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AITA for prohibiting my daughter from wearing an oversized t-shirt over extremely short shorts in public?quote:My daughter has always dressed modestly before. She came back home after a semester of college and has been wearing some questionable outfits. Last week, she wore a zip up jacket with nothing underneath to meet up with her friends. I told her that was inappropriate to go out in public in and to wear something under that. She said I was making a big deal out of nothing and went out like that. My husband said he didn’t think her outfit was inappropriate. Gen ☓ moms hate vsco girls and their XL t-shirts!!
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I (22F) didn't go to my sister's (24F) wedding after she disinvited me. My sister's wedding was a couple months ago and she's still on this, she didn't invite me at first cause we had a stupid fight over a hoodie that she thought I took from her. I did not she just forgot it in my car, she accused me of being a thief which is a sore spot for me cause I was kinda a thief as a kid and "borrowed" her clothes a lot but I haven't done that since I was 12. She got mad at me and said "well if your not gonna give me back the hoodie then don't even bother showing up to my loving wedding". I just hung up after that cause I was pretty pissed she would disinvite me to her wedding when I was the maid of honor over a stupid hoodie. She got all petty and bragging about how her "real" family is going there to support her, I was hurt at first that I wasn't going but it got better over time and I was just annoyed at the whole thing. About 2 weeks before she called me saying how mom wants us to get over the fight. The fight was dumb and we apologized but I was still mad she got that petty over a hoodie and she said she will re-invite me but I'm no longer the maid of honor. The whole apology she gave me felt like BS and our mom forced her to say that. It kinda hurt that I was no longer the maid of honor and she's really got pissed at something I didn't do so I said "you know what? I got work on your wedding I can't make it, call back when you actually mean the apology. Take me off your VIP". I then hung up cause I couldn't stand another second of her BS. So the wedding comes and goes and I didn't go, my mom is disappointed that I didn't go and "caused unnecessary conflict". My sister is mad cause I "betrayed" her. I have no doubt people asked her where I was and she couldn't put on the face that she has the "perfect family" and "perfect sister". My mom is disappointed with both of us and how we handled all this and my sister isn't talking to me right now. I wanted to go and would've went but how she reacted and how her apology felt forced and BS I decided that why go when she clearly didn't want me there. Should I have sucked it up and went? I feel like she didn't want me there and I didn't want to go to a wedding id feel unwelcome at by at least half of the hosts. TL;DR:I didn't go to my sister's wedding after a fight and I don't know if that was a good idea or not with how mad she and my mom are.
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Jan 7, 2020 17:13
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Congrats on doing the right thing: You didnt steal the hoodie, you stole her perfect day
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Jan 7, 2020 17:15
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AITA For making my girlfriend homeless after she yelled at my little brother? I'm 25(M) and have lived with my girlfriend for the last few months. I pay rent and all bills because a few months ago she was kicked out of her parents home (that's a story for another time), although she also does have a job (she is horrible with her money and has no savings). So a few weeks ago my little brother (10) moved in with me, and my grandparents said they were going to move overseas and could not take him - my parents passed a few years ago, and when they passed I was still in college and hence couldn't take him in, even though I loved him very much (still obviously do). When I got my own place, I felt it would be selfish to uproot his new home, so just left him with my grandparents. However, I visited him almost every day whilst he was living there. When I informed my girlfriend of my little brother moving in, she was very angry, although she eventually calmed down and accepted it - probably because she realised she could do nothing about it. My girlfriend has been quite aggressive to my little brother. My little brother is very shy and has anxiety issues, and often has panic attacks. Therefore, the day before he came I told my girlfriend to be welcoming and make him feel wanted on her part. However, the last few weeks have been very concerning. She has been very aggressive with my brother. Yesterday, when he accidentally spilt his drink on MY lap, she yelled at him and called him worthless. He started crying and kept apologising to her, whilst hugging me and hiding his head in shame. I told her that she could no longer live with me given how she treated my brother. I was aware that by making her leave, that she would be homeless. However, my brother comes first. AITA for making her homeless without giving her time to sort out other arrangements? EDIT#1: This is NOT a breakup post; I'm asking whether I'm an rear end in a top hat for kicking someone out and making them homeless without notice because of her treatment of my brother.
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Jan 7, 2020 17:16
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Smirking_Serpent posted:
NTA Also, please make it a break up. She's evil, and bad with money. There's no bright future with her.
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Jan 7, 2020 17:21
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for prohibiting my daughter from wearing an oversized t-shirt over extremely short shorts in public? Daughter's in college. She decides what she wears, OP has no vote and her efforts to control her daughter will only distance her.
