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AITA for telling my dad "I don't owe you anything" and not letting him meet his grandchild? He was there pretty constantly for the first 10 or so years of my life, but then he left mum and me for his coworker. I saw him at birthdays and Christmas, and he paid child support, and got me a phone with his phone number, but that was it for his involvement after that. Mum was neglectful and I begged dad to let me live with him. He always said he didn't have room for me. He and the coworker had 2 kids of their own after a few years. I've tried to reconnect with him over the years but it's never clicked. I felt as though I was trying, but he wasn't. The closest I got was when he asked me if I wanted to babysit my younger half siblings when I was a teenager, but that was spending time with them, not with dad. Having said that we did become close because of it and are friends to this day. Present day I have a wife, and 3 weeks ago I gave birth to our first child. I mostly cut contact with both parents when I turned 18 but the actual last contact I had with my mother was my wedding day, and due to her actions on the day we haven't spoken since. I invited my father, months in advance, and he said he would "check his calendar and get back to [me]". I sent a text the month before the wedding to follow up and never got a reply. My wife and I agreed to not make any birth announcements until a couple weeks after the baby is born and we're settled. A couple of days ago we posted a picture on facebook to let our friends and family know that the baby was born. I am not connected to my father on facebook, but my settings are on public. I am connected to my half siblings, who liked and shared the post. My father messaged me a few hours ago, essentially wanting to know how I could have a baby without even telling him I was pregnant. I replied saying that as the last contact we had was over 2 years ago I didn't think he would care. He then replied that he had a "right to know" that he was a grandfather and after years of supporting me "you owe me that much", and wanting to know when he could come and meet his grandchild. I responded "I don't owe you anything. Have a nice life." then blocked him. I have no intention of ever speaking to him again, or letting him meet my child. Wife thinks I was right, half sister agrees, but my half brother, who is under 18, messaged me saying dad is raging at him and now he's not sure he'll be able to visit his nephew. I found dad's facebook and he posted a short message saying that for all the excitement that comes with a grandchild, he was saddened that he would never get to experience it, as I have made it clear that I don't want him to be part of it. Most people just left comments expressing sympathy for my father but a few have directly messaged me saying that while we weren't close he was still there for me in some capacity for the majority of my life and the least I could do is let him meet his grandchild. AITA for telling him I don't owe him anything/blocking him/not letting him meet his grandchild?
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Nov 25, 2019 04:08
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my dad "I don't owe you anything" and not letting him meet his grandchild? "When can I see the baby?!" 'Iono lemmie check my calendar'
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Nov 25, 2019 04:17
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I met the duties required of me by the court, you owe me you little poo poo.
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Nov 25, 2019 04:23
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cumshitter posted:I met the duties required of me by the court, you owe me you little poo poo. And I went to your loving birthday party. Good God, no one would buy you a set of ten Lego bricks without some kind of payout
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Nov 25, 2019 04:26
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quote:ESH Look at this rear end in a top hat.
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Nov 25, 2019 04:29
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FilthyImp posted:Lol get hosed dad. And the cats in the cradle and the silver spoon...
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Nov 25, 2019 04:32
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Smirking_Serpent posted:it's weird because you would think that redditors would sympathize with the bully victim, but they love decorum and following the rules wayyyy more Redditors identify more with the fanfiction-writing nerd who accuses women of being sluts
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Nov 25, 2019 04:40
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HazCat posted:I don't have my license. I could have my license - I passed all the tests and got approved for one. That's crazy that you never knew you had a sight impairment. Nuts. Also, do they not do basic eyesight tests where you live when you get your license? (I guess you wouldn't know?) Over here you you peek into what looks like a stereoscopic microscope and they ask you to read the words, like a 20s vision test while getting your license.
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Nov 25, 2019 04:43
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Admiral Ray posted:As expected reddit is falling over themselves saying she's "just as bad as the bully" and "wow u should have told the school" like a bunch of weak willed idiots. The difference between your action and hers is that she did it for the approval of others; you did it for yourself. Her will and self-worth is tied to social approval. You will is self-evident and self-justified. Ignore the baying cowards in their responses for they are attempting to take your victory for themselves. They have no victories of their own and must drag down the great wills of our age to sustain their own negative energies. I love it when the gimmick post is the truest thing that can be said about a situation. Never change Admiral Ray.
