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Xenocides posted:My [25F] boyfriend [24M] of one year reads a lot of hentai but according to him it's only for the memes Are you familiar with the term... Ahegao??? 
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AITA for cutting off my inlaws? Myself (32f) and my husband (34m) got married 2 weeks ago. We wanted to elope because we aren't into big weddings but we decided against it because it would break his mother's heart. Before we got married they sat him down and told him he was making a mistake and he shouldn't marry me. I didn't find this out until after the wedding. I'm not really sure why they don't like me. My husband thinks it's because I'm the higher earner in the family and am quite independent and have no problem speaking up for myself. We planned our wedding for the summer but a week before the wedding my husband was in a serious accident and broke his neck, ribs, back, and arm (he's recovering well now). He almost died and all the doctors were shocked that he survived. When he arrived at the hospital they thought they'd be bringing him straight to the morgue. The following week our dog got really sick and we had to put him down. My husband was devastated. He had a very physical job which he loved that he can no longer do now. We postponed the wedding until 2 weeks ago. To say we've had a rough year is an understatement. The day of the wedding came and we thought everyone had a good time. Because of the nature of weddings and being up and about a lot, my husband was in an incredible amount of pain. Everyone knew this but he put on a brave face and kept it to himself. The day after the wedding his parents were frosty with him and completely ignored me (this is normal, they just don't like me). He rang them last week and they ignored his calls for 3 days. When they eventually answered they said the wedding was a disgrace and an embarrassment to their family because of where they were seated during the meal. Then his brother text him and told him the wedding was a 'complete and utter sh!t show'. All of our friends are shocked (as are we) by this. From everyone else's point of view they looked like they had a great time. In all the photos and videos they are smiling, dancing, laughing etc. Our friends say they are clearly very good actors because their performance on the day was outstanding. Even if they did have a problem with the wedding, after all we've been through his family couldn't even keep their opinions of our wedding to themselves. A few days later his brother text him again (he ignored the first message) and said that they all would have been better off if he hadn't survived the accident. We have a kid together and at this stage now I don't want them ever having anything to do with us or our kid ever again. Am I right to cut them off? I feel like they've overstepped the line this time.
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Mozi posted:if you eat something and stay in the store long enough to poop it out legally you don't have to pay for it as you aren't taking anything out of the store That's what my family has done for generations, and we've never had a problem with it.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for cutting off my inlaws? Wow what the gently caress, this woman should gather that family together in a barn, jam the doors shut and burn that fucker to the ground while sipping a martini
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for cutting off my inlaws? 
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Smirking_Serpent posted:GF of 4 years [22f] hates my [27M]guts for messing up a job opportunity she recieved. Ironically, I was the one that got her that opporunity. These are bad character traits but they are also the kind of things that make me suspicious of the person who is dating the person with these character traits. Especially when they post on reddit.
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Boyfriend (21M) watches pornography that makes me (19F) feel uncomfortable and unsafe.quote:My boyfriend and I share a PC for alot of work, emails, Uni stuff etc. The other day I logged into the PC and found my boyfriend had left his 'secret' Reddit account open, and several tabs of pornographic content still open. Included in these tabs were subreddit dedicated to footworship, furry porn, Loli hentai, almost underage, forced to submit, rape roleplay, bloodplay etc. hello reddit i'm afraid i might be kinkshaming my violent sadist pedophile boyfriend
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Boyfriend sleeps 17+hours a day and I dont know if I'm being unreasonable Boyfriend sleeps 17+hours a day and I dont know if I'm being unreasonable quote:So my boyfriend(M26) and I(F24) have been together about 9 months,and living together just as long. Hes been diagnosed with sleep apnea, depression and anxiety. He can sleep 17+ hours a night,and day. And doesn't have a job. Anytime I suggest he use his clap mask he has every excuse, it drys his mouth out, it hurts his teeth, the mask doesn't fit right, the tube isn't heating properly, it's too late in the night to put it on, it doesn't feel right and is uncomfortable. I do understand some of the things he says are sometimes true, but he doesn't try to help or fix any of the reasons why he "cant" use if either. Like, it hurts his teeth, we just went to the dentist and hes got many, many cavities, they're starting to work on them, but he refuses to use the special dry mouth mouth wash I got for him, says he forgets to brush and floss his teeth even once a day. I have to call to make any appointment he might need, any doctor appointments, the dentist appointments, I had to call the