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Pirate Radar posted:This isn't a WIBTA post, and it shouldn't be, because the answer would be "gently caress no" According to the Legal Advice UK comments, he's basically untouchable since he's in cyprus. That's a bummer.
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for prohibiting my daughter from wearing an oversized t-shirt over extremely short shorts in public? Huh, I didn't know you could get pregnant at 70.
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Jan 12, 2020 07:53
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If there's any 'minor' offense to bar you from tourism it should be drunk driving, since the last thing anyone wants is drunk tourists on the road.
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Jan 12, 2020 08:01
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Pirate Radar posted:This isn't a WIBTA post, and it shouldn't be, because the answer would be "gently caress no" quote:It's a complicated story, but what my family and I have worked out over the, nearly 9 years, is that he was a high functioning sociopath who, as my Mum quickly found at when he left, owed £125,750, mostly brought on through scamming business, families and maxing out credit cards. My Mum was taken to court, the house was seized, I had a mental breakdown and we nearly ended up homeless and we spent the next 5 years on the poverty line. Wait, so if the father had been the one scamming people and maxing out cards, why is the mother the one being taken to court and why were they paying off the $125K for the next several years? Does the UK have some arcane debtor's law where when you commit a bunch of financial crimes and skip town the govt goes after your immediate family like they committed the crimes?
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Jan 12, 2020 09:03
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pentyne posted:Wait, so if the father had been the one scamming people and maxing out cards, why is the mother the one being taken to court and why were they paying off the $125K for the next several years? I'm thinking dad committed identity theft and posed as the mother - creditors will sue whatever unfortunate person has their name on the documents. They're not law enforcement officers who are supposed to at least pretend to care who is actually responsible, they just want their pound of flesh.
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Jan 12, 2020 09:16
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aardwolf posted:I'm thinking dad committed identity theft and posed as the mother - creditors will sue whatever unfortunate person has their name on the documents. They're not law enforcement officers who are supposed to at least pretend to care who is actually responsible, they just want their pound of flesh. And the dad ran to cyprus, so they're like "welp, gently caress that" as far as he goes, and are gonna try to recover the credit one way or another.
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Jan 12, 2020 09:22
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for saying I don't want a car with strings attached; I'd rather save for my own car. this kid just owned their parents hard & it rules
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Jan 12, 2020 10:04
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pentyne posted:Wait, so if the father had been the one scamming people and maxing out cards, why is the mother the one being taken to court and why were they paying off the $125K for the next several years? Lots of stuff doesn't add up there without the mother being involved in some way in whatever the dad was doing, especially as apparently "the government" was involved. The only debt in the UK the government would get involved in is taxes that haven't been paid. Potentially if the guy ran a business he could not pay his taxes, but anyone who's an employee pays taxes through payroll. Its not like the US where everyone has to self declare. In theory he could have said he would pay their council (property) tax and if he didn't she would also be liable but that wouldn't get to 120K unless it took like ten years of non-payment before anyone did anything. The only thing I can think of is that he set up a company under the mum's name, possibly because he was already barred from being a director of a company (e.g. If you go bankrupt or convicted of certain crimes you can be barred from holding director status). In which case I'd he used the company to scam people, transferred all the funds abroad, never paid any tax, and then legged it, the tax bill would fall on the mother. But then if it was a limited company the government couldn't have taken their house and the mother wouldn't have to pay it back. Honestly I can't imagine a scenario where the dad can rack up so much debt and the mother would be responsible. I know someone suggested identity fraud but in the UK if you can demonstrate it was identity fraud you're not liable for any debt. Personally I think either the OP doesn't really know what went down (because he's been lied to or not told the full story), or its made up, possibly someone is in Cyprus or thinking of legging it to Cyprus.
