Giant_Pupils posted:

This post was from January. The previous one you replied to was from November of 2018. Are you feeling ok?

Giant_Pupils posted:

This post was from January. The previous one you replied to was from November of 2018. Are you feeling ok?

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So: my fiancé is really into anime. I'm not THAT into it- I guess I like it but I enjoy it on a more mainstream level. He is so into anime that he actually pretended to be an anime character for an entire year when he was 11 (obviously he's 30 now so he's not doing that lol.) But long story short, he got me into it and now it's something we both enjoy.

We both want a themed wedding but we couldn't decide on the theme (his idea, anime. My idea, Harry Potter.) We did a coin toss and anime won. Fair enough!

Now, as an aside, my parents are paying. But they always told me that their only concern was cost (had to be under $18K) but other than that, we can do whatever we want at the wedding.

They seemed to flinch on this when they discovered the anime theme. It's not excessive (I don't think.) My dress is anime cosplay but it's going to be white. My fiancé wants to Naruto run down the aisle, and he's encouraging the entire wedding party to do it. The groomsmen will be wearing custom-made suits with anime characters printed on them. The wedding ceremony will be in Japanese. There will also be an hour-long anime showing outside on a projector, which I think is kind of sweet. To be clear, NONE of this is hentai.

I don't see anything wrong with it (yeah, it's a bit weird if you don't like anime, but plenty of weddings don't cater to every single person.) But my parents are saying this is "too much" and they won't pay for the wedding unless I tone down the anime stuff. They said they would have been fine with Harry Potter. One concern is that my fiancé is white (as am I) so they're worried this could be crossing some cultural lines. They've also told me that I will look back and cringe at this and they mostly just want to protect me from the embarrassment. But I'm 31, I think I know at this point in my life what's embarrassing.

We can't afford to pay, so if we don't do the anime wedding, we have two options: elope (hard to involve anime in any major way, and my fiancé hates the idea) or have a "Normal" harry potter wedding without any anime references. AITA for wanting my parents to uphold their side of the bargain?

Giant_Pupils posted:

This post was from January. The previous one you replied to was from November of 2018. Are you feeling ok?

Hobo Clown posted:

AITA for wanting a Anime themed wedding

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My 15-year-old daughter started high school last year at a really great charter school. Due to extreme social anxiety and selective mutism, she has struggled in school since first grade, but I hoped that the smaller classes and really great teachers would motivate her to do better in high school. She has always barely passed her classes, even with tons of help and tutoring. Unfortunately, this school only offers As, Bs, or Fs. If you get a 79 or below in a class, it’s an F and you have to retake the class. Out of 40 credits possible during freshman year, she only got 22. And now she is at 7 out of 10 credits so far this year, and this is with daily tutoring from the teachers!

For what it’s worth, she demonstrates she knows the material during tutoring. The classes she struggles in each year are always different subjects, so I don’t feel like her problem is, for example, that she just doesn’t understand math and needs more help there.
My issue is: Do I keep her in this school? Even though she has no friends, she does like the school and the teachers and says she is fine with staying there, partly because I think she knows she would be eaten alive in public school. (Her public middle school was awful, with lots of overall violence and bullying, and we do not live in a good high school district.) But watching her struggle is killing me, and at the rate she is going, she will be in high school for seven years.

I get regular emails from her teachers when she does an awful job on presentations, and I always explain that yes, she has always been like this. Yes, she has a psychiatrist (we’ve tried numerous psychologists, and even hypnotherapy, to no avail). Yes, we have tried many anxiety medications. And no, there aren’t any problems at home. She is actually a delight at home—she is so funny, talkative, creative, witty, and well-behaved and, outside of grades, I have never had any problems with her.

Obviously, I constantly worry that she will never graduate and never get into college and never be able to hold a job because of her level of social anxiety, but right now I’m just trying to look at the small picture: How do we get through this next term? How do I get her to take school seriously? She has no learning disabilities—she will be the first one to say that she is lazy, and it’s hard to stay focused because she finds school boring. I just don’t know if I’m doing more harm than good by keeping her in this school. I feel like if I allow her to go to a regular school with a normal grading system, it’s basically telling her that it is acceptable to get Cs and Ds, and she isn’t smart enough to get good grades. Suggestions?

Hobo Clown posted:

AITA for wanting a Anime themed wedding

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

They're doing just fine and are trying to catch up on the thread, which you'll get to know all about sometime at the end of 2020.

Hobo Clown posted:

AITA for wanting a Anime themed wedding

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obviously he's 30 now so he's not doing that lol.

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I think I know at this point in my life what's embarrassing.

Hobo Clown posted:

AITA for wanting a Anime themed wedding

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

Dear Care and Feeding,


this parent’s description of their daughter is so incredibly ungenerous and disdainful that the daughter 100% knows they feel that way. what an enormous loving rear end in a top hat

Cognac McCarthy posted:

Hobo Clown posted:

Of course we're not showing hentai at the wedding! What kind of weirdos do you think we are?

Dazerbeams posted:

A quick google search reveals that anime themed weddings are real and have already happened several times over.

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I have asthma. I experience mild episodes on occasion, but I usually treat it by either giving my inhaler a decent blowjob or just calming the gently caress down and waiting until it passes. Today was no different. I thought.

The parents were out and I had the whole house to myself. So, I did what any virgin my age would do. I stripped down and unleashed my inner freak. All of a sudden I was wearing nothing but my mom's apron while humping one of the reject teddy bears my old man tossed in the attic. As ashamed as I am to admit it, it was wonderful - the feeling of soft fur against the genitals. My penis left me no choice but to gently caress the stuffing out of teddy's cotton rear end.

