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AITA for refusing to join the location tracking app my fiancé's family uses?quote:Our engagement is recent, and now that I'm almost a part of their family they want me to share my location with them so they can know I'm safe. It's nice that they care, but this isn't something I'd ever want to do. My family doesn't do it, and I don't like the idea of people knowing where I am at all times. It's creepy and an invasion of my privacy.
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Nov 30, 2020 17:26
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He can share his location with his fiancée alone, which should be no problem, and then if he ever goes missing she can look him up. If they both go missing together, the family is already tracking her. Bing bang boom.
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Nov 30, 2020 17:38
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Sagebrush posted:He can share his location with his fiancée alone, which should be no problem, and then if he ever goes missing she can look him up. If they both go missing together, the family is already tracking her. Yes. Life360 allows you to have different groups, so I can have one with my family, and another with my secret Canada family. Then they don't learn about each other.
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Nov 30, 2020 17:40
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for refusing to join the location tracking app my fiancé's family uses? Your fiance has shown you that your wants and feelings will always come second to any weird complexes her family has why is she still your fiance
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Nov 30, 2020 17:42
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for refusing to join the location tracking app my fiancé's family uses? I would love to know how old the couple are. This is either crazy terrifying controlling poo poo or crazy controlling poo poo that Christian Parenting Monthly declared to be best practices when getting your high schooler a smart phone in 2014 (and then the family never reassessed the dynamic). Neither is okay, but it's the difference between "run the gently caress away" and "wean the parents off the continuous info drip." betaraywil fucked around with this message at 17:49 on Nov 30, 2020 |
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Nov 30, 2020 17:45
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Cythereal posted:Sounds like the roommate has the hots for the poster or her girlfriend. might also just be jealous resentment that she isn't in a relationship
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Nov 30, 2020 17:51
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I had a coworker with one of those set up for his family, typical republican dad type. His daughter is in high school which imo already seems old enough that it’s kind of weird he literally tracks them, but I initially just kind of assumed it was a modern parent thing. What flabbergasted me one time is he nonchalantly mentioned he would regularly watch his college aged son to make sure he wasn’t leaving his dorms late at night for parties or whatever. He seemed confused that when his son came home he spent the entire holidays with friends.
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Nov 30, 2020 18:03
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WIBTA if I ask my mentally ill wife to get a job -- even though my earnings alone cover our expenses just fine?quote:I completely acknowledge that this sounds really bad, but hear me out.
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Nov 30, 2020 18:12
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for refusing to join the location tracking app my fiancé's family uses? I always wonder why in these scenarios the person demanding someone else gives up all their privacy doesn't get their privacy taken away. Start tracking the parents, always asking them where they are going and why. Start showing up at their house randomly and once inside rooting through everything they have. Go into their bedroom and start looking for the things you don't want to find. If they get upset about any of this, well "if you have nothing to fear you have nothing to hide" after all. Of course I recognize this could backfire but at least then you'd know they actually believe that phrase applies equally to everyone. They would still be assholes but they would be principled assholes at least.
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Nov 30, 2020 18:18
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ArbitraryC posted:I had a coworker with one of those set up for his family, typical republican dad type. His daughter is in high school which imo already seems old enough that it’s kind of weird he literally tracks them, but I initially just kind of assumed it was a modern parent thing. What flabbergasted me one time is he nonchalantly mentioned he would regularly watch his college aged son to make sure he wasn’t leaving his dorms late at night for parties or whatever. Is the college aged son is too dumb to go for the obvious move of leaving the phone in his dorm room and getting a second phone for all his mates so he can do whatever the gently caress he wants without being watched then he deserves to be watched  (ok he doesn't, but - and this is important - I crossed my arms stubbornly)
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Nov 30, 2020 18:21
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA if I ask my mentally ill wife to get a job -- even though my earnings alone cover our expenses just fine? I think this will be okay. Nobody ever blows through an inheritance or loses their highly compensated startup job suddenly or for that matter just loving drops dead one day. Wife has a great support system too. (Realtalk, it is a symptom of a sick society that this woman has nothing going on and her husband can see that, recognize that it's a problem, and talk himself down because they have plenty of capital. But if she earned more capital she might feel better.) My (25f) husband and two friends (all 25) peed in the hot-tub when I was sitting in it with them last night. I feel so disrespected and grossed out but he keeps saying "you're making WAY too big a deal of this." quote:Last night we did a small friendsgiving at my husbands parent's house who are out of town. It was mainly centered around his boyhood social circle, most of whom still have family that live in the neighborhood. And the update: (update) I posted the other day about my husband and his friends peeing in the hot-tub while I was in it with them. TLDR: we are getting a divorce. quote:I posted about this on Friday morning. We spend all day Friday fighting about how not only was it disrespectful but that he refused to even acknowledge my issues with literally being pee'd on.