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Jan 12, 2020 10:31
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AITA for kicking a girl out of my bridal party because of how sensitive she was being towards my ideas for dresses? I feel like I’m gonna get a lot of hate for this but I had to post it anyways. Btw on a throwaway. So I’m getting married soon (28 F), and one of the most exciting parts of the wedding for me are the bridesmaids and the dresses. I don’t consider myself to be a bridezilla, but on my special day, I want everything to be as perfect and coordinated as it could possibly be. So about a week ago I decided to invite my bridesmaids over so we could discuss dresses and stuff. Let’s call the bridesmaid I had the issue with “Joy.” Before they came over I already had a nice dress in mind. The dress was burgundy, form fitting, cut a little above the knees, and had one shoulder strap. I thought it was gorgeous and very feminine for women our age, but Joy and a couple of other girls weren’t exactly comfortable (mostly because it was form fitting) so I let it slide. I really wanted a dress that all of the bridesmaids would love and feel comfortable in, but they had to be the same. So the next dress was still burgundy, but it touched the floor (no slit) and it had spaghetti straps. Everybody loved the dress except for Joy, who claimed that she didn’t want to wear the dress because she’s insecure about her shoulders. Fair enough. At this point I knew that Joy was going to be difficult to work with, but I kept going because again, I wanted to be accommodating. I think we went through 5 or 6 more dresses before the last one. (The dresses that I showed the bridesmaids were modest IMO and little things were what made Joy not want to wear them). The complaints she had were always something small like “I don’t like how the dress shows the shoes, then my toes would be out” or “my hair isn’t long enough to compliment those sleeves” (yes, I’m 100% serious). So the last dress I showed them was a floor length burgundy dress, loose, had beautiful long sleeves, and the only thing that was keeping it from not being a burgundy maxi dress with long sleeves was the fact that there was a slit that came up to below the knee. It honestly was one of my least favorite dresses out of the ones I chose, but I wanted to try to be accommodating. Again, everyone seemed to agree with the dress except for Joy, who claimed that the slit was a little too provocative for her taste. After this, I was a little frustrated, so I just said we’d try looking at dresses again another time. While the girls were leaving, I pulled Joy aside and explained that I don’t think she’d be a good fit for my bridal party because this aspect of the wedding meant a lot to me and her demands were too “nitpicky” to be a part of the group, but I still wanted her to be at the wedding. She got upset and said that I was excluding her because of her insecurities. I said that I already tried to accommodate her by showing many different styled dresses, but she didn’t want to hear it, and left. So, am I TA? Edit: I am paying for the dresses
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Jan 12, 2020 10:50
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for kicking a girl out of my bridal party because of how sensitive she was being towards my ideas for dresses? Say what you will, but there’s no one in this bridal party who’s gonna stroke stripper dick and then bicker about it being cheating.
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Jan 12, 2020 11:12
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for kicking a girl out of my bridal party because of how sensitive she was being towards my ideas for dresses? There should be a dad fiction novel about an evil diamond monopoly cutting the stones in engagement rings in a specific way to resonate with the rhythms of the eldritch deeps, causing insanity among the weak-minded in their proximity. It would be an established conspiracy theory within days.
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Jan 12, 2020 11:16
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Im thinking back to the time I had to go bridal dress shopping and Ive decided, Ill do it, Ill challenge Joy to a duel where the loser is sent to the Shadow Realm.
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Jan 12, 2020 11:19
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Kitchner posted:Lots of stuff doesn't add up there without the mother being involved in some way in whatever the dad was doing, especially as apparently "the government" was involved. I also don't buy that some scam artist piece of poo poo dad is somehow able to recreate some magnificent life and it be anything but a fabulist invention, degenerate fuckups like 99% of the time will inevitably collapse because they're incapable of forming and keeping anything but the very basic business relationships as they're garbage people and people get taken advantage of early on.
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Jan 12, 2020 11:31
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thatguy posted:I also don't buy that some scam artist piece of poo poo dad is somehow able to recreate some magnificent life and it be anything but a fabulist invention, degenerate fuckups like 99% of the time will inevitably collapse because they're incapable of forming and keeping anything but the very basic business relationships as they're garbage people and people get taken advantage of early on. To be fair if they owed about £120K in taxes then they would "only" have to have earned about £550,000 which isn't a huge amount assuming it was income/corporation tax. I just can't think of a scenario where the government would be owed that much money and they could go after the mother (assuming she wasn't involved). If it was like "My mum was on all the paperwork" then yeah, maybe, but even then it would imply he wasn't a limited company, but if it wasn't a limited company then there's no paperwork for the mum to sign.
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Jan 12, 2020 11:46
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Tbh I can buy that it is easier for the unprincipled to be a success in corrupt countries (I hear Italy has a huge problem with this, dunno about Cyprus specifically). I also buy that he got mum to take stuff out in his name or forged it, I have a friend who works in a lowly fraud position and it happens so often in families. Additionally there is huge pressure not to get the police involved or punish the wrongdoer for whatever reason. Sloth Life fucked around with this message at 11:53 on Jan 12, 2020 |
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Jan 12, 2020 11:51
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Kitchner posted:Honestly I can't imagine a scenario where the dad can rack up so much debt and the mother would be responsible. I know someone suggested identity fraud but in the UK if you can demonstrate it was identity fraud you're not liable for any debt. You're not wrong in that it's hard to imagine. That said, there are jurisdictions in Europe where under certain circumstances creditors may seek coverage of debts in the marital estate, sort of a solidarity principle thing with spouses. I have no idea if the UK practices something like this, and honestly even that seems far fetched to me. Debt created by fraud is usually dischargable so long as they aren't an accessory to the crime or they stupidly accepted the debt or they somehow can be held liable on seperate grounds, which I can see a way of happening, sure. But all of it would require some sort of action on part of the defrauded wife that made that happen. Maybe he's a really good fraud that had her sign and participate in a bunch of really obvious stuff she shouldn't have? Maybe she was a minor accessory and avoided prison? Regardless, it's obvious the poster doesn't know the whole story and probably never will. Maybe they should get a solicitor and demand the police filings. For sure the fraud in Cyprus is lying about his situation and is probably looking for an in to milk his family for more cash. Invite him over to visit and alert Interpol. Limitations shouldn't have kicked in yet.
