Mr. Lobe posted:

I... don't think a woman would wear that at a urinal?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

I keep thinking you mean funeral and not urinal.

Leon Sumbitches posted:

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AITA for not letting other drivers in front of me when their lane ends?
u/Cheeze_and_Rice57m
I have two areas on my daily commute that have two lanes that become one via "right lane ends, merge left". There is plenty of signs posted letting drivers know this, and lots of time to start getting into the continuing lane. What gets me is the people that speed past everyone and feel entitled to cut somone off right before their lane ends, and then they act like your in the wrong for not slamming your brakes to let them in, which also backs up everyone else queuing in line. Today in particular, there was no one behind me, so open road to merge behind, and this guy cuts me off to get in front of me, only to brake and make a right hand turn shortly after the merge. Am I in the wrong for thinking these people are being assholes? So many people do it, and so many people just let them in, maybe its just me? Also will add at these areas it is generally not bumper to bumper traffic, which in that case I can understand you need to take turns to merge a huge amount of vehicles.

Edit: I want to clarify that the continuing lane is usually going a crawling speed, around 10mph or less, while there isnt much traffic in the ending lane. So I am not really causing dangerous conditions when the mergers are the ones flying by me trying to squeeze in. Like I said, I understand a zipper merge looks good in theory for being the most efficient, but that only works if everyone on the road is in tandem, and as anyone who drives anywhere, especially east coast, knows this is will never be.

Edit 2: I am also not running people off the road. I will let them in before there is an accident, but I am deffinetly not happy about it.

sephiRoth IRA posted:

Did we hit traffic issues in the great new year derail?

hawowanlawow posted:

love those high riding thongs that come up over the top of the hip

everyone knows it's sexy as hell to have that "turkey leg" look

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My boyfriend came out to me as a hebefile. He says that means he also is attracted to younger girls. He also said that he understands if I want to leave him now but he just wanted to be honest with me because he genuinely loves me and cares for me.

It's not like he's done anything wrong either, I asked him about it, like if he had ever looked at anything questionable but he says that he just likes Japanese porn with petite women like me. I also know that he's a good person and would never do something that would be morally wrong. Maybe that would mean he'd enjoy me dressing up for him like a teen girl or something too, maybe he'd enjoy some roleplay.

Still I can't help but be a little freak out and wonder if it's really 100% okay to just accept it and continue our relationship like nothing happened? Or what should I do?

tl;dr: Boyfriend came out to me as a hebefile, which he says means he also finds younger girls attractive.

sephiRoth IRA posted:

Did we hit traffic issues in the great new year derail?

QuarkJets posted:

That's my thought too. The gently caress? Get divorced now cause you're fighting over the stupidest poo poo already

The Bramble posted:

Boyfriend [28M] of two years came out to me [25F]. Not sure if I should accept him for who he is or what to do.


Ooooh, love the co-opting of the phrase "coming out" to describe this guy's fascination with children on anime body pillows.

The Bramble posted:

Boyfriend [28M] of two years came out to me [25F]. Not sure if I should accept him for who he is or what to do.


Ooooh, love the co-opting of the phrase "coming out" to describe this guy's fascination with children on anime body pillows.

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Longtime lurker, first time account/posting - I’ve debated posting this for a while now, but since I’ve been so vocal the last few days on this subreddit I figured it was time to find out if I was TA instead of just commenting on others.

My wedding was September 21st, 2019. We had a fairly decent sized wedding. My cousin (on my stepdads side - we are not close whatsoever) and her boyfriend have only been dating not even 6 months at this point. I’ve met the guy once before my wedding and he never shows up to any family functions. We’re all having a great time at my wedding. My husband and I are mingling with guest while everyone dances.

The next thing I know is my cousins boyfriend asks the DJ for his mike and goes to the center of the dance floor saying he has an “announcement” to make and calls my cousin over. So, I rush over and say, “Nope, no one is getting engaged during my special day especially during my reception. You can get engaged later tonight but not right now. It’s my day. Thank you for understanding.” and I go to walk away. My cousin starts puffing and my aunt (her mom) starts yelling at me and calling me an entitled brat. It causes a huge fight and they all end up leaving. My mom, stepdad, dad, and stepmom all are on my side and were even pissed that they think its okay to do that during a wedding they all paid for. My nana (step dads mom) says I was wrong and told me to apologize and call them over and allow him to propose. Needless to say, it didn’t happen.

Flash forward to Christmas. Ugh, it was terrible! My stepdads entire side were rude and ignoring my husband and I. And of course, guess what happens! My cousin and her now fiancé announced their wedding date - September 21st, 2020!

I’m beyond pissed and so not planning to go. It’s my drat one year wedding anniversary! My family is upset that they would do that to piss me off for not allowing them to get engaged during my reception. My cousin says they chose to get married on their one year engagement anniversary. Either way, regardless of the real reason, I’m still upset. Of course, my nana is super excited.

So reddit, aita for not allowing them to get engaged during my wedding reception and aita for not attending the wedding on my one year anniversary?

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Honestly don’t think I acted assholish here given his actions, but the severe backlash I’ve received has me open to the idea that I am. Hence I’m posting here.

To cut a long story short, I slept with a guy called Mark at a toga party. We had both been drinking but not in anyway drunk. Just a couple beers. The next morning a friend approached me and asked why I slept with him when he has herpes. I had no idea and obviously would not have slept with him had I known. I was annoyed he did not disclose this and feel he had a moral obligation to do so before sleeping with anyone.

