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quote:Later that night my girlfriend’s parents asked me not to help the maid clean because it was a boundary thing and her work was her work and guests are guests. I told them it made me really uncomfortable to have someone clean around me and they just said not to worry because she’s paid well and has been with them a long time. Having a guest clean your house makes people feel like bad hosts, but i sympathize with this guys discomfort. Is everyone supposed to sit there talking to eachother while the servants scrub the floor of that room? Very weird and very aristo.
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Play posted:I had my dog in college and it was totally fine. In fact, it was even easier to take care of him then due to my schedule, now that I work 8 hours a day in a row it's actually more challenging. Caring for a dog in college is not innately impossible, it's not like college students don't have free time. Did you not read the post saying it is a family dog?
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I'm going to say your average college student shouldn't have a dog because their lives have more randomness in them than probably any other time in your life. Unless you're a loving loser.
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Dec 13, 2019 23:26
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my bully with terminal cancer that I don't forgive them or feel sympathy for them? Yeesh. Shoulda just lied. The fact that he cares enough to rub her face in poo poo and then blab on reddit probably means he doesn't "feel nothing". She's gonna be dead soon and free of this bullshit, but he's going to be remembering this for the next 50 years. Also, apparently word about what he did has gotten around to everyone and that's not some social stigma you want in your life.
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Dec 13, 2019 23:32
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Play posted:I had my dog in college and it was totally fine. In fact, it was even easier to take care of him then due to my schedule, now that I work 8 hours a day in a row it's actually more challenging. Caring for a dog in college is not innately impossible, it's not like college students don't have free time. The person whose dog it "is" is largely a matter of who spends the most time with the pooch, cares for it, and most importantly who does the dog dote on and follow about. None of these are the kid. He doesn't get to uproot a mature dog out of selfishness.
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Dec 13, 2019 23:35
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Play posted:I had my dog in college and it was totally fine. In fact, it was even easier to take care of him then due to my schedule, now that I work 8 hours a day in a row it's actually more challenging. Caring for a dog in college is not innately impossible, it's not like college students don't have free time. Except since high school apparently he hasn't been the one taking care of this dog. He's been visiting the dog monthly in its family home, he should just keep doing that instead of forcing it to move into a small apartment and giving it less interaction than the rest of the family does
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duck trucker posted:I'm going to say your average college student shouldn't have a dog because their lives have more randomness in them than probably any other time in your life. As someone who also had their dog live with them in college, it’s this. You have to be home every night to comfort/feed/let the dog out, etc. this can severely impact your ability to have fun getaways, party all night and crash where you land, etc. nevertheless, if I had to do it all again I wouldn’t change a thing. I miss that dog every day of my life 
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spacetoaster posted:Yeesh. Shoulda just lied. 
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Dec 13, 2019 23:54
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Bully girl should just own it and spend her last years totally clowning on the dude. Like, pie in face level stupid poo poo.
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Chamale posted:A med can treat a problem but also have serious side effects. CPR restarted my heart, but it also bruised the hell out of my ribs. I agree, saying "It helped me so it can't have hurt you" is wrong and worrying.
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QuarkJets posted:Except since high school apparently he hasn't been the one taking care of this dog. He's been visiting the dog monthly in its family home, he should just keep doing that instead of forcing it to move into a small apartment and giving it less interaction than the rest of the family does That's . . . one year out of the dog's eleven year lifespan. The only time the son wasn't around and wasn't caring for the dog at all. He took care of the dog for ten years (with his parents' help, sure), asked his parents to watch it while he got situated in college, and is now being betrayed by his father in an arrangement that was always supposed to be temporary until dad got it into his head that he wanted to keep the dog. Also some people are saying college is too wild for a dog, other's saying it won't get enough interaction... get it straight. Living in an apartment at college is equivalent to living in an apartment and working, except with even more free time. It's neither too crazy nor too sedate for a dog. Myself and many of my friends had dogs in university, to great success. Serephina posted:The person whose dog it "is" is largely a matter of who spends the most time with the pooch, cares for it, and most importantly who does the dog dote on and follow about. None of these are the kid. He doesn't get to uproot a mature dog out of selfishness. The dog follows him and his wife when the kid is gone. He never says anything about the dog preferring them over the kid. Suspiciously, in fact. The dog SLEPT IN THE KID'S ROOM RIGHT UP UNTIL HE LEFT FOR COLLEGE. In fact, he explicitly states that the dog only started following them around all day once the son left for college. Does that sound like a dog who prefers his parents? No. Any dog would do the same in those circumstances. My dog does the exact same thing if I leave him with my parents for a bit, because he needs someone to imprint on. The dad says that the kid took care of the dog for the first five years completely, then shared the responsibilities after that. Even that part is pretty sketchy... the dad says the kid got distracted with high school but doesn't say he stopped taking care of the dog, just that he was with the dog a lot because I guess the dad doesn't work or something. They never would've gotten the dog if not for the kid, who cared for it for years and has worked hard to prepare for his dog joining him down at college. Even the dad grudgingly admits that the kid's apartment is a fine place for the dog. Basically, you fools are just accepting what the dad says, which is a slanted and suspicious narrative that attempts to justify the fact that he simply wants the dog and doesn't want to give it to the son, his true owner and first love
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AITA for not attending family therapy?quote:My ex wife is extremely dramatic, overbearing and manipulative. She loves to have her way. She has primary custody of our 7 year old who she is convinced needs a therapist because he has been acting out in school. So she enrolled him with one who also does family therapy.
