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Pope Corky the IX
Dec 18, 2006

What are you looking at?
My spouse's little brother thought it was hysterical that we were worried about her stepfather showing up to our wedding in his usual outfit of print t-shirt, sweatpants with sports logos, and dirty sneakers until he did exactly that at his college graduation. So now he has a picture of himself in his gown with his mother, Chuck Schumer, and what looks to be a homeless man.

Pope Corky the IX fucked around with this message at 16:42 on Oct 11, 2019

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Rubellavator
Aug 16, 2007

I checked the comments on the cast iron lady

quote:

Yeah I misspoke. It's a big non stick copper pot thing. Not cast iron.

cumshitter
Sep 27, 2005

by Fluffdaddy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for being overdressed/not going back?

Okay, so, I like to dress vintage like a woman from the 1950s or 1940s, I love it and it's practically my hobby. Back then women rarely, almost never wore pants, just always skirts and dresses, and shoes with small heels. I also do my hair and makeup like the women back then. All of my friends know this, I've been dressing like this for years, this is not something new to them.

So, I was invited to this party of a friend of mine, it was a casual party in their living room and backyard with not many people. After a few minutes of me being there my friend (the host of the party) pulls me aside and says:

"Hey, I know this sounds mean, but can you like... change? Most people here are wearing sweatpants and some girls told me you were making them uncomfortable because they all look so casual and you look so..." ... "you know"

I'll said that I would gladly change, but that I dont even own anything that isn't vintage, and that even my most "casual" stuff has that.. look to it (I dont know how to describe it)

My boyfriend said we can drive home and i can put some of his stuff, and that it's not big deal, I agreed.

In the car he told me that he feels uncomfortable too sometimes because I'm always overdressed and when he is with me he feels bad sometimes because he isnt dressed "that way", but then also said that he didnt want to dress "that way" (i dont know what he meant by that)

This is where i might be TA, even tho i said that we will go home and I'll change and then come back to the party, after sitting in a silent car for a while i thought about everything, how I dress and how it makes people feel and then decided to not go back to the party and just stay home.

AITA for not going back after I said I will? Are they TA for not accepting how I dress? AITA for being overdressed?

I dont understand the situation tbh

This clueless Dagwood motherfucker can't appreciate how his girlfriend gets all dressed up like she's shooting the intro to a porno for him every day and actually complains about having the best dressed GF at the party. Grow a spine, dipshit.

Mr. Fall Down Terror
Jan 24, 2018

by Fluffdaddy

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

metal utensil supremacy. you will never best a stainless steel spatula that has had its edge honed as a knife, it is the ultimate kitchen tool

the thousand-fold omelet

Rubellavator posted:

I checked the comments on the cast iron lady

i'd be more concerned about using metal utensils on a teflon coated pan than cast iron, since cast iron is a lot more robust than food nerds give it credit for, but still: lmao

Blank McBlankerson
Feb 21, 2013

Rubellavator posted:

I checked the comments on the cast iron lady

If that is the case then she is an overbearing douche, ditch her

Whorelord
May 1, 2013

Jump into the well...

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for being overdressed/not going back?

Okay, so, I like to dress vintage like a woman from the 1950s or 1940s, I love it and it's practically my hobby. Back then women rarely, almost never wore pants, just always skirts and dresses, and shoes with small heels. I also do my hair and makeup like the women back then. All of my friends know this, I've been dressing like this for years, this is not something new to them.

So, I was invited to this party of a friend of mine, it was a casual party in their living room and backyard with not many people. After a few minutes of me being there my friend (the host of the party) pulls me aside and says:

"Hey, I know this sounds mean, but can you like... change? Most people here are wearing sweatpants and some girls told me you were making them uncomfortable because they all look so casual and you look so..." ... "you know"

I'll said that I would gladly change, but that I dont even own anything that isn't vintage, and that even my most "casual" stuff has that.. look to it (I dont know how to describe it)

My boyfriend said we can drive home and i can put some of his stuff, and that it's not big deal, I agreed.

