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AITA for saying “gently caress no” when my flatmates asked my FWB to pay a weekly rent to come see me? So, I’m honestly at a loss with this one and just really need to see if I’m crazy or not. I’ve recently started seeing someone casually for the last two months or so, it’s going really well and will hopefully lead to something more serious. While I’m still figuring out what I want with this relationship, I’m getting pressure from my flatmates to ‘have the talk’ and ‘establish what we are’ simply so they can charge him a weekly rent. He comes over after 8pm and will either leave when I go to work or have a sleep in and leave later, this probably happens 4 times a week, if that. He’s had 3 showers over the two months, 2 of which were with me. We either get takeout or I’ve eaten and he’s eaten so I’ve only cooked us dinner once or twice in this time span too. So in essence he literally comes and sleeps with me for the night then leaves in the morning, few things in-between. Now keeping this information in mind, would you ask me to get a ‘weekly or monthly’ rent off of him? This is literally what my flatmates are expecting, him to pay $20 a week to stay with me. They are justifying it by saying “If you leave in the morning and come back in the evening you are living there”. I find this extremely embarrassing and humiliating behaviour and instantly said there is no ways in hell I am going to ask the guy I’m seeing to pay a loving weekly rent to come and see me. Is this normal behaviour? Am I completely delusional for standing my ground on this matter and pretty much saying I’d rather move out than ask him to pay? Reddit, Am I the Arsehole for saying No to this request which has now caused a huge fight within my home? Few other things to note – there are three of us living together, I’m single the other two are a couple. I pay more than 1/3 of the rent too, over $20 more a week to be exact and I never miss any bills or rent payments. I’m extremely clean and always bring a good energy into the house because confrontation is my biggest fear so I avoid it like the plague by being an angel and keeping the peace. TD;LR My flatmates want my fwb to pay a weekly rent because he leaves in the morning and comes back in the evening 4 times a week, so this means he’s living with us now apparently. I’ve flat-out refused to do such an embarrassing thing and now there is a lot of animosity in the house because of it. EDIT: I clearly need to add info about the lease agreement, our names and signatures are all on the agreement, they do not own the flat we simply rent it off a landlord. There is no clause about guests, its at our discretion. EDIT 2: I shouldn't have put 4 nights a week, because that is an exaggeration and each week it is different - I'll stay at his or we'll go away but more often than not it is at least 3 nights at mine. Holy heck Reddit, never did I think I was the rear end in a top hat in this situation. I thought it was normal to have the person you're seeing stay over, but clearly 4 times a week is too much. I haven't taken my flatmates feelings into consideration you're all right, I just assumed it was about money for them rather than invasion of space by a stranger. I am the rear end in a top hat, thank you all for contributing your opinions I'll be sure to take them on board and have a mature chat with the roommates and sort some sort of arrangement that works for all involved.
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Clark Nova posted:Uh, what was the velvet-lined, baby-sized coffin box intended to be used for? 5 month fetus would be under a foot long and weigh about a pound. This box isn't necessarily baby sized.
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Dec 16, 2019 05:40
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I bet the baby would look real good wearing some of the aunt's jewelry too.
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Dec 16, 2019 05:45
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sorry, i am already keeping a baby in this coffin
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Dec 16, 2019 05:47
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for saying “gently caress no” when my flatmates asked my FWB to pay a weekly rent to come see me? Oh Reddit can straight gently caress off.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA [NSFW] For not letting my Brother and SIL use my wooden box as a coffin? He eyes me when in crisis when they are weak I've been stalked and pried for a babe-shaped box for weeks I've been drawn into your magnet tar pit trap I wish I would delete your number when you turn back
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He should tell them that the box was for an antique massager the village doctor used to use to treat his great great grandmother's female hysterics e: the box was for a 19th-century cocaine enema kit Clark Nova fucked around with this message at 06:08 on Dec 16, 2019 |
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Dec 16, 2019 05:55
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Help my roommates accidentally reinvented pimping.
