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Here's a thorny one. How do I (27F) tell my GF (25F) of eight months that I used to be a sex worker? quote:Background
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 03:00 |
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Cythereal posted:Here's a thorny one. You can approach this talk by putting all your poo poo in a suitcase and driving the gently caress away. Wendy understands, as Foucault and did, that sex and power are inextricably linked. By having more sex, by commodifying it in such a way to pay for your own college, you have gained immeasurable power. Wendy is terrified of this, and of you. Healthy relationships aren't made of fear, but of reasonable caution. Power must be matched, defenses must be tested, and battles must be fought. Ideally, it will end in a stalemate and you'll have no choice but to gently caress each other, forever, and then die. Relationships and sex are a battlefield, yes, but not temporary ones. They are lines of trenches and artillery fire, shifting but not diminishing. You have already won this battle and it is time to and move on.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 03:07 |
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Admiral Ray posted:You can approach this talk by putting all your poo poo in a suitcase and driving the gently caress away. Wendy understands, as Foucault and did, that sex and power are inextricably linked. By having more sex, by commodifying it in such a way to pay for your own college, you have gained immeasurable power. Wendy is terrified of this, and of you. Healthy relationships aren't made of fear, but of reasonable caution. Power must be matched, defenses must be tested, and battles must be fought. Ideally, it will end in a stalemate and you'll have no choice but to gently caress each other, forever, and then die. Relationships and sex are a battlefield, yes, but not temporary ones. They are lines of trenches and artillery fire, shifting but not diminishing. You have already won this battle and it is time to and move on.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 03:09 |
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Cythereal posted:Here's a thorny one. gently caress. i think OP has the right to shut the door on that part of her life if that's what she wants to do, but i dont think that would be the best thing for the relationship, and she seems to agree. i think i would attempt to explain the situation i had been in at the time, as thoroughly as possible, and try to help Wendy understand why it was necessary for me to do sex work. id make sure she knew that it was in the past and i wanted to leave it behind as much as i could. i really hope they can work things out.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 03:10 |
Admiral Ray posted:You can approach this talk by putting all your poo poo in a suitcase and driving the gently caress away. Wendy understands, as Foucault and did, that sex and power are inextricably linked. By having more sex, by commodifying it in such a way to pay for your own college, you have gained immeasurable power. Wendy is terrified of this, and of you. Healthy relationships aren't made of fear, but of reasonable caution. Power must be matched, defenses must be tested, and battles must be fought. Ideally, it will end in a stalemate and you'll have no choice but to gently caress each other, forever, and then die. Relationships and sex are a battlefield, yes, but not temporary ones. They are lines of trenches and artillery fire, shifting but not diminishing. You have already won this battle and it is time to and move on. What's important is that the actionable advice is correct, but the journey made my day.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 04:02 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA if I didn’t tell my best friend (my brother-in-law) that his wife is carrying another man’s child that isn’t from a fertility clinic sperm donor? YWBTA. Let sleeping dogs lie. Telling him.just blows up his family and he knows it isn't his biological offspring anyway. Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for getting upset that my girlfriend won’t let me help her write her MOH speech? You are the most ridiculous rear end in a top hat. Power Khan posted:My (38M) wife (36F) flattened her wedding ring in a hydraulic press to "test the strength of our love" Uh, maybe try not cheating on her for a while and then talk about it. Jesus YOU'RE worried about the relationship? Dumbfuck. rear end.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 04:54 |
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MIL "recycles" used toilet paperquote:So MIL is a manipulative and verbally abusive creature who enjoys yelling at my poor old, meek, and feeble FIL. In the 10 years since my DW and I got married and she left the house, MIL has become a hoarder and turned every room of the house into storage for her trash. The poor and soft-spoken FIL is no match for this demon and despite being the only one who works and provides income, FIL has become nothing more than just a speck on the wall in MIL's world as she runs the show and calls all of the shots.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 05:09 |
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My boyfriend [21M] and I [18F] are experimenting with polyamory but I don't know if it's working. Basically, my boyfriend approached me saying that he wants to interact with other people sexually whilst we're both still young. He was happy to keep it online and not with anyone he or I know irl. My only real condition was I don't wanna know about it. I don't wanna see, hear or talk about it. I understand why he wants it, that doesn't mean I like it. There was a girl he was messaging like 2 hours later with a heart next to her name. We'll come back to that. The problem now is that every night after I've gone to sleep (sexless) he'll jerk himself off, I'm a pretty light sleeper so I'll wake up and move around to get a drink or check my phone or whatever and then he'll accuse me of 'monitoring him'. I'm not, I couldn't care less if he wants to do that or not, I just need a drat drink. Anyway, after he did it tonight, I saw a snap come through from the girl with the heart. When I'd seen it the other day he'd told me she wasn't someone he was talking to because he couldn't get someone that quickly but now he's messaging her whilst getting himself off? I'm worried she's someone he knows irl and someone he'd rather get off to on sc than having sex with me. TL;DR - Boyfriend and I trying polyamory with ground rules, he's now prefering getting himseld off to sex with me and I'm worried he's broken a ground rule.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 05:21 |
