|
yeah that's the one i grabbed for content too, it's not looking good! i am afeared for them edit: oh god this snype is terrible here: I [21F] am hell bent on moving out and my BF [22M] doesn't want to until he can buy a house quote:I [21F] would like to move out as soon as I possibly can. I make more than enough to live on my own but I love my BF [22M] dearly and would like him to move out with me. We've been together for almost 4 years have had lots of struggles with his parents especially his father integrating himself in his life. I would like us to just become I dependent and start living our lives on our own. I want go get out and have my own area and run my own house hold. I didn't move out of my parents house to live on my own only to live with another families rules... I would just like us to do things independently in our own and learn to run things our way but my boyfriend absolutely refuses to listen or even give any input. Hit excuse is that the dogs would be depressed if we leave. I just need advice on how I should handle this. I'm thinking of just moving out on my own and then telling him first and then telling his parents that I will be moving out on my own. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 20:10 on Oct 25, 2021 |
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 17:27
|
|
|
|
| # ? May 28, 2024 13:29 |
|
|
teen witch posted:Lmao 
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 17:30
|
|
|
Some people who are perpetually late are just depressed. It's hard to get up, and when you do your mind is not really on task so you end up making bad commuting choices, or spending too long in the shower or missing your stop etc. But I also know some people for whom it's a passive-aggressive power-play; they're also the people who consistently insist on last minute changes to the plan, like changing the venue or timing or whatever.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 17:37
|
|
|
Tarkus posted:The habitually late person has entered the thread. Sorry to hear you have disrespect problems grandpa. 
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 17:38
|
|
|
Invisible Clergy posted:We're not supposed to poop in the museum. I might add a photo of last year's haul, all put together on the same blanket.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 17:48
|
|
|
Dewgy posted:Sorry to hear you have disrespect problems grandpa. Care to share with the thread why you constantly make others wait on you? I don't personally buy the depression theory but I'm open to being persuaded.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 17:49
|
|
|
Invisible Clergy posted:It's such a weird post, because why would the law work like that anywhere? It's telling you "always try to steal, either you get a free item, or you have to pay the worth of the item, like you'd bought it." OP of course does not specify the country he lives in. I assume from his behavior, he's an idiot and is confused about how law works. No, think of it this way: If you own a business and you sell object X, you may sell it for whatever you like. It doesn't really matter--even if another business down the street sells the item for $10, you can still sell it for $10000, if you want. But if someone comes into your business and steals object X, it doesn't become felony level theft just because you've valued a $10 object at $10000. Kenshin fucked around with this message at 18:19 on Oct 25, 2021 |
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 17:50
|
|
|
My boyfriend keeps using my toothbrushquote:My boyfriend has been using my toothbrush and I’m not sure how to get him to stop. 2 weeks ago he asked me if I had been performing oral sex on other men I was offended and said no he said “OK I didn’t think so I only ask because I’ve been using your toothbrush”. I was so disgusted the same day I went to Dollar General and I bought a whole four pack of toothbrushes. I replace my toothbrush that he had used as well as told him that they were new toothbrushes in there he grabbed a green one. I chose the purple toothbrush I always have a purple toothbrush and I went out my way to get these charcoal toothbrushes because he started using the charcoal toothpaste that I swear by and I figure well maybe he’s in my toothbrush because I got the black bristles and he wants to use the charcoal toothpaste. Fast fwd to today I had suspected he’s been using my toothbrush again my toothbrush is always moved and he doesn’t even keep his toothbrush in the same location as mine ,so there is no reason why my toothbrush removed. Now what really solidified my thoughts was when I found my toothbrush in the shower. My boyfriend for whatever reason brushes his teeth in the shower only which is a whole other conversation. When he called me on his break at work today I said stop using my toothbrush he said “I used your toothbrush?” I said you know that you use my toothbrush it was in the shower I don’t brush my teeth in the shower he says oh yeah my toothbrush is green he knows that my toothbrush is purple he’s been dealing with me for years and I always pick the color purple. I just feel like he still gonna use my toothbrush and like I don’t know what to do…
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 17:52
|
|
|
Scaevolus posted:My boyfriend keeps using my toothbrush get some of that hot sauce that's basically just pepper spray
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 17:55
|
|
|
Scaevolus posted:My boyfriend keeps using my toothbrush Gotta blow another dude for revenge now. He basically gave you permission.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 17:56
|
|
|
teen witch posted:Should I speak to his wife and get her story?
