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AITA for telling a regular customer that he isn't as beloved as he thinks and banning him? I manage a small cafe in a college town. We are one of the places who doesn't have WiFi because we only have 6 indoor tables and WiFi encourages people 'camping' tables all day, which is bad for business (we aren't one of those "No WiFI, JUST TALK TO EACH OTHER!!!" places, it's just better for turnover this way. EDIT to add: we don't ask patrons who spend a long time there to leave or try to rush them in any way). We have one regular who I'll call Sam who comes in every day, without fail, and camps out for 4-6 hours. Sam is about 35 and I believe is a grad student or was one at the nearby University. He clearly thinks he is a beloved regular and talks to the staff/hangs out near the counter every moment he thinks we aren't busy and basically drives us crazy. This has been going on for almost a year but was especially bad all summer when our front of house staff was all female (just a coincidence based on who quit for the summer). He doesn't exactly flirt with us but he pesters us with personal questions and boring stories in a way he doesn't pester male staff. During his 4-6 hour stay, he uses a WiFi... dongle thing he brings from home, laughs outloud at things he's reading online (and then comes up to the counter to tell us), tries to police other customers' behavior around tables/chairs/cream and sugar/trash, and just stares at us waiting to pounce when we don't have a customer at the counter. During all this, he buys one small cappuccino, no tip, and sometimes paws through our day-old stuff and tries to get us to toast/heat it 'for him' even though it's against the rules. After months of me politely but firmly trying to correct his behavior, he tried to police a group who pushed two tables together saying 'That isn't how we do it here' (this isn't even a rule here!) and I snapped. I pulled him aside, told him he's been driving us crazy for a year, that me asking him to leave us alone while we work has fallen on deaf ears, and he's banned. He had a FIT of course but he did finally leave and hasn't been back. The staff and actual beloved regulars are split. Some feel bad for him because they think he's just a lonely dork and he didn't really break any hard and fast rule. My two favorite regulars and all of the female front of house staff are happy but the male staff members and other manager (who doesn't work during Sam's 'visiting hours') think I was too harsh. Our other banned customers are banned for like, putting poop on the bathroom walls or stealing, so being annoying isn't a capital offense, but I really believe his annoyingness was bad for business and staff morale.
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Chairman Mao posted:Lol I love how hard he tries to spin it at the end. Spin what? He figured out what the questions on a test would be. Before GCSE and A Level exams, we'd spend maybe a couple of months going over old exam papers trying to work out what was likely to come up. This is totally on the teacher for being lazy. Don't set exams that any dumbass can find with five minutes googling. Sunswipe fucked around with this message at 19:14 on Oct 7, 2019 |
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Sunswipe posted:Spin what? He figured out what the questions on a test would be. Before GCSE and A Level exams, we'd spend maybe a couple of months going over old exam papers trying to work out what was likely to come up. This is totally on the teacher for being lazy. Don't set exams that any dumbass can find with five minutes googling. i guess you could say looking at past-exams is cheating, and it kind of is because not everyone has access to same resources or has the same network of friends to hook em up, but also teachers shouldn't be so lazy to use a literal online-quiz for their questions. Then again none of our exams/classes were ever graded on a curve unless something was spectacularly bad for everyone that they just adjusted it.
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Oct 7, 2019 19:22
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this is a good one i'm surprised hasn't been posted yet. the edits really tell a story, lmfao GF[22F] is Anorexic. Never wanted to meet me[25M] because of her bodily dysmorphia. I supported her through therapy, never met her in person, but paid all of her bills for months (15k$) and now that she is done with Therapy she is telling me she is no longer in love with me and wants a break. quote:She says that now that she is on anti-depressants she has changed who she is, and that new person that she has become is no longer in love with me. She wants a break to find herself and be comfortable with her body. But its not just a break. She wants me to find other people, find love again. She doesn't see herself dating for many years now.
