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Invisible Clergy posted:Look, it's very clear; you see, OP's roommate said she would put her hair in a ponytail, but didn't. i wonder what it would be like to try to explain this reference to somebody irl
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teen witch posted:Also starting to think “I know how this sounds but hear me out” needs to be on this thread’s coat of arms. Ummm, really? I mean.... it's the disclaimer put at the front of explicitly fictional stories on throwaway accounts. I know the IK decree is not to contest things so I just ignore those submissions here, but really. It's... not subtle.
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I always insta-disbelieve cuckolding stories because for a cuck fetishist posting about how their wives new bull was soooo big and he can't compete is part of the game.
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Serephina posted:Ummm, really? I mean.... it's the disclaimer put at the front of explicitly fictional stories on throwaway accounts. I think you might want to reread my post?
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Mx. posted:the shithouse father stories roll on Unequivocally the father is a monster and an rear end in a top hat, but the OP needs way more therapy. They are protecting a lot of hate and unfair comparison and it sounds like they still have a ton of unresolved stuff to talk about. Obviously they aren't wrong or an rear end in a top hat, but that was not enough therapy 
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Maiden posted:In a few years this guy is going to be posting wondering why his relationship with his daughter is nonexistant to bad and will be completely unable to accept that it's because of his massive violation of her privacy and the fact that he is actively maintaining a grudge against her for having a completely normal reaction to divorce and a new step-mother. It wasn’t a divorce, the OP’s mother died. So yeah her reaction is even more understandable
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lol I missed that. That makes it even worse, as you said.
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No, OP started therapy 4 months into their dad’s marriage and THEN their mom died 3.5 years later. E: actually it’s pretty unclear, the phrasing could go either way. But you’re probably right going by the rest of the post. Sorry!
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kntfkr posted:Do you see any success with parents blocking social media? My religion is wanting Mark Zuckerberg to be violently killed but I don't want my kids (0 & 3) to be alienated from their peers. I know I can't block anything because the 3 year old can already remember unlock codes for different devices to sate his youtube addiction, I just want them to grow up being too cool to have or need Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or Snapchat. Yeah, it's very successful if your kid is active in real social activity. I know several kids kids on my kids sports teams that don't do any social media at all and it's fine. But there's a ton of lovely people out there who think a screen with internet access is absolutely required for kids these days. It's bad.
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My sister's kids were thirteen, ten, and seven when the first iPhone came out and she insisted that all three of them absolutely needed one. Sometimes it's the parents.
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TK8325 posted:Well of course she said that, she doesn't know about your plan to become the most pathetic man and then she has to hire you. It's foolproof.  Mx. posted:the shithouse father stories roll on 
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spacetoaster posted:Yeah, it's very successful if your kid is active in real social activity. The correct answer is probably the same as it has always been: Be an actual parent. Don't bury your head in the sand by trying to ban things and pretending that Instagram doesn't exist, but also don't just blindly let them wander blindly into the deep end of the pool either.
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Mx. posted:the shithouse father stories roll on You had NO RIGHT to write those things in a therapy journal working through exactly these issues. You should have lied, so that all those issues were repressed and festered into a horrible relationship with no trust--oh poo poo, that happened anyhow
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Unequivocally the father is a monster and an rear end in a top hat, but the OP needs way more therapy. They are protecting a lot of hate and unfair comparison and it sounds like they still have a ton of unresolved stuff to talk about. Obviously they aren't wrong or an rear end in a top hat, but that was not enough therapy The stepmom is openly being a piece of poo poo to her now, about what she put in a journal her therapist told her to keep, back when they were only 10-13 years old. They probably need therapy because of what a shitshow this is, but the stepmom basically just validated the kid thinking the stepmom was a worthless piece of poo poo.
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If I'm reading that one post correctly, the OPs mom died when she was 6.5 and their dad remarried 3.5 years later? I feel bad for the OP for the dad reading the journal but I also kinda feel bad for the step mom here unless I'm missing something Edit: the above post is true as well I suppose
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Captain Yossarian posted:If I'm reading that one post correctly, the OPs mom died when she was 6.5 and their dad remarried 3.5 years later? I feel bad for the OP for the dad reading the journal but I also kinda feel bad for the step mom here unless I'm missing something The 10 year old writing about being upset about a stepmom entering her life is totally reasonable and normal (and the kid probably needed more therapy). An adult acting like a shithead because a 10 year old wrote some hurtful things down in a completely private (lol) setting is utterly mindblowing.
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I feel so bad for the kid actually trusting her dad enough to hand him her journal and going, "burn this, pls" and being naive enough to believe he would.
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Ravenfood posted:The 10 year old writing about being upset about a stepmom entering her life is totally reasonable and normal (and the kid probably needed more therapy). An adult acting like a shithead because a 10 year old wrote some hurtful things down in a completely private (lol) setting is utterly mindblowing. No, no, you don't understand. At the end of the therapy period she was supposed to be fixed and do what her dad says, that's what the therapy is for.
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MagusofStars posted:My question would be if the kids on your teams have their parents blocking social media use or if it's that the kids themselves simply chose not to deal with it. The kids deciding on their own social media is dumb is one thing, but I think parents actively banning it would be unsuccessful in the same way that being ultra strict about alcohol or sex usually is. Either the kids will sneak behind your back to do it in high school or they'll eventually encounter it on their own in college and have no basis in how to do it safely. Yeah, the kids who have a lot going on (sports, friends, active parents,etc) seem to not give a poo poo about social media/internet stuff.
