lol if you posted:

just plain old wiki. but it cites this study:

https://www.thefreelibrary.com/Brown+recluse+spider+bites+to+the+head%3A+three+cases+and+a+review-a0124261634

Dazerbeams posted:

Women of all backgrounds are capable of violence.

Dienes posted:

AITA For Refusing To Hang Up A Sign My Grandmother-In-Law Bought For Our House?


Its a disrespectful sign to give you, so its not disrespectful to refuse to hang it up.

With Christmas around the corner, I sincerely hope OP sends out Christmas cards signed THE SMITH FAMILY.

Straight White Shark posted:

It sounds like the 37% figure comes from patients presenting with clinical symptoms, which is going to be a fraction of overall bites. Brown recluses are known for dry bites and they're small enough that bites may not even register, so he proportion of necrosis cases out of all bites is going to be much smaller than the proportion in patients who had clinically significant effects.

chitoryu12 posted:

It's also a way for people who want to manage employees but have no personal skills to try and find a "cheat code." There's tons of tests, team-building exercises, etc. out there that get marketed to management types to teach them how to learn about their employees and the best way to deal with them. It's always the type of owners and managers who need to use them because they don't know how to talk to people like human beings if they're not in the same social group and they think you can lifehack yourself into control.

MagusofStars posted:

It's even dumber when it's used for hiring and promotion decisions. Because how it actually works in practice is that managers using these tests look down the list of personality traits, pick ONE specific trait/personality/whatever as The Unquestioned Best (despite the tests themselves specifically saying that each one has both strengths and weaknesses), and then try to fit everything into that no matter what...but then can't understand why their team ends up being a dysfunctional mess.

Today: We need to hire all aggressive go-getters! We need people who don't take no for an answer! We need ambitious people who seize life by the horns! Which personality type is that? Great, let's exclusively focus on that!
Six months from now: Why must every single meeting turn into a massive debate? How come none of our departments are willing to work together? Where's the spirit of self-sacrifice?

quote:

Ok so I realise this might sound absolutely ridiculous and I considered not posting this at all, but I desperately need someone elses opinion on this. ( And hey, there has been posts about eating feces and loving a coconut so what I got to lose?)

We have been married for couple of years now (together for 4) and things have been good so far. We live together and don't have children as we will not have any. We do have two cats, a snake and a leopard gecco as we both looove animals. The cats are mine and the gecco+snake are my husbands. My husband especially loves his gecko and has had it for several years now. We were always joking how in reality I'm only my husbands side chick and would never actually surpass her (the gecko). Until it wasn't only a joke.

We've always been very open with everything, including sexuality and talking about our sexual fantasies/preferences has been encouraged and healthy. I like to think myself as a quite an open person and very ok sexuality in general. Until one night when we were having an intimate moment and discussing about what we were in the mood for and what would we be open to explore. And my husband asked if he could bring his gecco to our bed while we have sex so that he could be "connected" to the two things he loves most in his life and "share this magical and beautiful" moment. I froze conpletely and blalantly said no, since I felt that it would be very dangerous for our gecko and made me incrediply unconfortable. He got very upset me and I could clearly see he was feeling embarrassed and offended. Honestly everything we've done in bed before this has been very basic (maybe bit more than vanilla) and he has never shown any interest to furries or beastiality or anything.

Our communication has been quite cold and there has been next to none physical contact between us after that incident. And I don't know what to do? I love my husband more than anything and love to please him, but this is just out of my comfort zone. No other fantasy has caused this kinda reaction even if we didn't execute it in the end. So how should i approach this situation? Should i just let him get the gecko to our bed while we gently caress? So help me reddit!

Sorry if unclear, english is not my first language.

TL;DR: My hubby wants a threesome with me and our pet gecko and I'm not really cool with the idea, so am I a prude afterall?

The Bramble posted:

Should I(18F) be concerned my (18M) boyfriend’s has been eating horses lately?


I have to assume "eating horses" is some kind of Australian idiom or something because that title is thermonuclear compared to the lame content...

