Halloween Jack posted:

When people say that we need to reduce the debt/deficit, what they mean is that they want to cut social spending. Of course they have no understanding of the actual accounting involved.

spouse posted:

Not that he probably knew the difference, but wouldn't the deficit mean simply balancing the federal budget to be net $0 rather than negative? Bringing the national debt to $0 would be paying everyone back.

limp_cheese posted:

Does this woman really think someone getting married for non-love reasons makes the marriage illegal?

This is also not any kind of a surprise and I would be shocked to learn in any given deployment if at least one person did not do this. It works out to a couple extra grand a month. Just have to pray the person you married doesn't run off with the money a month before the deployment ends.

Also loving lol at his superiors being jealous bitches

He found a way to game the system and they were pissed they didn't do it too. Its extra funny if he was like a sergeant making more than the officers. Can't have their lessers making more than them.

Cythereal posted:

I 25f was super into this guy 28m until I found something out that I'm not sure if I can get past. Thoughts?

quote:

he thinks trump would wipe the deficit and that needs to come before social issues. After he wipes the deficit he wants to see trump impeached and Sanders in for the social issues.

Cythereal posted:

I 25f was super into this guy 28m until I found something out that I'm not sure if I can get past. Thoughts?

AngryRobotsInc posted:

Even beyond contract marriages, you have people getting married way too early in the military because "I wanna live off base, and I kinda like this person" or "Whoops, protection failed, if it was even used at all". Soooo many divorces following those. So many. At least the contract marriage peeps go in planning on an end point.

RenegadeStyle1 posted:

What happened Nov 2016?

Funktastic posted:

our highly-paid, overworked junior staff keep leaving just as we get them fully trained

My Spirit Otter posted:

From what i learned from the americans in gip, its probably against the ucmj and the mil loves charging people. But unless they have a copy of a physical contract you signed stating it was a sham marriage, they probably cant do poo poo.

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So I (30) was due two weeks before my bothers (27m) wedding back in 2019

But the day of I went into labour while getting ready. I planned a home birth with a few family members (mother,father,both grandmothers, youngest bother,aunts) and since it was the first grandchild from my side everyone was excited to be there . Because my labour and delivery took 16 hours they obviously ended up missing the whole wedding to be with me

I will fully admit I was glad because I needed them more because a birth is more important than a wedding. My bother was upset and kept arguing that they could have come for a few hours, he was told my wellbeing was more important than a silly party (moms words not mine )

He was low contact till my sister in law(29f) found out she was pregnant with triplets. my brother and sil have been enjoying all the attention because obviously triplets don’t happen often and it’s the first multiple birth in our family in 19 years. Every time I visit my parents or ring a family member it’s triplet talk or a conversation about my bother/sil

On to the situation it was my 30th today and I decided to hold myself a bit of a party to celebrate because the big 3–0 because it only comes around once so why not live up my last day of youth!!

Days leading up to it my sister in law kept making jokes about going into labour to pay me back for the wedding. I’d just roll my eyes and tell her to grow up

Tonight while the party was in full bloom my sister faked her waters breaking (with the help of my brother) and going into labour. Ofc all attention was on them, than while they pretended to call an ambulance my youngest brother brought in the cake. everyone started laughing. My sister in law said “hehehe pay back but anyway happy birthday op” than everyone started singing I was so angry I cut everyone off because my mood and party was ruined

I turned to my sister in law and said “get over me ruining your lovely wedding everyone came to my side out of their free will and btw you where a massive bridezilla”

My brother told me back off but I told him it was pathetic he was using a his wife’s pregnancy to get attention from our parents and told him I’d be gifting a therapy session for a baby shower gift. They left and everyone turned on me saying they all know and they where part of joke (if you haven’t guessed it, it was to get attention to the door my brother was bringing the cake in)

I ended up leaving in tears because my birthday was ruined

Cythereal posted:

I 25f was super into this guy 28m until I found something out that I'm not sure if I can get past. Thoughts?

quote:

We love and respect each other with no trust issues and plan to marry in the future. However, whenever we discuss anything remotely socio-political, both of us can never seem to keep the argument civil. It has caused a lot of fights, and our solution has been to avoid those topics of conversation.

I indulge in socio-political content and like to discuss the same with the people around me. Sometimes I can't stop myself from sharing a post or two with him, but unfortunately, it is good enough to instigate a heated argument. He bases his opinions on what the general public believes, so basically what the mainstream media feeds him, which sometimes can be an inaccurate depiction of reality.

