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QuarkJets posted:If you don't want to be treated like a bootlicker then don't act like one 
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chemtrail huffer posted:AITA for calling the police on my dad for his "jokes" about what he'd do to any boy who dates his daughter? Haha, this girl is badass!!
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Motronic posted:My (23F) bf (30M) doesn't want to move out of his childhood home. How do we move forward? Relationships $1,000/mo. for a 2 BR with a garage in NYC?!? You have to stay there until you die. You have no other choice.
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Nov 24, 2019 01:36
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PostNouveau posted:$1,000/mo. for a 2 BR with a garage in NYC?!? extreme truth
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Nov 24, 2019 01:43
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AITA for marrying a man who is technically , my stepbrother , and as a result , hurting our parents?quote:Okay. So my fiance and I have a bit of a weird history together. We first met as family friends. Then our parents had an affair and destroyed two families to create their own " perfect " blended family.
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Nov 24, 2019 01:50
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:This isn't the exact article I was looking for, but it's close enough: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10371397.2017.1297183 but no, there's plenty of academics who now see whiteness as a class distinction, instead of race. Some racists have also made this distinction. Huh. Well, I'm breaking my promise that that was the last post I'd make on the subject, and I still tend not to agree with this point of view, but a) I stand corrected in that there are actually people making that argument, and b) that was a pretty interesting read, thanks for posting.
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Nov 24, 2019 02:05
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:so, every small business owner Don't do this poo poo. No. No it's not. I worked for a guy and his son in construction when I was in my early 20s. Along with a few other people my age. They treated us like gold. Taught us their trade, paid us more than fairly. This is not a unique experience. sephiRoth IRA posted:or the rear end in a top hat who goes around demanding to know what other people are paid and then starting office drama? Was he an rear end in a top hat about it? Or are you suggesting that he's an rear end in a top hat simply because he did this, bootlicker? PostNouveau posted:$1,000/mo. for a 2 BR with a garage in NYC?!? I'm glad someone else understood the context here.
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for marrying a man who is technically , my stepbrother , and as a result , hurting our parents? Their stepmom and father are trash people, and people who agree with them are also trash people. They should stop talking to them, and not dealing with their trash. Why keep people around who just make you feel bad, how does that help anyone?
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Nov 24, 2019 02:21
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for not hiding pagan iconography during thanksgiving? Do not hide your art of the biggus dickus. If your parents are unable to withstand the erotic energies emanating off the object then they simply have no reason to be independent. Petition for them to be made wards of the state.
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Nov 24, 2019 03:01
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Motronic posted:Don't do this poo poo. No. No it's not. #NotAllSmallBusinessOwners
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Nov 24, 2019 03:02
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Small business is an environment that's very susceptible to control-obsessed bosses, ignorance (willful or otherwise) of legal issues, and a small staff that doesn't know any better and doesn't have the support to learn better. But it doesn't mandate such things. It's the issue of proportions. If you've got one boss and a staff of four it's very easy to have 100% of management or half of your coworkers be problem people. Big business can still (very easily) have dysfunctional departments and institutionalized problems but it also has people employed solely to keep anything that blows up from taking the company with it. A SBO has nobody telling them not to mouth off on Reddit about how their employee doesn't deserve to be treated like a human being.
