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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My eccentric girlfriend (26 F) has told my family that we are "lovers". I (28 M) am so embarrassed. Lover actually doesn't mean person you are having sex with, it just means someone you are in a romantic relationship that is more significant than boyfriend/girlfriend but not married, it lost favor to "partner" not too long ago. Talk to any gay man over the age of say, 55? and you will hear them use "lover" casually. I mean, yes, obviously they were loving too, it's gay men, but that is not what it is meant to connotate.
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Oct 9, 2019 20:17
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The Bramble posted:Trolling: not even once. Why didn't he just deny to his boss that the reddit account was his?  of course at will employment and no job protection lol but if he's a good employee otherwise his boss might've believed him. Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for refusing to support my daughter's career ambitions? So what talk her into being a surgeon or anesthesiologist. Don't need a good bedside manner if your patients are unconscious. Although if she's lazy this seems like a problem that will take care of itself so fake support her in the meantime.
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Oct 9, 2019 20:20
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Mom just doesn't want to be usurped.
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Oct 9, 2019 20:22
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Mom flabbergasted that an 18 year old already getting A grades in everything would want to hang and smoke weed instead of pursuing ever more "challenging" things before even getting to college.
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Oct 9, 2019 20:28
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Oct 9, 2019 20:28
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"I've raised my daughter to be spoiled and difficult by removing every obstacle from her life that I could. Lately she's gotten old enough to make choices that is foresee involve her confronting obstacles I cannot control and her entitled attitude will likely cause her to fail. Can anyone help me talk her out putting herself in a situation where she might burst her own bubble? Thanks."
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Oct 9, 2019 20:29
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Chomp8645 posted:If OP tells his girlfriend right away what happened, he'll probably be ok. Just be "listen uh... some poo poo went down last night..." and just let her know what happened honestly. If he's up front about it and discloses it quickly I think most reasonable people would believe him. Even if she did, she'd probably leave him for doing nothing about it after the fact. I would definitely tell my SO about that poo poo as soon as I got home and then figure out with her if we're about to light our social circle on fire (I would).
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Oct 9, 2019 20:30
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Found a sad one... Couldn't bring myself to post it. Here's something light. Older brother [24M] lives at home and claims he can't do housework because "nobody taught him." Our mom is a single mom and never home. What can I do? quote:Ok I'm 17 and next year I'm leaving for college so this is just temporary. Anyways my older brother is just a useless human being. I'm sorry to say. He's 24, has never held a real job, and flunked out of college for never going to classes. He has "depression" but basically refuses to get it diagnosed or treated. My mom is a single mom working two shifts every day and she cannot wrangle a full grown man like my brother anymore. So she lets him do what he wants as long as he can pay a small piece of rent.
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Oct 9, 2019 20:43
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I'm pretty sure there are instructional youtube videos explaining how to do anything you could possibly imagine. There's no excuse to not know how to do something basic in this day and age.
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Oct 9, 2019 20:48
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AITA for not giving the source of my beaded earrings to a white woman? I was born on a Res and lived there for most of my life until going to college in a nearby state. In my community, we have a number of talented women who are amazing at beading. They make some truly remarkable stuff. Caveat is that they will only sell or trade to other people from the community, and possibly another tribal group. It's just how they do it. I have 30 or so pairs of all kinds and wear them with pride. Almost every day I wear a brick stitch earring of some kind, it's just part of who I am, where I'm from, etc. Brings me a lot of joy. Anyway a woman at work has really fallen in love with them. She compliments them and examines them. No issue there. Lots of people do. One day recently though, she asked me where I got them and if the person has an "Etsy" shop or something where she can buy her own. This woman is white with not a drop of the heritage in her, by her own admission. Now... personally I have no issue with white people wearing the earrings! It's not about that. Wear whatever you want. But the women in my community do not sell them to outsiders (again, for the most part). It's just not done. I told her no, and she asked for the contact information so she could commission a pair. I told her no again, that the person who makes them is very particular about who she makes them for. She kept pressing me, telling me "Well let her make that decision!" and stuff like that. I got tired of this and told her, point blank, this person will not create or sell anything for you because you are white. She got extremely upset and threatened to make a statement to HR about me being racially discriminating. AITA? My reasoning is that if she wants beaded earrings, she can learn to make them herself, she can buy them from anyone else (there are so many white women on etsy who make "boho style" earrings), etc. She is merely upset because this one person will not cater to her.