In the car he told me that he feels uncomfortable too sometimes because I'm always overdressed and when he is with me he feels bad sometimes because he isnt dressed "that way", but then also said that he didnt want to dress "that way" (i dont know what he meant by that)

This is where i might be TA, even tho i said that we will go home and I'll change and then come back to the party, after sitting in a silent car for a while i thought about everything, how I dress and how it makes people feel and then decided to not go back to the party and just stay home.

AITA for not going back after I said I will? Are they TA for not accepting how I dress? AITA for being overdressed?

I dont understand the situation tbh

odds on this woman having autism, diagnosed or otherwise?

Whorelord fucked around with this message at 16:47 on Oct 11, 2019

Fitzy Fitz
May 14, 2005




Whorelord posted:

over/under on this woman having autism, diagnosed or otherwise?

Actual answer: they're teenagers

Power Khan
Aug 20, 2011

by Fritz the Horse

Fitzy Fitz posted:

cast iron is the iphone of the cooking world

Power Khan
Aug 20, 2011

by Fritz the Horse
Speaking about your cooking skills

AITA for saying my farts smell like my girlfriends cooking
rear end in a top hat
Not a poo poo post, in the figurative way I suppose.

So here’s the only fact you really need to know. I have irritable bowel syndrome. It sucks, I use the bathroom a lot, but it’s pretty under control because I have some pills to deal with it. Well sometimes, the food that I eat seems to run through me very quickly, and smells follow.

The other night, my girlfriend made meatballs for dinner. She comes from an Italian background and adds her own flare to them, and they were delicious. I loved them with all my heart and enjoyed every single instance of eating them.

Well, an hour or so later, I passed gas and it smelled identical to the meatballs. I know this is gross, but it’s my life. I breathed in after the fart, and it smelled exactly like dinner, the meatballs. I was equal parts disgusted but happy to smell the meatballs again, and in a happy way, I told my girlfriend that my fart smelled like meatballs. She was taken aback and thought I insulted her cooking, but that truly wasn’t my intention. I was excited to experience it again.

So, we’re sitting in a restaurant and reflecting back on it, and now I ask you the question. AITA for saying that my farts smelled like meatballs?

Whorelord
May 1, 2013

Jump into the well...

Fitzy Fitz posted:

Actual answer: they're teenagers

that actually makes it seem more likely, as is the fact that they're german

Sagebrush
Feb 26, 2012

The concept of getting upset that someone is dressing better than you is so baffling to me. Like, if that matters to you, maybe you just dress better too? And then it won't happen as much?

DragQueenofAngmar
Dec 29, 2009

You shall not pass!


AITA? So me and my girlfriend are both dentists, I invested in a 3D dental scanner and she wants to use it for free but I don’t think it’s fair.


quote:

So me and my girlfriend have been together for a bit over 3 years, we’re both dentists.

I have just invested in a dental scanner which is quite expensive, the one I bought cost me $25000. I told her that I was getting it and she said that she rather use her money on other things (car, clothes, trips etc.). So anyway when I got it she said something along the lines of “well you buy it and then you let me use it”. I said no because that’s a lot of money and I think it’s only fair if she either paid me half for it or she pay me a percentage on every treatment she does with the scanner. She got really mad at me saying how I could be so selfish and how money is more important to me than sharing but in my opinion when it comes to business you have to focus on well business.

AITA for not sharing my very expensive dental scanner with my girlfriend for free?

We work in different practices but a few days a week at the same one (mine). Which I already don’t charge her a percentage on treatments she does.

DragQueenofAngmar fucked around with this message at 17:08 on Oct 11, 2019

bamhand
Apr 15, 2010

Sagebrush posted:

The concept of getting upset that someone is dressing better than you is so baffling to me. Like, if that matters to you, maybe you just dress better too? And then it won't happen as much?

I wonder if it's different for women than men?

I'm a guy. If everyone is better dressed than me then yeah, I hosed up and I'm underdressed. If there's just one guy, then he's the weird guy in a suit.

Zulily Zoetrope
Jun 1, 2011

Muldoon
I know a functional adult who dresses vintage basically all the time, but she does also own a pair of sweatpants.