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Oct 7, 2019 19:24
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Concerned anti-horse manquote:My friend "Kira" recently discovered an online horse-breeding game. She quickly became obsessed with it. But the problem isn't that she's spending all her time on it. The problem is that she named all of her horses after me and my friends and is “breeding” us. I'm afraid to tell her this makes me uncomfortable because it's all a big joke to her. She's been encouraging all of us to join the game quote:This is genuinely a new one to me! I feel a little quaint and naïve—it never even occurred to me that there were online horse-breeding games. And yet here we are! It’s always anxiety-inducing to tell a friend that something they think of as goofy and harmless actually bothers us, I think, because the fear is that they will simply laugh and dismiss us. And it can feel easier to simply worry that that would be their response than to ask and find out for certain. But if you don’t ask her to stop, she won’t ever know that it bothers you, so there’s nothing for it but to acknowledge your fear straight out the gate: “I realize this might strike you as insignificant or silly, but I feel really weird about your using my name to breed fake horses. Would you stop using my name? It would only take a second of your time, but it would go a long way toward making me feel comfortable, and I’d really appreciate that.” quote:Re: Concerned anti-horse man: Hahaha, I work on one of those games. (There are several.) Tell her you'll try the game only if she takes your name out of it. She wants the in-game benefits of having recruited someone more than she wants to keep your name, I promise. Also, tell her in person. She knows on some level that treating her friends like dolls in a dollhouse is creepy—I see our customers talking about this topic on a regular basis—but the only way to break through her defensiveness will be with actual eye contact. "I know this is a little thing, which is why I also know you'll do it for me" is also a solid script. quote:Thank you very much. I’m weirdly glad it’s apparently such a common problem, because that means a lot of other people have already had to come up with solutions. How to get out of what sounds like a horse-breeding pyramid scheme, though, that’s another question entirely.
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Oct 7, 2019 19:44
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/r/relationships: horse-breeding pyramid scheme
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Oct 7, 2019 19:49
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AITA for getting pretty upset with my husband for taking a coworker (male) to a restaurant he refuses to go to with me? So I love sushi, it is hands down my favorite food but I very and I mean very rarely get to go to any sushi places because my husband hates it. He refuses to even try it. He will eat California rolls and that is it. If I get to go to sushi it is a special occasion that he will begrudgingly agree to like my birthday. When we do go he complains most of the time and refuses to try anything new. He likes seafood so I feel like if he at least tried things I bet he would like them. We have been together 10 years and we've been to sushi maybe 3 or 4 times together. He is out of town for work and he sends me a picture of sushi and actually pretty complex rolls. He tells me he went out with his coworker. I got pretty upset. Its like pulling teeth to get him to even go and actually impossible to get him to eat anything. But he just goes with his coworker whenever and trys new stuff? It just felt like a snub to me. Now he is mad at me for being mad over something small and petty. Maybe I am being an rear end in a top hat and truly overeacting but it just really hurt my feelings. AITA?
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Oct 7, 2019 19:49
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Why can't he just get tempura or any of the hot dishes sushi places serve for whiners like him?
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Oct 7, 2019 19:54
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Sunswipe posted:Spin what? He figured out what the questions on a test would be. Before GCSE and A Level exams, we'd spend maybe a couple of months going over old exam papers trying to work out what was likely to come up. This is totally on the teacher for being lazy. Don't set exams that any dumbass can find with five minutes googling. Xaris posted:yeah we'd often go through old exams that a friend-of-friend passed along and we passed along, and a engineering frat had a huge filing cabinet of past exams from a fair amount of classes over a long rear end time. Sadly a lot of time teacher would recycle some poo poo from a test 5 years ago. Or at the very least, you know what to expect in terms of style and presentation and types from a range of past-exams for the same teacher so it definitely helped a lot to study them. Gotta say I didn't think I'd see goons defending this type of cheating when i opened the r/relationships thread this morning.
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Oct 7, 2019 19:56
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Chairman Mao posted:Gotta say I didn't think I'd see goons defending this type of cheating when i opened the r/relationships thread this morning. My GCSE maths teacher literally had us go through old GCSE exams in the run up to the real thing. I really don't know how you think this is cheating.