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Nov 24, 2019 03:11
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And of course the opposite can happen, where a legit good person owns a business and treats employees well. It happens probably as often as good working groups in a corporation That said the vast majority of managers and businesses owners are unrepentant shitheads
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QuarkJets posted:And of course the opposite can happen, where a legit good person owns a business and treats employees well. It happens probably as often as good working groups in a corporation
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QuarkJets posted:And of course the opposite can happen, where a legit good person owns a business and treats employees well. It happens probably as often as good working groups in a corporation i contest this point, the people who can deal with the bullshit in managing a small business means they're broken in ways that people who can operate in a larger office aren't. think of it this way: you'd expect the postdoc and graduate students at a more prestegious university to be as equally crazy as comparable populations at a smaller school, right? Except the people drawn to prestige are power hungry assholes, and the people who choose smaller schools just lack the connections and competitive spirit to make it in the ivy league. New Coke posted:Huh. Well, I'm breaking my promise that that was the last post I'd make on the subject, and I still tend not to agree with this point of view, but a) I stand corrected in that there are actually people making that argument, and b) that was a pretty interesting read, thanks for posting. interestingly enough, the idea that White = white = top poo poo of the global kingdom is a holdover from colonial ideology, when it was truer than it is now. in the post-colonial era, the global south's revolutions for independence managed to only replace the ruling British elite with home-grown billionaires. They're politically independent (to an extent) but almost entirely financially dependent upon the fiscal largresse of former colonial powers. If anything, in the first world, White as a class signifier mostly serves to keep working class white folk disinterested in unifying across racial lines, to trick us into thinking we've got anything in common with the billionaires who own our labor. This is a question for white folks in the thread: If you weren't White, what would you be? PHIZ KALIFA fucked around with this message at 04:04 on Nov 24, 2019 |
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Nov 24, 2019 03:54
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:i contest this point, the people who can deal with the bullshit in managing a small business means they're broken in ways that people who can operate in a larger office aren't. I have four employees. One of those employees is paid to make it so I never have to deal with the bullshit. It’s great. The behemoth company I work for outside of that has waaay more small-group bullshit.
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Nov 24, 2019 04:17
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AITA for making a comment about “bad sex” to a girl who is waiting until marriage for sex? One of my sister’s good friends from college is getting married in March and asked her to be a bridesmaid. They are 24 years old. Let’s call this girl Ashley. I’ve met Ashley a few times. She’s a nice girl but she’s is just too perky and talkative for me and is always telling everybody her business whether we care or not. Due to her talkative nature I’ve known that she’s a virgin and is waiting until she’s married to have sex. She’s also anti porn and is afraid of birth control but that’s besides the point. So, Ashley was over at our house because my sister volunteered our house for the bridesmaids to meet up. Ashley was talking about being nervous to see her fiancé naked and to have sex for the first time and was asking for advice on how to prepare from the bridesmaids who have had sex before (This was 3 of them-my sister and two other girls - the other 4 were virgins as well) I was just chilling and made a passing comment about how I’m glad that I didn’t marry the first person I had sex with because despite being a nice guy he was awful in bed.) Ashley glared at me and said, “Can you please leave, I don’t need negative energy around my marriage.” The other girls laughed like it was a joke and I thought maybe it was. Ashley didn't talk to me for the rest of the night, but my sister tells me later that Ashley is furious at me for making my comment and that I was banned from any future wedding events and uninvited from the wedding. (Ashley hasn’t even sent out the invitations yet) and that I should apologize to her. AITA here, honestly? I wasn’t saying she would have an awful sex life....I was just talking about myself.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for making a comment about “bad sex” to a girl who is waiting until marriage for sex? This relationship is toast.  and move on. Although . . . There may be a way to have your revenge for her slight. Apologize to Ashley. Get in her good graces. Ensure you are in the bridal party. This is critical. Next, open Tinder. Get 4 others to agree to gently caress you. Now, here's the important bit: You must selfishly gently caress in a pentagram. By loving in a pentagram, you will channel your sexual energies into a beam of pure self-love. This energy will be directed towards her fiance and result in him ignoring her needs for the rest of their marriage, ensuring their divorce. After this, the hex will naturally dissipate and Ashley's erstwhile husband will revert back to his sexually-caring self and proceed to gently caress like champion and leave every partner beyond satisfied. News of these stories will reach Ashley and she will think that it wasn't him, it was her, and so your vengeance will be complete.
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Nov 24, 2019 05:17
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Admiral Ray posted:This relationship is toast. This is too much effort. That marriage is toast without any extra help needed from OP.
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Nov 24, 2019 05:30
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Dazerbeams posted:This is too much effort. That marriage is toast without any extra help needed from OP. My nemeses will die no matter what but I can still be the cause.
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Nov 24, 2019 05:38
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:i loving love when malicious idiot bosses provide negative references, because it shows they either don't know or don't care about the laws saying you can get sued for that poo poo.
