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Straight White Shark posted:I [26M] met woman [28F] who seems too good to be true and I have a few concerns The setup of being approached out of the blue and told they're attractive, with a third party waiting in the wings at home immediately reminded me of this amazing story: https://www.thecut.com/2019/07/bruce-hay-paternity-trap-maria-pia-shuman-mischa-haider.html
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Boyfriend and I (F) just had a huge fight over a coupon, I’m really not sure where to go from here.quote:My boyfriend of 5 years and I gift each other “relationship coupons” on occasion for like 30 minute back rubs, buying dinner, movie dates etc. There's a reason we abandoned the bartering economy
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Oct 1, 2019 02:10
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Is it possible to get a divorce on paper even if me and my wife don't want to split up?quote:I married my wife last year, and despite my contentions with actually filing with the court house and getting it done on paper, she eventually guilt tripped me into signing a marriage license and we are now legally married. Well, this has been something that's been eating me up ever since, I feel extremely tied down and I'm afraid for my finances if our marriage ever fails, especially since we're both pretty young (Me 27, wife 25).
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Dazerbeams posted:Maybe don't reduce your relationship to a series of transactions. I want to see the Costco of relationships now
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Pinecone Sample posted:Boyfriend and I (F) just had a huge fight over a coupon, I’m really not sure where to go from here. my dude needs to 
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Pinecone Sample posted:Boyfriend and I (F) just had a huge fight over a coupon, I’m really not sure where to go from here. DO YOU THINK?
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LadyPictureShow posted:Blind furry sexually harassing me at work. [FL] Hope the gross cretin gets hit by a bus, and that the manager gets shitcanned for his breathtaking incompetence. Holy poo poo this story made me so mad. My wife used to work service jobs at a couple of places during college. One place was a movie theatre where the jackass manager had a friend who would come in and loiter in the lobby. He'd watch movies from time to time, but mostly he'd just linger for hours on end and bother the minimum wage high school and college students working the box office and concession stand. He took a liking to my wife (then, friend) and took advantage of the fact that she was a captive audience for his inanity and creepiness. One time he asked her to loving braid his long, greasy hair. She said no, and he insisted again. She said no on the obvious grounds that she was working a concession stand and that was therefore loving disgusting. He insisted again, saying she could switch with the guy at the box office. He browbeat her into it because he kept threatening to get mad about it, and he was friends with the manager. Like the creepy furry, he absolutely knew the hosed up power dynamic at play and was using it to creep on a woman 30+ years his junior. My point here is that women working in service jobs, and particularly young women, are inevitably going to run into some gross creep. It's not a matter of "if," but "when." The only way that's going to change is for managers to stiffen-up and deal with these fucksticks like they're supposed to, and the rest of us to stop rationalizing this poo poo like we saw a few pages ago in this thread. If you see someone taking advantage of a service employee's attention, confront them. The manager might be a sniveling coward like the one in the furry story or my wife's manager, but you as a customer have nothing to lose.
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In America you could get shot over it, which is why an armed society is never a polite society.
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monkeytennis posted:Fuckin goons man. This thread is giving me anxiety worrying about it’s inevitable lockdown. If you weren't part of the "fuckin goons man" contingent, you wouldn't be anxious about its inevitable lockdown, you'd be advocating as tirelessly as possible for it to both be gassed and everybody posting more than 100 times in it to be chemically castrated (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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Theoretically the job where it would be okay to ask someone out while they’re doing it would be cop, because the power dynamic flows the other way, but you still shouldn’t because don’t gently caress cops.
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Barudak posted:I want to see the Costco of relationships now Welcome to Costco. I love you.
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CharlestheHammer posted:I mean at this point I’m not sure what can help you. lol
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snergle posted:im not religious by god im going to make this boy love me and god. The waspiest post. Godparents are not inherently a religious thing even if it tends to come with ceremonies and churches, it's a cultural thing big in Catholic/Orthodox groups. It's more expanded family network type poo poo and can be mega seriously taken in some families.
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TheScott2K posted:Welcome to Costco. I love you. Extra large goons on sale in aisle six! Just bottom of the barrel bargain pricing, people! Samples are available!