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Plenty of parents treat therapy, journals, etc as ways of spying on their kids when they're still children, and shaming them when they're adults.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Plenty of parents treat therapy, journals, etc as ways of spying on their kids when they're still children, and shaming them when they're adults.  That poor kid.
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I recall getting called in to talk to the counselor because of something I wrote in a theatre class journal. When I pointed out this was obviously an exercise in character development, being a theatre class and also the reason for the journal, they indicated that I somehow wouldn't be able to come up with those things if I didn't have experience with them... ...I'm like how do you have a theatre program here if that's how you think it works?
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spouse posted:No, no, you don't understand. At the end of the therapy period she was supposed to be fixed and do what her dad says, that's what the therapy is for. That's exactly my point. You aren't fixed. My mom died when I was 9 and I went through a lot of what that poster went through. They definitely need more work to be able to not have have this betrayal, combined with the lingering trauma of losing their mother, wreck their adult life. Their dad is a monster and the step mom is understandably hurt and apparently doesn't have the self esteem to handle that, which is sad in itself. It's a poo poo situation all around.
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The whole idea that step parents are entitled to the unconditional love of their step kids is psychotic, and trying to force it just makes everything way worse.
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sean10mm posted:The whole idea that step parents are entitled to the unconditional love of their step kids is psychotic, and trying to force it just makes everything way worse. Listen kiddo, I miss your mom too, but I really gotta bust a nut, so here's someone new I can rail who will tell you what to do and has dominion over you. I will not help you in the event of an argument with them, and oh yeah, there will be an ever-evolving definition of "respect" that does not apply to the way they treat you.
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AITA for telling my bridesmaids my requests for the wedding?quote:Hey there. I'm having a destination wedding in July 2022. I've done some planning on where it will be and I've picked the venue as well. So I asked some of my friends to be on my bridal party. All of them accepted happily and were excited to be part of the planning. My sister will be my MOH and I told her to make a group chat with all the bridesmaids and pass down my requests to them.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my bridesmaids my requests for the wedding? quote:OP: The standard bedrooms my bridesmaids would be staying in are 380€ per night. Mine and my fiancé's is more expensive. So OP wants her bridesmaids to pay 580 eurobux before travel, the bachelorette travel, the bachelorette party and hotel stay, makeup, hair, etc. gently caress outta here. My buddy had a gorgeous wedding a little while ago and I was a groomsman, they just said "please pick a tasteful suit in blue or a tasteful dress in pink, somewhere near this shade" and everyone looked fantastic and the color variation made us look super nice in pictures. One of the bridesmaids is a masc woman, so she wore a suit. One of the groomsmen was a femme woman, so she wore a dress. It all worked out great, no one freaked out. Why is this hard?
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Hey thread, I hate you, so read this Thicc girl smol boi quote:My (27yo/Male) boi is quite thin and tall. I’m a 24yo Female who is short and thicc. I can’t sit on his lap or snuggle on top of him without making him uncomfortable or hurting him. We have been dating 3 years.
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What the gently caress have you brought upon this cursed land
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The Bramble posted:Hey thread, I hate you, so read this One handed
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The Bramble posted:Hey thread, I hate you, so read this Good try but my body has a way of shutting the whole thing dow--
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the two genders: boi and Female
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my bridesmaids my requests for the wedding? I will never ever understand this brain poisoning that has people convinced they need to spend obscene amounts of money on a wedding. If I was planning a destination wedding, it would 100% be with the intention that it was going to be super casual, and no one was obligated to turn up unless they fancied the trip too. How can it ever be seen as reasonable to expect people to spend huge sums of money on a day that is entirely not about them?
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It's not exactly about the money, per se. People like this think that a wedding is an opportunity to live in a psychotic dream-realm where you get to be God for a day. Or a week, if your social set can afford a destination wedding.The Bramble posted:Thicc girl smol boi
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spacetoaster posted:Yeah, the kids who have a lot going on (sports, friends, active parents,etc) seem to not give a poo poo about social media/internet stuff. There's a difference between focusing on being an Instagram/Tiktok/whatever star and keeping in touch with your social circle. Millennials and after pretty much hate phone calls, and quite right, too. e: My dad said, "Don't expect your wedding to be the happiest day of your life. Expect it to be the beginning of the happiest times of your life", and quite right, too.
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The Bramble posted:Hey thread, I hate you, so read this Switch positions? Doesn't seem that hard to work out.
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Halloween Jack posted:It's not exactly about the money, per se. People like this think that a wedding is an opportunity to live in a psychotic dream-realm where you get to be God for a day. Or a week, if your social set can afford a destination wedding. Eating disorder is how I read it
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Me 42M my son 17M caught my wife (his mom) 40F cheating on me with a friend of mine also 42Mquote:So this happened awhile back and me and my wife decided on counseling, I have of course cut my "friend" out my life and me and my wife are slowly making progress there. When you do a great job raising your kid but you're still a loving idiot. Also: quote:For the first months after he found out he argued with her constantly, for example when she asked him to take out the trash he responded with there's the door. Uh, hello, based department? I'd like to file a claim.
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Some people just like having a big fancy wedding. And that's fine. The requests she made were not where she was the rear end in a top hat. She was the rear end in a top hat when her response to a couple of the bridesmaids saying "no, I can't afford this" was to have a huge meltdown instead of trying to make things easier for them or just saying "I understand, and I'd be happy if you could still make the wedding."
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spouse posted:Me 42M my son 17M caught my wife (his mom) 40F cheating on me with a friend of mine also 42M Laffo, dad is gonna lose his wife and his son and do that deer in the headlights "bwuh" when it happens, which he will of course be alone in his house doing because his brothers will be in another room debating whether he really is genetically related to them
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