The point of no return was fast approaching, but at the same time, so was the undeniable feeling of an asthma attack. I had two options to consider, orgasm or oxygen. I know you're probably thinking there was nothing to even think about in this situation, and you're absolutely right. But I wasn't really thinking with the head that mattered. I continued humping in spite of my lungs practically pleading with me to grab my inhaler. My stupid brain convinced me it's just another mild asthma attack, same as all the others I've had in my life, nothing to loving cockblock myself over. So, I chose orgasm over oxygen.

That was the last choice I made before losing consciousness. I woke up to my dad feeding me oxygen through a nebulizer. My mom was yelling over the phone in a panic. When I finally managed sit up, I noticed it wasn't just my parents in the room, but also my grandparents. All of them looked relieved to see me conscious and breathing again. It would've been a touching moment, if not for the fact that I was still completely nude underneath my mom's apron, while getting sniff attacked by my dog, Donut, and not to mention the reject teddy bear covered in penis juice.

I'm currently at the hospital. Got a check up and a proper reprimand from my doctor for gambling with my life. My parents signed me up to attend a weekly group meeting for asthma sufferers. And last but not least, my dog now knows the scent of my balls.

TL;DR Ran out of breath bear humping.

Hobo Clown posted:

AITA for wanting a Anime themed wedding

Dazerbeams posted:

A quick google search reveals that anime themed weddings are real and have already happened several times over.

Kuros posted:

Probably a poo poo post but....

TIFU my lungs

Hobo Clown posted:

AITA for wanting a Anime themed wedding

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Bf and I have been together for 3 years and are considering getting married in the next couple years. Everything is great, except for what feels like an impasse in our living situation. We want to move in together. I’m living with my parents while I save up to move out, and he was grandfathered into the lease of the apartment he grew up in.

It’s a two bedroom with a garage, for just over 1K a month. It’s a gem for NYC. It’s understandable that he feels strongly that we should keep that apartment and move in. It is sentimental and the place sounds ideal because of how much we’ll save, square footage, relatively safe neighborhood...

But realistically, I don’t want to move there for a number of reasons: It’s an older building with

-Poor air circulation. Unless the windows are open, it feels suffocating, and anytime one of us cooks, it feels hot and stuffy.

-Thin walls/floors and horrid neighbors. If our upstairs neighbors wanted, they could eavesdrop at any point. I can hear when they’re home or not, and on top of that, they’re petty and intentionally stomp, allow their kids to jump around, or drop things to annoy us at all hours. (whole different story)

-Temperamental water controls. The shower water can go from comfortable to scalding with no warning. I regularly get burned attempting to turn the hot water knob down.

-Ambient noise level. it’s on the second floor. which means if the windows are open (because they need to be, otherwise it feels suffocating) you can hear all passing conversations and traffic sounds.

Old heating system. Heat is supplied through radiators that bang, clang, and bubble/hiss at unpredictable times whenever the heat comes on. It makes enough noise to drown out a conversation and incidentally, the heat comes on at night. At bedtime.

I’ve reached the point that I dread coming over because I know what’s coming. I prefer quality over quantity. I’m more willing to pay $1600 for a 1 bedroom in a newer building than $1000 for a 2 bedroom with so many cons. He feels these inconveniences are minor and not deal breakers.

I don’t want to move there, and he doesn’t want to leave. How do we deal with this? The solutions I can think of: we get married and live apart (not happening but still an option), he relents and moves somewhere else with me and loses what he feels is a literal gold mine, I give in and regret moving there and it puts a strain on the relationship until we move again, or we postpone moving in until we can both afford a nicer neighborhood.

TL;DR BF wants me to move in with him into his childhood apt, which is a $1000 for a 2 BR + garage. I would rather pay $1600 for a 1 BR apt + no garage due to the cons.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not demanding my son apologize to his mom after he called her a whore?

Long story short, a few years ago my now ex-wife was cheating and my son caught them in the act. He told me and I’m now divorced with his mom. She’s with the other guy now. My son is 19 now and is in college

I know he has lost all respect and affection for his mom since then, but he’s tried his best to maintain a relationship I guess. I don’t really know much since we don’t talk about her when we spend time together. I’ve neither encouraged nor discouraged him to repair his relationship with his mother. In my opinion, he’s an adult and it’s his decision to make. I couldn’t care less either way since I have a great relationship with my son and that’s all that matters to me

Anyway, I get a call from my ex in tears yesterday that my son was very disrespectful to her. Apparently they got into an argument and he told her “The only difference between you and a whore is that a whore actually gets paid”. She threw a tantrum and starts accusing me of poisoning him against her and demanding he apologizes to her. I simply told her I’ll talk to him and hung up.

I talked to my son and his exact words were he “was sick of her hypocrisy and being morally lectured by an adulteress”. I told him that his mom called him and expects and apology. He said there’s no way he’ll apologize to her and if I’ll force him to do so. I told him that I’ll do no such thing since it’s not my responsibility to make sure he gets along with his mother and it’s his decision. He was very grateful

I suppose I could put my foot down and force him to apologize to his mother but then again it wouldn’t be a sincere apology anyway. Why should I potentially damage my relationship with my son for a person that cheated on me anyway ?

teen witch posted:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OqwKfgLaeA

Except it’s father and son tenderly sharing MRA talking points.

cheaters yeeesh no thanks but this has a particular stank on it.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

Dear Care and Feeding,
Due to extreme social anxiety and selective mutism, she has struggled in school since first grade

She has no learning disabilities—she will be the first one to say that she is lazy, and it’s hard to stay focused because she finds school boring.

teen witch posted:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OqwKfgLaeA

Except it’s father and son tenderly sharing MRA talking points.

cheaters yeeesh no thanks but this has a particular stank on it.