Badly Jester
Apr 9, 2010


Bitches!

Sagebrush posted:

The concept of getting upset that someone is dressing better than you is so baffling to me. Like, if that matters to you, maybe you just dress better too? And then it won't happen as much?

People want to feel good about themselves, but people don't want to do the things that make them feel good about themselves because it takes effort. They also hate being reminded of this.

Sagebrush
Feb 26, 2012

DragQueenofAngmar posted:


AITA? So me and my girlfriend are both dentists, I invested in a 3D dental scanner and she wants to use it for free but I don’t think it’s fair.


These people both sound petty and unpleasant but I agree with the dude. If she wants to share the medical equipment, then they should go into practice together and split the costs. If she wants to keep her finances separate, then she can buy her own scanner.

Presumably the 3D scanner tool also would allow her to perform some kind of specialty service that she could charge extra money for, so in that light it's extra selfish.

Sagebrush
Feb 26, 2012

I mean it might be a little more reasonable if by "spending the money on trips" she means "you buy the fancy scanner, and I'll pay for all of our expensive vacations and luxuries" and they split the money that way.

But from my experiences with married couples who maintain separate finances, that really is not how it goes

sweet thursday
Sep 16, 2012

"I'd rather spend my money on other things that I like. You buy the expensive thing and I'll just like use it for my own benefit or whatever"

Ebola Roulette
Sep 13, 2010

No matter what you win lose ragepiss.
A quick Google search of casual 1950s woment clothing will tell you that women definitely wore pants then. Also common sense would make you wonder what women wore when it was cold or they were doing outdoors stuff etc.

I'm just loling at the idea of someone dressing like a stepford housewife all the time. Sounds exhausting. Wtf does she wear when she's sick or wants to have a lazy day?

Play
Apr 25, 2006

Strong stroll for a mangy stray

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Matched with a woman online who turned out to be a dispatcher in town. She ran my police contact info back since I was a child. Was this legal for her to do? Made me uncomfortable that she had free reign to access this info.


(MA) Hadn't even met her yet. She gave me her number. We spoke for days. She asked my last name and a day after disclosed that she looked at my info of all contact with local pd dating back to my childhood. When my parents divorced I had gotten into a little trouble. Nothing major. However this made me uncomfortable knowing that without probable suspicion she just accessed this type of info about me. Especially juvenile info.

Clearly illegal unless those are publicly available records, which it's hard to tell if they are or not. He should do a search on himself to see if he can find those charges freely available. If he can't he should report her.

Either way, don't date the cop obviously

Fitzy Fitz posted:

Actual answer: they're teenagers

Are you sure about that? It seems to fit but at the same time she seems to describe going over to her friend's house for a party. Sounds like the friend owned the house, but I suppose its possible its just her parents.

Modus Pwnens posted:

Not the rear end in a top hat but also not the guy who's going to marry into money

He's better off without it, if getting it means marrying a person like that. I think I'd dump someone who even suggested that taking public transportation is a bad thing or something you should be embarrassed about. Boyfriend should do a service for girlfriend and try to actually explain how the way she looks at the world is so distorted

My girlfriend's parents have a decent amount of money, but she's the opposite of spoiled. It's not an inevitable state for kids who grew up in big houses, clearly her father has hosed her up and it's also her father who will wield all the power when this girl is still asking for her allowance at age 30

Barudak posted:

You are the idiot.

You shut your stupid mouth, go to the gym 5 times a week, and marry this woman.

Nah. Not gonna work anyways, even if he does all that she'll dump him for someone more appropriate eventually, and she already completely disdains him for being poor. Being rich isn't worth suborning yourself

Whorelord
May 1, 2013

Jump into the well...

Ebola Roulette posted:

Wtf does she wear when she's sick or wants to have a lazy day?

again, she's german, she doesn't know how

Fitzy Fitz
May 14, 2005




Play posted:

Are you sure about that? It seems to fit but at the same time she seems to describe going over to her friend's house for a party. Sounds like the friend owned the house, but I suppose its possible its just her parents.

she said she's 19 in the comments

Sagebrush
Feb 26, 2012

Ebola Roulette posted:

A quick Google search of casual 1950s woment clothing will tell you that women definitely wore pants then. Also common sense would make you wonder what women wore when it was cold or they were doing outdoors stuff etc.