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WIBTA if I went to the college that my daughter just got rejected by? My daughter is a high school senior is in the process of applying to colleges. She was procrastinating and panicking about applying to her number one choice. I thought she had a very good chance of getting in. To motivate her I applied as a joke kinda as the application fee was waived for me and raced her, but still not rushing her to make sure her application and essays were top notch. We both applied at similar times. I got my acceptance letter and told my daughter that if I got accepted then she's a shoe-in. Then my daughter got her rejection letter. My wife and I consoled her, but she was very upset. Me applying and getting accepted certainly didn't help. We helped her apply to other colleges and are still waiting to hear back from them. Then I got email from the admissions office saying that I qualified for their unique student program and would have tuition waived. Now I'm seriously considering going to college. I took a gap year after high school where my wife (girlfriend then) got pregnant while she was in school. I decided to enter the workforce and take care of my daughter (the same one) while my wife attended college. My wife graduated and got a well paying job while I worked an entry level job and did some "stay-at-home dad" work. I still work my job and we could definitely survive off my wife's income, but I work to keep myself busy. I don't hate my job, but I don't love it and it's not what I imagined myself doing. I think this opportunity to go to college would be great for not only me, but my whole family. Ideally, my income with my degree would be much greater than it is now. The college is in commuting distance so I wouldn't have to get an apartment. I talked to my wife about it and she's unsure. She said it'd be great for me to go to college, but it'd be rude of me to attend the college that rejected our daughter. WIBTA if I attended the college that rejected my daughter?
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Oct 9, 2019 20:51
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA if I went to the college that my daughter just got rejected by? He might be the rear end in a top hat but he should do it what a loving opportunity. Free. loving. College.
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Oct 9, 2019 20:59
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA if I went to the college that my daughter just got rejected by? oof
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Oct 9, 2019 20:59
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rear end in a top hat move sure, but dude gets free education. I'd do it.
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Oct 9, 2019 21:05
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Chomp8645 posted:Mom flabbergasted that an 18 year old already getting A grades in everything would want to hang and smoke weed instead of pursuing ever more "challenging" things before even getting to college. She's not going to be the first smart kid to have a rude awakening at Much Bigger Pond University. Until that happens, good luck convincing her of her own academic mortality.
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Oct 9, 2019 21:07
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My girlfriend [23F] is raging angry because I [23M] slept with someone else when I thought we were broken up.quote:My girlfriend and I have been together as boyfriend and girlfriend since we were 15, 8 years now. We were both the first people we'd ever slept with and have been together since then.
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Oct 9, 2019 21:08
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My girlfriend [23F] is raging angry because I [23M] slept with someone else when I thought we were broken up. Hah! Break up with her, and say you'll take her back in a week. Then don't.
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Oct 9, 2019 21:11
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rejected daughter can transfer in later if she's dedicated. it sucks but colleges will jump through hoops to admit promising non-traditional students. dad just had an easier path of it. he might even be able to get friendly with an advisor and try to get his kid a good recommendation, or at least some good adviceDeadMansSuspenders posted:My girlfriend [23F] is raging angry because I [23M] slept with someone else when I thought we were broken up. neither party is really an rear end in a top hat here, they're just inexperienced and going through an inevitable and mutual breakup from a relationship which has clearly run its course
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Oct 9, 2019 21:12
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Beachcomber posted:Lol if things you did when you were 8-18 don't regularly pop into your head randomly and embarrass you so much you want to slit your throat. 
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Oct 9, 2019 21:12
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not giving the source of my beaded earrings to a white woman? Not an rear end in a top hat, and she handled it fine, but it might have gone a bit easier if she'd said it more like in the post. "They're not just earrings, it's a cultural/religious thing for my people and they're not for sale to people outside that community" might have gotten a better response. But yeah the coworker lady has been informed and she needs to drop it.
