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AITA for not giving my employee a bonus despite all he's done for me?quote:Background: One of my employees, I'll call him D, is a supervisor. He's smart, dedicated, good heart, not a quitter, and a very hard worker. He is in mid 30s (a few months older than me), and the job pays around 50k/year. He was a late bloomer with social skills and doesn't have much higher education which is why he's a shift supervisor now rather than higher up.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 18:49 |
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Funktastic posted:AITA for not giving my employee a bonus despite all he's done for me? professionalism poisoning strikes again
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 18:56 |
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This seemed very thread appropriate. (edit to add a trigger warning, there's a mention of an adult having sex with a minor with no details) https://twitter.com/ExileGrimm/status/1456730462005743624 AreWeDrunkYet fucked around with this message at 20:57 on Nov 6, 2021 |
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Funktastic posted:AITA for not giving my employee a bonus despite all he's done for me? This is confusing because the guy he's rating is a supervisor, but he seems to suck rear end at getting people to do basic tasks, which is what a supervisor is for. He also makes the guy sound dumb as poo poo just in general. But he ALSO says the guy totally deserves a raise 100% for sure and he withheld it because of some kind of deranged bureaucratic integrity?
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 19:08 |
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:This seemed very thread appropriate. What in the gently caress? Outing a dude as a pedophile on national Tv and there were not immediately cops there to arrest him? And the show knew about this beforehand? Just what the gently caress....
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 19:15 |
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According to the comments, this is about irl child abuse, pedophilia, grooming, forced marriages, cults, and CSA. Fair warning. It doesn't go into detail but like, idk. I thought we're not posting pedophilia related things here? There's trainwreck gazing and then there's abyss gazing, I feel.
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AITA for being upset about an employee making the same as me?quote:For context I’m the manager of a small book store, my boss and I are best friends and it’s just been the two of us working for a while until a few weeks ago. He hired someone new and didn’t ask my opinion on it at all. He also gave her a key which I JUST got a key when I became manager and that definitely upset me. I opened the store last night and texted her to come if she wanted a shift and btw this is nothing against the woman she is super sweet and she has 2 adopted daughters to take care of and she’s newly a single mom so I get why she needed another job I just wish I wouldn’t have walked in in the interview with bo heads up.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 19:31 |
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Lol dey fuckin'
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 19:33 |
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sean10mm posted:This is confusing because the guy he's rating is a supervisor, but he seems to suck rear end at getting people to do basic tasks, which is what a supervisor is for. He also makes the guy sound dumb as poo poo just in general. But he ALSO says the guy totally deserves a raise 100% for sure and he withheld it because of some kind of deranged bureaucratic integrity? A 2% raise in 2021 is a pay cut.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 19:46 |
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webmeister posted:I love the little details in this one: At some point, the OP replied: "She would never go into debt, in fact she has a huge savings and investment portfolio that we battle over all the time because she thinks it's better to save it interminably, I say spend it. But no we don't share incomes or savings. This also is a huge problem because she has a considerable savings and it annoys the gently caress out of me that she saves it for some proverbial "rainy day" instead of using it for us to have some fun." OP rightfully got dragged in the comments
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 19:49 |
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Also, the blabbermouth at the OB that spilled the story about pregnancy got reportedquote:WIBTA if I reported a family friend who outed my pregnancy to her place of work?