I'm just loling at the idea of someone dressing like a stepford housewife all the time. Sounds exhausting. Wtf does she wear when she's sick or wants to have a lazy day?

Dressing in vintage clothing doesn't mean you have to be done up like a stepford wife all the time. If you go to a vintage store you'll see tons of house dresses from the 1930s though 70s that were meant for doing housework or running errands. And tbqh for maximum laziness one-piece clothing beats everything else.

Example

Submarine Sandpaper
May 27, 2007


Fitzy Fitz posted:

cast iron is the iphone of the cooking world

nah ceramic is built to be obsolete faster then Teflon

DemoneeHo
Nov 9, 2017

Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca


We don't celebrate B+ grades in this family

quote:

Dear Care and Feeding,

My 11-year-old daughter does very, very well at school, and we invariably have A+ grade reports and assignments magneted to the family fridge. Our 8-year-old son is lazier, and tends to coast a bit. When he brings home B and B+ assignments, and we don’t put them on the fridge, his feelings are clearly a little hurt, but we honestly just want to encourage him to apply himself a little harder.

—Are We the Baddies

quote:

Dear Baddies,

What the hell? When did a B+ not become fridge-worthy? He’s EIGHT. Of course his feelings are hurt! Put his drat work on the fridge before you drive a wedge between him and his golden sister for the next few decades.

Get him a tutor, talk to his teachers, deal with his “bad” grades however you wish, but do not turn your fridge into the Battle of Agincourt in hopes it’ll shame him into applying himself.

DemoneeHo
Nov 9, 2017

Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca


Should we stop our daughter from being occult?

quote:

Dear Care and Feeding,

My 16-year-old daughter has gotten very into tarot cards and astrology. We are Catholics, though not churchgoers, and send her to a parochial school. She doesn’t bring her cards to school, but we’re wondering if we should come down harder on this behavior in general, as tarot cards are linked to the occult and astrology is also not exactly in line with Catholic practice.

—Is This Silly?

quote:

Dear Silly,

(Massages temples)

Is Mercury in retrograde? Please do not bother your daughter about this. It could not matter less to anyone. I say this as an actual, churchgoing Christian. Perhaps she and our goth candle teen could become friends.

If you don't stop her now, she'll turn to witchcraft!!

Propaniac
Nov 28, 2000

SUSHI ROULETTO!
College Slice
From /r/legaladvice:

Did my friend forfeit her right to collect unemployment? Chicago. IL.

quote:

My friend sent this in a group text “Well...I got fired today...after months and months my old rear end bitch of boss was finally able convince an idiot HR Rep to fire me. But please believe I went out in a blaze of glory! I walked up to the bitch and stood eye to eye...and said you are an old miserable bitch who will die alone! No one here likes you...everyone thinks you're crazy and you're just a crazy miserable bitch who like to make others life miserable. You ain't poo poo and that's how everyone will always remember you! She went one way crying I went the other smiling! Bittersweet departure it was.”

I don’t know the circumstances for her being fired but does this fall under misconduct? Did she put her right to collect unemployment in jeopardy?

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

DemoneeHo posted:

We don't celebrate B+ grades in this family

Right now his mind is being developed and he's particularly sensitive to poor parenting decisions. What they teach here will last a lifetime, maybe two if they do it right (some mental configurations last into our next lives). They need to be careful to lovingly and sensitively teach him that B's and B+'s are trash grades. That way he associates love and empathy with good grades (A+ and A, but never A-) and associates negative self worth with any other grade, including a Pass in a Pass/Fail class. Demand an A. The advisor is foolish and wrong and, if they have children, they are probably failures.

pentyne
Nov 7, 2012

Propaniac posted:

From /r/legaladvice:

Did my friend forfeit her right to collect unemployment? Chicago. IL.