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Jan 12, 2020 11:58
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i mean all it takes is husband getting wife to sign some documents for her to be liable, it seems by far the most likely scenario
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Jan 12, 2020 12:42
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TheDeadlyShoe posted:i mean all it takes is husband getting wife to sign some documents for her to be liable, it seems by far the most likely scenario Depends really, if there's basically evidence that someone has a massive contract dumped on them with loads of small print and they are told "sign it, it's just a formality don't worry" the contract won't stand up in court. I recently actually incorporated my own company for work, you can do it online and it has very little information on it, with big sections with bold text on what you can be held responsible for. So basically the courts do look at "could a reasonable person have not understood what the contract/form meant, having been advised to sign it by another". I think it's unlikely to be totally fabricated, just the OP has no real clue what's really happened.
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Jan 12, 2020 13:05
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Kitchner posted:Depends really, if there's basically evidence that someone has a massive contract dumped on them with loads of small print and they are told "sign it, it's just a formality don't worry" the contract won't stand up in court. Even if it was some sort of document fraud or contract law issue, there should be ample opportunity to contest the validity of that contract later particularly if it's a criminal case. However, let's say the actual fraud amount is like £ 1 000 000 and of that, £ 125 000 was credit card debt racked up by the husband from credit cards in just her name, where she provided her husband with the credentials/pin and whatnot. According to most insurers and credit card companies, sharing your credentials is negligence even if it's family and the debt can't be discharged. Maybe that's all on her, or maybe it's a shared marital debt but he's skipped town and the debt is just unclaimable, but maybe the UK practices marriage debt solidarity so the companies can file a claim for the entire amount just on her. Maybe half that debt figure is just late fees and or court costs? It's far from unheard of that the final claim amount is 50-70% interest and fees. Honestly, we can speculate all day, but it's definitely possible and we definitely don't have anywhere near enough information from the OP to figure anything out so might as well drop it. Bottom line, fraud dad is a piece of poo poo, get him arrested any way you can.
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Jan 12, 2020 13:25
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My (21m) roommate is becoming extremely obsessed with my (f21) feet and it’s becoming a problem. What do I do?/u/troubleinfoot posted:Hi guys. A little Sunday morning reading.
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Jan 12, 2020 15:48
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by the same op My boyfriend (21m) of 6 years just lost a bet to me (21f) and won’t pay me the money. I’m really angry. What do I do? quote:So to keep things pretty short. My boyfriend and I made a bet that I couldn’t choke him out with my thighs. I am 5’10 and weigh 158. I’m pretty thin but I have a lot of muscle especially in my legs because I work out and run everyday. He is 5’7 and weighs 120. He does not workout at all.
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Jan 12, 2020 16:18
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Licarn posted:by the same op Choke him out again and keep doing until he pays you, then break up with this fragile little shortstack
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Jan 12, 2020 16:24
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Tell him either he's giving you 500 dollars or she's getting it from the foot guy.
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Jan 12, 2020 16:38
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AITA for being offended by my husband's social media post about a prior one night stand right after our date night? My husband and I are in our late thirties/early forties and we've been together for 10 years. When he was younger, he'd dreamt of a creative career, but gave it up before we met. He still has creative needs though, and tries to fulfill them by making thought provoking or funny posts on social media. He has hundreds of followers and most are friends, co-workers and family members. I'm happy that he has a fulfilling hobby, but I'm also very private and sometimes cringe at his unfiltered personal posts. We've argued about this in the past, so he usually gets my approval before adding anything about me. We try to have a "date night" at least once a month and act like we're in our 20s. Last weekend we went to a concert, got wasted, and had an absolute blast. In the Uber ride home I mentioned that it was my favorite concert ever (the band was amazing). He agreed that it was great but he'd have to think about its rank. Things progressed at home and into the bedroom and we concluded one of our best date nights in years. A few days later, I happened to check his social media account. He'd made a post about going to a concert with me and how it got him thinking about his all-time favorite concert. He said that the band we saw the previous weekend was better, but his all-time favorite concert was __________(mediocre band redacted for anonymity) 20 odd years ago. He went on to say that his date that night was a hottie and what happened after the concert was the primary reason for the top spot. Also, it was a one night stand. I think anyone who read his post would infer that he had a better sex with his one night stand than me. I realize that he had a dating and sex life before me and some partners were probably better than me, but I find it disrespectful to imply this within earshot of your current partner and infuriating to make such a public declaration. He says I'm reading too much into it and no one else would come to that conclusion. Further, he might have declared our concert as his favorite, but I won't allow him to provide fun details online. We had a huge argument that night and we've barely spoken since. I'n embarrassed to show my face in front of anyone who might have read it, but I worry that I'm being petty. Am I the rear end in a top hat?