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Nov 25, 2019 05:07
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Title: A random man got on our bus on a university trip and we didn't realize until we got to our destination.quote:Canada btw
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Nov 25, 2019 05:33
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my dad "I don't owe you anything" and not letting him meet his grandchild? Please, even for just the sake of the kid, I hope they never talk to this man again. Tell all the people on Facebook to mind their own loving business, or even better, get the gently caress off of Facebook, like every person in the world should.
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Nov 25, 2019 05:50
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A Moose posted:Finally caught up to the thread, but does anyone else think Fat Guy Bald Spot or whatever his name is has a very similar posting style to Guy Mann? Did Sleeveless get banned or something? What? Who ?
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Nov 25, 2019 06:02
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AITA for turning my son into the police? My 16 year old son was catfishing people on the internet for petty cash (10-50 dollars per person.) I couldn’t believe it. I don’t know how I screwed up as a parent this badly to fail to instill in him that this is wrong and morally depraved behavior. I asked why he’d do this to innocent people, mostly elderly people, and he said he needed money to buy things we wouldn’t buy him (video gaming equipment, expensive sneakers, etc.) I told him when he asked for those things to go get a job, but he said it would take too long to save up for those things with a job and this was faster. His excuse was if they’re stupid enough to fall for his scam, they deserve to have their money taken. But he swore he wouldn’t do it again. I didn’t believe him. I couldn’t risk that. I felt I needed him to have a wake up call now when there’s still a chance he’ll turn this behavior and life outlook around. I collected all the evidence of what he’d done and reported him to the police. After I did this, I was devastated, and called a friend to vent and ask where I’d gone wrong in raising him. She was horrified. Not at his behavior but at what I’d done. She said there was no reason I couldn’t have settled the problem within the home and didn’t have to open my son up to the risks of the legal system. Now I’m even more broken up. And I don’t want to put our business out there by running the situation by many other people. Was I the rear end in a top hat?
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Nov 25, 2019 06:06
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Pirate Radar posted:Title: A random man got on our bus on a university trip and we didn't realize until we got to our destination. Imagine spending a weekend and ten hours of driving to go look at offices lmao
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Nov 25, 2019 06:35
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LMAO at this clueless dude getting on the wrong bus and freaking out all these college students. Someone definitely should get in trouble for letting him get on in the first place tho.
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Nov 25, 2019 06:36
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Friend [m/22] feels uncomfortable taking gf’s [f/20] virginity. TL;Drquote:So my friend got into a new relationship. We live in japan. quote:
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Nov 25, 2019 06:49
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MagusofStars posted:Because it’s ~family~, just like so many other stories here. There’s a stunningly large percentage of people who believe that if someone’s a relative, you are obligated to put up with their bullshit no matter how awful of a human being they are. That's gotta go both ways though, why isn't she the one who has to put up with his tattoo?
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Nov 25, 2019 07:00
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Ah. The exquisite agony of Big American Size. The poor girl is doomed to imprint on him like a motherless brace of quail.
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Nov 25, 2019 07:11
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If he has to cover up his big titty tattoo how are those children ever going to learn that women are objects?
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Nov 25, 2019 07:26
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AITA for requesting that my daughter and her partner sleep in separate rooms?quote:Throwaway account. My (56F) daughter (22F) and her partner (20sF) have been an item for just under a year. They will both be staying at the house along with my son (28M) and his fiancee (29F).
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Nov 25, 2019 07:54
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quote:fanfiction bully story How do you send text from a random website to people and convince it is a specific persons doing?
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Nov 25, 2019 08:02
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Lucrece posted:AITA for requesting that my daughter and her partner sleep in separate rooms? Oh come the gently caress on lol.