sleep specialist to see if there was anything we could do to make it easier on him to use. I make the appointments, ask him before hand if I should even make the appointment, if he says to do if, I do, and then I'll tell him when it is, and remind him at least every other day until the actual day of. And he'll still have every excuse in the book to not go to the appointment. He's too tired, he has other things to do that day.. his main excuse for everything is that hes too tired because of his apnea. Nothing in the house gets done unless I do it. The laundry, cooking, cleaning, feeding the cats(there are 4 of them, all his) making sure the Bill's are paid, dealing with all financial goings-on. If he had his way, he would sit on the couch and sleep all day every day. Hes said he wants to start a diet for the new year, he has gained at least 50lbs, and the doctors have also said he should try to lose the weight.. I'm just tired of him telling me I nag and bitch too much about everything, and that the feeling that if I didn't do all the things I do, absolutely nothing would get done. It also upsets me that I spent well over $200 on making our bed nice, comfy, clean, new sheets, new comforter, pillows, bed frame, everything, and it takes at least 4 hours of me trying to convince him to even come to bed with me, if I feel like arguing with him about it that night. I'm just tired of feeling like he doesn't try at all and still expects me to just support and continue to live and be like this. Am I expecting too much from him? Should I just leave him and tell him to act his age and be more responsible for himself? I'm constantly going back and forth with myself of just doing the work and understanding that hes been dealt a bad hand with the medical diagnoses and other things, and just saying fuckit and that I'm UK n over my head and to leave... am I being a bitch? I dont know.. any advice would be helpful. Thanks guys. reddit, am i expecting too much from my fat chainsmoking perpetually asleep fire-hazard manchild of a boyfriend?
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Xenocides posted:I (24M) have been housing my friend’s (24M) pregnant wife (24F) How can an adult be so useless
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Frog Act posted:Boyfriend sleeps 17+hours a day and I dont know if I'm being unreasonable this guy sleeps 2/3 of the day and she has to convince him to sleep in a bed? where does he sleep then, in the laundry?
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Frog Act posted:Boyfriend sleeps 17+hours a day and I dont know if I'm being unreasonable Good luck with your 5 cats
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just designate a decorative throw blanket to conceal your boyfriend for the half the day he's immobile and forget about him. out of sight, out of mind
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luxury handset posted:just designate a decorative throw blanket to conceal your boyfriend for the half the day he's immobile and forget about him. out of sight, out of mind Take it up a notch and just have company use him as a day bed.
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luxury handset posted:just designate a decorative throw blanket to conceal your boyfriend for the half the day he's immobile and forget about him. out of sight, out of mind Better yet use saran wrap.
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therobit posted:Better yet use saran wrap. Oh poo poo, I didn't even think of storing him in the fridge!
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Frog Act posted:So my boyfriend(M26) and I(F24) have been together about 9 months,and living together just as long. so did she go on one date with this fat loser during the brief window of time he's awake and think "well poo poo I better commit to this"
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A Nice Guy Succeeds!!!!! And it goes about as well as you would expect: Me [20M] with my [20F] girlfriend for a year. I don't feel like a boyfriend anymore. I feel like a stuffed animal. Short background: we met freshman year, became good friends, I was rejected 3-4 times for various reasons, then November of last year I gained some confidence, made a move, and we've been dating since. I was your typical 'nice guy' and treated her pretty much like a girlfriend (gifts, attention, time, effort) despite her stating she wasn't interested. I didn't do these things because I thought I could earn her affection, I did them because I felt like that's how I could show her how nice of a person I was, and how good of a boyfriend I could be. In the beginning we were intimate every few days or so, limited only be the lack of private time. After a month, I felt ready, and we had sex. We then did it about once a week for about a month or two. This went down to about once every two weeks towards the end of May. We moved in together in June, and we had sex or did other sexual things about once a week through July. In August I think we were sexual once. Since then, she can't even bring herself to kiss me for longer than a few seconds. The most intimate things we do now are cuddling, and about once a week she let's me make her a bubble bath and let's me sit in there with her and chat, wash her back, etc., and sometimes she'll let me squeeze her breast if I ask. Problem Number 1: I found out she wasn't attracted to me anymore in September as a result of my weight gain and hygiene. I went from about 250lbs last year, to 310 pounds this summer. I started keto a month ago, and after a few hiccups, I'm down to 285 and still losing. I will admit that I haven't had the energy/drive to go to the gym more than once a week, but I'm willing to change this