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Why are you all still talking about the lady who doesn't give much of a poo poo if her loved ones die and not just asking Pick why she is that way?
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chitoryu12 posted:The mugshot I accidentally had up at first came from this story from Texas: max_mcintyre 368 posts 40.1k followers 161 following Maxine Max short for Maxine 1/2 🇮🇳1/2 Native🇺🇸 Genetically Gifted🙏 #1 Woman of TX-👁🍬 for the 🌍
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Dec 1, 2019 22:45
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Admiral Ray posted:When I die, as unlikely as that event is, no one will need to try to grieve for me or attend my funeral. My death will have such weight that people will spontaneously break down and sob in the middle of the street. The seas will thrash with grief. The world will literally stop spinning, flinging all humanity into space at sub-orbital velocities. As each human falls back to earth, frozen from contact with the cold air of the upper atmosphere, they will streak across the sky and the planet itself will weep fiery tears at my passing. This is a good post and all of you pathetic nerds arguing over how mad everyone should be at the wife for not feeling enough grief should try to be more like Admiral Ray
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Dec 1, 2019 22:55
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Inceltown posted:Why are you all still talking about the lady who doesn't give much of a poo poo if her loved ones die and not just asking Pick why she is that way? Pick is banned from the thread. free Pick
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Dec 1, 2019 23:06
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:Pick is banned from the thread. free Pick
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Dec 1, 2019 23:07
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ulex minor posted:'the permanent loss of you from my life will not effect me emotionally in any negative way' is not a statement you should be able to make to someone you actually love imo My ex's mom died 4 months ago (while we were still together) and her death hosed me up hardcore and that wasn't even my partner or my own family member. I still think about her mom sometimes, who I knew for several years, and it hurts. Like, I get that everyone reacts to the immense tragedy and burden of death in wildly varying degrees, but being like "Eh, who cares?" for someone who you should probably feel strongly for on a deep level is messed up and likely indicative of relationship issues. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 23:13 on Dec 1, 2019 |
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Dec 1, 2019 23:11
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:Pick is banned from the thread. free Pick Pick was too good for this thread
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Dec 1, 2019 23:13
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If you want pick so bad just take up some lovely gimmick yourself, it isn’t that hard
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Dec 1, 2019 23:14
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empty sea posted:Cold-bloooded. I can sorta relate to her because when it became clear my dad was gonna die, I ended up having to shoulder everyone else's grief because my mom didn't wanna make decisions about terminating life support and my brother was two states away. Also dealing with my grandpa yelling at me that I was murdering his son. The result was that I spent so much time handling everything else that I...never grieved? I dunno. I miss my dad a lot, we were close but due to circumstances I think it just kinda wound up being compartmentalized. Admittedly, I've been thinking for a year or so about going to therapy since I wound up with a lot of baggage from the incident, and I feel like i really should probably address it before it manifests in some other way
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Dec 1, 2019 23:19
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CharlestheHammer posted:If you want pick so bad just take up some lovely gimmick yourself, it isn’t that hard You haven't sufficiently grieved over Pick's passing. J'accuse!
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Dec 1, 2019 23:22
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Found this in /r/weddingshaming./u/cwebsterz posted:My sister and her (now) ex-husband basically ruined our wedding.
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Dec 1, 2019 23:30
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Noumena posted:Found this in /r/weddingshaming.
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Dec 1, 2019 23:49
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PetraCore posted:I think if she would not be upset about no longer being able to see her loved ones ever again then probably something really is wrong in the 'loved' part. And I think you've never watched a loved one's brain slowly melt over a decade in a horrifying, inevitable crawl towards their demise. The dead are either at the end of their suffering or dodged it, neither is reason to be sad. Everyone you meet is fleeting and will be gone some day. Just enjoy the ones you've got now and remember the ones that are gone fondly. Wailing to the heavens about how they're gone won't bring them back.
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Dec 1, 2019 23:51
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Noumena posted:Found this in /r/weddingshaming. Our wedding photos only cost about that much and we hired a detached professional...
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Dec 1, 2019 23:54
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FilthyImp posted:Dude, just find another loving photographer holy poo poo take the hit to your wallet when someone so clearly gives no shits. I feel like 90% of wedding drama aside from the typical drunk family members is people trying to get friends to help for free. Does anyone remember that guy that basically worked his "friends" wedding despite not even being invited and ran a ton of errands like picking up deli trays and getting chairs set up? All for two people who treated him pretty meh like he didn't exist except as a tool for asking more and more favors out of.
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Dec 1, 2019 23:59
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pentyne posted:All for two people who treated him pretty meh like he didn't exist except as a tool for asking more and more favors out of.