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Nov 25, 2019 08:05
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Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:Ah. The exquisite agony of Big American Size. The poor girl is doomed to imprint on him like a motherless brace of quail. pops cherries like it's nothing, not caring for the impression it makes
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Nov 25, 2019 08:05
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AITA for visiting my ex in jail against the wishes of my girlfriend? I live with my girlfriend Molly and have done for the past two years. I love her and since we're both financially stable we're thinking of starting a family together. My ex girlfriend Amy is in jail. She worked in finance, pretty high up, already earning great money but got involved in an illegal scheme to make ''easy money''. Everyone involved has been jailed. I heard about this and thought it was a shame, but we haven't been together for four years so I had no reason to reach out to her. That was until I received a letter from her in the post, where she told me that all her family and friends had cut her off, and asking if I could be in contact with her purely as a friend, so she has someone she could talk to on the outside. I agreed and visited her today. Amy's family are upper class types who are obsessed with their ''reputation'' and so cut their ''criminal'' daughter off. Most of her friends are from the same professional circles as her so they don't want to know her either. I'm her only friend outside the prison. She's a complete wreck of a person. When she saw me she broke down in tears as I'm the first person who's ever visited her. Amy doesn't belong in there at all. She's going out of her mind with boredom sitting in her cell. While she has been put on some courses they are far below her capability (she has a degree in mathematics and numerous financial certifications, and they're only offering her very basic skills courses). She has to wear clothes that are usually over/undersized and have been worn by many others before. From what she's said I think she's being bullied in there too. She's said a lot of the other women ''don't like her'' because apparently she comes across as spoiled and snobby. After the visit she hugged me and thanked me for coming, and I said I'd try to come once a month. Molly was OK with me seeing Amy beforehand, but when I got home she said she doesn't feel comfortable. She's said if it was anyone else it would be OK, but the fact I'm going out of my way for my ex frightens her. She asked me if I have feelings for Amy which I don't, but that didn't satisfy her and she said she wouldn't feel happy unless I stopped seeing Amy, which I said I wouldn't. I'm Amy's only friend. Why should I let her sit in that shithole all alone when I can be there just as a friend to help her through it?
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Nov 25, 2019 08:23
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Man the imprisoned by dick series really took a whole new angle on the whole concept for the new season.
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Nov 25, 2019 08:27
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Switch off the wifi when he goes in lol Husband locks bathroom when he takes an hour long shower My husband and I have been married for 7 months now. We only have one bathroom in the house, and when my husband takes a shower at night, he locks the door. It usually doesn't really bother me that much, because I know he just likes some time for himself (with whatever he's doing in there). But occasionally I'll have to use the bathroom to pee, or grab something. However, he will -not- let me in. No matter what. I have to really pee right now, but he said "I told you 30 minutes ago that I was going to take a shower, but you need to pee right now?", to which he closed the door, and I still need to pee. I also wanted to take out my contact lenses because I wanted to go to sleep. Because I know he takes really long showers and I wanted to go to sleep, I knocked on the door to ask if he can let me in so I can grab my contact lens case. He got super mad, saying to leave him alone. I really don't understand why he's being this way. If he wants some alone time with himself, I'm cool, but I hardly ever knock on the door when he's taking a shower. I'm not sure on what to do about this, because it's really bothering me. There have been times where I've almost peed my pants because he wont open the door. How can I communicate to him that I dont mind him having his alone time, but that I would still like to be able to use the toilet when necessary?
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Nov 25, 2019 08:32
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Remind him to make sure he's using something with a flared base for safety.
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Nov 25, 2019 08:36
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Dude is totally going  in there and doesn't want to get caught.
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Nov 25, 2019 08:38
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Gift him industrial strenght lube
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Nov 25, 2019 08:53
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for visiting my ex in jail against the wishes of my girlfriend? I like that "she's bored there and the course material isn't challenging enough" is the reason she doesn't belong in jail
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Nov 25, 2019 09:03
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for visiting my ex in jail against the wishes of my girlfriend? It's such a shame that this woman who white collar crimed hard enough to go to jail isn't getting the education, or the clothes, she needs to reenter society. What shall she do? Like I'm trying to juxtapose this onto my job and I guess if I really wanted to go to prison I could sell clients on a side hustle or just straight up commit identity fraud because I have access to their personal information. It sounds like she hosed up really, really, hard given her education and certifications. Like, there's no way she couldn't have known what she was doing was incredibly illegal.
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Nov 25, 2019 09:04
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He doing bad things in there unholy things
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Nov 25, 2019 09:08
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There's tubgirl, and there's shower dude.