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Nov 24, 2019 06:14
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AITA for wanting to take my kid to Frozen 2? My kid is 4. Loves Frozen. We bought tickets as soon as they were available for Kid, myself and my wife for Wednesday. Yesterday my mother in law called. Asked if Kid was available Saturday afternoon. Yes - what do you have in mind? “We want to take her to Frozen.” I explained that we had tickets already. “Well would she mind going twice?” Ugh. Then I suggested we all go together but she said no, she wanted to do something 1-on-1. She often talks about how it’s a different dynamic when Mom and Dad are around vs. just with grandparents. Here are my issues. 1) it’s selfish but I want to be there when she sees a new Frozen movie on the big screen. 2) She gets scared at some movies. Toy Story 4 was fine. Wreck it Ralph 2 was fine until the very end when she got really scared. Frozen might have more action than Toy Story. If she freaks out, we’re more likely to be able to soothe her. 3) if she does get scared she won’t want to go with us the 2nd time then we’ve wasted tickets. So I said no. Am I being too selfish?
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:i contest this point, the people who can deal with the bullshit in managing a small business means they're broken in ways that people who can operate in a larger office aren't. I don't think that prestige has much to do with size, in either the business or academic worlds E: like a corporate executive vs a small business owner, yes, the former is probably more prestigious. But office managers, nah, doesn't matter QuarkJets fucked around with this message at 06:24 on Nov 24, 2019 |
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A small business has no economies of scale, which means to be successful you have to either screw over your employees or your customers (most do both), so the only way you can be a good and successful small business is to have your customers be people worth screwing over (rich people or larger businesses).
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for wanting to take my kid to Frozen 2? Every time I think I've seen the least important problem in the world posted here it gets topped within a day.
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:A small business has no economies of scale, which means to be successful you have to either screw over your employees or your customers (most do both), so the only way you can be a good and successful small business is to have your customers be people worth screwing over (rich people or larger businesses). I absolutely charge the hell out of my larger clients, it’s great. My employees all see a good chunk of that money, I see a good chunk of that money, the billion dollar company doesn’t even notice how expensive it is.
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Soysaucebeast posted:Eh it depends. I could never feel them while walking around, but unless I sat down juuuuust right, I felt it poking me in the cervix every single time. I never tried diva cups but I imagine they'd be better since they're flexible rubber. Pads were just the most comfortable for daily use. Thankfully I'm on medication now that's stopped my periods completely for the past four years or so. I'm not saying pads are terrible, or that diva cups wouldn't have been a perfect swim option (I have never used one but I can't see why it wouldn't be), more that given all words about periods in that post if she had anything against other methods other than its inside of her they were noticeably absent. In retrospect she probably has the tampon = whore opinion from weird mom poo poo as was suggested earlier. also good job on the chick calling the cops, gently caress that pseudodad
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for wanting to take my kid to Frozen 2? Well it was a loving terrible movie so you didn’t miss much.
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AITA for dissolving friendships over a lie that could have cost me my job? I have one rule - don't lie to me. My friend had a lovely boss and he quit his job one day without a backup plan. He had a few weeks vacation pay, so he figured he'd be able to find something else easily. He couldn't. I had just started a new job where they needed some help in an area my friend was interested in. I pushed a little bit, despite it being a new job, and my friend got hired, but not for the role we intended. But at least it was a job. He was getting a steady paycheck and could breathe again. We made him feel welcome, everyone was super friendly, and he seemed to be fitting in without issue. He was training in a department that desperately needed him in the weeks before things get crazy for the holidays, and I made him understand that no matter what, no matter how hard the job was or how much he hated it, he absolutely couldn't quit before the holiday rush was over. These people, our coworkers, needed his help and they would not have time to train anyone else. The bonus for me was that he had some working knowledge of what I do, and would be able to assist me with my job in his spare time before the rush happened. I could also breathe again. He came to work for 2 weeks before quitting, unceremoniously, without notice. Via email. I was and remain livid. He got an opportunity to make more money at a job in a role he wanted, so okay, great, good for him. I'd love to be happy for him because he really wanted this job, and has wanted to work at that company for years. Except he was interviewing for this other job without mentioning it to me. Isn't it a big deal when you score an interview at a company you've wanted to work at for years? Wouldn't this be something you'd mention to someone you considered a friend? So he quit and didn't even have the courage to say a word to me about it in person. He didn't give me any time to prepare. He just sent a text and said he's sorry, but this opportunity came up, oh well, he won't be back. Our mutual friend spent an entire day arguing with me about it. I'm wrong, apparently, for being furious about this. There is no sympathy for me, the person left dealing with the fallout. The person who got poo poo from their coworkers, people in other departments, the loving boss... I am the person who has to watch their coworkers deal with the rush daily, without help, because they now have to spend time searching for new applicants, find time to interview... not to mention the 12 and 13 hour days I'm working without help. I'm wrong for being furious that a so-called friend would do this to me. I'm wrong for being furious that I could have lost my job after pushing to get him hired and vouching for him. I've decided these people aren't my friends. I got a couple of texts randomly from our mutual friend and it always turns into an argument, because I should just accept what happened and go on with life despite feeling totally betrayed by my so-called friend. Am I the rear end in a top hat?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for dissolving friendships over a lie that could have cost me my job? <pedant>That's not a lie, it's a lovely friend.</pedant>
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NTA. Your 'friend' took advantage of your help and then hung you out to dry; gently caress them and gently caress anyone who defends that behavior.