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Dec 2, 2019 00:01
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FoolyCharged posted:And I think you've never watched a loved one's brain slowly melt over a decade in a horrifying, inevitable crawl towards their demise. The dead are either at the end of their suffering or dodged it, neither is reason to be sad. But, you're right I haven't lost anyone close with me.
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Dec 2, 2019 00:07
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FilthyImp posted:Dude, just find another loving photographer holy poo poo take the hit to your wallet when someone so clearly gives no shits. The problem was that she appeared stable and willing, right up until shortly before the event. So when she blew up her marriage and ditched her family to gently caress her boss there was no time to re route. The closest there came to a warning in advance was her charging family after treating a friend.
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Dec 2, 2019 00:07
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buddy, if you want cheap wedding photos, you just give all your guests explicit permission to take all the phone pics they want and give them an email to send em to and an instagram hashtag to use with em also he's lying and totally was hoping she would offer to work for free
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Dec 2, 2019 00:24
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Seriously just pay for a professional. Speaking as someone who tried to diy termite control and ended up having to pay a pro anyway, it's so much easier. Termite control might be more fun than being involved in a wedding.
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Dec 2, 2019 00:40
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don't free pick, seriously she's bad
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Dec 2, 2019 00:42
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Crimson posted:I assumed you have trouble showing empathy because you expressly stated you share the same issue as the OP: grieving improperly. Others took it a bit more directly, insinuating therapy doesn't do anything, but you also seem confused on what therapy is for and what help it's capable of providing. It's not just to help people cope with their issues while keeping their current behaviors the same, it can also be a tool to help people recognize destructive behaviors (whether personally destructive or hurtful to those around them) and help them take steps to change those behaviors. You're also taking a way overly simplistic viewpoint of emotion. Your therapist isn't just gonna say, "You're not feeling sad enough. Try feeling sad right now. Feel more sad until people think it's appropriate." There are often underlying issues or traumas that could be preventing them from emoting. The whole problem is the idea that if you don't grieve you don't care for someone. That's the shaming. You're saying it's good to grieve because it shows I have empathy. But not grieving doesn't mean I don't have empathy or love people. Having empathy isn't the same as caring for someone. It means being able to understand their viewpoint and why they are feeling and thinking what they are to the best of your ability. I can empathize with Thanos and not like him or think he's right. I can love someone even if sometimes I think they're an irrational moron and I can't fathom what they're thinking on a fundamental level. You think that someone who doesn't grieve doesn't truly care about people. But if the only sign they don't care as much is how they grieve, wouldn't it seem they're showing they care while they're alive? If they care about them as much when they're alive as anyone else does, what does it matter how quickly they are able to adjust to the fact they're gone? I can see why someone would think that's hurtful. I don't understand it, honestly. It doesn't seem like something that would matter at all. But I understand that it matters to most people, and that it is normal for most people, and why that means it would hurt most people. Because yes, I do have empathy. If you can't conceive that people could think and feel in a way fundamentally different than you, I'd say you're lacking empathy. Also, think we're talking past each other about the therapy somehow? I'm saying that it isn't always a behavior that can be changed. There isn't always something underlying it. It isn't always destructive. Sometimes it's just a thing. There's no behaviors that need to be changed. If I change behaviors, then I'm once again just lying about how much I'm grieving to make others feel better. And I'm talking about the thing we're currently talking about, not the entire field of psychiatry. I thought that would be obvious. That I was talking about this specific topic of whether how you do or don't grieve is something that requires fixing in any way, or is just a normal thing that isn't very common. Yes, there are other things like that as well. But I'm by no means saying it's everything. Why would I be in therapy if I think there's no reason to be in therapy? This is an absolutely ridiculous derail for this thread. It's so blatantly ableist, and that's the only reason I kept it up this long. Where's the line in what is acceptable empathy? Which autistic people are just neurodivergent, and which ones don't love people enough? If you think I'm blowing this out of proportion or engaging in ridiculous hyperbole or saying that autistic people don't feel empathy somehow and that's ok because most people would agree and I'm not gonna continue to argue. But I wasn't going to not address the idea that I don't care about people as much as everyone else does. I don't even understand how you could tell someone who is talking about being shamed for how they grieve that maybe they don't have empathy or love people because of how they grieve?
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Dec 2, 2019 00:55
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A whole bunch of people who seem to think grief can only be expressed by wailing and tearing of clothes. "That's not what I said at all" yes it is, when you shouted down Araenna explaining that their brain just works differently! And even if it didn't, no matter how much you loved that person, the world will still spin. The sun will still come up and your job will still expect you to come in and your bills will still need to be paid. And if that person you're grieving for loved you as much as you did them, they wouldn't have wanted you to get hung up on their passing. You can miss them while still going on with your life.
