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spacetoaster
Feb 10, 2014

Kitchner posted:

The Uber driver should have tipped him for the entertainment.


I love hearing crazy stories from my uber driver friends.

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Vim Fuego
Jun 1, 2000

Ultra Carp

Barudak posted:

Buried in the middle of this garbage is "She also does not talk to Asian people because she believes they are demons" like some sort of literacy test.

Vim Fuego
Jun 1, 2000

Ultra Carp

DemoneeHo posted:

My girlfriend [16F] is mad at me [17M] for agreeing to an open relationship
... I don’t know what else I can do to fix this.

There's just one thing

Shbobdb
Dec 16, 2010

by Reene

Patrick Spens posted:

What? This is Bullshit! Free Pick!

Pick is good. I never got the hate other than goons being weird.

Granted, she seems to embrace being the main character of the internet which isn't a great look but hey, every time I load SA and dont see a pink banner I'm pleasantly surprised. So I dont have a lot of ground to stand on.

Clitch
Feb 26, 2002

I lived through
Donald Trump's presidency
and all I got was
this lousy virus

Patrick Spens posted:

What? This is Bullshit! Free Pick!

When you see a Pick quote in a derail you know it's made from all-natural, free-range crazy, and not some battery farm of Guy Mann reregs. That's a mark of quality I can trust.

EIDE Van Hagar
Dec 8, 2000

Beep Boop

Farmer Crack-rear end posted:

lol that you believe this

Actually everyone is talking about it and its also not going to happen

Kitchner
Nov 9, 2012

IT CAN'T BE BARGAINED WITH.
IT CAN'T BE REASONED WITH.
IT DOESN'T FEEL PITY, OR REMORSE, OR FEAR.
AND IT ABSOLUTELY WILL NOT STOP, EVER, UNTIL YOU ADMIT YOU'RE WRONG ABOUT WARHAMMER
Clapping Larry

Play posted:

the funny thing is Americans do WAY more cocaine than anyone in the UK or Europe. Like, twice as much per capita


EXCUSE ME?

You think the US does more Cocaine than the UK per capita?

I will not have this slur on our honour:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_prevalence_of_cocaine_use

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/2018/03/22/one-ten-people-have-never-used-cocaine-have-traces-fingertips/

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/cocaine-london-river-thames-water-research-kings-college-study-fish-high-drugs-a8738146.html

https://www.vice.com/en_uk/article/3kx7xb/cocaine-capital-europe-2019

Our financial industry in London is snorting more white powder up it's collective noses than anyone else and we should be proud of that, we're still world number 1.

InediblePenguin
Sep 27, 2004

I'm strong. And a giant penguin. Please don't eat me. No, really. Don't try.

carry on then posted:

just being a transphobic douchebag while holding a tinfoil halo I made for myself up behind my head so you can see how virtuous I am for it

Ugly In The Morning
Jul 1, 2010
Pillbug

Clitch posted:

When you see a Pick quote in a derail you know it's made from all-natural, free-range crazy, and not some battery farm of Guy Mann reregs. That's a mark of quality I can trust.

Guy Mann at least doesn’t show up here but I’d take Pick’s form of traumatized obliviousness over carry on then’s screaming about small dicks and calling for mass killings.

The Bramble posted:

My coworker (42/F) has decided I (35/F) chew too loudly and sent a "food diary" to HR to prove it

Can we set her up with the dude that got eating in their office banned and then launch the whole wedding ceremony into the sun?

Cacator
Aug 6, 2005

You're quite good at turning me on.


Not as much as a concern to the OP as the dirty dildo, apparently.

Khanstant
Apr 5, 2007
AITA for asking my husbands sister to consider being a surrogate for us?

quote:

My husband and I have been trying for pregnancy for years now, and to cut a long story short it seems as though it will never be a possibility. It took a long time to come to terms with but we've gradually got there. Our entire family is aware of the journey we've been on and how much it meant to us. With that in mind, my husband and I came to his sister (Sarah) with a proposal.