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Jan 12, 2020 17:08
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YTA, he gave you an better reason to sever than "creative needs fulfilled only by tweeting", take it and run
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Jan 12, 2020 17:14
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how do i know if my GF is cheating on me with a bastard ?!quote:How do i know if she is cheating A month before this... I’m (M21) and i don’t have much sex with my GF (23) i don’t know what to do and im constantly thinking about cheating on her
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Jan 12, 2020 18:42
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Lol this dude is the side piece
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Jan 12, 2020 19:10
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Dad [57M] doesn't want me [24M] to date a Vietnamese girl because he thinks they are not loyal/faithful to familyquote:Disclaimer: my dad is not racist or anything. He used to worked and live near Vietnam. So he says he knows a lot about Vietnamese people. I know he only cares for me.
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Jan 12, 2020 19:39
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Licarn posted:Dad [57M] doesn't want me [24M] to date a Vietnamese girl because he thinks they are not loyal/faithful to family dad is from china right
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Jan 12, 2020 19:57
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Licarn posted:Dad [57M] doesn't want me [24M] to date a Vietnamese girl because he thinks they are not loyal/faithful to family /r/relationships: Disclaimer: my dad is not racist or anything
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Jan 12, 2020 20:03
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Sagebrush posted:dad is from china right I've heard these kinds of stereotypes about Vietnamese from Chinese family, so maybe.
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Jan 12, 2020 20:06
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Sagebrush posted:dad is from china right White Australians are really racist too 
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Jan 12, 2020 20:11
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Inceltown posted:White Australians are really racist too Not going to argue with that, but I've always found that white racism tends to lump all asians together, whereas Asians are more likely to discriminate against other Asian nationalities. Maybe it's different in Australia, though. Also, just noticing the " they are not scare to do what is best for them" -- definitely sensing that the dad and maybe the son as well is not a native speaker.
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Jan 12, 2020 20:49
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AITA for taking my birth control in public? I’ve been taking oral contraceptives for about 6 years now. When I first started, I was worried about what other people would think (I was raised in a pretty “sex-is-taboo” household) and hid that I was taking them very well. Now, however, I’m in my mid twenties and I’m comfortable enough in my skin that I don’t really mind if people know I’m on the pill. Anyway, I was out on a double date with a couple we know last night and the alarm on my watch started going off (vibration). It was time for me to take my pill. While we’re all chatting, I reach down into my purse that’s beside me in the booth and get my pill, put it in my mouth, and take a drink of water. Whole thing probably took 30 seconds. My friend didn’t comment, but her boyfriend made a face and said “did you just take something?” I said “yeah, my birth control.” He made another face and said, “that’s inappropriate don’t you think?” I just kind of exchanged a look with my boyfriend who seemed as lost as I was. I mumbled an “uh, ok” cause I hate confrontation. He went on, “you should probably go to the bathroom to do that. It’s really not polite to take that kind of pill in front of a group of people. We get it, you have sex.” I really had no idea what to say, so my boyfriend changed the subject to the game that was on over our heads at the bar and the night carried on. I was pretty much floored. Wtf? I had been doing this for a while now, any time I’m out and my alarm goes off, I’ll just take my pill and go about my day. Wouldn’t it be like taking any other medication? Or Advil? I don’t really see the problem. AITA?
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Jan 12, 2020 21:09
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That friend is gonna be real happy about that litmust test revealing that her boyfriend is trash with no real investment or pain
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Jan 12, 2020 21:12
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I for one am still glad there are people toeing the line of shaming unacceptable public behavior such as swallowing a pill
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Jan 12, 2020 21:33
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thatguy posted:I for one am still glad there are people toeing the line of shaming unacceptable public behavior such as swallowing a pill a SEX pill
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Jan 12, 2020 21:37
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That isn't nearly as awkward as using the toilet at your friends house and there's a used condom right there in the open waste basket. What a baby.
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Jan 12, 2020 21:38
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Sandwich Anarchist posted:Choke him out again and keep doing until he pays you, then break up with this fragile little shortstack No Ask him to go double or nothing and this time you finish the job, and you legally change your name to Xenya Onatopp
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Smirking_Serpent posted:11 year monogamous relationship and now he wants to be poly. Are we destined for failure? lol
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