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Dec 16, 2019 05:58
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WIBTA if I bought my wife a face shaver? She has no known health issues and doesn't take any medication that would cause it but she's got a rather hairy face and seems to be in total denial of it. She claims it's "peach fuzz" and everyone has it but there's less hair on her arms. It's not just peach fuzz. It's closer to if my hair was blonde and I didn't shave for three days. If it was just an aesthetic issue I wouldn't mind but there's two issues that are making me need to take action. She loves makeup however she can't find a foundation that isn't "weak and flaky" she's constantly trying new brands, sometimes they cost close to 30.00 only for her to say it doesn't work and toss it out as the hair is the real issue. I do drag and cosplay. I know it's not the makeup. She's even called Morphe (Jeffree Star cosmetics specifically) and Fenty foundation "total garbage" It's also super scratchy and uncomfortable to touch. I've tried making subtle-ish comments akin to "drat I hate having to shave this close before I can get to the fun part (the makeup) last time I forgot and it was falling off my face before I got home" she didn't take the hint and simply suggested I try wax. I also came across one of those infomercials with a eyebrow/face trimmer and left it on the channel instead of turning off the TV as intended... I got a lecture for leaving the TV on and that was the end of that. Most recently I outright explained that makeup doesn't stick to "peach fuzz" that well and she said I was lying, it's just the "cheap poo poo" that other people don't have that issue. I'm tired of her constantly spending money, and complaining about something that can be easily fixed but she refuses to accept there's a problem. WIBTA if I bought one of those trimmers and tossed it in as a Christmas gift in hopes she'd try it and figure this out herself? It's literally the only thing I can think of aside from the obvious rear end in a top hat move of telling her to either stop wearing makeup or to not buy more until her old bottle is empty or expires? Edit : I'm the one who buys the makeup and it's getting close to 60.00 per month.
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Dec 16, 2019 06:37
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60 bucks of makeup a month seems real low I say, as Kathleen Lights high fives me in front of my full collection of Kylie Cosmetics
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Dec 16, 2019 06:48
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Admiral Ray posted:He eyes me when in crisis when they are weak 
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Dec 16, 2019 06:55
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QuarkJets posted:Powerful post/username combo right there Yeah, that was always the final nail in the coffin in my relationships, is when I would start becoming a liar just so I didn't have to deal with setting certain boundaries or dealing with issues Also I might just be projecting my experience again, but I feel like another big issue he's overlooking is he's probably feeling a lot of resentment because it seems like she's constantly trying to make him take the lead on everything, and being passive.
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Slowpoke Rodriguez posted:You've never heard of anyone with non-neurotypical brain chemistry? Legit don't understand the connection. I raised a child who isn't neurotypical and he knows my birthdate, and his bio mom's, so  If someone doesn't think this is info worth knowing that's fine, their business. But I'm still allowed to be over here thinking it's weird as hell to not know how old your mom is.
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Beachcomber posted:He shouldn't be lying, but I understand needing to constantly be stimulated to silence the screaming anxiety from within. Obligatory armchair ahdh diagnosis.
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QuarkJets posted:That other goon said that they knew their parents' graduation dates and that just blows my mind. It's just... Why? Are they celebrating their high school graduation years later? Yes, it's called a high school reunion. Mom also used her graduation year for usernames and stuff, and knowing Dad is three years older, it's pretty easy to remember his. I also looked through both of their yearbooks as a kid to see the funny late '60s hairstyles. So many people are saying "Well, I never need to know what year my dad was born when I fill in forms!" but the practicality of that knowledge really isn't the point. It's the weirdness of not having the most basic knowledge about your closest relatives.
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AITA for giving a habitually late employee a Lyft gift card as a secret Santa gift? I'm a manager at a local tex mex restaurant. This year we have decided to do secret Santa. I just so happened to get (let's call him Marty) as the person I have to get a gift for. Marty is an overall "okay" employee. A shift manager as well. Not stellar but not subpar either. The thing about Marty is, Marty is always late. He no longer calls the store to warn us, he used to...but not anymore. I used to give him warnings and even wrote him up several times but it did nothing. He has been an employee for several years here, before I was hired, and his tardiness was always a problem. I had no say in his promotion to manager but just quietly hoped the promotion would make Marty get to work on time, seeing as the opening manager would have to be relieved by him and if he was late it would effect someone else's schedule. It hasn't. Marty will even call 5 minutes before he is scheduled to manage and claim he needs a ride if he is to manage that night. ...in doing so he almost guarntees he will get a ride because no one wants to pull a last minute double. ...and worse case scenario if he can't get a ride he gets his night off. Its an ongoing problem and if it was up to me he wpuld be demoted then fired if that didn't correct his behavior. However, the GM refuses to do anything...do Marty stays. We did the name pull 2 weeks ago. And at first I was going to buy Marty the new Star Wars game...but his tardniess has been worse and got to the point where he is affecting my day by me having to stay later to wait his arrival. I'm fed up and when I try to talk to him about it he brushes it off as not a big deal. So I've done some thinking and am going to purchase Marty a Lyft gift card instead of the video game. That way, he has no excuses for at least 3 shifts. That, and he may realize its his ongoing tardiness and disrespect of the time of others that caused him to get such a gift. Am I the rear end in a top hat for gifting him a Lyft card instead of an awesome video game?