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:01
|
|
|
Dazerbeams posted:Care to share with the thread why you constantly make others wait on you? I don't personally buy the depression theory but I'm open to being persuaded. I’m not generally a late person. Anyone who whines about being “disrespected” and says people are being aggressive to them over something that’s extremely common and normal is just fair game in my book.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:02
|
|
|
does anyone in the thread want to co-sign a loan with me? It would be for a boat. The boat will be mine but if you come over you can ride on it with me
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:02
|
|
|
ChunTheUnavoidable posted:does anyone in the thread want to co-sign a loan with me? It would be for a boat. The boat will be mine but if you come over you can ride on it with me I just don't feel secure in this arrangement unless there are multiple children in the mix
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:05
|
|
|
ChunTheUnavoidable posted:does anyone in the thread want to co-sign a loan with me? It would be for a boat. The boat will be mine but if you come over you can ride on it with me give me your
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:06
|
|
|
haveblue posted:give me your Give me your itty bitty baby, your itty bitty boat, and your twinkie house.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:06
|
|
|
Dewgy posted:I’m not generally a late person. Anyone who whines about being “disrespected” and says people are being aggressive to them over something that’s extremely common and normal is just fair game in my book. If it seems extremely common and normal for people to be hours late to your events, you should probably get some self-respect and then find new friends
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:08
|
|
|
Dewgy posted:Give me your itty bitty baby, your itty bitty boat, and your twinkie house. HABEEB IT! God we're old.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:09
|
|
|
AITA for expecting my ex to reach out after I publicly failed an exam?quote:I (M30) broke up with my ex (F25) of 2 years a couple days after we took the bar exam over the summer. The breakup wasn’t smooth at all and she was definitely blindsided, but I thought we were still on ok terms despite everything, and I told her I still want her in my life as she knows me better than almost anyone. We haven’t spoken except to exchange a few texts about post-breakup logistics.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:15
|
|
|
Dewgy posted:I’m not generally a late person. Anyone who whines about being “disrespected” and says people are being aggressive to them over something that’s extremely common and normal is just fair game in my book. Some people do it because they don't respect other people's time. Some people do it because they like making other people wait. Disrespect in this context means actual disrespect, not the boomer's "respect=lack of deference to me"
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:17
|
|
|
For a palette-cleanser, a quartet from /r/mensa; the first three are title-only. And as always, I'm glad I never tried to join this group:quote:Is there a calculator/formula where I can put in my IQ and my partner’s IQ to get an estimated IQ for our future children? quote:What peoples with high IQ make better than peoples with normal IQ ? quote:I have zero interest in travel. Is that a smart person thing or am I just strange? quote:Being a Mensan with a non-Mensan spouse
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:24
|
|
|
Admiralty Flag posted:For a palette-cleanser, a quartet from /r/mensa; the first three are title-only. And as always, I'm glad I never tried to join this group: I've known a couple of mensa people in my lifetime. They were both exhausting obtuse assholes.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:27
|
|
|
Dazerbeams posted:Care to share with the thread why you constantly make others wait on you? I don't personally buy the depression theory but I'm open to being persuaded. Not the OP but I can, since I've been a lot better about it in the last several years, after having several people close to me tell me it was bullshit and that I needed to make an effort. First, I genuinely don't mind when people are late to meet me, and because of that, it was hard, especially when younger, to really believe that other people cared too. And some of that was just feeling happy that people wanted to hang out at all, and if they were late, who cares. So low self-esteem plays into that too. Also, the smug "well they can make it to [x thing that isn't a friend interaction] so clearly its volitional" is kind of bullshit, because I was also chronically late to various things like work, and doctor's appointments, and class too. First, just underestimating how long getting ready takes, or telling myself that I can keep doing something like scrolling or reading because at least that is numbing and not overwhelming, like going out, or going to work. And then that loops back into how I didnt feel hurt when friends are late, because I get why my coworkers can get upset if I'm late; because they can't leave until I come in. That sucks, and ok, I can force myself to come in to work on time, and do things like plan to get there 15m early so that I'm actually on time when things don't go as planned like not being able to find keys or whatever. (Also I found it a lot easier to create some kind of workplace identity that had a structure and rules for interaction that included being on time to replace the offgoing shift, as well as a lot more poo poo). But my friends should understand general executive dysfunction and delay and forgive me. And they should, sometimes, and from the idea that they should turns into the idea that they must always, so you start rationalizing why its ok that you're constantly being late, because your friends won't get upset, because they're your friends, and if they do get upset that's not fair because you wouldn't get upset with them and it becomes a whole thing. So then some friends sat me down and were really clear that it does suck, and it is annoying, and that that doesn't make them any less of my friends and if I would just do my loving part of that deal and be up front with that, they would totally understand, but I had to loving tell someone instead of just being late chronically. I'm not saying its a good thing, and I do think its rude, and I am definitely way, way better at being on time now, but I also got therapy and medication so there's that too. tldr: depression and ADD leading to a combination of not respecting myself and my time and not respecting other's time.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:27