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Miss posted:MIL "recycles" used toilet paper Hoarders aren't people it doesn't matter how you treat them. Roll up and set fire to the house, the FD probably won't even connect hoses they'll wait for the smell to burn off before dousing it
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 05:21 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My boyfriend [21M] and I [18F] are experimenting with polyamory but I don't know if it's working. this dude cannot respect the simplest loving rules his gf asked of him. :sever2: she needs to get out now. it's only going to get worse from here.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 05:31 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My boyfriend [21M] and I [18F] are experimenting with polyamory but I don't know if it's working. You are still together so it has not worked yet. Just give it time.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 07:30 |
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Barudak posted:Im glad she is out of her boyfriends life forever and I hope someday he can meet any of the vast, vast majority of Americans who no longer smoke. Unless theyre austrian in which case he should move iirc something like 30% of americans still smoke and the working class in particular is like 50-60%. so you're technically correct I guess.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 07:38 |
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Barudak posted:Im glad she is out of her boyfriends life forever and I hope someday he can meet any of the vast, vast majority of Americans who no longer smoke. Unless theyre austrian in which case he should move What's the deal with Austrians?
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 07:41 |
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Larry Parrish posted:iirc something like 30% of americans still smoke and the working class in particular is like 50-60%. so you're technically correct I guess. 14% of adults in the US smoked in 2017 Power Khan posted:What's the deal with Austrians? 34% of Austrian women smoke which for a long time gave them a several % point lead over the rest of europe and all other developed countries but I think Greece has started to catch up with them as of late.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 07:47 |
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AITA for using poop bags for my daughter's birthday party?quote:My daughter just turned 6. We had a birthday party for her on Saturday. That morning was pretty hectic. I was outside setting up and suddenly my wife comes outside yelling about how the grocery store screwed up the birthday cake and I didn't notice. This post is kind of funny in how it's a lovely inattentive father combined with a neurotic mess of a mother who together are definitely going to repeatedly gently caress up their daughter's life over the stupidest poo poo imaginable
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 08:53 |
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Based on the headline I thought it was gonna be he gave away used colostomy bags to kids on accident so since its not that Im thrilled
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 08:58 |
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Daddy needs to up his game a little bit Mommy needs therapy Edit wait he misspelled his Daughters name??? Holy poo poo they both are a mess
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 09:01 |
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SpaceSDoorGunner posted:Daddy needs to up his game a little bit Mommy needs therapy I think it was the store that misspelled it but he was too much of a mess to notice or care
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 09:04 |
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Eh that's a bakery screw up, they happen all the time. My bridal shower cake said "congratulations on your wedding day", which was not really what was ordered but whatever, cake was still delicious. These things happen.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 09:06 |
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SpaceSDoorGunner posted:Daddy needs to up his game a little bit Mommy needs therapy He didn’t the bakery did. He didn’t check the cake which really isn’t that huge of a gently caress up. I dunno why y’all are laying into dad it’s not that bad especially not for the reaction mom is giving.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 09:06 |
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QuarkJets posted:AITA for using poop bags for my daughter's birthday party? This is a sitcom
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 09:10 |
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Now honey I know that you told me to get a birthday cake for our daughter, but I'm sure that this cake made to look like Harvey Weinstein's face that the store gave me by mistake tastes just as good so I don't see what the big deal is
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 09:12 |
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Thanks for coming to the party everyone here have some goody bags *hands out little plastic bags reading "Happy birthday Sarah" that are full of actual dog poo poo*
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 09:15 |
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Look you said to hire a birthday clown how was I supposed to know that you didn't mean the clown from IT? He offered a killer rate! *daughter opens the present that her dad wrapped revealing that it's the puzzle box from Hellraiser clutched in a monkey's paw*
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 09:17 |
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The cake and the poop bags both seem like understandable mistakes when you are rushing around distracted doing last minute prep for a party. I have made some ridiculous mistakes when I was rushing to finish things before people showed up for parties and whatnot. It's understandable, people don't care, and they most likely don't even notice. It's also understandable to get upset and cry that things didn't go as planned, but avoiding the school forever seems like overkill. And if they know they are this way, why leave this poo poo to the last minute? The cake pick up has to be the day of, but the bags could have been done days or weeks ago.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 09:31 |
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Barudak posted:14% of adults in the US smoked in 2017 That's the rate among 18-28 year olds, not the % of smokers among the whole population, which is something like 10-11%. Austria isn't anywhere near the smoking rates of Greece, France or Croatia, it's above european average though. https://www.statista.com/statistics/433390/individuals-who-currently-smoke-cigarettes-in-european-countries/ or per capita https://www.telegraph.co.uk/travel/maps-and-graphics/world-according-to-tobacco-consumption/