Propaniac posted:

My (F23) husband (M28) wanted spice things up in the bedroom and wanted to bribg a lizard to our bed during sex

quote:

My situation: I was supposed to graduate bachelor's in July but due to the fact I got a full-time, permanent job, I decided to delay my graduation and take only one class in the fall semester to complete my degree. On Nov/15, I got laid off from the full-time job so I'm penniless and would have to pick up a minimum wage job to pay for rent + food (Montreal). I had already booked a flight from Montreal to Vancouver to visit parents during December holidays but since I got laid off, I can just cancel the return ticket and remain in Vancouver, pick up a job, stay with parents, eat with parents, and save money, and look for other opportunities.

My relationship: I met her in mid July, we're so in love and we're so compatible; she's a local Montrealer, and we both have planned a future together (potential marriage). However, she's a bit worried that I might go to another city and just decide to drop this relationship and start a new one. I've said some things about breaking-up when we had arguments but I've told her it's because of my impulsive nature that I said those things, and I'm sorry. She also tells me that her mom had a serious relationship with a guy and the guy had to leave for another city due to job and never came back. So her worries are, in my mind, justified. I want to do something to show her that I'm in this for the real deal.

My question: Since I'm really dedicated to her and this relationship, despite the fact that I might be gone for a while, should I buy a ring and propose to her instead of making her worry and feel insecure?

TL;DR: I want to propose to my girlfriend of 4 months to show her that I'm serious about this relationship, should I do it?

LadyPictureShow posted:

I (22M) want to propose to my 4-month long girlfriend (19F) before I leave for Vancouver from Montreal

LadyPictureShow posted:

I (22M) want to propose to my 4-month long girlfriend (19F) before I leave for Vancouver from Montreal

quote:

Original Post:

I work in an elementary school. Recently staff have deployed "essential oil diffusers" in several places throughout the school. This seems like a violation of several laws/rights. I live in Washington. Even if this isn't illegal, it seems extremely morally dubious. Is there anything I can do to ensure that the air quality in my work space isn't compromised? The MSDS sheet for the specific oil being used claims that the vapor is flammable and suggests that we use explosion-proof electrical, ventilating, and lighting equipment. Which I don't think we do. It also claims to cause skin and eye irritation. I have personally experienced irritation from the diffusers. I try to be as nonconfrontational as possible in the work place. But this seems far over the line of what is acceptable. Aside from my own health, students are being subjected to these diffused oils without their consent and likely without the knowledge of their parents. Since when was purified air replaced as the healthy option?

Grape posted:

Ah, dating Mediterranean women are we? An adventure awaits.

Ugly In The Morning posted:

Did he already take this down? I need some comments from this but I can’t dig it up.

quote:

Original Post:

Hi, I'd like to start off by saying I am posting this for myself and my landlord, who owns a dog/cat kennel (like where owners bring their dogs when they go on vacation). She also owns several horses on the property, and I have two dogs (an Australian Shepherd and a pitbull)

We live in a rural part of Pennsylvania.

Our neighbor, who we do not know the name of, usually just shoots off guns and such and that doesn't bother our animals, but today they set off an actual cannon. We can only assume it was a cannon because of how loud it was (it was a very loud BOOM that you could almost feel) and because it'd stop, wait 20 minutes, and go off again, which tells me that's the loading time. This went on for a good 2-3 hours. It made our animals go completely ballistic.

My aussie, who gets set off by loud noises, began freaking out, barking and howling, and by the end of it, he had made himself sick twice. Everytime I had calmed him down, the cannon would shoot off again.

Her horses had to be brought inside their hut thing (I don't know what it's called), the dogs started having anxiety shits, and the cats all hid into corners. But most importantly, when the first one went off, one of the staying dogs was outside, jumped the fence and started into the forest around the property.

She's going to call the borough and ask if theyre even allowed to shoot off a cannon like that, but even if they are, could we still do something about it since it's negatively impacting the dogs and cats staying on the property, which by that effects her livelihood? They do this at random times of the day/night and we are worried that if another dog were to jump the fence again, they could be hit by a car.

