teen witch posted:

it sucks the uh, quote attributor is no poo poo but “great tits and an ashkenazi IQ” is one of my favorite phrases.

Carry on

teen witch posted:

it sucks the uh, quote attributor is no poo poo but “great tits and an ashkenazi IQ” is one of my favorite phrases.

Carry on

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So, I made a blunder that has caused me a lot of trouble in the past few months, and although I think people are overreacting I wish I had not done it.

I was the best man at my friend, Torkbuzz's (fake name), wedding awhile ago. Me and Torkbuzz have been friends for over 15 years.
I had been dating my then-girlfriend for 4 months, and we decided to get married. I had the idea to just do it as a quick surprise at the reception for Torkbuzz's wedding. Just hire a online minister to do it quick, it'd take 5 or 10 minutes. It would save me and my wife money from having to pay for a fancy wedding, and I thought Torkbuzz and his new wife and the guests would get a kick out of it. I thought they'd be happy about it and get the chance to celebrate a Double Wedding.

So during the reception I stood up and said I had a quick announcement. I then got everyone to gather around, and I said "Oh my god, it's a Double Wedding!" In the tone of that famed "double rainbow" video. Nobody quite got it yet, but then I had the minister start going. Everyone seemed to be respectful but what I see in hindsight is that it was actually awkward silence. It took less than 5 minutes, but I married my wife.

I then shouted "Let's get this Double Wedding back to Partying!" Or something like that.

Immediately I could tell the vibe of the wedding was off. Everyone was shooting me dirty looks and I could tell they were talking about me. I thought everyone would be happy about my special day.

Obviously, I hosed up.

A few minutes later my best friend pulls me outside and he is full on IRATE. He is yelling at me saying "what the gently caress is wrong with you" and "you ruined the loving thing" and "my wife is crying on her wedding day!!" I tried to explain myself but he wouldn't have it, he made me and my new wife leave. Kicked out of our own double wedding.

I got all kinds of poo poo from everyone, blowing up my phone. Calling me all kinds of things. My best friend and his wife told me not to contact them "for awhile". This hurts my feelings a lot because he is my best friend, I care about him and this was my greatest friendship and I miss hanging out.

I really did not mean to ruin a wedding or cause harm, I honestly thought of it as a "bonus" that would make their wedding even more fun and memorable than it was. I thought it would bring joy to them. I truly think they are overreacting but now that I see how it went down I'd give anything to go back in time and not try a Double Wedding, I ruined a friendship with my poor mistake.

TL;DR - Surprise got married during the reception of my best friends wedding. Went badly.

Thumbtacks posted:

TIFU by getting married (as a surprise) during my friends wedding reception.

Kicked out of our own double wedding.

Thumbtacks posted:

Found it again. Poor Torkbuzz.

TIFU by getting married (as a surprise) during my friends wedding reception.

Thumbtacks posted:

Found it again. Poor Torkbuzz.

TIFU by getting married (as a surprise) during my friends wedding reception.

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I've been with this guy for a while now and I've noticed that he doesn't ever brush his teeth. For me oral hygiene is important, and I get super self-conscious if my teeth aren't clean when I'm kissing or if my breath isn't fresh. I even started trying to brush my teeth while he's in the room to make it obvious he could do that too, but he never picks up on the hint. His teeth are kinda yellow where he doesn't floss, and this weekend I caught a glimpse of the back of his teeth while we were in bed together, and they're black! Surely that's super gross why doesn't he clean his teeth? FYI his breath doesn't smell at all like tooth decay which is kinda weird but at least good. I don't know how to talk to him about it without making it sound like i'm attacking him, and I don't want him to feel embarrassed.

tl;dr: BF doesn't brush his teeth or care about oral hygiene, how do I talk to him about it without sounding bossy or overbearing?

Blue Moonlight posted:

I think everyone involved needs to log off and walk away.

AngryRobotsInc posted:

I will say AITA has a god drat hate on for addicts, just in general, though. I'm not saying all addicts are Great People and It's Not Their Fault, but they seriously loving hate addicts there and anything you do to them is justified by virtue of them having an addiction.

Dongsturm posted:

I have no idea what is going on here, but I'm going to guess that anyone who holds onto a grudge gives a poo poo about their high school graduation ceremony for 10+ years is probably the real psycho.

Halloween Jack posted:

Seconding this, I've seen it in action many times.

Null of Undefined posted:

Me [25F] with my SO [27M] kinda grossed out by his oral hygiene!

Quackles posted:

Is this Loss?

Anyway, content!

AITA for not sharing the beach house?

mind the walrus posted:

family sowing vs family reaping

Very defensive, but OP's in the right here. If SIL wants to make it an extension of whatever princess fantasy she has, it's only going to get worse and that poo poo needs to get worked out n-o-w now.

therobit posted:

OP is the rear end in a top hat here. She is objecting to splitting time and making the beach house available to them, as well as to them doing any of the decorations, stating that it isn’t what her brother wants and that she decorated it the way she wants it. It sounds like in the past she has just steamrolled her brother and now his wife would like to get use out of the cabin that is half his anyway.

