad, 15 minutes of driving is what, 5-7 miles? You can always still drive if the weather is bad or you need to go somewhere than work and back.

Florida is only flat in the grand sense across the state. Locally there�s a lot of hills, some steep enough to give inexperienced stick shift drivers trouble. There�s long stretches without sidewalk as well.

What is it with goons assuming that nobody has different geography and weather and they just haven�t considered �Just ride a bike when it�s nice out!�

# ? Sep 28, 2019 16:25

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Don Corneo: Nov 5, 2004; Hohi Hohi

Taxis can be safer because, depending on your municipal livery regulations, drivers may be required to pass a criminal background check. The big taxi companies in my city also have internal and external cctv in the taxis that are stored on an external server and GPS that are monitored by their dispatch. It's much more difficult for a taxi driver here to sexually assault or rob you and get away with it than an Uber driver.

# ? Sep 28, 2019 16:27

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