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 10:09 |
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How is shower before sex weird?!? And washing your B-hole!?!? So I am a male, been seeing this girl for 5 weeks now. after the second date we started having sex, generally if available before sex I like to take a quick shower (2 -5 minutes tops, or I recommend they come shower with me so we can start some foreplay) anyways we usually go back to her place since no one is there. I will hop in the shower sometimes she will come with me and take a quick rinse off with soap and water. We were talking yesterday and she said “I find it weird you shower before sex and after, also your the only dude I have seen wash his butt” How is this weird?!?! Also washing the butt I just lather soap onto a wash cloth and give it a few passes. Like is not showering a thing? I don’t want to smell like some old caveman with swamp-rear end.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 10:16 |
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I hadnt checked in ages so thanks for updating me. Sounds like Greece and France are past them now so please update the mental model of this joke of a man making a von trapp escape from a theater full of cigarette nazis.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 10:16 |
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cumshitter posted:No, this owns and your uncle is probably a bad parent who shields his children from the gay pornography every child needs to grow up into a healthy homosexual. When Cumshitter meets a child he finds a way to ask, “Say kid, do you like movies about gladiators?”
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 10:18 |
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Good to see that Greg Hirsch has a family.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 10:24 |
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Power Khan posted:How is shower before sex weird?!? And washing your B-hole!?!? this man has never worked in a kitchen and the woman has only dated complete losers
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 11:19 |
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Check out this. 6 months worth work lol AITA For refusing an intern/low paying job at my girlfriends workplace? Backstory. She works at a startup as a bookkeeper, they recently were talking about updating their cms (content management system) that they offer to their clients and she overheard the conversation and told them that I can do develope something like that. So she sent me a message to send a cv to their HR, lets call her Karen (because you probably know why). I forwarded my cv and they told me to come friday for a interview, so today. It went really good actually, but what they called updating was basically working from scratch new features, new design, an app! This was at least 6 months of work. And they wanted to hire someone and not actually pay a fixed price I told them that i work as a freelancer and got a lot of work and what they wanted would cost me all my time, i send them a quote which included also the amount my friend would charge for developing the android/ios app. So round $20k. They declined the offer on spot and told me they wanted to hire me for this project first and maybe i can land a job at this fantastic new startup with 3 espresso machines, a bed to sleep if you are tired, percentage at this poo poo startup yadayada for a mere 2k salary per month. I declined and politely told them they can go gently caress themself with the espresso machines. Went home and my girlfriend was PISSED because the thought i would accept the offer and she planned everything from waking up at the same time, working together, seeing each other 15 hours per day. Now she thinks i didnt accept it because i dont want to be with her all the time quote:I told them "thank you but im not interested, this is too much work for such a small payment and im pretty happly working from home"
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 11:23 |
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quote:Mom made a separate instagram to follow girls my bf followers quote:Thank you. It’s just crazy because she acts like she likes him. But in high school she was incredibly controlling by reading my texts and having access to all my social media and a whole lot more
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 11:29 |
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Barudak posted:I hadnt checked in ages so thanks for updating me. Sounds like Greece and France are past them now so please update the mental model of this joke of a man making a von trapp escape from a theater full of cigarette nazis. *Muffled yelling in turkish and greek* Sry, I don't know what you mean, but it's cool. Nothing to see here.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 11:29 |
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razorrozar posted:loving M:tG cards. five or six boosters. You spent 3 weeks in jail for stealing cardboard playing cards? That's like a few bucks, isn't it? Also goddammit, steal less goony poo poo.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 11:35 |
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Why do the dog poop bags have hearts on them?
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 12:14 |
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Beachcomber posted:Why do the dog poop bags have hearts on them? Theyre valentines themed.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 12:34 |
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Three Olives posted:If children are so amazing, why does every parent I know constantly complain about how horrible and expensive they are and how they basically ruin your life in between telling you what magical gifts they are because they did this one cute thing once. ...so both your parents do this?
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 12:52 |
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aardwolf posted:...so both your parents do this? He doesn't have any, everyone knows Three Olives spawned fully formed in an upscale Dallas condo back in the early 2000s.
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# ? Oct 19, 2019 13:10 |
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Power Khan posted:That's the rate among 18-28 year olds, not the % of smokers among the whole population, which is something like 10-11%. Austria isn't anywhere near the smoking rates of Greece, France or Croatia, it's above european average though. I'm honestly surprised Georgia is only 20th, everyone there just drinks wine and smokes heavily from the age of 16, it's amazing
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