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Oct 7, 2019 20:02
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my wife she couldnt be friends with a guy who asked to see her boobs? Lol What a spineless dummy.
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Oct 7, 2019 20:03
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cumshitter posted:Why can't he just get tempura or any of the hot dishes sushi places serve for whiners like him? Because they use that scary furriner word instead of calling it babby wabby chickie tendies
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Oct 7, 2019 20:06
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Oct 7, 2019 20:08
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The problem is multiple choice history tests, not studying what is likely to be on a multiple choice history test
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Oct 7, 2019 20:14
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"Sams" are one of the worst kind of customers
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Oct 7, 2019 20:26
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Leon Einstein posted:There are a few comments in the thread dismissing evolution as just a "theory". I don't think there's another topic out there that will immediately out someone as a complete imbecile quite like evolution does. A few pages back, but 6000 year earth can be fine. The base theory of God is identical to the we're living in a computer stimulation, stuff looks old because it was made to look old. It's not even a relationship killer generally, as only someone super religious is going to have that belief, so you're likely both super religious to start, but the belief really doesn't affect your day to day behavior.
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Oct 7, 2019 20:29
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SilvergunSuperman posted:They mean it's not physically addictive you numpty, of course anything that feels good can be mentally addictive. You wanna go, loser? Meet me by the monkey bars after class
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There was a bit in season 3 where a guy was humping a woman to the rhythm of a bass track they could hear through their hotel walls. I'd like to think the writers drew on the Tetris Humper story for inspiration.
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Oct 7, 2019 20:31
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (23F) BF (25M) suddenly notorious for a weird sex thing; how to I treat him when he gets home. welp, im gonna touch the poop because my Beetle Wife was one of the folks looped in on this. SOME DETAILS: - they took 10 years off their age - the dude doesn't just "work in IT" he's a, without getting too specific, "academic dinosaur expert." - doesn't teach classes but DOES assist in grad student research - has been featured on multiple Discovery style TV shows
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Oct 7, 2019 20:35
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:welp, im gonna touch the poop because my Beetle Wife was one of the folks looped in on this. SOME DETAILS: Lol what??
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Oct 7, 2019 20:37
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MarcusSA posted:Lol what?? my wife got her advanced degree from the same institution and befriended the dude despite being in a different department. she hasn't seen him in a decade but they're interactive on FB so the expectation is it's someone in his department getting revenge, when the post says the video was distributed widely, they mean WIDELY. like, if he gets fired, his entire professional community will know why. edit- so, my wife befriended this dude because he is, again without getting too specific, an expert on the things that evolved into frogs. my wife wanted to study frog respiration, so she talked to him for the full evolutionary path for how dino snoots became frog snoots. that's how specific a field we're talking about.
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Oct 7, 2019 20:42
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in this case you aren't touching the poop, it's that the poop touched you...
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Oct 7, 2019 20:44
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So you've seen the actual videos being distributed of Jeff Goldblum cumming all over dinosaur toys, phiz kalifa?
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Oct 7, 2019 20:49
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:my wife got her advanced degree from the same institution and befriended the dude despite being in a different department. she hasn't seen him in a decade but they're interactive on FB so the expectation is it's someone in his department getting revenge, when the post says the video was distributed widely, they mean WIDELY. What in the actual gently caress Who took the video? How was the video acquired? The guy is media famous? Can we assume he’ll be publicly outed? I don’t necessarily want this guy doxxed but goddamn if you haven’t piqued my curiosity
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Oct 7, 2019 20:50
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I am so loving perplexed and intrigued right now. 
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Oct 7, 2019 20:50
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:I am so loving perplexed and intrigued right now. 
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Oct 7, 2019 20:51
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Hey they always say, pick a career about doing what you love He just loves to jizz over dino toys like the meteor that killed the real dinosaurs
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Oct 7, 2019 20:53
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Tbh I just assume all those guys on History channel are into weird sex stuff (ancient aliens guy especially).
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Smirking_Serpent posted:in this case you aren't touching the poop, it's that the poop touched you... Poop, uh, finds a way.
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Oct 7, 2019 20:55
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Yeah who the gently caress took the video?