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Jan 7, 2020 17:25
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I do want to hear that story of how she got kicked out of her parents home. But yeah, OP is not the rear end in a top hat for kicking her out. Although he might want to consult some legal advice just in case he might have done an illegal eviction.
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Jan 7, 2020 17:26
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Barudak posted:Congrats on doing the right thing: You didnt steal the hoodie, you stole her perfect day Unnnghh so satisfying. I need a smoke.
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Jan 7, 2020 17:27
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DemoneeHo posted:But yeah, OP is not the rear end in a top hat for kicking her out. Although he might want to consult some legal advice just in case he might have done an illegal eviction. In the comments he says he talked with his lawyer friend about it first. She's really just a lodger - she gets her mail at her parents house and goes to pick it up every few days. So I'm gonna guess she's not homeless.
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Jan 7, 2020 17:36
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend, kicking him out, and refusing to answer his texts, because he left flowers in my locker? Add this to the "title makes you seem the rear end in a top hat, but the text makes it clear the other person is" pile.
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Jan 7, 2020 17:38
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DemoneeHo posted:I do want to hear that story of how she got kicked out of her parents home.
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Jan 7, 2020 17:43
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Lmao, did she actually say floozy.
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Jan 7, 2020 18:00
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for prohibiting my daughter from wearing an oversized t-shirt over extremely short shorts in public? How did you dredge up a post from the 50s
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Jan 7, 2020 18:10
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Motronic posted:In the comments he says he talked with his lawyer friend about it first. She's really just a lodger - she gets her mail at her parents house and goes to pick it up every few days. So I'm gonna guess she's not homeless. She was kicked* out of her parent’s house so presumably there’s something the OP is leaving out that probably makes her lovely(-er than getting into a territorial power battle with a 10 year old) * not locked. Thanks autocorrect Ugato fucked around with this message at 19:07 on Jan 7, 2020 |
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Jan 7, 2020 18:13
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while it's bad to throw people out into the street, it's worse to deliberately antagonize children
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Jan 7, 2020 18:17
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AITA for giving 1000usd to a person I met online for 4months after criticizing his behaviours?quote:I met this young Caucasian dealer at an online casino, let’s call him Jonato (M, 19). We bonded quickly over relationship problems he had, and I was just a regular college kid (M, 21). Even though its protocol not to add players in an online casino he still did and expressed his problems. His social media were all the negative aspects including drugs, raving, sex, drinking, smoking etc. All the pictures he had were dark or either in a club/rave.
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Hobo Clown posted:AITA for giving 1000usd to a person I met online for 4months after criticizing his behaviours? I feel like I didn't even need to read the body of this one.
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Jan 7, 2020 18:18
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I (22F) didn't go to my sister's (24F) wedding after she disinvited me.
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Jan 7, 2020 18:21
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AITA for telling my husband something I knew would make him feel bad? Long post from mobile sorry. Let me start by saying that we have a detached garage with a TV and PS4 "mancave" whatever. I regularly have to call my husband and ask him to come inside from his video game or YouTube or whatever to spend time with our 2 year old and / or me. Sometimes he comes right in, sometimes after a while, sometimes not until long after im in bed. Well tonight when he got home from work our daughter and I happened to be returning from a walk. She was excited to see him so we both hopped in his truck (around 6) and listened to music and sang and hung out. At 715ish daughter was getting antsy and hungry and still needed to have a bath before bed (bedtime is 8). So I said I needed to take her inside for the aforementioned things and asked him to come in until 8 when she went to bed. He said "No I don't want to." So I took daughter inside to start dinner. He walks in the front door, hands daughter a drink and goes right outside to the garage. I get dinner in the oven and daughter is crying resisting her bath and sobbing for daddy. So I get her bathed and dressed and she says she's sad. I said why she says daddy. I give her dinner and cut on a movie and she calms down. I went to the garage and told him that if he can't be bothered to spend time with his family until 8 o'clock to just not worry about it. That daughter knows he's home and not with her and doesn't understand why. He got mad because didn't call him to tell him she was crying. I am tired of asking him spend time with us (I had already asked in the truck and he said no) and calling to remind a grown rear end man nightly that it's 8 o'clock his daughter is going to bed or that his 2 year old wants to be with him in general. I don't say anything bad about him to her but I'm also not going to make excuses for him to our child (he has a 13 year old we went through something similar with and I made excuses and lied to her for years and I don't want to do that anymore). When she asks I just say "Daddy is outside." AITA for not calling to tell him his child wanted him after he said clearly he didn't want to come in with us?