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Dec 2, 2019 01:03
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and some people express it with relief that if their husband died they would have one fewer tie to purchase at Christmas it’s all a rich tapestry of totally cool healthy behavior
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Dec 2, 2019 01:05
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FilthyImp posted:Dude, just find another loving photographer holy poo poo take the hit to your wallet when someone so clearly gives no shits. OP seemed to not understand that their sister is a monster before the wedding, I assume because people throughout their lives told them to always put family first, like so many of us are told. It took a big event, like this, to make them realize that their sister is a huge rear end in a top hat and that "family always comes first" and "you can't abandon family" are lies created by assholes to take family members hostage. Good advice though is to always just pay for a professional, don't ever "hire" family to do anything in a professional capacity at your wedding. That shouldn't even be their role in the first place. They should be guests.
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Dec 2, 2019 01:12
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Grief isn’t empathy
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Dec 2, 2019 01:19
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Miserable Maid posted:God, I hate "Maccas". It doesn't even make sense! At least "Micky D's" sounds like the real name. "Micky D's" sounds like your "hip" uncle trying to fit in with the kids. It's not even a good nickname since it's the same amount of syllables! quote:Aussie slang is always annoying, there's no natural line from words, so you know they forced the slang. Like a "that's so Fetch" kinda thing, pathetic Unless, when you were grouping English and Aussie slang together, you were referring to rhyming cockney slang (Dead Horse -> Sauce etc) which is rapidly falling out of favour over Americanisms. I never hear it anymore and I'm the youngest in my office.
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Dec 2, 2019 01:20
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PancakeTransmission posted:Australians pronounce it "MacDonalds" which is shortened to "Maccas". We don't say "MickDonalds". You're forgetting about words that are already quite short by nature can get an 'o' added to it. Sick becomes sicko or Dave becomes Dave-o for example.
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Dec 2, 2019 01:35
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Inceltown posted:You're forgetting about words that are already quite short by nature can get an 'o' added to it. Sick becomes sicko or Dave becomes Dave-o for example. Yeah but Davo is a nickname, and sicko isn’t slang for sick, it is slang for a deranged person.
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Dec 2, 2019 01:41
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Eg: that fucken sicko can’t grieve
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Dec 2, 2019 01:42
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realbez posted:Yeah but Davo is a nickname, and sicko isn’t slang for sick, it is slang for a deranged person. Not sick in the sense of unwell but sick in the sense of awesome. 'sick burnout mate' is perfectly cromulent skippy talk.
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Dec 2, 2019 01:58
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PancakeTransmission posted:Australians pronounce it "MacDonalds" which is shortened to "Maccas". We don't say "MickDonalds". Aussie scum. Go steal a native child while you're drunk and feeling more racist than normal.
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Dec 2, 2019 02:06
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Grief chat is boring I want more wedding drama
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Dec 2, 2019 02:07
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My sister and wedding photographer (30F) refuses to send me pictures of my stripper (20M) grief handjob at the funeral/bachelorette party beforehand and keeps asking me to take a tubby with them. I hit the drippini but to cool off and mourn but I’m still not sure I’m I should pay her or not. AITA?
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Dec 2, 2019 02:12
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PancakeTransmission posted:Aussie slang is abbreviating every word like you're drunk and slurring. It's actually more natural so I can only assume you're trolling since Americans love to adopt slang from other languages and cultures to be cool. do australians carefully intern foreign slang on Nauru instead
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Dec 2, 2019 02:14
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Grape posted:do australians carefully intern foreign slang on Nauru instead
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Dec 2, 2019 02:17
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PancakeTransmission posted:Australians pronounce it "MacDonalds" which is shortened to "Maccas". We don't say "MickDonalds". just more proof that australians are illiterate; if you could read, you'd pronounce it the way it's spelled.
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Dec 2, 2019 02:20
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Mr. Lobe posted:I apologize for my role in polluting the thread and offer content by way of amends Man up and have gay sex you wimp.
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Dec 2, 2019 02:22
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Miss posted:Grief chat is boring I want more wedding drama AITA for wearing an expensive designer dress to my best friend's wedding? quote:My friend's wedding happened yesterday. I don't have many fancy clothes, so I decided to use a designer clothing rental website. The only restriction was that we couldn't wear white, which is typical of weddings, so I wore a rented off-the-shoulder red gown. I also had my makeup and hair professionally done because I'm inept at personal styling.
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mcdonald's isn't pronounced macdonald's or mickdonald's it's pronounced mcdonald's 
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