if needed, I just have a feeling that's not the issue anymore. I have a (recently diagnosed) deviated septum which severely inhibits my sense of smell, so it's often difficult to tell if I have BO, if my clothes stink, or if my room smells funny. I've been making a significant effort to do laundry way more often, keep our entire apartment clean, and use deo and shower every day, even if I don't think I need to. Problem Number 2: Another issue she has said is that sex is often painful for her. She is short (4'11" compared to my 6'1"), and as a result very small and tight down there. I, on the other hand, am fairly girthy/wide. When we used to have sex, I'd ALWAYS preface it with a long relaxing massage, and usually, as per her taste, engage in some bondage and pain-play (spanking, flogging, etc.), before proceeding to finger her or perform oral, before finally moving to PIV. She was my first, and unfortunately I am weak and O pretty easily. She on the other hand, has never had a partner be able to give her an orgasm (she says she's done it once or twice, but at other times she talks as if she never has). She describes what happens as hitting a brick wall, and that up until a point, everything I do (oral, rubbing, insertion) feels fantastic, but then suddenly it will hurt insanely, to the point that she shuts down and we have to stop completely. Problem Number 3: Despite never being in a relationship before, unlike her previous boyfriends my primary focus early on was to make her happy, so I was okay with the fact that she never stimulated me physically. In fact, I don't think she even grabbed my dick until after the 4th or 5th time we had sex. Since then, I'll admit I've gotten selfish. I tried very hard to work with her to help her orgasm, but nothing seemed to work. No matter how relaxed she was, how slowly I went, or what I was doing, she'd always eventually hit that wall. The problem is that, after having sex and (finally) experiencing what it was like to cum from being physically stimulated by another person, I wanted to do it all the time. Before sex, if she hit that wall, I was fine. I didn't care if I didn't get off. After sex happened, now I feel like something is missing. I feel left out and unrequited if I don't get played with too. Here lies part of the problem I think: I was too happy in the beginning to notice, but she really doesn't seem to care if I get sexually satisfied at all, nor did she seem to notice or care that she was getting all the attention while I was getting none. As time went on, I began to give up on being able to make her orgasm. I figured that I'd need to save up for the hitachi in order to do it. In the meantime, I tended more and more to try to make sure that I got off before she hit that wall. And here lies our problem. If I wanted to try and make her O, there's a large chance she won't get there, will shut down, and no matter how much I want it, I feel guilty asking her to finish me off. Maybe the first time she did it without asking as she could see I was in some real discomfort and needed it. Twice later I started to ask her to help finish me off, and she was okay with that for a time or two. Hell, for a month or so she was awesome enough to agree to help me get off even if she wasn't in the mood for sex! She was initially disappointed in how long I lasted, so I worked hard to last longer. I forced myself to slow down, did kegels, and focused insanely hard to keep the session going. The problem was that, by around July, she had begun to refuse to get me off afterwards, and had stopped getting me off at any other time. The last two times we had sex I lasted too long and she would end up hitting that brick wall, and we'd have to stop no matter how turned on I was. So then I started letting myself come earlier again, since I was scared that if I lasted too long, I wouldn't be allowed to at all. I started being careful about how long foreplay lasted, since there had been times where I'd gone too far in the past and we'd had to stop before I even started. As the times we were intimate got further and further apart, I became more and more focused with getting as much as I could out of each one. Results of Problems/Actions Taken So Far: I only recently realized this last one, but have since made offers to have 'bondage nights' or 'naked cuddling' or to do things together other than PIV, but she's been completely unresponsive to any of it. I recognized that I shouldn't expect her to be attracted to someone unhealthy, so I promised her I'd stop pressuring her for sex until I hit 200 pounds. I don't think I can last another week, and I've only just hit 285. We've talked again and again about this, and each time I try to explain to her that this isn't just something I want, it's something I need, and that getting rejected like this is killing me. She says she's sorry that I need it so much, and feels bad since she just never feels like sex anymore. I think the main problem might be her medications. She's on hormonal birth control AND antidepressants+anxiety meds. She was off BC when we started dating, but quickly started taking them once we were a couple. She was by far the most passionate those first 2-3 weeks, thought that may have been the sexual tension we had between us being released, combined with new relationship bliss. It seems to me as if the time she began taking her anti-anxiety meds corresponds with the time when we began to have sex significantly less and less. I've asked her to talk to her Gyno about the first one, but I wouldn't ever ask her to stop taking the meds she has for her mental health. She won't make an appointment with her gyno, but she did run out of BC a couple weeks ago, so we'll see if that helps. I'm fine