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Oct 1, 2019 02:53
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holy gently caress the advice lady is going to get called the c word a whole lot
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Railing Kill posted:Hope the gross cretin gets hit by a bus, and that the manager gets shitcanned for his breathtaking incompetence. Holy poo poo this story made me so mad. This. I remember working in the print store one night, alone, and a line of customers built up, as happens around the holidays. The dude I was trying to help lost his poo poo when I couldn't complete his project within an hour (I mean, the line was like 6 people all wanting to print calendars and poo poo, that takes time), and started screaming how worthless I was, what a bitch I was, and pretty much reducing me to trying not to cry. Not a single loving person in that line did anything. A few looked away, a few more watched their phones, and when the dude stormed away, the next person came up, tossed their USB to me, and told me what they wanted printed asap. I never forgot that so it's my mission now when i see that poo poo, I have to stop it. Or at least tell the oval office customer to lay the gently caress off.
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Yawgmoth posted:I've worked retail before, I know how they view most customers. I also know that the regulars who aren't shitheads are generally liked and looked forward to, and that every now and then one such regular will ask out an employee and, to what I am sure is a concept as horrifying as it is disgusting to you fuckers here, results in a real actual relationship! And so, in a momentary lapse in judgment, I hoped against all previous experience that someone in this thread might set aside their perpetual hatred of the concept of interpersonal relationships and consider that the premise of "never try to be anything to anyone because they all probably hate you anyways" might be just slightly flawed. You know nothing. Tipping puts an entirely different spin on it than retail will ever see. Don't loving hit on the waitstaff.
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Pinecone Sample posted:Is it possible to get a divorce on paper even if me and my wife don't want to split up? I wonder if the aggressive investing he wants to do to retire early is crypto currency.
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I guess other than cops are there other situations where the power dynamic is reversed? Almost always the person who isn’t at work has more power than the person who is. Maybe... a doctor... who’s operating on you right now... but even then they swore an oath to do no harm... I guess the Hippocratic Oath is the doctor equivalent of tipping?
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TheScott2K posted:Welcome to Costco. I love you. In the Costco of relationships, you can ask your partner to take back something they said three years ago and they'll do it
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PostNouveau posted:I wonder if the aggressive investing he wants to do to retire early is crypto currency. I dont think his wife even knows of his plan or that she thinks hes dumb so oh yeah, its crypto city
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Liquid Communism posted:You know nothing. I can't imagine there's a single female server who hasn't had the "phone number on check" move, or the "But I tipped you so well...?" when they have to turn someone down and suddenly later their manager is asking why that table requested a different waitress because she was so rude to them last time.\ Thankfully it seems like there are only a few bad apples in this thread dismissing the idea of flirting with a service employee as toxic because anyone who's actually worked a client facing job, service or otherwise, knows that the opinions of the clients&customers are so much more important then the actual truth you can be fired at the drop of a hat for not being polite enough to a greasy middle aged man cornering you and insisting you go on a date with them. Some bosses are good, and back their employees. Some are not, and with high turnover entry staff jobs the easiest solution is "Don't come back into work you have a bad attitude"
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Pinecone Sample posted:In the Costco of relationships, you can ask your partner to take back something they said three years ago and they'll do it And you need to show receipts for everything you take away
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Pirate Radar posted:Theoretically the job where it would be okay to ask someone out while they’re doing it would be cop, because the power dynamic flows the other way, but you still shouldn’t because don’t gently caress cops. Sounds like I totally misunderstood that song by NWA then...
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Barudak posted:I dont think his wife even knows of his plan or that she thinks hes dumb so oh yeah, its crypto city Based on the bitcoin threads, I think this had to go like: "Honey, I want to buy into crypto before MoonCoin goes to the moon" "That's dumb we have an infant to think of" *starts plotting to divorce this obviously financial illiterate woman who's holding him back*
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PostNouveau posted:Based on the bitcoin threads, I think this had to go like: I want to believe she very quietly "thats nice dear"d him confident knowing he doesnt even know what bank their money is stored in.
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I bet his plan is that if he has to pay alimony he will charge his wife an equal amount of rent, plus an administrative fee. Also someone in that thread suggested a post-nuptual agreement and: quote:It's actually funny you mentioned this.. The only reason I finally caved to a marriage was because I learned about Post Nuptial agreements. HOWEVER, I didn't do my due diligence and they're not recognized in the state of Ohio... Womp womp. Get hosed, rear end in a top hat.