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AITA for refusing to get engaged until he gets divorced?quote:My boyfriend of three years has been married twice before, which is fine, I knew that going into it and the divorces were for fair reasons on both sides.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 19:56 |
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Funktastic posted:AITA for not giving my employee a bonus despite all he's done for me? If he's excellent, say he's excellent without guilt. Excellent doesn't mean perfect. If this training thing is the one issue on otherwise stellar performance, it's fine not to knock him down for it. However, it sounds like this guy is merely OK with the potential to be excellent. He's hardworking and motivated and gets along with his team, but needs to pay a lot more attention to organization and details. "Acceptable" is probably where he really is right now. That's fine. But that should be the messaging from his leader all along, whenever they have 1:1 discussions about performance. Your review should not be an unpleasant surprise when you see it. I think his leader failed him in that respect, and knows it, and may lose him because of it. Whereas if the message all along was "I can't give you above an acceptable rating unless you start doing X, Y, and Z better..." well, you might still lose them, but at least they weren't blindsided.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 20:23 |
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value-brand cereal posted:According to the comments, this is about irl child abuse, pedophilia, grooming, forced marriages, cults, and CSA. Fair warning. It doesn't go into detail but like, idk. I thought we're not posting pedophilia related things here? There's trainwreck gazing and then there's abyss gazing, I feel. Sorry, I thought the lack of specifics would make it less of a trigger issue. Basically the game show host asks the daughter if her dad as an adult has ever had sex with someone who was underage, she says yes, and the host reveals that she is right. No details beyond that. "Age gap" is a running theme here, and there are plenty of stories posted where some simple math shows one of the partners in a relationship was underage when it started. Didn't mean to be out of line, apologies if it affected anyone. AreWeDrunkYet fucked around with this message at 20:38 on Nov 6, 2021 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for being upset about an employee making the same as me? Individual contributors earning more than management is pretty common, especially if they have a skillset the manager doesn't. And even in retail if the manager is salaried, their effective hourly earnings can be lower than the people they manage, In this case though the OP is just bad at negotiating because he considers the boss a friend. I guess he hasn't been following the news that employers are now having trouble hiring by offering poverty wages? If he went back and asked for more he would probably get it since replacing him would be more expensive.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 20:46 |
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Pigsfeet on Rye posted:Also, the blabbermouth at the OB that spilled the story about pregnancy got reported Who is the she who answered?
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 20:46 |
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Piell posted:AITA for refusing to get engaged until he gets divorced? Does...does this guy think he can be legally married to two women at once?
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 20:51 |
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kimbo305 posted:Who is the she who answered? I believe it was the receptionist who was the op's mom's friend?
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 20:55 |
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sean10mm posted:This is confusing because the guy he's rating is a supervisor, but he seems to suck rear end at getting people to do basic tasks, which is what a supervisor is for. He also makes the guy sound dumb as poo poo just in general. But he ALSO says the guy totally deserves a raise 100% for sure and he withheld it because of some kind of deranged bureaucratic integrity? quote:Emails are occasionally hard to understand There is no way a supervisor who can't even communicate effectively is "excellent". The OP probably would have been better off giving the excellent anyway since it sounds like the company doesn't care and that would be an easy way to get the employee in question on his side in the future. But that's based on politics, not performance.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 20:59 |
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kimbo305 posted:Who is the she who answered? The same receptionist who told the OP's mom
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:04 |
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Elissimpark posted:Can't decide if they play gender flipped Cramps songs or spanish Sonic Youth covers. tengo un bloque católico
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Slimy Hog posted:The same receptionist who told the OP's mom So the OP just willingly reported the complaint to the person who she was complaining about?
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:09 |
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Sorry, I thought the lack of specifics would make it less of a trigger issue. Basically the game show host asks the daughter if her dad as an adult has ever had sex with someone who was underage, she says yes, and the host reveals that she is right. No details beyond that. She went on this show to expose sexual abuse in the mormon church and explains her motives here.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:14 |
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kimbo305 posted:So the OP just willingly reported the complaint to the person who she was complaining about? OP told person to pass on the message “I need to talk to my OB” but not about what. OB called back and OP explained the whole situation only to them.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:15 |
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kimbo305 posted:So the OP just willingly reported the complaint to the person who she was complaining about? The OB called her back quote:I said I had to talk to my OB, but she couldn’t come to the phone right then and called me back 20 mins later.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:15 |
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kimbo305 posted:So the OP just willingly reported the complaint to the person who she was complaining about? No, she said she asked to speak to her Doctor, and when the Doc called back she reported the receptionist.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:16 |
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haveblue posted:OP told person to pass on the message “I need to talk to my OB” but not about what. OB called back Doh!