|
|
|
Piell posted:AITA for expecting my ex to reach out after I publicly failed an exam? Guess you shoulda just passed the dumb lawyer test you fuckin dweeb.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:31
|
|
|
Tarkus posted:I've known a couple of mensa people in my lifetime. They were both exhausting obtuse assholes. The funniest way to screw with someone who’s obsessed with their IQ is to ask them what it means. I can’t recall a single time I’ve done that and gotten a correct answer. It’s just how well you did on the test you took compared to the average in your age or age group, expressed as a percentage.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:35
|
|
|
Dewgy posted:It’s just how well you did on the test you took compared to the average in your age or age group, expressed as a percentage.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:45
|
|
|
Scaevolus posted:it's not a percentage lmao ur a percentage lol got'em
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:49
|
|
|
Dewgy posted:The funniest way to screw with someone who’s obsessed with their IQ is to ask them what it means. I can’t recall a single time I’ve done that and gotten a correct answer. Yeah, to be fair though many of those mensa people are genuinely smart. The problem is that when they define themselves by their intellect they tend to fail to put in the requisite effort to actually be better rather than just smart. Also, internet IQ tests are designed to be flattering to the user so you get a lot of dullards believing they have 130 IQ's.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:51
|
|
|
Baronjutter posted:Yeah I just stop inviting people like that to things. They can show up on time to work, they can show up on time to doctor's appointments where they'd be out money as a no-show. Dinner? 45 min late because they "lost track of time" or "getting ready took longer than they thought" or the most common excuse of not even bothering to make an excuse. They were just gaming or scrolling or something and knew they were late but their immediate enjoyment was far more important than making their friends wait for them. My husband and I stopped seeing one of his oldest friends (they'd known each other for about 20 years) because he and his wife just could not be counted on to be on time anywhere. The straw that broke the camel's back was meeting up to watch a sporting event and drink together. They showed up in the last quarter because "Steel Magnolias was on TBS and we wanted to finish it." The guy was kind of a douche in a lot of minor ways, but they all added up.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:52
|
|
|
I could see thinking it's a percentage it you took it and got less than 100, lol.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:52
|
|
|
Scaevolus posted:it's not a percentage lmao You know too much, your one of Them
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:52
|
|
|
IQ can be converted to a percentile.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:54
|
|
|
There's a podcast where a lady join Mensa and chronicles her adventures, and those Mensa people all sound like certified whackos
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:56
|
|
|
AITA for ruining my father's family?quote:My (23F) parents separated before I was born due to my father's affair. Growing up, I never had much interaction with my father or his new family because my mother had custody of me. My parents did not divorce on good terms, and my father even asked for multiple DNA tests because he thought my mother was conning him for child support. I didn't find out about the circumstances of their separation until I was older, and by then my relationship with my father was already nonexistent.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 18:57
|
|
|
blatman posted:edit: enhance Is this Loss? Anyway, content! AITA for not sharing the beach house? quote:Twelve years ago our grandparents died, leaving their beach house to me (37f) and my brother (35m). The place is within drivable distance of my town; my work is such that I can do it remotely a lot of the time; I now have two small children. Because of all these factors, through the years, I’ve been in the beach house much more, basically summering in it, while my brother, who lives much more distant, only crashes occasionally or requests it for a couple of weeks, while I often nipped in through the winter.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 19:00
|
|
|
Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for ruining my father's family? Quackles posted:
Very defensive, but OP's in the right here. If SIL wants to make it an extension of whatever princess fantasy she has, it's only going to get worse and that poo poo needs to get worked out n-o-w now.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 19:05
|
|
|
Scaevolus posted:it's not a percentage lmao Maybe calling it a percentage is a bit of an oversimplification but lol if you get anything even close to the right answer when you ask someone who’s jumping to loving eugenics because they got a 130 one time.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 19:19
|
|
|
Could someone repost the fuckin “Torkbuzz” story, it’s one of my favorites
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 19:22
|
|
|
Dongsturm posted:If a child repeatedly collapses and the parent goes, "no doctor for you", I feel very comfortable calling them a bad parent. Fair call in this specific case, I was speaking more generally since this kind of story is such a staple of this and the estranged parents threads.
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 19:23
|
|
|
|
| # ? May 28, 2024 13:29 |
|
|
it sucks the uh, quote attributor is no poo poo  but “great tits and an ashkenazi IQ” is one of my favorite phrases. Carry on
|
|
#
?
Oct 25, 2021 19:23
|
|