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Some of the Sheep posted:The setup of being approached out of the blue and told they're attractive, with a third party waiting in the wings at home immediately reminded me of this amazing story: Wow, that's one Hell of a read.  .The follow-up story linked at the end was quite the chaser too.
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I cant believe Im saying this but go Ohio
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Some of the Sheep posted:The setup of being approached out of the blue and told they're attractive, with a third party waiting in the wings at home immediately reminded me of this amazing story: I have so many questions
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Barudak posted:I want to see the Costco of relationships now That's called a red light district, Barudak.
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The Chad Jihad posted:I love it; I've decided that guy is a real life version of this comic I never knew that comic had more than two panels snergle posted:im not religious by god im going to make this boy love me and god. She left out a lot between quote:
And quote:Jimmy decided it'd be a good idea to scream "YOU'RE NOT MY GOD MOTHER!", spit at me and threw things at me. This is not the first time this happened. Every time I try to hug him or say hello, he spits at me and tells me he hates me.
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Barudak posted:I want to see the Costco of relationships now I really don't want to shop at the Brigham Young Warehouse.
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AITA for not changing my tattoo based on my childs pronouns? Throwaway for obvious reasons. Basically I [M42] got tattoos of the names of all 3 of my children. I got them going down my arm and they read from top to bottom (not actual names) "Andy, Sara, Kate". I had these tattoos all done at once after Kate was born knowing she would be my last. My oldest child Andy[T22] came out as trans and has decided she only goes by female pronouns now. My wife[F41] immediately supported her and made sure that I would too without any arguement or else she would divorce me. It was a huge family issue for a while but eventually it was solved and everything has been good for the last little while. I'm slowly learning more and trying to accept my daughter and her new pronouns and her name change to Athena. The problem arose yesterday when my wife and Athena sat down with me and told me there was an issue. The tattoo going down my arm still reads "Andy" and not "Athena" and my wife claims this is hurting our daughter and putting a strain on our relationship. My wife told me she wants me to get it touched up to correct it but I explained to her tattoos don't work like that and you can't just change "Andy" to "Athena". I told her I would most likely need laser tattoo removal surgery and then would need to pay the cost of a brand new tattoo which I can not afford either of. I explained how my tattoo is such a non issue that I don't understand why this needs to be brought up now. Athena yelled at me and called me a lovely father and said if I don't support who she is, I just need to leave her life. My wife threatened to go stay with her parents with the kids if I don't "get my act together". I personally don't see the reason to change the tattoo and this feels like a bigger problem then it should be. So im basically wondering if im the rear end in a top hat in this situation.
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Boyfriend (30m) always wants to have sex late at night as I (22f) am trying to fall asleep. Boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. I spend 5 days of the week with him at his place usually. We both have very high libidos, we have sex every day, usually twice a day. The only thing that drives me crazy is that he ALWAYS wants to fool around right before bed. We already go to bed late, our sleep schedule is 2am to 10am, and we're usually in bed no earlier than 1am. But no matter what time we get into bed, even if it's 4am and we both need to be up early, he ALWAYS wants to fool around. I'll be half asleep cuddling him and then he puts my hand on his crotch. I'm fine with that but he's never good with just a little bit of touching. It always has to lead to sex. If I say I'm too tired or something he gets butthurt and doesn't want to cuddle. Also, sex always is a huge ordeal. If it was just a quicky I wouldn't mind as much, but he requires a lot of mental stimulation to get off as well so I have to be fully awake. And then there's showering after and suddenly it's an hour later and I'm just exhausted and miserable in the morning. If I'm really persistent on not wanting to do it, usually a few hours later we'll wake up or he wakes me up horny again. How can I handle this? I know that it can hurt your feelings when you're rejected from sex because I've felt that way too, but he seems to take it really personally and get offended if I'm not in the mood or physically exhausted, and I just want to have a good nights sleep for once! Also, I feel like what he wants me to do requires a lot of work when I'm half asleep. (Always includes a good amount of foreplay for him) Tl;dr boyfriend keeping both of us from getting good sleep by wanting sex right before bed driving me crazy
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Smirking_Serpent posted:. My wife[F41] immediately supported her and made sure that I would too without any arguement or else she would divorce me. It was a huge family issue for a while but eventually it was solved and everything has been good for the last little while. i can't pick which is the biggest lie or which word is doing the most lifting. it's a tonsillolith of bullshit.
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