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:18 |
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Invisible Clergy posted:She went on this show to expose sexual abuse in the mormon church and explains her motives here. Yikes, my bad.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:25 |
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Piell posted:AITA for refusing to get engaged until he gets divorced? Not committing to get married, but two kids in three years is no biggie, lol
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:32 |
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Piell posted:AITA for refusing to get engaged until he gets divorced? In which a woman is on the cusp of realizing that she is the mistress.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:33 |
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Piell posted:AITA for refusing to get engaged until he gets divorced? can you even get married if you are still legally married to someone else (except maybe in utah)? people staying married despite being split up can cause all sorts of legal problems down the line. "oh, the father of your children died in a car accident? well, he had no will and was married to this other woman, so she's legally entitled to the majority of his assets"
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:44 |
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The_Franz posted:can you even get married if you are still legally married to someone else (except maybe in utah)? Technically you could but legally you can’t. There isn’t much (if any) cross checking when getting a new marriage license at least in CA.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 21:48 |
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OP is apparently in the UK, so no polygamy. OP and still-married-boyfriend also own a house together, so she has already entwined her finances with this guy's ex given that they are still legally married. OP also states that the boyfriend and his ex hate each other and both have moved on with their lives, so not filing the drat divorce papers and making it officially over makes even less sense.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 22:02 |
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Read the story and take a guess before looking at the spoiler, I guarantee you will be wrong AITA, for covering and holding my nose because of the smell of my dad´s oatmeal? quote:Me (14) and dad is ( 54) and very strict. He likes joking around much, so it´s hard to tell if he is joking around or not. Recently, I started covering my nose because of the smell of my dad´s oatmeal or his breath after he ate his oatmeal, at first he didn´t get mad about it, but recently he has.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 22:14 |
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I'd surmise there is very little crossover between each father's oatmeal as the dad's brand really comes through in how it's perceived in its texture, smell, and taste. One might be (pleasantly) surprised in just how unique each man's oatmeal aroma is if you just hover your face over it and take a big whiff.
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 22:41 |
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Piell posted:Read the story and take a guess before looking at the spoiler, I guarantee you will be wrong What? How?
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# ? Nov 6, 2021 23:42 |
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CannonFodder posted:
Sensitivity to not-quite-but-almost spoiled milk smell? Some people put milk in their oatmeal.
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# ? Nov 7, 2021 00:07 |
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The_Franz posted:People staying married despite being split up can cause all sorts of legal problems down the line. "oh, the father of your children died in a car accident? well, he had no will and was married to this other woman, so she's legally entitled to the majority of his assets" Assuming they are in the UK and OP meant legally separated, then no: OP’s boyfriend and his separated wife would no longer automatically inherit the other’s money or property. The_Franz posted:OP and still-married-boyfriend also own a house together, so she has already entwined her finances with this guy's ex given that they are still legally married. Also doubtful for the same reason. The_Franz posted:OP also states that the boyfriend and his ex hate each other and both have moved on with their lives, so not filing the drat divorce papers and making it officially over makes even less sense. I have a feeling this was because that until 2020, the UK didn’t have no-fault divorce. Maybe both of them were worried about proving who’s at fault and getting a lot less of the marital property than they deserved. But after 10+years, yeah, even without the new laws they should just have divorced already. Content: quote:The company I work for is going through a merger with two others. Some people have taken retirement, but other than that no one has been let go. Locations and departments are changing, and people are moving around and being promoted. One month later posted:I ended up quitting rather than working for her. I appreciated your response and all of the kind responses in the comments, but there was no way I could work for her when the company had clearly sided with right her off the bat and when she still had it out for me after all this time. Before she started her management position, she was here for a meeting. She saw me by the elevators and said the universe must be on her side since she was offered a chance to manage one of the people who had “shattered” her life before. There were no witnesses to this conversation and I knew then I had to get out before she took over.
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ibntumart posted:Content: Beautiful post. Curious where OP could've found a glut of encouraging comments, I went to find if it was from r/adultery, but no, AAM. AITA for asking my GF to split the cost of her engagement ring? quote:I was used to being the one to pay on dates and stuff. But she’s got this weird hang up about not wanting me to think, “She owes me anything”. Seems dumb to me. But I go along with it. She moved in with me and suddenly wanted to go half on rent. Even though she doesn’t make that much compared to me, so half was seriously draining her funds. Whether she admitted it or not. It’s exhausting honestly. I’m not hurting for cash. And she doesn’t make a whole lot. It’s the least I could do. Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 00:38 on Nov 7, 2021 |
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limp_cheese posted:What in the gently caress? Outing a dude as a pedophile on national Tv and there were not immediately cops there to arrest him? And the show knew about this beforehand? Just what the gently caress.... Dennis Hastert was Speaker of the House and Mark Foley was still a sitting congressman so... The 2000s were a lawless wasteland
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