Sarah is in her early 30s, unmarried, and vocally against having children of her own. Despite this we thought she might be open to the idea of a surrogate pregnancy on our behalf given she would not have to be involved in raising the child personally. My husband is extremely close to his family and the idea of the entire process of surrogacy being contained to his blood felt extremely important to him. With that closeness in mind, we did not feel it was out of order to ask this sort of question.

We invited Sarah over for dinner and at the end of it laid out our request. We told her we had been saving over the years and would be willing to pay her as much as a regular surrogate would be paid (a pretty hefty fee so she would be able to take time off from work if it was required), help her out with everything she needed, plus we had no expectations that she must help raise the child just because she carried it. We told her why it was important to us and how much it'd mean, and asked her to have an open mind about it.

Sarah exploded at us. She said we were both out of our minds for making such a request, extremely selfish, and that we had no respect for her disinterest in children. She actually left early. Right now she's refusing to take calls from us and even went as far as to ask my husbands parents to tell us to both not contact her until she decides to initiate it herself. My husbands parents are sympathetic to us but say that we should have kept in mind Sarah's difficulties. My parents think she is behaving awfully. Most of my friends are on my side but a few have said that it was a bit of a rude request given everyone knows how much Sarah hates kids.

It's really weighing on my mind and I honestly never expected this kind of outcome. She literally blocked us on every platform she could. Are we really the ones behaving like an rear end in a top hat?

Lots of childfree types out and about in full effective force here

Anza Borrego
Feb 11, 2005

Ovis canadensis nelsoni

Leon Einstein posted:

Uber has been hemorrhaging money since inception and literally the only way they can ever hope to profit is when they've got autonomous cars. They're trying to ride out the losses until then.

Lol what? No it isn’t.
Uber’s entire business model is built on shifting risk - in this case the staggering costs of fleet maintenance and depreciation - off on their “contractors.” There is no business case for them on-boarding hundreds of millions of dollars in maintenance onto their own ledger. Their interest in self driving cars is Investor Storytime, which is critical to keeping VC rolling in so the grift can continue just a liiiiiittle longer.

therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Whorelord posted:

Seems to be a theme of gay people banging the homeless recently.

Well yeah; they're HOMEless not BONEless.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Patrick Spens posted:

What? This is Bullshit! Free Pick!

New Coke
Nov 28, 2009

WILL AMOUNT TO NOTHING IN LIFE.
I like pick.

Pinecone Sample
Oct 12, 2010

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Khanstant posted:

AITA for asking my husbands sister to consider being a surrogate for us?


Lots of childfree types out and about in full effective force here

She's already loving her boss

Leon Einstein
Feb 6, 2012
I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.

Anza Borrego posted:

Lol what? No it isn’t.
Uber’s entire business model is built on shifting risk - in this case the staggering costs of fleet maintenance and depreciation - off on their “contractors.” There is no business case for them on-boarding hundreds of millions of dollars in maintenance onto their own ledger. Their interest in self driving cars is Investor Storytime, which is critical to keeping VC rolling in so the grift can continue just a liiiiiittle longer.
Ok, well the investors think the future is autonomous vehicles. Better?

Puppy Time
Mar 1, 2005


Khanstant posted:

AITA for asking my husbands sister to consider being a surrogate for us?


Lots of childfree types out and about in full effective force here

While I have little trouble imagining a childfree person being absolutely bugshit in general, this level of response feels a LOT like the narrator's glossing over some details. Gives the Estranged Parent vibe.

Khanstant
Apr 5, 2007

Pinecone Sample posted:

She's already loving her boss

I went back a few pages to see if what I posted had already been posted or not, I was hoping they were related once I saw the one you're referencing.

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

Would it be a bad idea for me [18M] to sleep around with my coworker [54F]?

I barely started working at my current job like 3 weeks ago and I love the environment+ I think all of my coworkers like me, so I made a lot of new friends. I have a few supervisors and one of them is a woman in her mid 50s. She’s a veryyyyy beautiful woman and she is a very nice woman.

A few days ago she asked for my phone number and we text every once in a while. Yesterday she asked me if I wanted to come to her place to have some drinks on the weekend and she said I could spend the night at her place so I wouldn’t have to drive back home. I know, that doesn’t mean we are going to hook up, but I get the idea that we moght since she wants to to sleep at her house.