OP has chosen to out a lot of time and effort into a shared asset on her own and of her own volition, but then is using that to justify not letting her brother have an equal say. And then in the edits she’s basically saying she just wants to buy it, but she isn’t considering that her brother and his wife actually want to use the beach house. Basically she’s a greedy gently caress who’s trying to take it for herself.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

I'm going with ESH on the beach house. Yes, OP came to take it for granted that it was actually her house, with her brother occasionally using it. This wasn't legally the situation, it was just how things shook out. And, yes, on my first read I took OP's framing entirely for granted because "Cricut" and "Instagram influencer" make me want to sage the house with single-malt whisky.

Nonetheless, SIL, as a newlywed, announced that Things Were Going To Change Now. She told OP that the decorating was dingy, that SIL and Brother deserved exclusive use of the nicer bedroom, and that the bookshelves had to come down to "let the walls breathe". (All this in comments.) That's coming in hot for a shared house; if OP no longer should have exclusive say about how the house looks and is used, neither should SIL. Also from comments: OP uses the beach house with their children, making it a lot more natural that SIL wants to have the house exclusively when it's their turn.

So. What should have happened was a sensible after-supper conversation along the lines of "OP, I know you've put your heart and soul into this house. However, it's BIL's house, too, and I'd like to talk about sharing it more equitably; we'd like some of the rooms to reflect our taste, and we'd like to use the bedroom with a sea view when we stay here. At that point, OP would certainly have been the rear end in a top hat all by herself. OP obviously hates SIL's taste, and vice versa, and OP isn't acknowledging that SIL's preferences aren't inherently wrong. they are.

Anyway, since OP thinks of the house as entirely hers, her buying it is absolutely the correct move, assuming the brother sees it the same way.

The Glumslinger posted:

Scaevolus posted:

AITA for telling my GF's daughter she's not my daughter so don't expect me to pay?

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for accidently causing a kid to be outed to his parents?

Megillah Gorilla posted:

Take the money, be gay, do crime.

Quackles posted:

AITA for not sharing the beach house?

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My (46F) twin daughters (21F, Tori and Tami) are both in college and they are planning to do a two weeks trip to Italy. I am paying everything as a birthday gift.

My best friend Diane has a daughter (18F, Lori) and she has been worried because Lori has no friends. My daughters and Lori used to be more close when they were little but drew apart when they became teenagers. Diane asked me if my daughters could try to include Lori in their social lifes, so she isn't lonely all the time.

I called Tami about this and she felt bad about Lori, so she has been talking more to her since. They invited Lori to their dorm one time and go out with her a few times.

I thought that the next step was to invite Lori to the trip to Italy. First, I talked with Diane about it and she agreed. She said that Lori has been happier since she started seeing my daughters again. Diane said that if my daughters agreed she would paid for Lori to go to Italy with them.

But when I talked to them, they were not happy with the idea. They say that Lori is too childish and would prevent them from having more adult fun on Italy. I think they are being really selfish and mean. Also ungrateful to me, considering I am paying everything. We have been arguing and I more or less said that Lori is going with them, even if they don't want to.

Am I the rear end in a top hat?

Halloween Jack posted:

LOL what loving anime do these names come from?

I'm really not getting the hate for this guy. He did the decent thing by not outing a kid with a homophobic dad, but made the mistake of telling his daughter to try to prevent a blow-up, which backfired spectacularly. The problem here is that his daughter is so hurt by her crush being gay that she had a public meltdown which landed everyone involved in the principal's office. What's up with that?

As always,

DoubleNegative posted:

AITA for making my daughters take my friend's daughter on their trip?
They invited Lori to their dorm one time and go out with her a few times. I thought that the next step was to invite Lori to the trip to Italy.

Uncle ShortyB posted:

I started off on OP's side but honestly, thinking more and more about it this is definitely just two people arguing over dumb poo poo tbh. Like, she stays there a lot, sure, but she doesn't own the place or anything, it's split ownership. If her brother's wife wants to rock in and stay there like half the time, that's half ownership and she's allowed to. If she's just making like, bullshit aesthetic changes who cares. If she's wanting to groverhaus it up in there that's a different thing. Like how my fiancee's family has a cabin in the woods they all share. If one person wanted to, for whatever reason, move in there permanently, they'd have to buy it out and put it under their name. If there was something they wanted to change about it aesthetics-wise, depending how serious it is no one would likely give a poo poo cause it sits there unused like 99.999% of the time. Everyone sucks here, for sure. Who gives a poo poo if the SIL wants to use the nicer bedroom when she stays there on occasion? That's whatever in my book. I understand taking exception to "exclusive use of this bedroom" but like, that's a bit of glass houses/stones situation given that the OP is pretty much doing exactly that.

Thumbtacks posted:

TIFU by getting married (as a surprise) during my friends wedding reception.

DoubleNegative posted:

AITA for making my daughters take my friend's daughter on their trip?

There was a post in the previous thread that talked about parents shoving kids and stepkids together like action figures to try and spontaneously create a relationship. Here we see the same thing from the outside.