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AITA for telling a server "Don't loving argue with me, just do your job the way you were trained"? I am one of the people who work expo. Tonight I was working alone sitting 300+ in 2 hours for the rush. For those that don't work in a kitchen, I'm the one who inspects every plate to ensure it is correct per the build, and ticket. I'm also the one who gives the servers their food. Our system is set up a bit different than other places I've worked. We have 9 windows for me and the servers, and one window for kitchen. Each server is assigned to a window for a set period of time. I handle every plate that is ordered in the kitchen, there are also some menu items I make. I put it in the window per the ticket. We have all been trained to go from right to left (server view). So, if there are two trays, you take the one to your right if you were the server. They do their inspection, because I'm human and I will eventually miss something. They then take the tray to wherever they're assigned, and give it to the sadists that ordered it. I have been having an ongoing issue where servers are taking trays out of order. I don't have eyes in the back of my head, so I can't see who's doing it. But this causes items to go out late. Customer blames me. Management blames me. I will admit when I make a mistake. But when I'm sitting on 4+ trays worth of food, and none of it is moving, and I catch a server taking trays out of order, I got what's let call, annoyed. I put my hand on the tray, which was sitting in a different window than his, because a window can only hold two trays, and I'm working on number 5. He tries to pull the tray, but I firm up my grip and ask him "What are you doing?" He says "I'm running the food." I ask him "Why are you taking from this window and not your's? Those are the trays that need to go out first since you pulled the wrong tray the last time, and now they're late going out." He then pulls the tray on his left. Which again, is the wrong loving tray. He isn't a new hire, he loving knows this. So I say "What are you doing? That's the wrong tray too! You take from your right." He tells me "We always pull from the left." I said "Bullshit, we've all been trained to do it the same way. That's why everyone but you, pulls the right tray first. You need yo ignore everything that isn't in your window and focus on the trays in your own drat window." He started to say something else, I cut him off and said "Don't loving argue with me, just do your job the way you were trained." He gets pissy and when I turn around I realize the entire kitchen saw this, as well as other servers. The kitchen said I was in the right, front of house was walking on eggshells for the rest of the night. My shift lead said foh manager said to "talk" to me about it, but never addressed me themselves.
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MarcusSA posted:Yeah who the gently caress took the video? I assume weird dino cum guy took the video himself for posterity or sharing with some weird online community, and had it discovered by the person who emailed everyone
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling a server "Don't loving argue with me, just do your job the way you were trained"? NTA.
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Oct 7, 2019 21:04
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I have never wanted to watch a guy cum on dinosaurs more than I do in this moment
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Schmeichy posted:I assume weird dino cum guy took the video himself for posterity or sharing with some weird online community, and had it discovered by the person who emailed everyone I assume this was a mod challenge
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Did I watch a strange man I barely know jizz onto a pile of plastic dinosaurs? Gee fellas, I dunno. Sounds like a good time but won't i get in trouble? "Famous" is a stretch, he's one of maybe ~50 comparable experts nationwide. I don't think he's on IMDB, it's the occasional time-filling interview in between CGI monster fights. Do you remember any of the people behind The Science of Sharknado? It's poo poo on that level. There's a CHANCE this could become blog-fodder or such but there's too much Actual News going on right now.
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Does this dude work at a school in NYC and did he have a mohawk? I had that guy as a prof and I would really love that explanation for his weirdness.
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let the man cum on his dinosaurs
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Chairman Mao posted:Gotta say I didn't think I'd see goons defending this type of cheating when i opened the r/relationships thread this morning. It is technically cheating, but also entirely uncatcheable if the student isn't an idiot and confesses. And even if the teacher did manage to catch it, if I were the teacher's supervisor I would probably be more upset with the laziness of plagiarizing the test that created that opening than the actual "cheating". The underlying issue is that multiple choice is a terrible test format for most social sciences exams, and mostly get used out of (again) laziness and time constraints. Open book essay tests are the way to go if your goal is to judge students' understanding of a topic rather than their ability to temporarily memorize and regurgitate facts.
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