She isn’t threatening me or anything and I am comfortable with the idea. I am just wondering if it eould be a bad idea since they are shutting down the place I work at in like 4 months anyways.

TL:DR- My supervisor/coworker wants to hang out and have drinks this weekend. She asked me of I could stay at her place and I am contemplating going or not.

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

I (F35) feel uncomfortable with the very specific porn my boyfriend (M39) watches. Am I overthinking? Should I confront him?


My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year and live together quite happily with no major issues. He’s loving and supportive I trust him completely, we’ve spoken about getting married and I genuinely feel (or felt) I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

We’re very open with our phones and laptops, we know each other’s passcodes and often use the others to google things etc.

Recently I used his phone and started typing in the search bar when “Black girl x type of porn” came up. I got freaked out and looked at his internet history and all different types of very extreme porn came up always with “black girl” specifically were searched then I delved deeper (I know I should have but curiosity/freakedoutedness) found he has an actual paid subscription to a porn site for black girls and it’s all quite degrading videos. I didn’t know this existed mostly because I’m just ignorant to the world of porn and weirdly we’ve never discussed how we feel about each other watching it but I think that’s because I don’t watch it.

I don’t know why but it made me feel a bit sick. I feel like he’s fetishising me and possibly dating me more because of my race and less because of who I am. Meaning he wouldn’t date me if I wasn’t black. I’m not dating him because of his race (he’s not black) and have never felt to need to watch extreme things being done to someone that looks a lot like him.

He has made comments about how our sex life is very fulfilling and I agree it’s great and healthy we pretty much have sex everyday and I’ve asked him if there is anything he’s into beyond the usual kinks and we’ve played around with some stuff and I’ve always enjoyed and felt comfortable sexually with him.

I’ve tried to bring it up in a jokey way but he basically denies it and says he loves me for me but I guess I feel things are tainted now.

I only recently found out his ex was black...again am I overthinking that?

I’ve also never really thought about him watching porn but he seems to do it a lot more than I realised despite the healthy sex life I thought we had. I know I sound dramatic but I feel like our relationship is a bit false now.

Am I overthinking this? Is this normal? I feel like my feelings are valid but I’m scared to bring it up for some reason. Blergh... I need to do something soon because whenever he’s affectionate towards me I feel sick and a bit angry.

Should I confront him?

P.S. I figured he’s realised somethings up because he’s been deleting his history lately.

TL;DR recently found out my boyfriend watches degrading porn specific to my race and feel that he might be fetishising me and now I am questioning our relationship.

EDIT: The porn isn’t just black girl gets gangbanged it’s more like black girl abused by white guy and called racist/racially degrading names and painfully hosed until she’s crying.

Pinecone Sample
Oct 12, 2010

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Does this type of man exist?


quote:

Does an understanding, compassionate, empathetic man actually exist in this world or is he a fictitious character I’ve conjured up from my fantasies as my husband tells me?

When i express my feelings to him, whether it’s to vent some frustration in my life or to mention something he’s done that hurts me, rather than show me compassion and understanding and actually listen to and care about what I have to say, he immediately gets defensive and either dismisses me by saying, “If it’s not this it’s something else” or “You’re just being negative” or “You need to change your mindset” or he will try to make me feel guilty and ashamed for having feelings at all and I find myself pleading my case just to convince him that my feelings are valid enough for him to consider.

Example: my husband doesn’t have a habit of putting on his seat belt until he’s been driving long enough for the car’s reminder dings long enough to annoy him. Sometimes he doesn’t put it on at all if he’s driving a short distance. I gently tell him that it concerns me that he doesn’t make a habit of putting his seat belt on because of he’s putting his life at risk (and setting a poor example for our kids) and if he were to be injured or killed it would have a great effect on his family. Rather than consider this as a valid concern, he might first deny that he does it all all so I have to provide examples to prove that he does indeed, not wear his seat belt all the time. Next he might say something like, “You just want to control me” or “Your living out of fear”. Even if I tell him that he’s giving me the impression that he doesn’t really care how I feel, he will continue to dismiss me and insist that I’m just “trying to have a problem” and trying to control him. He might also say, “Starting a new habit is hard. You aren’t asking me to break a habit, your asking me to start one which is harder to do”. Essentially saying, “Tough crap, I’m not doing anything differently so deal with it.” So, so many of our conversations go in this direction.