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Nov 30, 2020 18:25
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So why'd you get a divorce? Oh well me and 5 friends did this thing from when we were 12 and my wife hated it. Well what was it? Stay up all night playing Halo? Nah we just pissed in the hot tub while she was in it.
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Nov 30, 2020 18:29
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betaraywil posted:My (25f) husband and two friends (all 25) peed in the hot-tub when I was sitting in it with them last night. I feel so disrespected and grossed out but he keeps saying "you're making WAY too big a deal of this." sound the trumps! unfurl the pennants! fetch the crown of pete!
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Nov 30, 2020 18:29
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betaraywil posted:I think this will be okay. Nobody ever blows through an inheritance or loses their highly compensated startup job suddenly or for that matter just loving drops dead one day. Wife has a great support system too. I don't think it's about the money but the idea that people have to be productive in some way to feel good about themselves. This is an idea I ascribe to as well. That productivity can be any number of things like volunteering, art, working or whatever but you need *something* to do in your life. It's clear that she does nothing. Not cleaning. Not a hobby. Not working. and the OP is just expressing that it's not about the money but she needs to get off her rear end and just do something, anything. I have crippling depression too and it's something that takes work to manage and being involved in life is the major thing for a lot of people, myself included. The OP is just asking that she put in that work and doesn't know how to ask her (or nudge her) to do that.
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Nov 30, 2020 18:41
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I wouldn't want to share my life with someone who literally does nothing. I mean... come on, that's gotta be a drag to be around
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Nov 30, 2020 18:49
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Was there an update to the "My brother in law says 'he knows' and I have no idea what he's talking about?" thing?
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Nov 30, 2020 18:51
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please knock Mom! posted:I wouldn't want to share my life with someone who literally does nothing. I mean... come on, that's gotta be a drag to be around Its not great living it either.
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Nov 30, 2020 18:52
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betaraywil posted:My (25f) husband and two friends (all 25) peed in the hot-tub when I was sitting in it with them last night. I feel so disrespected and grossed out but he keeps saying "you're making WAY too big a deal of this." another starter marriage bites the dust what the guy did was gross, but if that's all it took to destroy a marriage in the span of a day then it was doomed to begin with
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Nov 30, 2020 19:03
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The_Franz posted:another starter marriage bites the dust I was thinking that too. She must've been seeing his true colors after they got married and this was the perfect escape. And yeah, it's gross but then to make a joke about it and then to try to minimize it afterwards. Oh well, it's all for the best, I'm assuming they don't have any children.
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Nov 30, 2020 19:07
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Mr. Lobe posted:might also just be jealous resentment that she isn't in a relationship This was my take.
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Nov 30, 2020 19:08
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Zil posted:Its not great living it either. Someone who plays video games not because she enjoys them, but to pass the time?! No hobbies, sounds like no friends, and no life skills.
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Nov 30, 2020 19:13
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Tarkus posted:I don't think it's about the money but the idea that people have to be productive in some way to feel good about themselves. This is an idea I ascribe to as well. That productivity can be any number of things like volunteering, art, working or whatever but you need *something* to do in your life. It's clear that she does nothing. Not cleaning. Not a hobby. Not working. and the OP is just expressing that it's not about the money but she needs to get off her rear end and just do something, anything. Yeah the way it's phrased it seems like if she was painting or some other random hobby not even a paying job he'd be happy. He asked and she she doesn't even like playing video games, she just does it because she has nothing else in her life. It sounds like he just wants her doing something that motivates her. I feel like motivation is self reinforcing, hopefully she finds something she likes and the more she does it the more she'll want to keep at it. I definitely hate getting started in stuff but a half hour in I hit a groove and then you can get boring things done for the rest of the day since I'm already working may as well knock it out. It's getting up for the first thing that takes work. threelemmings fucked around with this message at 19:20 on Nov 30, 2020 |
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Nov 30, 2020 19:17
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Tarkus posted:I don't think it's about the money but the idea that people have to be productive in some way to feel good about themselves. This is an idea I ascribe to as well. That productivity can be any number of things like volunteering, art, working or whatever but you need *something* to do in your life. It's clear that she does nothing. Not cleaning. Not a hobby. Not working. and the OP is just expressing that it's not about the money but she needs to get off her rear end and just do something, anything. Yeah, 100% with you (including as a significant depression haver who has a certain instinct to recoil from the idea of work because I know that at any point in the process I might wake up totally unable to contribute let alone meet a deadline). But it's unfortunate and sort of a teachable moment that he's saying "the money doesn't matter," but his go-to suggestion is paying work. Like, just that he naturally suggested walking dogs for money over (say) volunteering at an animal rescue or nature preserve is an indictment of the way that capital rules our lives to the exclusion of other considerations. The OP does know better (he says as much!), but he also doesn't. (Also volunteering or hobby crafting or whatever will provide skills and build her networks and all that stuff that will help if something happens to the OP/his job.)