with condoms, but she uses BC to regulate extreme periods. Currently: I feel used. I don't feel like a boyfriend anymore. Today I finally found the words to describe it: I feel like a big teddy bear that does chores, buy sweet gifts, runs errands, and cooks. I am working so hard to fix my weight, stay clean, and smell good. I do abut 90% of the chores so that they aren't an issue on her to-do list to give her a reason not to have time. I've purchased countless toys she's wanted to try just to get her into the bedroom, as it seems having something new to try is the only thing that will pique her interest anymore. It's not just about sex anymore, it's about intimacy in general. I haven't had a kiss longer than 4 seconds since August. On our anniversary I bought her multiple gifts she loved, took her out for a nice lunch, and prepared a relaxing bath with incense, candles, bath salts and bubbles. I had to practically beg her to just run her hands through my hair for a couple minutes while we laid in bed around 8 in the evening. After about 15 seconds I started to cry and had to lie and tell her it was because it felt so good (which it does), when really I was crying because, after a year of spending nearly every waking moment thinking of things to do to make her happy and doing them, the limit to her affection for me was ruffling my hair. I pleaded with her to please let me kiss her. I promised that I wouldn't try to do anything else that night, but that all I wanted to do was kiss her more than a few times in a row, or maybe even have a kiss where her lips weren't tightly shut against mine. I don't even remember if I got the second part, since she apparently is too turned off by saliva to do so (didn't seem to be much of a problem in the beginning of our relationship...), but I remember being momentarily elated when I got FOUR WHOLE KISSES IN A ROW IN 5 SECONDS. After that she said she was tired and just wanted to cuddle and fall asleep. With her back now turned to me, I cried silently. As tears started to fall down my cheeks I got up, composed myself, and told her goodnight and went to sleep in my room (we sleep apart as my snoring would normally prevent her from sleeping at all). At this point I'm 95% sure my weight and hygiene aren't the issue anymore. I've addressed the pain and selfishness issue, so that's not it. I'm fairly certain that she just plain has a low libido. I hate to leave her over sex, but she just won't make an effort to be intimate with me. I have a very low self esteem, so things must be pretty bad since I actually feel like I deserve to be happy in a relationship, rather than feeling the way I do now: guilty, ashamed, repressed, and lonely. I'm asking a friend of hers and a friend of mine for advice. I plan on sending her a message either this week, or over winter break, telling her the way I feel, and giving her the choice of either making an effort to increase her libido, or to end things between us. so that I don't have to continue sinking time, energy, and money into a relationship that isn't just making me unhappy, but is downright making me depressed. tl;dr: SO's libido disappeared after 8 months. Discovered she believes it is partially due to my weight gain. I agreed she shouldn't have to force herself to be sexual with someone she doesn't find attractive, and agreed to stop initiating until I hit 200lbs (from 310).After losing 35 pounds and working very hard to continue losing, I am seeing no effort on her part to fix the other issues we had with sex (talking to her doctor about sexual pain, hormonal BC libido shift, etc.). Am heavily considering forcing her to choose between working with me to improve our sex life, or ending our relationship. I'd like to know: Am I wrong for wanting to be intimate with my SO despite knowing she is no longer (potentially never been) attracted to me? Should I give her an ultimatum at all, or considering she's made no effort to work on this in the past or acknowledge my feelings on the issue matter to her, just break up? Considering the fact that we live together (in separate rooms), and moving would be an rear end during the year, should I break up with her and continue living together? Or should I find a replacement roommate and move out? Considering that I do still love her and DO WANT US TO BE TOGETHER, should I just stick things out and hope that after I lose weight things improve? If not, should I stay with her and just continue to push her to fix her BC-affected libido? Am I an rear end in a top hat for wanting my girlfriend to try changing her BC and meds just to be intimate with me more? Is it fully my responsibility to change to meet her standards of attraction? Reddit is split between calling him a disgusting smelly obese mess for gaining 60 lbs in 6 months and considering showering and putting on fresh clothes a great success and calling her a doormat who was never interested and was just leading him on because she likes being pampered. In the comments he goes on about her saying what a great bf he is while never showing any desire for basic physical closeness (possibly due to odor) and comparing him favorably to previous relationships where they never did nice things for her. My favorite comment: I can't wrap my brain around being in a monogamous relationship with someone who doesn't want to be intimate with you. Do you know what we call that? Friendship. You have been friendzoned in your serious relationship. Why are you trying so hard to make this all work? There are millions of other girls on the planet, and I'm guessing that at least a couple hundred (statistically speaking) would have an intimate relationship with you. Go find someone else, seriously. Was that an intentional  at the end?