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Nov 25, 2019 09:21
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wedding date has not been set as his fiancee has infidelity issues
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Nov 25, 2019 09:34
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This one goes out to cumshitter Urged into polyamorous relationship with my (25M) wife (30F), she's clearly upset but won't communicate Relationships Apologies for the throwaway, but considering the subject matter it seemed appropriate. Wife (30F) and I (25M) have been together since I was 17, we've been married for 5 years. She is my first everything, I am her second serious relationship. We have definitely had our ups and downs to put it lightly. She's very much type A and I'm more laid back which by itself caused some trouble in the beginning, but we've grown together to be more mature and now solve most problems together extremely well. She is straight, and I am bisexual (this is important later). About three years ago my wife had a mental breakdown, brought on by many factors including her stressful work environment, anxiety, and fear of missing out. She came to the conclusion that while she still loved me, she felt that her twenties were being robbed from her as she could see her friends still partying and dating around. I could not have guessed she felt this way about our relationship because I had always been happy to have settled down early on with her and take steps towards building a family. The following year was hard for the both of us, and finally she gave me an ultimatum that either we have a polyamorous relationship so that she could experience "normal young adult life" or she would walk away. I always considered myself strictly monogamous and was distraught at first, but I love this woman with all my life and couldn't imagine ever letting her go. When I finally agreed she was ecstatic and immediately sent me a list of articles on ethical poly relationships as well as her ground rules (no past crushes, be honest, use protection). My original plan was to just convince myself that as long as she came home to me at the end of the day it would all be worth it, and that I would not participate in any relationships outside of her. But as I did my own research into poly relationships I started thinking that my wife was right and this could be an opportunity to try dating other people so that later on at least I wouldn't feel like I actually had missed out on some big life experience. Eventually I took the plunge and six months ago I started dating my current boyfriend (24M), the only partner I have/ever had outside my wife. He is fully aware of me and my wife's situation, is very friendly and respectful to her when we all hang out, and as much as I still love my wife to death I really love his company as well and always find myself looking forward to spending time with him. I am genuinely happy that I met him and he's motivated me to drop a few bad habits and better myself as well. I understand that this may not be a relationship model that suits everyone, but I am glad I gave myself the chance to look into it. The issue is that, over time, I've noticed that my wife has been growing increasingly passive aggressive about my relationship with my boyfriend. At first she seemed incredibly supportive, since she had felt bad that I wasn't putting myself out there more, and was especially excited that I got to explore my sexuality. Now when she mentions my boyfriend it's always in a snide or condescending tone (although she also denies this), and has also grown worryingly protective and possessive of me. For example while she rarely texted me before, now she will text me pretty much constantly and will become anxious and upset if I don't reply quickly enough. I also have to reassure her for multiple hours before and after I spend time with my boyfriend because she is worried that I might realize I prefer men and will leave her because she is a woman. Of course I've tried to talk to her about this, but no matter what approach I use she will either insist that nothing is wrong and I'm reading too deep into things or she will become angry and accuse me of being condescending. I've asked if she wants to go back to being monogamous, wants to have a purely physical open relationship, needs to redefine the ground rules, or simply doesn't like my boyfriend. She's denied every single suggestion. I haven't brought it up in a month because she will immediately shut any discussion about our relationship down and insist everything is going fantastic, but it is growing more and more obvious that she's deeply upset to the point where my boyfriend has started feeling too uncomfortable around her to hang out as a group anymore. Is there any way to convince her to have an honest discussion about her feelings without her becoming defensive or shutting it down? And why won't she talk to me if she is clearly upset? tl;dr wife wanted a poly relationship, I was reluctant but eventually came around, I currently have a boyfriend, wife is now very obviously upset but won't communicate at all, how do I approach this situation? quote:Does she have any other lovers besides you? quote:She had a fling at the beginning of the poly relationship, but currently no.  But wait! There's more quote:I was a high school junior and she was in college, she was my and my friend's tutor for a school subject. There was pretty much instant chemistry between us and even though we started dating when I was 17 we waited until I was 18 to become physical. Power Khan fucked around with this message at 09:46 on Nov 25, 2019 |
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Nov 25, 2019 09:44
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rodbeard posted:If he has to cover up his big titty tattoo how are those children ever going to learn that women are objects? Oh don't worry, there's plenty of ways to continue to learn that lesson.
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Nov 25, 2019 09:53
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rodbeard posted:If he has to cover up his big titty tattoo how are those children ever going to learn that women are objects? Should have gotten a matching tattoo of a male pinup on his other arm
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Fartbox posted:How do you send text from a random website to people and convince it is a specific persons doing? The OP said that the fanfiction was specifically about the girl who wrote them sleeping with celebrities in graphic detail, so I assume it was pretty obvious.
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Nov 25, 2019 10:16
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not being more sympathetic towards my husband? Kill your husband.
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Fartbox posted:How do you send text from a random website to people and convince it is a specific persons doing? That's good enough for the FBI, apparently, so why not high schoolers?
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