LadyPictureShow posted:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/e1p5qo/i_22m_want_to_propose_to_my_4month_long/

Upon reloading the page, yeah it's been removed.

quote:

Whoa. According to your post from a month ago, you likely LOST your job because of this girl (or, more precisely, your inability to do anything except obsess over her).

You have SO VERY MUCH growing up to do and frankly it sounds like your relationship is full of impulsiveness and terrible boundaries. This is WAY too much for a brand new relationship.

Sunswipe posted:

I particularly enjoy how the mother-in-law is on his side, ie. she's totally sick of this "Johnson pride" bollocks she's had to listen to all her life. In his place, I'd probably ask exactly what the family has done to be so proud of.

LadyPictureShow posted:

I (22M) want to propose to my 4-month long girlfriend (19F) before I leave for Vancouver from Montreal
My situation: I was supposed to graduate bachelor's in July but due to the fact I got a full-time, permanent job, I decided to delay my graduation and take only one class in the fall semester to complete my degree. On Nov/15, I got laid off from the full-time job so I'm penniless and would have to pick up a minimum wage job to pay for rent + food (Montreal). I had already booked a flight from Montreal to Vancouver to visit parents during December holidays but since I got laid off, I can just cancel the return ticket and remain in Vancouver, pick up a job, stay with parents, eat with parents, and save money, and look for other opportunities.

Pirate Radar posted:

Title: Essential oils in a public school
OILS though this could be an allergy risk

quote:

Sixteen-plus years ago, I met a man at a nightclub and we had an amazing connection. He was a young elementary school teacher and I was a college student. We danced the night away, and when the time came for us to exchange digits I thought it was romantic to tell him, “If it’s meant to be, we’ll meet again.” You see, in the early 2000s I was obsessed with the movie Serendipity. What girl wasn’t really? As time passed, I genuinely hoped I would run into him and definitely regretted that numbers were never exchanged. However, I eventually met the man who would become my husband and I figured that it was obviously not meant to be. I forgot about him.

Until this August, when the new school year started. It turns out that man is now the new assistant principal at my children’s school. The first time I saw him I couldn’t place him, but later that week it all came back to me. When we finally were face to face, there was a look of recognition, but I’m not sure he could place me either. I’m a happily married woman with children, and I assume he is too. However, the “if it’s meant to be, we’ll meet again” thing is really wearing on me. Do I just let this go? Do I ask him if he remembers me?

A: As a fellow early-2000s Serendipity obsessive, I urge you in the strongest possible terms to not blow up your happy marriage. The next time you see him, say, “David? I thought that was you!” Start a pleasant conversation, and do not start texting or having solo meals.

Ugly In The Morning posted:

One of the comments

gently caress, now I want that other post!

quote:

I met this girl on Bumble since July 18th of this year and we've been dating ever since. We're red hot in terms of our love for each other and we've both made it abundantly clear that we are in it for the long term. (She even mentioned something about what our babies might look like). I feel like it's because she's a bit immature considering she's a bit younger than me. Anyways, here is the issue: as a recent college grad living in the city, I'm not satisfied with my job prospects. I'm working full-time at a job at my university's student society but it pays dismally low. I want to do more school so I can land a better paying/more stable job; but NOT in the current city; I'm sick and tired of my mentally ill roommate who is an elderly lady that keeps on yelling at me, I'm at a tipping point where I can no longer contain her. I've never yelled in my life before and last month I shouted at her because I just can't take it anymore. My roommate hates it when my gf sleeps over (which is fair). I can move out to accomodate my gf (she said she doesn't want to split the rent b/c she wants to save up for university, which is also fair )and search for an apartment on my own, but I want to do more studies, which would mean that I would have to quit my current job, have no income, take out more loans for tuition + a more expensive studio + food. Furthermore, the cost of a studio is way more expensive. I want to move to the city my parents live so they could potentially help me out with food and/or rent and/or tuition for further studying. I just feel so stressed about balancing work, relationship, school, parents (and their expectations), and crazy roommate. That's why I feel like leaving my current city, breaking up with gf, and then move in with my parents and continue to do more school for a better career prospect.

I seriously think that by living with my roommate for a year, my mental health has deteriorated significantly. I've never been so stressed in my life.