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AITA for excluding my daughter from our "father-son bonding trip" with my sons? (46/M) went on a trip with my sons (17/M,18/M) last weekend. My daughter (15/F) and my wife stayed at home. My daughter wanted to come but I told her she couldn't since this was a bonding activity for me and my sons. She got very angry and called me sexist and told me she hated me and that I was a bad father. She told me that my father-som bonding moments ar bullshit and that it isn't fair that she doesn't get to come. (She is kinda oversensitive to "sexism", for example, if I don't let her do certain things (like going to the mall, arriving home late, getting a motorcycle) e always angrily asks if I would let her do it if she was born male, and she frequently accuses me of favoring my sons because of their gender She kept on trying to convince me until we left. When we arrived home she didn't greet us and didn't say hi to us. She is sulking when I am at home (my wife says she doesn't do this when I am not). She is sometimes mean to her brothers and resents them. She says thing likes she hopes they had a bad time. She only talks to me when it is absolutely necessary or when she makes a comment(About this situation). When we talk about the trip, she gets mad and tells us that she doesn't want to hear what she was excluded from. Her mother also thinks she is being unreasonable. We did things I knew she wouldn't enjoy and I feel like she only does this because she wants to be the victim and be angry about something". Our relationship was already bad. AITA or is she overreacting?
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Not giving the boss notice is fine but screwing over your mate like that after they did you a solid is messed up.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for excluding my daughter from our "father-son bonding trip" with my sons? What I am not hearing here is anything about father-daughter bonding time doing the same sorts of activities, so yes, you are the rear end in a top hat. Also LOL that you didn't even try and make a halfhearted defense of yourself on the charge of sexism. You must think that's OK.
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for revealing to a prospective employer of my former employee that he shares pay information with coworkers, possibly costing him a job? gently caress this whiny abusive rear end in a top hat. It's technically legal for an employer to give a bad reference, but it's blatant defamation to spread irrelevant information out of spite to ruin a former employee's career. Like, he can totally say "Adam was fired for stealing cash from me" if that were true but "Adam told other employees about how much I pay each worker" is clearly spiteful bullshit. I hope he sues the heck out of this dumbfuck.
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AITA for banning everyone who critiques our parenting from meeting our son? quote:My wife has minor anxiety and ocd. She has been on meds for a long time, but had to go off them when she got pregnant. None of the pregnancy safe meds worked for her. Pregnancy was really tough for her, she spent a lot of time reading about what foods and activities and such could harm a fetus, and she was basically paralyzed by fear that she was hurting our son whenever she did anything. It was really rough for her and she hated being pregnant. She had a mental breakdown and confessed to me that she didn’t want to breastfeed, she was feeling violated by the pregnancy and wanted her body back and to go back on her meds, but she was worried that our son would be terribly harmed if she didn’t. I talked her out of breastfeeding because the pros were far outweighed by the cons and she clearly didn’t want to do it. Good husband and dad looking out for his wife. Extremely lovely family. People are just so obsessed with correcting every little detail about mothering!
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PostNouveau posted:$1,000/mo. for a 2 BR with a garage in NYC?!? Gonna disagree here. I lived in a place with a crazy cheap rent - not in NYC - for a few years, and you can get to a point where you think: "I'll absolutely pay 50% more for a place where I can get a good night's sleep, it's safer, the appliances and utilities work, it's been painted sometime this century ..." There's a reason that place is so cheap.
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nonathlon posted:Gonna disagree here. I lived in a place with a crazy cheap rent - not in NYC Gotta stop you right here.
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