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Nov 30, 2020 19:20
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What’s with these oddly sincere and empathetic responses, can’t we just tell the op to sever from his womanchild SO cause picap or whatever.
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Nov 30, 2020 19:25
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Speaking as someone who was not given up on, he is heroic and she might need her meds adjusted.
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Nov 30, 2020 19:48
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The_Franz posted:what the guy did was gross, but if that's all it took to destroy a marriage in the span of a day then it was doomed to begin with Really? Your partner grabbing a bunch of his friends so they can join in and urinate on you together wouldn't be enough to destroy a marriage? How many of them taking a poo poo into her purse would you consider before you'd acquiesce to a separation?
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Nov 30, 2020 20:08
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Really? Your partner grabbing a bunch of his friends so they can join in and urinate on you together wouldn't be enough to destroy a marriage? This seems like a last straw sort of situation. The camel was already buckling.
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Nov 30, 2020 20:15
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odd how getting pissed on can lead to one getting pissed off very strange indeed
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Nov 30, 2020 20:16
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Wait, please, I want to understand this. If you had an otherwise fine relationship, you would just brush off your partner joining in with a bunch of his friends to urinate on you? If so, what would it take? They're a great person, but they occasionally plant turds in my breakfast cereal and funnel their mucus into my shampoo.
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Nov 30, 2020 20:19
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What they did was pretty disgusting, but urinating in a pool (or tub) and *on* someone are two different things altogether. I do think the divorce was already coming and this was either the perfect out or the straw that broke the camel's back.
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Nov 30, 2020 20:27
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Wait, please, I want to understand this. To be fair, if you've ever been to a public pool, especially a hot tub, you've been swimming in everyone else's piss. It was both gross and immature of them to do that and she was right to divorce him, maybe not for the specific act of urination but the way it was carried out and then doubled down on in the form of 'It's not a big deal!'. Plus he's probably a loving loser anyways. If it were me and it was a one-time thing and my SO apologized, it would not be the end of the relationship. If it was part of a pattern, then yes.
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Nov 30, 2020 20:27
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Wait, please, I want to understand this. These are COMPLETELY different things! Urine was considered to be sterile until 2015; now it's known to have some bacteria in healthy people without urinary tract infections, but not much. On the other hand, there are nearly 100 billion bacteria per gram of wet stool. If you aren't completely knowledgeable about pee and poo, do you think you are sufficiently informed to be posting on SomethingAwful.com?
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Nov 30, 2020 20:29
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Tarkus posted:To be fair, if you've ever been to a public pool, especially a hot tub, you've been swimming in everyone else's piss. It was both gross and immature of them to do that and she was right to divorce him, maybe not for the specific act of urination but the way it was carried out and then doubled down on in the form of 'It's not a big deal!'. Plus he's probably a loving loser anyways. "We all peed on each other too and you don't see anyone else getting upset about it!"
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Nov 30, 2020 20:31
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It's totally okay that I'm literally urinating on your face because it's sterile! Have you said that out loud to anyone?
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Nov 30, 2020 20:32
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Look, maybe I should apologize for taking a leak in your hair, but at least I didn't poo poo in your mouth! Just wait a minute and let me tell you about sterilization levels, please.
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Nov 30, 2020 20:34
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Pope Corky the IX posted:It's totally okay that I'm literally urinating on your face because it's sterile! Who hasn't? 
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Nov 30, 2020 20:34
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if you think about it during these troubling times of covid by peeing on you im actually strengthening your immune system. I may have actually saved your life. The first rule about peeing in the pool is dont talk about peeing in the pool, you start talking about it society devolves into chaos
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Nov 30, 2020 20:36
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Really forming any kind of premeditated group piss plan should be an automatic dealbreaker
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Nov 30, 2020 20:38
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haveblue posted:Really forming any kind of premeditated group piss plan should be an automatic dealbreaker This, entirely
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haveblue posted:Really forming any kind of premeditated group piss plan should be an automatic dealbreaker I take it I'm no longer invited to your weekly potluck? Docteur posted:Who hasn't? I can confirm that this is true Pope Corky the IX posted:Look, maybe I should apologize for taking a leak in your hair, but at least I didn't poo poo in your mouth! Just wait a minute and let me tell you about sterilization levels, please. Most of the prostitutes I frequent charge per ounce of bacterial load
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