In contrast, he is a decent human being who means no harm. He will never hurt somebody because of their ethnicity or gender. He treats me well and never looks down on me. Furthermore, he encourages me to pursue my dreams even if it costs the relationship.

So, should I ignore his stance on these matters because it does not affect our life directly? Or should I break up because we have differing values?

Sorry if this question gets asked too much, but I would appreciate your advice.

quote:

Are you implying that your BF is racist? Or that you are? Not sure what you think the general public believes or what you think mainstream media is feeding him.

Gnoman posted:

Sharing this one because I've rarely seen so effective a way to say a lot about yourself while saying nothing at all.


Should I (24F) break up with my bf (24M) because of his bigoted opinions?

From the comments:

RenegadeStyle1 posted:

What happened Nov 2016?

Gnoman posted:

Sharing this one because I've rarely seen so effective a way to say a lot about yourself while saying nothing at all.


Should I (24F) break up with my bf (24M) because of his bigoted opinions?

From the comments:

Gnoman posted:

Sharing this one because I've rarely seen so effective a way to say a lot about yourself while saying nothing at all.


Should I (24F) break up with my bf (24M) because of his bigoted opinions?

From the comments:

spouse posted:

So... She's either a vague shoeonhead type populist leftie with a distrust of mainstream media, and he's a fox news "apolitical" white guy who's vaguely racist... or she's a loving Nazi and he's a lib.

I got my covid booster today so I have turbo brain fog. Someone who has better reading comprehension right now tell me who to hate in this one.

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for telling my sister in law get over me ruining her wedding

A home birth that takes 16 hours.

MarcusSA posted:

My vote is on her having terminally online brain worms.

Elissimpark posted:

Also, with at least 7 people there, not counting midwives.

Part of the appeal of a home birth is having fewer people knocking about.

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for telling my sister in law get over me ruining her wedding

A home birth that takes 16 hours.

sullat posted:

Ugh the only thing worse than going to a family wedding is having to go to a family birthing.

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for telling my sister in law get over me ruining her wedding

Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:

I was briefly married to a friend of mine when I was in the Army and it owned. I got to get a sweet apartment off post and a travel buddy/wingwoman, she got some spending money and a two year vacation in Italy. BAH pays for two bedrooms. We didn't gently caress each other, maintained the lie at three or four mandatory fun events a year and divorced as friends.

A++ would recommend.

Back in the bad old don't ask, don't tell days it was quite common for people to couple up as mutual beards.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Uncle Enzo posted:

Um 4 breaks vacations of 3 weeks is 12 weeks, out of 52 in a year is 23 percent of the year, every year that they spent without him. drat near a week out of 4 on average, regularly spending weeks at a time without his parents. Plus regular date nights. Even when he was older and could have looked after himself, nope you're not coming to Florida kid.


Um yeah, this kid feels like you ditched him every chance you got. Because you did.

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So I (25f) have been best friends with Eric (25m) since we started kindergarten

He was there throughout everything even spied from the next table when me and my (26m) husband went on first date and I did the same when he started dating his wife.
I was first person he called when his wife found out she was pregnant both time and even while she was in labour I help him (by text)

So April when I suspected I was pregnant he was with me when I read the results of my test even help me plan a cute way to tell my husband


We have been each others rock and I couldn’t think of anyone better than him and my husband to be there while I’m in labour.

Unfortunately if things keep happening the way they do I’ll be only able to have one person in the room with me and that person will be Eric. He was on broad and I planned to tell my husband when I knew for sure (at them moment it normal rules but obviously things can change over bug rules at any time) but Eric’s wife found out and showed up at my house screaming for a paternity test because she believes the baby is his (it’s 10000% not)


My husband was in shock and told me he’s sick of third wheeling our relationship and pack a bag than left. Eric sent me a text saying he won’t be with me when I go into labour and he will be limiting our contact from now on

I’m honestly in shock at the events and have gotten so much hate

Propaniac posted:

AITA for requesting my best friend be at the birth of my child instead of my husband?

Propaniac posted:

AITA for requesting my best friend be at the birth of my child instead of my husband?

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for telling my sister in law get over me ruining her wedding

A home birth that takes 16 hours.

Propaniac posted:

AITA for requesting my best friend be at the birth of my child instead of my husband?