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Tiny Bug Child posted:so did she go on one date with this fat loser during the brief window of time he's awake and think "well poo poo I better commit to this" Sunk Cost is a hell of a drug.
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Xenocides posted:A Nice Guy Succeeds!!!!! And it goes about as well as you would expect: Doesn't find him attractive anymore? She never found him attractive in the first place, she's just even more unnatracted to him now and doesn't even want to fake it.
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I have never heard of a deviated septum inhibiting smell. Even so, you would think that basic hygiene would cover all but truly foul body odor.
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a: my boyfriend has a deviated septum. b: how does he smell? a: awful!
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He uses deodorant, even if he thinks he doesn't need it. In what circumstance would a grown man not need deodorant?
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Leon Einstein posted:He uses deodorant, even if he thinks he doesn't need it. In what circumstance would a 285 lb man think that showering and using deodorant daily might be excessive because he is not sure he needs to on a particular day?
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Leon Einstein posted:He uses deodorant, even if he thinks he doesn't need it. He's one of those guys that thinks if he can't smell himself then others can't either. As opposed to someone who has learned that you grow blind to your own smell and should just have a regular cleaning routine becuase it's the healthy thing to do.
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Leon Einstein posted:He uses deodorant, even if he thinks he doesn't need it. You don't want to smell too nice or roaming packs of women will drag you off to have wild animal sex and he, as a dedicated and loving boyfriend, can't do that to his girlfriend
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Miserable Maid posted:....Why are you always like this Like what? Are you implying that we should sympathize with the redpiller fantasy? Either spend more than 5 words to explain whatever slight you've imagined or go low-effort troll someone else.
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Like this, man!
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QuarkJets posted:Like what? Are you implying that we should sympathize with the redpiller fantasy? Either spend more than 5 words to explain whatever slight you've imagined or go low-effort troll someone else. *adds QuarkJets to "HIGH-EFFORT TROLLING ONLY" list*
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Literally A Person posted:*adds QuarkJets to "HIGH-EFFORT TROLLING ONLY" list* Actually that sounds pretty nice. Add me too pls.
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Straight White Shark posted:You don't want to smell too nice or roaming packs of women will drag you off to have wild animal sex and he, as a dedicated and loving boyfriend, can't do that to his girlfriend Most women would have a lot of trouble dragging him off. I do not think he has thought this through.
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I flung my way through that like when people post John galt poo poo ironically. That guy sucks solely for being narcissistic enough to post that many words about himself
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Xenocides posted:A Nice Guy Succeeds!!!!! And it goes about as well as you would expect: If he spent as much time at the gym as he does writing words on reddit this dude would be ripped A lot of this post is spent complaining about having to use deodorant and bathe regularly, so he's probably not brushing his teeth either. Which is why she's so repulsed by his saliva and doesn't want to kiss him. Yikes He talks about how he looks and smells like garbage all the time and how that's too hard to fix and then when it comes to her libido he posts this: quote:At this point I'm 95% sure my weight and hygiene aren't the issue anymore Like okay, yes, maybe she has a libido problem unrelated to your issues but those are still major issues QuarkJets fucked around with this message at 22:05 on Jan 9, 2020 |
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Nice guy, bad poster.
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QuarkJets posted:Like what? Are you implying that we should sympathize with the redpiller fantasy? Either spend more than 5 words to explain whatever slight you've imagined or go low-effort troll someone else. ..... Being a weird rear end isn't justified just because someone is ugly and gross. Just.... Don't marry them. Leave them and tell them to go away, don't make both your lives miserable It's similar to that Nice Guy story just posted, just a huge waste of both their time and effort
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QuarkJets posted:If he spent as much time at the gym as he does writing words on reddit this dude would be ripped you read this thread, you know women will put up with an infinite amount of hygiene issues she never wanted to be this guy's girlfriend, he "wore her down" and a sense of obligation and settling for someone who is doing the nice guy routine does not make a girl want to bone
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Schmeichy posted:she never wanted to be this guy's girlfriend, he "wore her down" and a sense of obligation and settling for someone who is doing the nice guy routine does not make a girl want to bone Now I need to go home and rethink my life. 
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Miserable Maid posted:..... Being a weird rear end isn't justified just because someone is ugly and gross. Just.... Don't marry them. Leave them and tell them to go away, don't make both your lives miserable They were clearly both assholes, I agree with all of that. So what's your problem? QuarkJets fucked around with this message at 22:18 on Jan 9, 2020 |
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