Is there a man who exists that would actually respond like this: “Sure, Honey, I can make an effort to put my seatbelt on before I start driving.”

Which essentially says to me, “I understand that your concern is for my well being, not to control me. It might take me a while to develop a new habit of putting my seatbelt on before I start driving but I realize that this is important to you and your concerns matter to me because I love you and your feelings are important.”

Am I just in a fantasy world here?

Khanstant
Apr 5, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Would it be a bad idea for me [18M] to sleep around with my coworker [54F]?

These subreddits should prohibit mention of gender in posts like these.

Pinecone Sample posted:

Does this type of man exist?

This one is just sad. Does anybody have a husband who isn't an inconsiderate rear end in a top hat annoyed at having to exist near or interact me, do such mans exist?

Khanstant fucked around with this message at 02:27 on Nov 13, 2019

dudeness
Mar 5, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
Fallen Rib

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I (F35) feel uncomfortable with the very specific porn my boyfriend (M39) watches. Am I overthinking? Should I confront him?

AAAAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

The Lone Badger
Sep 24, 2007

Khanstant posted:

This one is just sad. Does anybody have a husband who isn't an inconsiderate rear end in a top hat annoyed at having to exist near or interact me, do such mans exist?

No, no they do not.

Veni Vidi Ameche!
Nov 2, 2017

by Fluffdaddy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I (F35) feel uncomfortable with the very specific porn my boyfriend (M39) watches. Am I overthinking? Should I confront him?

You should feel uncomfortable. You should leave your racist boyfriend. The idea that all forms of porn and sex are OK and you're not allowed to judge is bullshit propaganda peddled by sex weirds and closet head cases. Get oooout.

Ugly In The Morning
Jul 1, 2010
Pillbug

Puppy Time posted:

While I have little trouble imagining a childfree person being absolutely bugshit in general, this level of response feels a LOT like the narrator's glossing over some details. Gives the Estranged Parent vibe.

Also, pregnancy sucks butts even if you want to have a kid, expecting someone to go through it so you can have a kid because you asked them nicely is loving insane.

E:also even more nuts when you consider that the person you were asking has made it clear they don’t want to have kids, which isn’t just always about raising them, but also not wanting to go through a goddamn pregnancy. Jesus.

Shbobdb
Dec 16, 2010

by Reene

Puppy Time posted:

While I have little trouble imagining a childfree person being absolutely bugshit in general, this level of response feels a LOT like the narrator's glossing over some details. Gives the Estranged Parent vibe.

Even without that, 9 months is not an insubstantial commitment especially during prime loving/drinking/partying years. To say nothing of the physical changes pregnancy brings. Shutting that conversation down in harsh and extremely uncertain terms is totally fair. Diplomatic is always better but if this couple is even a little bull headed it's not an unreasonable escalation.

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde

Pinecone Sample posted:

Does this type of man exist?

Did she not notice these things before she married him? I haven't done a lot of dating but I like think that would be the kind of thing I'd notice.

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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Smirking_Serpent posted:

I (F35) feel uncomfortable with the very specific porn my boyfriend (M39) watches. Am I overthinking? Should I confront him?
Christ. Porn is porn and all and there's certain things that could just be 'combining a kink with what I find physically attractive in women' but, uh, that's not what's going on there. IDK why people actively cultivate certain stuff in their minds/habits.

Ugly In The Morning
Jul 1, 2010
Pillbug

Shbobdb posted:

Even without that, 9 months is not an insubstantial commitment especially during prime loving/drinking/partying years. To say nothing of the physical changes pregnancy brings. Shutting that conversation down in harsh and extremely uncertain terms is totally fair. Diplomatic is always better but if this couple is even a little bull headed it's not an unreasonable escalation.