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Jan 7, 2020 18:22
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La Brea Carpet posted:we got quizzed on our new boss’s horses, family, and vineyard The cinema scene from Inglorious Basterds comes to mind
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Jan 7, 2020 18:24
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my husband something I knew would make him feel bad? call cps on this woman, she's married to a child. but more seriously, he emotionally neglected his older daughter already. He's going to keep doing the same to his toddler.
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Jan 7, 2020 18:26
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Man what a fucker.
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SilvergunSuperman posted:Man what a fucker. Literally. If he hadn't been a fucker this all could have been avoided
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Jan 7, 2020 18:29
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my husband something I knew would make him feel bad? /r/AITA recently removed their "no obvious validation posts" rule so I expect a lot more posts like these where OP definitely knows they aren't an rear end in a top hat
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Jan 7, 2020 18:30
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Is it normal for 2 year cohabit girlfriend to not wait for you while out with friends? I don't know if I'm being too sensitive or not, so I really need some outside perspective on this. My girlfriend would just wander off with our mutual friends if I went to the bathroom or something. Leaving me to chase after her. One time my knee was injured and she just walked away with her friend chatting. She knew about my injury and didn't look back once across a big parking lot. I yelled after her for help but I assumed she didn't hear. Another time she begged me to come meet her new coworkers at a bar. I just got home tired from work and decided to indulge her. I told her I'd be there in 10 minutes and when I got there no one was there. Called her and she said she got in a cab with her colleagues 5 mins ago to a new place. I was furious and felt like she doesn't care about me at all. She would often just keep walking if I had to tie my shoelace or stop to get something. If I was slower, she could be way ahead, never looking back or wait for me. This happens when we're hiking, walking around, going out with friends. I feel disrespected and abandoned when this happens, I've brought it up a lot. She says it's the way she is and she won't change and I'm too sensitive. The last time was a big argument over it. Anyone experience the same? Am I reading into this too much and I should just suck it up? I would always wait for her and make sure she's alright.
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Jan 7, 2020 19:33
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Last Resort posted:A broken hip is basically a death sentence for an 85yo. I’m glad a fair few of the comments called the OP out on that, the number of people I’ve seen break a hip and be dead within six months is staggering.
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Jan 7, 2020 19:44
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Power Khan posted:Is it normal for 2 year cohabit girlfriend to not wait for you while out with friends? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k_t0TjhdtdA
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Jan 7, 2020 19:56
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Power Khan posted:Is it normal for 2 year cohabit girlfriend to not wait for you while out with friends? pretty much sounds like she doesn't give a gently caress about you bro although people who are incredibly slow walkers are pretty annoying, and it's a bit strange that girlfriend walks and hikes so much faster
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Jan 7, 2020 19:57
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Power Khan posted:Is it normal for 2 year cohabit girlfriend to not wait for you while out with friends? That is some impressive shittiness.
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Jan 7, 2020 19:58
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Power Khan posted:Is it normal for 2 year cohabit girlfriend to not wait for you while out with friends? This woman sounds like she gives no fucks about this guy. I walk faster than my wife, but I keep an eye on it and notice when I'm starting to outpace her and slow down. I would also never invite her somewhere and then immediately leave.
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Jan 7, 2020 20:02
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So I met this kid at a diner, because he lost his squirrel or whatever, and it was under my table - his mom works there, she seems nice. Anyway, so we overhear some kook talking about a martian, or Spudnik or whatever. He says it destroyed his ship. The people he was with were laughing at him, saying he was a drunk, so I backed him up, said I saw it too. I felt bad for the guy, y'know? So the kid, who's still here gets all excited and says we should look for it together, so I have to tell him the truth. Later that night there's some loud noises in my yard. Now, I work at a scrapyard, and make art out of some of the scrap (it's...abstract). So I figure someone's trying to steal the scrap, don't know why, but people do this poo poo. Turns out it's a loving giant alien robot. Next thing I know this kid's pushing him on me, saying I have to let him stay and eat my scrap, because he's got nowhere to go. I don't know this kid. There's a 100 foot tall monster outside my house. So I walked back in and slammed the door shut. I mean, I'm not responsible for this kid right? But he seems to think I'm a dick for not helping him out. Now I'm standing at the door wondering if I should let the giant crash here, maybe for a night. WIBTA? Edit: I've decided to bang the kid's mom Edit 2: I mean, I've decided to help him out