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One night we went to a Broadway show and hit a restaurant on the way back, my aunt got a bit lost and we ended up in a dark DARK alley. (No people, no lights). She told us walk as fast as you can without running, there are lights and people up ahead. The young cousin DID NOT want to do that, sat down in the alley and started crying about having to do exercise while on vacation. My aunt told her, good luck with the murderers and she'd identify the body later, and started power walking. I followed and my friends basically dragged the girl out of the alley.

spouse posted:

Why are self-described "picky eaters" always people who exist solely in the realm of fast food and packaged poo poo? I'm very curious about non-American picky eaters now. Is there cadre of picky Frenchmen who just plow through baguettes all day, nutritional macros be damned?

Scaevolus posted:

My [28F] boyfriend of 4 years [38M] lied about a massive financial secret.

DoubleNegative posted:

There was a post in the previous thread that talked about parents shoving kids and stepkids together like action figures to try and spontaneously create a relationship. Here we see the same thing from the outside.

Halloween Jack posted:

Y'know, if he doesn't make a lot of money, it might not be as bad as she thinks. He absolutely needs to file returns, but he may have little or no income tax liability.

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33M recently got hired at a large company in the south where me and my wife moved months ago.

My wife was excited for my new job and talked about preparing a surprise for me which got me excited but I didn't what it was til she showed up at my workplace 2 days ago with a meal she said she prepared specifically for me since it's my favorite. Apparently this was her surprise. I was little upset she brought it to my workplace. My co workers who are vicious and brutally honest and sarcastic got involved and kept teasing me about the meal. one of them "Austin" joked about how "mommy" is so supportive by bringing food to my workplace. I felt like poo poo as he and other co workers kept laughing at me.

I went to work the next day and Austin kept making jokes about me saying poo poo like "is mommy going to bring lunch today as well?" And "When is mommy coming to change your diaper?" And some other poo poo. one of them who's someone I don't know well said "oh you guys I can still smell the meal (my name's) mom brought yesterday. She's such great cook bless her heart!" And the goddamned giggles kept on.

I felt so awful I went home and just blew up at my wife telling her she flatout loving embarrassed me and just torpedoed any goddamned prestige and respect I had among my co workers. I told her what Austin and others have been doing and asked if she was happy for giving him emmo to come at me like that. She argued that she was just trying to do something nice for me and didn't care about what people might say but I was a selfish jerk who only cares about what others think rather than how she felt by my constant berating over a meal she put effort money and time to make and bring to me. The argument escalated after I suggested that she could've waited til I got home to surprise me with this goddamned meal instead of showing up while I was working which made me seem unprofessional. she said she came during lunch break but I was still working during lunch break. She said at this point I clearly find it easier to blame her than stand up for myself against those childish bullies. I said I didn't appreciate what she said but she replied that I should be grateful she cared enough to bring me a home cooked meal then thanked me for showing her it's not worth wasting anymore of her time cooking for me after this. I told her to stop blaming me for something she caused and asked her to admit that maybe she should've consulted me before bringing the meal over so I could avoid being the goddamned butt of every joke my co workers told. I don't even know how long this is going to last. She told me to man up and either report them or quit then. I was floored by what she said I had to walk out becuase I couldn't take anymore of this and felt like she wasn't listening to how her behavior caused me an issue at work.

Edit to say that I in no way don't appreciate my wife's effort but the only problem I have is that she didn't tell me beforehand about wether it was okay to bring the meal over to my workplace. I really prefered that she waited til I got home or we could've gone out later to eat. I agree that the main problem I have is my co workers but I lashed out because I felt overwhelmed with their hurtful remarks that offended my wife as well.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for telling my wife she embarrassed me by bringing a meal to my work?

All the replies offer helpful suggestions for which "your mama" joke he should have come back with.

Halloween Jack posted:

My mother accidentally "gave" me a boyfriend once. That was not fun to deal with.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

AITA for telling my wife she embarrassed me by bringing a meal to my work?

All the replies offer helpful suggestions for which "your mama" joke he should have come back with.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

He may not have much financial liability, but it sure says a lot about whether he's the sort of person you should be making financial decisions with.
AITA for telling my wife she embarrassed me by bringing a meal to my work?

All the replies offer helpful suggestions for which "your mama" joke he should have come back with.

Soylent Pudding posted:

Even if berth el pup is fake most of us probably have known someone who got addicted to their kink to the point it became socially and interpersonally toxic.

Baronjutter posted:

What sort of person waits hours for someone who's late? 10 min? 15 min? maybe 30 if they let you know they're running late but still coming. But hours!!?

Halloween Jack posted:

Dan Savage (who sucks) has gotten a lot of letters like this. It's sad when someone finds a partner willing to fulfill their fetish, then fucks it up by being selfish.

Halloween Jack posted:

Y'know, if he doesn't make a lot of money, it might not be as bad as she thinks. He absolutely needs to file returns, but he may have little or no income tax liability.

spouse posted:

Edit: my guess before I Google it is that he's got some weird antitrans poo poo, because it's always that.