Ignoring the drinking/loving/partying, how can you start a relationship with someone while doing the surrogate thing? “Hey; you’re great and we just met, can you deal with me while I put you through a crazy hormonal wringer for a kid that neither of us will have anything to do with?”

Or taking time off a job. You can pay them for taking time off, but you’re asking them to not work towards a job that can do better for them.

If you go to someone expecting them to be a surrogate and get annoyed they won’t do it you’re loving nuts.

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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PetraCore posted:

Christ. Porn is porn and all and there's certain things that could just be 'combining a kink with what I find physically attractive in women' but, uh, that's not what's going on there. IDK why people actively cultivate certain stuff in their minds/habits.
Which is to say, if you're fixated on a certain race that can be problematic and fetishizing, but that's on a completely different level than actively fetishizing racial degeneration. And there's a lot of, like, powerplay or bondage stuff that isn't getting into the hardcore stuff she's describing. Plus from everything I've heard porn like that tends to actually be terrible for the actresses involved, which adds a completely new layer of disgust to this whole thing.

Puppy Time
Mar 1, 2005


Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:

You should feel uncomfortable. You should leave your racist boyfriend. The idea that all forms of porn and sex are OK and you're not allowed to judge is bullshit propaganda peddled by sex weirds and closet head cases. Get oooout.

I feel like there's room for hosed up porn/sex, since hosed up people still gotta get off once in a while, but I'll say that this particular brand of hosed up porn combined with this particular situation is most likely a weird red flag.

At the very least, girl is gonna spend the entire relationship waiting for this guy to bust out slurs and choke her out of nowhere, so it's probably time to cut and run.

Anne Whateley
Feb 11, 2007
:unsmith: i like nice words

Khanstant posted:

This one is just sad. Does anybody have a husband who isn't an inconsiderate rear end in a top hat annoyed at having to exist near or interact me, do such mans exist?
Strongly recommend dating women

Also strongly recommend :murder: for the crazed racist

Shbobdb
Dec 16, 2010

by Reene
I feel like the whole "am I a fetish" thing is just people hating on themselves. Really attractive people dont ask themselves that question. So what if they are into you because of things that are clearly part of your physical reality?

Oh no, what if they think I am too attractive?

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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Shbobdb posted:

I feel like the whole "am I a fetish" thing is just people hating on themselves. Really attractive people dont ask themselves that question. So what if they are into you because of things that are clearly part of your physical reality?

Oh no, what if they think I am too attractive?
Okay but the actual context of it wasn't 'my boyfriend has only dated black women, am I a fetish' but 'my boyfriend watches hardcore racial degradation porn', which is a bit of a different thing. Like, that's making it weird in a way it wouldn't otherwise be.

Anne Whateley
Feb 11, 2007
:unsmith: i like nice words
Also, attractive people do definitely ask themselves that. I was/am friends with a bunch of models, acrobats, etc., and for their okcupid or bumble pics, many of them specifically choose photos that are less flattering, no makeup, or aren't super clear about their silhouette or muscles. That's because they want an actual relationship based on compatibility, not a thousand screaming fuckboys.

MarcusSA
Sep 23, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Would it be a bad idea for me [18M] to sleep around with my coworker [54F]?



You know what? gently caress it and YOLO my friend. Its always a terrible idea to mess around with people at work but he is 18 and he will learn an very important lesson early on so he hopefully won't make that same mistake twice.

New Coke
Nov 28, 2009

WILL AMOUNT TO NOTHING IN LIFE.

MarcusSA posted:

You know what? gently caress it and YOLO my friend. Its always a terrible idea to mess around with people at work but he is 18 and he will learn an very important lesson early on so he hopefully won't make that same mistake twice.

I wouldn't say 'always,' per se. I would say 'almost always', and also 'everyone thinks they're the exception when they're not.' However, the place is closing down right away, and given that he's 18 it's probably not a job that means all that much to him anyway, so whatever, I guess. Her being literally thrice his age on the other hand, uh...

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MarcusSA
Sep 23, 2007

New Coke posted:

Her being literally thrice his age on the other hand, uh...

Yeah I saw that. I dunno his writing style makes it seem like he isn't a complete dumbass so it might be a learning experience for him.

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