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Chamale posted:So I met this kid at a diner, because he lost his squirrel or whatever, and it was under my table - his mom works there, she seems nice. Anyway, so we overhear some kook talking about a martian, or Spudnik or whatever. He says it destroyed his ship. The people he was with were laughing at him, saying he was a drunk, so I backed him up, said I saw it too. I felt bad for the guy, y'know? So the kid, who's still here gets all excited and says we should look for it together, so I have to tell him the truth. Later that night there's some loud noises in my yard. Now, I work at a scrapyard, and make art out of some of the scrap (it's...abstract). So I figure someone's trying to steal the scrap, don't know why, but people do this poo poo. Turns out it's a loving giant alien robot. Next thing I know this kid's pushing him on me, saying I have to let him stay and eat my scrap, because he's got nowhere to go. I don't know this kid. There's a 100 foot tall monster outside my house. So I walked back in and slammed the door shut. I mean, I'm not responsible for this kid right? But he seems to think I'm a dick for not helping him out. Now I'm standing at the door wondering if I should let the giant crash here, maybe for a night. WIBTA? haha, nice Ready Player One reference
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AITA For telling my sister that her daughter was not special, but instead was ordinary?quote:Some context is definitely needed here. I'm 33(M), and my sister is 36. She has one child (14F). I have one son (13). It is also important to add that I am a single father - my wife passed when my son was 7. some other wise redditor posted:Why do all these posts sound like they're biased and have the same formulae? It's always the same
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA For telling my sister that her daughter was not special, but instead was ordinary? People post the witty comebacks and revenge scenarios they think of in the shower the next morning as if they really happened, basically. Edit: though the way I handled that atheist college professor a few years ago was 100% real, I'd like to stress
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my [22f] fiancé [22m] won’t fake enthusiasm for my interests background: we’ve been together 8 years, finished college in different states, and have now moved in together. I proposed two years ago and he said yes. he’ll show me things he’s interested in and they’re not always my cup of tea but I’ll listen and ask questions bc they interest me because they interest HIM, and his enthusiasm for them is cute and I like his passion for stuff. I mean certain things like very niche WWII things, I’ll ask he show one of our roommates who actually shares that interest with him (because I literally just cannot follow along at all, despite my attempts to) but besides that if he wants to share it w me and I’m not otherwise busy or occupied, I love to listen to him talk. I don’t often do the same with him (maybe I show him more memes than he shows me, but those are quick like “hey look, baby yoda, vs “I found this interesting article”—mine usually require less engagement, if that makes sense. Recently however, I’ll turn my phone to show him a meme or actually literally anything else [a text from a mutual friend, his sister, my mom] and he’ll straight up say “I don’t care” and not even engage.) However, when I do, he....seems irritated. Like we both like Star Wars, and I discovered a subculture within the fandom that developed from fans of the Clone Wars that developed their own conlang and slave culture based out of Tatooine and it’s now it’s own thing and it’s super interesting bc the original author set it up but people have been creating stories set within that small semi self contained corner of the Star Wars (fandom) universe. Both of us love Obi Wan and the politics of the prequels and I was like “how does Anakin being raised in this culture inform how he sees the Jedi council?” Bc this is one of our favorite things to discuss, like the morals of the Jedi council, like we spend HOURS discussing it, but he was like “yeah I’m not gonna read any of the stuff you send me and this is irritating” and he’s being doing stuff like this in the past like I was talking about one of my interests and he was like “I don’t care” and it hurt my feelings. More and more often when i talk about my interests he does it so I’ve been trying to bring up our mutual interests but he’s been doing it for anything I bring up and it makes me not want to engage when he speaks bc it feels like I’m doing a lot of work to make him feel heard when I’m not only not feeling heard but being dismissed, ignored, and ultimately feeling devalued, like my words and interests don’t have value and therefore I don’t have value (or at least less value than his). How do I let him know how I feel without him making me feel bad bc I have tried and he says I do It to him as well but I don’t think I do but he also hasn’t brought it up unless it’s to invalidate what I’m trying to address. I don’t really feel like I’m a person, I’m just a need filling machine. tl;dr my fiancé doesn’t show the same level of engagement when I speak about my interests/our shared interests vs his interests and it’s hurting my feelings. Tips for discussing this w him? What worked for you in the past?
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I discovered a subculture within the fandom that developed from fans of the Clone Wars that developed their own conlang and slave culture based out of Tatooine and it’s now it’s own thing and it’s super interesting
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Propaniac posted:Behold, the platonic ideal of the doormat. The girlfriend is had at him? She's mad because he apparently is as terrified of conflict or other people as she is? She could have cleared that up as soon as old baffoon slammed himself into the seat like he was winning a game of musical chairs by telling him the seat was taken. Is she not a native speaker of whatever language they speak there?
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I got engaged at 22 and he won't read my fanfiction
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