When I confronted him he admitted he has genital herpes but said it wasn’t a big deal, it never flares up, he hasn’t passed it on to anyone etc. I don’t really care for these excuses, and when I pushed him for an apology he said I was being a pansy.

Following this incident, I took it upon myself to share his herpes status on our university’s Facebook pages anonymously. I did this so that other women (or men, if he swings that way) don’t get tricked also. Although it’s obviously me that did it, he can’t prove it, and I haven’t gotten in trouble for it.

That said, he has organized a campaign against me for “shaming” and “harassment” against him for the posts, and successfully convinced a few groups of my guilt. The posts in question were literally bland and vanilla: “Beware of X. he has genital herpes and does not disclose this fact to those he sleeps with.” Absolutely no mean words or slurs.

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Throwaway account.

So, little bit of a back story: DH and I have been together 5 years. He’s first generation Italian, and his family comes to visit 2-3 times a year ... and when I say family, there’s usually 5-10 people. The older generation (his mom and aunts/uncles/grandparents) speaks broken English but mainly Italian. The younger generation (DH, his siblings, cousins, etc) all grew up speaking English in public and Italian at home with the family.

Every get together we’ve ever had I find myself feeling incredibly lonely, somewhat resentful, and occasionally completely outcasted in my own home. My children and I aren’t fluent in Italian. I have been trying to learn, I pay for a tutor, have tons of kids learning app games in Italian, and I have the Babel app. I have asked DH to listen or to have conversations with me in his native language, but he flat out refuses saying it’s not his place to teach me. But I just want to practice, to learn his slang and accent, and be able to put them in coherent sentences.

I know enough to pick up some words here and there to follow along, but that’s about it. This leads to me just sitting by the wayside when we have family gatherings, only to be accused of being antisocial. I would never ask them to just stick to English for my sake, I just wish the DH would make an effort to give me some visual cues, the occasional TLDR of conversations, or even just not get frustrated with me because I can’t join in. AITA for getting frustrated and feeling so left out or should I just suck it up until my Italian gets better?

Breetai posted:

I wanna read the comments but I also don't.

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He's a hebephile who also finds younger girls attractive? So a paedophile then?

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Hebefile means girls age 11-14 which isnt any better than a paedohile.
Do you want kids? If so how could you ever trust him with your kids?

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Did he specify the age? Because anything that's like 7 years younger than you is a really long stretch... I would say this is a huge red flag and is one step from becoming a pedophile

The Bramble posted:

Boyfriend [28M] of two years came out to me [25F]. Not sure if I should accept him for who he is or what to do.

sephiRoth IRA posted:

AITA for feeling resentful around my in-laws?
u/leetle_deetle61h

sephiRoth IRA posted:

AITA - for not allowing someone to propose during my wedding reception and for planning on not going to their wedding?
u/newyearsameshit202018m

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I'm a software engineer, with a full time job and a side hustle of doing freelance coding work in my own time. I've always been the type to have a side hustle I put a lot of my free time into; I get really bored sitting idle.

My freelance hourly rates are $60 an hour, and at my full time job, my hourly pay works out to about $40 an hour. So that's how I value my time.

Anyway, over Christmas vacation, I was staying at my parents house. My cousin was also staying over with her three young kids from Christmas to new year's.

I'd been planning on doing some work on my freelance projects when I had free time; in the mornings when my family had no plans. I wasn't in any rush; I was already ahead of schedule on them all, but I didn't really have anything else to do. It was in a really rural area and it's like an hour drive to the nearest anything

Then my cousin and her husband asked if I could babysit all day for three days, so they could visit some friends in the area and hang out with just adults. I said I had planned on doing freelance work at the library, and she offered to pay me to babysit.

I said I could if they got close to my freelance rates. She wanted a number, and although my freelance rates are $60 I didn't feel like that was right, it was high. But I didn't want to go too low; honestly babysitting 3 kids would be harder for me than the routine coding work I had for my freelance project. I don't know a lot about kids and I've never babysat for long, and I had a feeling it would be stressful and difficult.

So I said $35, which is below what I make hourly at work, and what is the bare minimum I'd value my time for, if that time is spent doing difficult work.

And she went crazy at me, saying that's a ridiculous rate for babysitting, that I was entitled and being selfish, that I'm trying to take advantage of how she didn't have other options, etc.

I said that's way below what I'd be making if I had the time to do my own work, and I'd be putting off my own work to babysit.

Her husband then got mad at me saying that I was a 24 year old girl, that I'm drat near a child myself, that my time is not worth that much and it's childish to say that it was. And that I was a stupid girl for not knowing that babysitting costs like 15 an hour, when I grew up and have kids of my own I will see how stupid I was being.

I was kind of done with being called stupid so I just told them I hoped they could find someone else.

My mom thinks that I asked for something offensive, and my cousin and her husband obviously did too.

AITA for giving that number?

Professorjuggalo posted:

Still cheaper than a daycare, shouldn’t ask your software dev brother to babysit anything

Lucrece posted:

AITA for saying my babysitting rates are $35 an hour?

Leon Sumbitches posted:

Lucrece posted:

AITA for saying my babysitting rates are $35 an hour?

LethalGeek posted:

I'd say the lady knows the worth of her time more than the mansplaining rear end in a top hat in the story.

MagusofStars posted:

That said, the true payback here would be to go to their wedding, then grab the mic from the DJ and announce your upcoming pregnancy during their reception. That *would* make you an rear end in a top hat, but would also be 100% deserved.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My (30/F) mother (58/F) was deliberately disrespectful to me and my husband (30/M) on our wedding day three weeks ago and now that we're back in town it's like she thinks nothing happened.