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Love isn’t the only thing that matters. The dog’s needs and comforts need to be considered above everything else and any responsible pet owner will recognize that in this scenario, the dog will most likely have the best quality of life if it remains in the stable environment it grew up in with the people who have been taking care of it through its most recent health issues.
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for not attending family therapy? Goddamn, dude's determined to be aggressively lovely
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for not attending family therapy? YTA and i hope you die, because literally every time somebody says this they are an abusive loving piece of poo poo who belittles constantly and has never praised their children in their entire lives
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Dec 14, 2019 01:13
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I’m Terrified I Made the Wrong Choice About My Son’s Circumcisionquote:Dear How to Do It,
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for not attending family therapy? have fun losing joint custody of your child
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DemoneeHo posted:I’m Terrified I Made the Wrong Choice About My Son’s Circumcision r/relationships: Thinking about my sons dick for 18 years
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Admiral Bosch posted:have fun losing joint custody of your child this sounds like it might be for the best for everyone, frankly
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If you can't make it to therapy once a month for your kid just bail on him already, Jesus Christ. Kid is better off without you.
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The absent dad is convinced that his ex and the therapist are alienating him from his son, but he doesn't realize that he's doing the alienaton himself
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Play posted:My dog does the exact same thing if I leave him with my parents for a bit, because he needs someone to imprint on. I don't think you know what imprinting means
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DemoneeHo posted:I’m Terrified I Made the Wrong Choice About My Son’s Circumcision This is a really weird thing to be worried about, especially 18 years after the fact. You already asked him about it, he said it's fine, so what else is there to stress out about? Lady needs to relax.
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God drat, "she's convinced he needs therapy" followed by the fact he has an actual diagnosis from said therapist. Also he doesn't claim she didn't have cancer, just that she made suuuuch a big deal of it when it was apparently "a simple surgery". Even in his own biased words he's an utter prick
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Dec 14, 2019 01:50
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I babysat for a family where the aunt and uncle had custody of the kid, because mom and dad were drug addicts but refused to cut parental rights because every tax season, they got a nice check. They saw kid maybe once every few months. So I'm watching this three year old and one day the aunt tells me he won't be wearing diapers or pants for a while. Because his parents decided to get him circumsized, so he'd 'look like his dad' and they did it at age 3 because they couldn't afford it when he was born. It was loving hell trying to take care of a usually happy toddler who couldn't sit down without crying, and trying not to use wipes on that area, and gently caress, all the fits because his toilet training was just loving gone.
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Dec 14, 2019 02:23
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Hey son, how's your penis? It's fine, stop asking.
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cumshitter posted:Hey son, how's your penis? 18 years later... *still thinkin bout that penis*
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Dec 14, 2019 02:28
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is it cheating if your fiance gives a stripper a partial handjob and the stripper has cancer 🤔
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My (20f) boyfriend (52m) doesn’t want me talking to boys, what do I do?quote:So we met on the internet and then actually met irl and I love him. We’ve been together for a year and everything thing is fine except he’s super insecure when it comes to other men. He’s my longest relationship so far. I have been with several men before him and I am not a virgin either.
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1redflag posted:As someone who also had their dog live with them in college, it’s this. You have to be home every night to comfort/feed/let the dog out, etc. this can severely impact your ability to have fun getaways, party all night and crash where you land, etc. nevertheless, if I had to do it all again I wouldn’t change a thing. I miss that dog every day of my life There’s an Arthur C. Clarke story about a man who gives up his dog to take a job on the moon. I think we’re supposed to think he made the right decision, but I never thought he did.