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Oct 9, 2019 21:19
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My girlfriend [23F] is raging angry because I [23M] slept with someone else when I thought we were broken up. WE WERE ON A BREAK!
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Oct 9, 2019 21:24
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Uncle Enzo posted:Not an rear end in a top hat, and she handled it fine, but it might have gone a bit easier if she'd said it more like in the post. "They're not just earrings, it's a cultural/religious thing for my people and they're not for sale to people outside that community" might have gotten a better response. But yeah the coworker lady has been informed and she needs to drop it. lotta white people on reddit think that if you don't sell them stuff from your tribe you're a racist colonizer mentality is some wild poo poo
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Oct 9, 2019 21:27
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MarcusSA posted:WE WERE ON A BREAK! This wasn't even a break, she told him they were through permanently.
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Oct 9, 2019 21:29
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Mr. Lobe posted:lotta white people on reddit think that if you don't sell them stuff from your tribe you're a racist She's definitely NTA, but I wouldn't at all be surprised if HR decided that she was actually the Real Racist.
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Oct 9, 2019 21:56
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The Bramble posted:Trolling: not even once. your wife is her true self on the internet. 
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Oct 9, 2019 21:57
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for getting pissed off at being called a “Karen?” This lady sounds like a real Karen. I’ll bet she has the hair. There’s also no way things went exactly as described by this Karen, and I’m sure there’s months of context missing. Given lack of evidence though, assholeness is indeterminate. Also, not getting angry and not raising your voice is exactly how people who get angry and raise their voice describe their conduct on calls to customer support.
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Oct 9, 2019 22:02
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Uncle Enzo posted:Not an rear end in a top hat, and she handled it fine, but it might have gone a bit easier if she'd said it more like in the post. "They're not just earrings, it's a cultural/religious thing for my people and they're not for sale to people outside that community" might have gotten a better response. But yeah the coworker lady has been informed and she needs to drop it. * I'm definitely not discounting the specific, rightful resentment Native American communities have towards the white people that broke treaties and hosed them over, but it sounds like any outsider would have a very slim chance of getting any of this authentic work.
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Oct 9, 2019 22:03
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Chomp8645 posted:Mom flabbergasted that an 18 year old already getting A grades in everything would want to hang and smoke weed instead of pursuing ever more "challenging" things before even getting to college. I'd bet on ADD. The mum says the kid aces school with no prep and is able to do university level stuff, but after they can do it they lose interest.
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Oct 9, 2019 22:05
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Flip Yr Wig posted:She's definitely NTA, but I wouldn't at all be surprised if HR decided that she was actually the Real Racist. I just love that little hat and that tasselled apron thing you always wear, male Jewish coworker! I insist you tell me where to buy my very own!
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Oct 9, 2019 22:05
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PetraCore posted:Yeah, like, it's not a specifically white* thing, but it sounds like OP tried to get that across and her coworker kept pushing. it is, on the other hand, definitely a very historically white person thing to see something pretty that belongs to some indigenous group and to insist on being able to have it by whatever means necessary
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Oct 9, 2019 22:09
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Mr. Lobe posted:it is, on the other hand, definitely a very white person thing to see something pretty that belongs to some indigenous group and to insist on being able to have it by whatever means necessary I also feel like if coworker had been able to contact the artist she'd probably have gotten a much ruder refusal, and good riddance.
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Oct 9, 2019 22:10
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Pvt.Scott posted:This lady sounds like a real Karen. I’ll bet she has the hair. There’s also no way things went exactly as described by this Karen, and I’m sure there’s months of context missing. Given lack of evidence though, assholeness is indeterminate. "She's definitely the rear end in a top hat if she lied about the whole story and also a bunch of stuff I made up also happened " is the weirdest take and I don't understand why it keeps cropping up
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the real karen move is picking a fight with your girlfriend's roommate in her own home about how she resolves billing disputes with the power company
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Oct 9, 2019 22:25
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Is your power provider even going to give you a discount if they didn't legit gently caress up? They're a monopoly, it's not like you can just plug into another competing power grid. Also I will never forgive white cowboys for appropriating chaps (all chaps are assless) and the hanky code.