Everyone loves the fantasy of going out in a blaze of glory but not the reality of then having a toxic reputation as "the person who threw the chair on their way out"

bamhand
Apr 15, 2010
They give grades to 8 year olds? All through elementary school we just had like at level, above level, or needs work for our report card.

Clitch
Feb 26, 2002

I lived through
Donald Trump's presidency
and all I got was
this lousy virus

Propaniac posted:

From /r/legaladvice:

Did my friend forfeit her right to collect unemployment? Chicago. IL.

I'd assume that, in a legal sense, once you're told you're fired you're just a rando causing a scene.

Isn't that why big firms escort you to your desk to get your poo poo and then out the door?

Blank McBlankerson
Feb 21, 2013

DemoneeHo posted:

We don't celebrate B+ grades in this family

My sister did nothing and got A's, perfect SATs(nothing wrong not that adjusted poo poo) and got into Ivy league school. I got B's and B+s and was made to feel like poo poo because I didnt apply myself. I was soo bitter I forced out a 5th Year of College to get back at my dad(the driving factor behind it) and it sorta hosed me up until recently.

Dont do that poo poo to kids, applaud their accomplishments but push them to be better not make them feel like poo poo cause siblings do better.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Power Khan posted:

AITA for telling my wife that there's probably someone out there better for me?

Picard: Mr. Data, do you think there's someone out there better for you than I am? Be honest

Data: Captain, what kind of idiot question is that? :words:

The Bramble
Mar 16, 2004

Propaniac posted:

From /r/legaladvice:

Did my friend forfeit her right to collect unemployment? Chicago. IL.

Lol. Shocking she would resort to this behavior, given that her lifetime of patience and kindness has only equipped her with two words to use as insults - 'miserable' and 'bitch'.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

DemoneeHo posted:

Should we stop our daughter from being occult?



If you don't stop her now, she'll turn to witchcraft!!



The nerd kids are all into Gloomhaven these days, which is like D&D but as a canned CYOA story that comes with a big box of figurines and maps

DemoneeHo
Nov 9, 2017

Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca


QuarkJets posted:

The nerd kids are all into Gloomhaven these days, which is like D&D but as a canned CYOA story that comes with a big box of figurines and maps

Nothing will turn kids away from the church faster than losing a gloomhaven scenario because you ran out of cards right before defeating the last foe

Clitch
Feb 26, 2002

I lived through
Donald Trump's presidency
and all I got was
this lousy virus
Vampire wasn't emo enough, so I started playing Monster Hearts.

Grumio
Sep 20, 2001

in culina est

Power Khan posted:

AITA for telling my wife that there's probably someone out there better for me?

I love these guys (they're always guys) who cannot fathom the difference between "Am I Technically Correct" and "Am I The rear end in a top hat"

Play
Apr 25, 2006

Strong stroll for a mangy stray

debbie looking all kinds of gnarly lol

DemoneeHo posted:

We don't celebrate B+ grades in this family

Future estranged parent right here, golden child complex and all

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Butter Activities
May 4, 2018

Power Khan posted:

AITA for telling my wife that there's probably someone out there better for me?
My wife is one of those hopeless romantics, possibly inspired by her obsession with Korean love drama, and movies such as the Notebook.



She asked me "Do you think there is someone out there who is better for you than I am? Be honest."

I said "I think that is high probable, statistically speaking. I think it would be extremely rare if you and I happened to find each other and simultaneously be the best for each other."



She got really upset at me over this and said something to the effect of "Why don't you go find that person then?"



I tried to explain to her my view in more detail and said something like

"There are about 3-4 billion women in the world. Let's now filter out a very liberal 99.9% of women who I will probably not find physically attractive and/or incompatible personality/sexuality wise. That leaves me with about 30 million women who I could potentially date. To say you are the best for me would be to say that you are better than 29,999,999 of them and I don't know that because I haven't even met any of them and chances are one of them is going to be more compatible with me than you are."



AITA for answering her question like that? I can't see how I'm an rear end in a top hat here. She wanted an answer, and I gave her an honest answer and she got mad at me. She probably wanted me to say "No baby. You're THE ONE for me and I know no one out there will be better than you for me."

Beep boop I am engineer man

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