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Best Bi Geek Squid posted:My (20f) boyfriend (52m) doesn’t want me talking to boys, what do I do? Young enough to be his granddaughter if successive teen pregnancies. I feel like that is definitely too much of an age gap, like does she not have parents who want to see her do well? Has dated other men but a 52 year old is her longest relationship? Met online? Or maybe he is mega rich. Who knows. This could easily be Leonardo DiCaprio's girlfriend in a few years.
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Dec 14, 2019 02:56
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MarcusSA posted:18 years later... https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2019/12/13/penis-fish-cover-drakes-beach-california-photo/2636443001/
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AITA for uninviting a married couple even though I only dislike the husband? So my girlfriend and I host a board game night every Wednesday night and invite some people in our apartment complex who are around our age. We order pizza and provide some basic snacks like chips and pretzels, and everyone else brings the beer. It's normally just us, another couple who lives next to us, and two guys who are roommates. Another couple, Jenna and Geoff, just moved in down the hall a few months ago, and we introduced ourselves and asked if they wanted to join. They said sure, they love board games. Jenna's really awesome and is fun to hang out with, but Geoff has no filter whatsoever and gets way too competitive for a casual board game night with neighbors. He says condescending stuff like "wow, you really suck at this game" and is just kind of a dick in general. Once, we were playing Codenames in teams and he told my girlfriend some of her guesses were "retarded." Maybe that would be fine if we were all close friends and joking around, but we barely know this guy and he makes things awkward and uncomfortable for everyone. I've tried to get him to tone it down multiple times, but he says it's just the way he is, like that's something to be proud of. My girlfriend and I don't want to invite Geoff to our game nights anymore, which I'm pretty sure means we can't invite Jenna either. I like Jenna, and I feel really lovely about the whole situation, but I don't see any way to invite only one half of a married couple to a co-ed game night. AITA?
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AITA for not supervising my stepdaughters slumber party when my husband had to go into work for an emergency? My stepdaughter (Sammy) was going to have a slumber party at our house with her friends this weekend. I didn’t want to be here while it was happening, so I made plans to be at my friends house that night. I was planning on going to my friends straight after work. My husband called me towards the end of my work day. Something bad happened at work and he was going to be there for a while dealing with it. He asked if I could reschedule my plans with my friend so I could stay home and watch the girls because he’s probably not going to be able to get home until very late. I told him I could reschedule to stay home and watch Sammy, but he would have to call the other girls parents and cancel the party because I couldn’t watch all of them. Other than this we have a pretty good relationship , but its almost a week later and Sammy is still upset at me about it.my husband understands I wouldn’t have been comfortable with the responsibility, but still think I could have done it since it was a last minute emergency and Sammy and her friends had been looking forward to it for awhile. Edit. I was told to add a few things by some people who commented. First that the amount of kids at the sleepover would have around 9-10 and they’re I. The first grade. Second that I have some pretty bad anxiety issues that I’m working through right now and that’s why I didn’t think I could be responsible for that many kids at once. Third I didn’t just bail on my husband. I told him I wouldn’t be able to handle that many kids when he brought up the party weeks ago. He said it was fine for me not to be there because he still wanted to do the party. Fourth I don’t hate kids. I love my stepdaughter and take care of her on a daily basis. Fifth my husband didn’t get home until 2 am
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LadyPictureShow posted:Formatting all OP's Wow, almost skipped this one due to the text block. But, yes OP, you definitely need to divorce your wife now so you can go play poker in Peru.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not supervising my stepdaughters slumber party when my husband had to go into work for an emergency? Gonna have to lean towards yes.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not supervising my stepdaughters slumber party when my husband had to go into work for an emergency? Children can sense weakness like a shark detects blood in water so OP made the right choice. Those kids would have gone wild once they realized how out of depth their caretaker for the night was.
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MarcusSA posted:Gonna have to lean towards yes. Nah.... if you aren't prepared to watch a group of crazed six year olds get hopped up on sugar and run around like maniacs, you should be clear about that. It sucks but it was safer for everyone.
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AITA for not calling my partner my fiance, but starting to call him buddy, close friend, friend with benefits?quote:This is a question for both myself and my partner - are we the assholes?
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quote:diminishing the importance of an engagement; it's diminishing the importance of marriage  Ah yes, the ol sanctity of marriage argument
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