TLDR: Stressed about balancing health, girlfriend, mentally ill and aggressive roommate (68F), parent's expectations, future career, school, student debt (~10,000 CAD).

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I met this girl on Bumble in mid-July and we've been dating ever since. Although we come from very different ethnicity and backgrounds, I still fell for her. I think I can say the same about her. I think this relationship is beginning to take a toll on my emotional and daily well-being. I would always prioritize meeting her. She would always prioritize her tasks before meeting with me. Friend's birthday party, homework, part-time job...etc. My thoughts are always about her, when I'm listening to music, when I'm walking in the streets. This morning, I stayed in bed longer and came to work 1.5 hrs late just because I didn't wanna leave our bed (we don't live together, she just sleeps over sometimes). I'm at work right now and I'm writing this instead of working. Partially because I really don't have that much tasks at work (my job is not that great), partially because I really think about her a lot.

I'm a really emotional guy and I get attached easily and quickly (pitiful, I know). She loves me but she seems to have everything in control.

I'm at a watershed moment in my life that every decision I make has huge impacts on the rest of my life. Friends around me are all getting offers from top firms that gives double my salary. I need to find a better job, I need to move out of the current city (to a city that's not too far but with more job opportunities). But I feel like the weight of this relationship is stopping me from doing those things.

But I love her so much...

I'm willing to bet when my phone notification shows that I've a message from her, all of this sorrow/stress will probably go away until the next time I feel empty, until I become obsessed with her again... It's like a cycle.

I don't know what to do, so I came here for help. For just any small tips that can help me to get out of this obsessiveness with her and with my relationship so I can focus on building myself up.

Dienes posted:

AITA For Refusing To Hang Up A Sign My Grandmother-In-Law Bought For Our House?


Its a disrespectful sign to give you, so its not disrespectful to refuse to hang it up.

With Christmas around the corner, I sincerely hope OP sends out Christmas cards signed THE SMITH FAMILY.

LadyPictureShow posted:

I (22M) am overly stressed about having a relationship with my girlfriend (19F)


I (22M) am obsessed with my girlfriend (19F). How do I solve this?

quote:

I (32m) was joking with my fiancé (31f) today that we'd have 100 babies together. I said that she'd be my brood sow, thinking a brood sow was a spider queen, one who'd spawned a wonderful/terrifying brood of 100s of children. The saying 'sow one's oats' has clear sexual overtones. Therefore, a brood sow must be a spider that sows all sorts of oats. My fiancé grew up on a farm and was quick to let me, a city boy, know that a sow is a female pig and a brood sow is a female pig who's only purpose was to breed pigs for slaughter.

We've been together for about 6 years and we rarely fight. After hearing this, she shut down and won't talk to me. I told her I'd bring this to Reddit for arbitration. AITA?

Pirate Radar posted:

Q. The hand that fate dealt me:

Pinecone Sample posted:

AITA for calling my fiancé a 'brood sow'?

quote:

I am 43F, and my ex-husband is 45M. We have two children 9F and 11F. My ex-husband and I got divorced one year ago, and about two seconds after we got divorced, he started dating a 22 year old co-worker. As far as I know, he wasn't her direct supervisor and there was no HR issue in their office, since they are openly in a relationship for the past year and there seems to be no repercussions at work. My husband and I share custody of our kids, and since his girlfriend is over at his place a lot, now that they've been going out for almost a year. AITA for telling my ex that our kids should have no relationship with his new girlfriend and that our kids can come over to his place during his time of the week, only if the girlfriend is not staying in his house during the same time? I think their relationship is very inappropriate, because of the massive age difference and the power disparity that would arise from that, not just in the workplace, but in general too?

LadyPictureShow posted:

Pinecone Sample posted:

I said that she'd be my brood sow, thinking a brood sow was a spider queen, one who'd spawned a wonderful/terrifying brood of 100s of children. The saying 'sow one's oats' has clear sexual overtones. Therefore, a brood sow must be a spider that sows all sorts of oats

Pinecone Sample posted:

AITA for calling my fiancé a 'brood sow'?