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Oct 9, 2019 22:33
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cumshitter posted:Is your power provider even going to give you a discount if they didn't legit gently caress up? They're a monopoly, it's not like you can just plug into another competing power grid. I imagine they will only relent if they figure that the number of paid manhours it is going to take to handle your bullshit as you try to climb up the chain of managers is more than whatever bill you are contesting.
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I (21 F) matched with a guy on Tinder who looks like European nobility...do you think he is real or fake? So I was swiping on Tinder and I matched with a young guy who dresses like those people in period films, or like the British royals. (I don't know his age because he has Tinder Gold and used a feature to hide it.) In his photos he drives vintage cars and is inside a mansion with a giant oil painting of a queen/princess in the background. This is his bio: "I’ll be more than surprised if you can find what my family does for a living. Tips: law, hotels, family and stock market. I have a soft spot for gin, scotch, tiny blonde girls, and brunettes, but I don’t discriminate. I’ve been on the cover of 3 British magazines. New York, Washington D.C. | Jasper, Calgary, Ottawa, Quebec, Vancouver | London, Edinburgh" Do you think he is too good to be true?? Is this a catfish? I thought rich people had a separate Tinder It's just such a funny thing to see. I joked to him that I'm just a commoner, he said I'm a cute commoner. He seems really nice and not arrogant. TL;DR: Matched with a seemingly rich aristocratic guy, could a person like this be legit or fake? 
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Husband is attempting to divorce me in the worst way possible... I have posted before about my marital woes. Our marriage has quickly crumbled in the last 3 months and now my husband is going nuclear. It appears he is attempting to do a "slow fade" as a way of communicating with me that our marriage is over. Some of his tactics: - Every night after 8 pm he stops taking my calls and does not answer any texts. Sometime around 3 or 4 am he will text me some bull poo poo excuse, "fell asleep on my desk," "no signal", " going to grab my keys from the office" etc. - He will arrive home a mess. Shirt unbuttoned, boxers worn inside out, wedding wrong off, lipstick on undershirt, hair messed up, drunk as hell. When I ask where was he and why he didn't respond to my calls he will start screaming and yell at me calling me a "psycho bitch." When I ask if he was with another woman he will look at me, say "you are crazy" and literally give me an evil smirk and start laughing. When I ask specific questions he will give nonsensical crazy answers and start laughing. He will then suddenly turn sharp and yell at me, "GO TO BED AND LEAVE ME ALONE" and crash on the couch. - When he gets home after midnight, he will sit outside in our car and play on his phone and call, I'm assuming, one of his multiple women. I go outside and ask him to come inside and he tells me to go away and that he doesn't want to see my face. I know this is crazy but I am so scared and confused. I have been worried if he has mental health issues and attempted to get him to see his doctor to get an evaluation but he keeps missing his appointments. I am so crushed because I love this man, or how he used to be and am utterly confused by his sudden malice and contempt towards me. Should I walk away? TLDR; Husband has been acting erratic, crazy and mean in an attempt to drive me away. I am heartbroken and cant seem to leave. what do I do?
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Uncle Enzo posted:Not an rear end in a top hat, and she handled it fine, but it might have gone a bit easier if she'd said it more like in the post. "They're not just earrings, it's a cultural/religious thing for my people and they're not for sale to people outside that community" might have gotten a better response. But yeah the coworker lady has been informed and she needs to drop it. Lol of course reddit voted this lady as an rear end in a top hat.  If you ask a coworker something and they keep giving you vague answers loving drop it!
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Danaru posted:"She's definitely the rear end in a top hat if she lied about the whole story and also a bunch of stuff I made up also happened " is the weirdest take and I don't understand why it keeps cropping up Probably because people subconsciously leave stuff out of stories and soften their actions or the language they used in order to look better. It’s not even really lying by omission when you don’t do it on purpose, it’s a human brain bug/feature. I am, of course, simply projecting my own experiences with people onto the situation. I was less taking issue with the OP than flailing ineffectually at the platonic ur-Karen strawman, whose imperfect reflections I have had the pleasure of encountering. This is not fair to the OP, so I will cop to that. I am posting on GBS as a straight white male though, so I wouldn’t rule out raging misogyny as the reason.
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