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Shasta Orange Soda posted:Yes, it's called a high school reunion. Mom also used her graduation year for usernames and stuff, and knowing Dad is three years older, it's pretty easy to remember his. I also looked through both of their yearbooks as a kid to see the funny late '60s hairstyles. When everyone else is telling you that they don't know their parents' high school graduation date, it is not them who are the weird ones
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Thanks, I'll work on knowing less about my parents in the future.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for giving a habitually late employee a Lyft gift card as a secret Santa gift?
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10 years ago my old boss gave me an alarm clock for my birthday as a joke cause I was late a lot. I didn’t think he was an rear end in a top hat, but I still made sure to hide it in the ceiling in his office then set an alarm for the middle of the day as retribution.
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Having trouble finding the post in this thread, but this was from a month or two ago:quote:AITA for leaving my used tampons in the shared bathroom trash bin? Well, a happy ending was recently posted over in r/TwoX: quote:My ex wanted to throw away our relationship over my period. Yesterday I signed and bought his half of our house. A happier ending would have been both dudes getting devoured by wolves, but you take what you can get
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Shasta Orange Soda posted:Thanks, I'll work on knowing less about my parents in the future. Edit for initial unnecessary sarcasm
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Shasta Orange Soda posted:
There was a fantastic Alan Moore Swamp Thing issue that neatly tied together men being lovely about periods and the lunar cycles for women and werewolves. 
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Dec 16, 2019 12:57
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SpaceSDoorGunner posted:Unironically
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Beachcomber posted:There was a fantastic Alan Moore Swamp Thing issue that neatly tied together men being lovely about periods and the lunar cycles for women and werewolves. For a moment just now I conflated this with the Looney Tunes Animal Man story 
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Dec 16, 2019 13:53
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Sunswipe posted:Said my parents couldn't afford birthday PARTIES. But lack of reading comprehension and making poo poo up are common features of this thread, so carry on. there is no minimum cost for a party, your family obviously completely lacks the blitz spirit. shameful anglos who don't know how to make do and mend. put a candle in a turnip and get out the fiddle for goodness sake.
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Dec 16, 2019 14:02
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Was it a bad thing or good thing?quote:This was only a year ago. We finally moved together, but it was hard to make ends meet, after all we practically moved two blocks from our jobs. Like three months later this new guy Joe(65) started to work at my office, and since I(24) was the one who trained him we became friends, a really friendly guy who eventually opened up to me. Apparently he had no money as he just moved for the job, so I sympathized with him and told him to stay at my place until his situation got better, that way we could also share rent. I was tricked!
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Dec 16, 2019 14:31
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Telemaze posted:If someone doesn't think this is info worth knowing that's fine, their business. This is incredibly gross and assholish.
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Dec 16, 2019 14:46
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That's at least the second cotton-eyed joke prank post I've seen in r/r
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That's maybe the least funny joke ever, I'd expect a 6 year old to tell me that.
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AITA for naming my son a slavic name after a drunk bet on the internet?quote:Some years ago I was part of a group chat and we used to chat a lot. It was a time of my life that I struggled socially and the people there were the only friends I really had, even tho I have never seen them. Over the years I met some friends in real life, had a boyfriend, moved out of my parent's house and everything was going amazing.
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My (26f) boyfriend (30m) has a "new" babymama (20sF) and she wants more than a co-parenting relationshipquote:I met a guy, I only wanted fun and sex, but we accidentally fell in love, oops. Now we're together and have our own place, it's been 6 months.
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Jeez, a whole 6 months?
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In typical reddit fashion a single unknown slavic name is to be defended at all costs yet throw in some Danger Thompson and suddenly the parents are the assholes.
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quote:AITA for tearing up my food instead of using a knife? “””””””innovative””””””””
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DemoneeHo posted:My (26f) boyfriend (30m) has a "new" babymama (20sF) and she wants more than a co-parenting relationship Wait, zoom and enchance quote:babymama (20sF) 
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I love that phrasing. "Am I the rear end in a top hat for being an awesome sex god who also is a champion skeet shooter? Or is she the rear end in a top hat for being too stupid to see how sexy I am?" Jesus. I don't give a poo poo how you break up your food, you're the rear end in a top hat just for that phrasing, buddy.
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Dec 16, 2019 16:50
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Maybe people don't want someone's possibly dirty fingers all over their goddamned food, idiot.
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Leon Einstein posted:Maybe people don't want someone's possibly dirty fingers all over their goddamned food, idiot. This. Which is why when I don't have a knife I just eat as narrow a channel as I can through the middle.
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