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cumshitter posted:I [18m] had a Friends with Benefits arrangement with a friend [39f] of my mother's, I feel bad because she is also messing with other guys in front of me. FYI: this is also called grooming. It is not uncommon in cases of child molestation, HTH.
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JeremoudCorbynejad posted:Apologies if this has already been posted (though I doubt it has) but the BBC had an article a few days ago and I thought this thread might get a kick out of it. Clearly not enough parents have watched the Black Mirror episode Arkangel which is this exact subject.
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Nov 12, 2021 13:49
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AITA for telling my fiancee I am not willing to lie about how we met to her family and friends?quote:I met my fiancee online on a dating app, we have been together for 2 years now and got engaged recently. However, she keeps telling me that during the wedding she wants me to give a "speech" talking about how I met her while she was working at a coffee shop and I was so attracted to her that it was love at first sight and I immediately asked her to be my girlfriend. She says that this makes her look better and will make her look good to her friends if I say that she was so beautiful that I immediately asked her out. To clarify she is saying I have to say that I asked her to be my GF right at the counter without even having any sort of conversation with her first.
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Nov 12, 2021 13:50
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my fiancee I am not willing to lie about how we met to her family and friends? Do not marry this woman
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Nov 12, 2021 13:53
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Put the light in the garbage so when she sees it she's already taken herself out
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AITA For lugging in my husbands over sitting at the head of the table?quote:Edit for clarification: should say laughing at* in the title lol not lugging in.
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Nov 12, 2021 13:59
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Lets ignore the lying for a moment, this meet cute has all the writing chops of Quantum of Solace
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Nov 12, 2021 13:59
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA For lugging in my husbands over sitting at the head of the table? "He doesn't know what I want him to say"? How about oh poo poo, you're right, position at a table is wholly arbitrary and a quiet reinforcement of patriarchy that we don't indulge elsewhere in our partnership, I'll just sit in a chair and not sulk like an emo kid about not getting my magical butt spot at dinner
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Nov 12, 2021 14:13
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My grandparents sat side by side at the dinner table for like 50+ years. Maybe they should just do that
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Nov 12, 2021 14:20
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Grape posted:What kind of cockamamie beep boop logic is "someone reacted very differently than they thought they would on finding out some major news, therefore they were lying about their feelings". CharlestheHammer posted:I think this thread has broken many goons brains
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Nov 12, 2021 14:30
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JeremoudCorbynejad posted:Apologies if this has already been posted (though I doubt it has) but the BBC had an article a few days ago and I thought this thread might get a kick out of it. I'm going to respectfully suggest that this is kept right the gently caress out of the thread under the moratorium against depressing stories of abuse because that's likely all that it will provide.
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Nov 12, 2021 14:37
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Dik Hz posted:I don't like the trend of calling others broke-brains for disagreeing over intentionally vague made-up stories on the internet. Can we please stop that? Well... quote:Even funnier that he's trying to throw the whole "I checked on you & you weren't honest" line out there, considering he wasn't honest with her about kids from the start Like the Op literally said they were upset because the dude had chosen to do something when OP was thinking maybe they were going to suggest doing something at the time the appointment was occurring. It's not even a case of "he dropped all the plans we had immediately for that bitch", it's "He chose her over the hypothetical and unspoken option I possibly could have presented!" People saying the dude wasn't honest are just jumping to a conclusion, because presumably the sequence of events would be: Agree on Childfree > BC Fail=Abortion. Obviously the ex didn't follow that, and obviously there was confirmation that it was, in fact, his kid. So it seems everyone calling the dude a liar would prefer he give the woman a folder full of cash, immediately vacate his responsibilities, and just pretend he doesn't have a child in the world.
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Nov 12, 2021 14:41
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my fiancee I am not willing to lie about how we met to her family and friends? quote:chasingyourvision
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Mx. posted:AITA for lashing out at my husband for suggesting I stop buying formula instead of cancelling his streaming services to save money? Op forgot her third, 444 month old toddler. Evil Willow posted:BORING!!! Stupid mods. Mx. posted:AITA for letting my cat sit in the roasting pan NTA trying to keep cats out of box-like vessels is like trying to fight the entropy of the universe.
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Nov 12, 2021 14:44
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JeremoudCorbynejad posted:Apologies if this has already been posted (though I doubt it has) but the BBC had an article a few days ago and I thought this thread might get a kick out of it. The minor children in this story have a point about privacy, but if you are an adult and someone else is providing and managing your phone that pretty much goes out the window. Do these people also watch porn on their work phones then complain when their employer can see their browsing history?
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FilthyImp posted:Well... 1) Childfree dude has epiphany and decides he wants kids when he finds out ex is pregnant with his child. 2) Dude was lying to OP about being Childfree to get laid. There isn't enough info in the story to determine which is true. I really want to believe 1, but in my heart I'm cynical so I think 2 is more likely. I don't think anyone in this thread is saying that OP and dude should stay together or that dude shouldn't parent his kid. But who knows.
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Nov 12, 2021 14:52
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:The minor children in this story have a point about privacy, but if you are an adult and someone else is providing and managing your phone that pretty much goes out the window. Do these people also watch porn on their work phones then complain when their employer can see their browsing history? do u think work and family are the same thing
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Nov 12, 2021 14:53
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my fiancee I am not willing to lie about how we met to her family and friends?
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sugar free jazz posted:do u think work and family are the same thing No, but family relationships between adults and children are different than those between adults and adults. Adults can put conditions (even unreasonable conditions) on helping out other adults in their family, and their family can tell them to gently caress off if they don't accept those conditions. Children don't have a choice.
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Nov 12, 2021 15:00
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my fiancee I am not willing to lie about how we met to her family and friends? Like, he'll try to tell the meet-cute story about how he went to Starbucks and he was enchanted by how well the green apron matched her eyes...but the story she's been telling for years is that they met at a tiny locally-owned coffee shop and he complimented her perfect smile.
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Nov 12, 2021 15:06
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Every time someone asks how you met give them the meet cute of a different romcom. If called on it, play it off as a joke then give a different romcoms meet cute as the real story. Always be a couple of mystery.
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Nov 12, 2021 15:12
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:No, but family relationships between adults and children are different than those between adults and adults. Adults can put conditions (even unreasonable conditions) on helping out other adults in their family, and their family can tell them to gently caress off if they don't accept those conditions. Children don't have a choice. Consent is questionable when many legal adults still spend 18-26 still financially dependant on their parents.
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Nov 12, 2021 15:13
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You're also not paid to put up with your terrible family the way you are with your terrible boss
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hallo spacedog posted:I'm sah with a 6 month old right now and I do as much housework as I can which ends up being not very much because I have found she literally takes up my entire day just interacting with her so I'm just thinking this guy doesn't pay any attention to them, housework aside. You put them in a bouncer/playpen and do the cooking, dishes, laundry, etc. There's also a question of standards. We just accepted clutter and we were just human roombas randomly putting things back in their places. In my next life, I think I could easily become a professional shoplifter. But as this thread shows, communication is apparently hard.
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Nov 12, 2021 15:29
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AITA for telling my husband I expect him to put me above his mom?quote:I got married to my husband and baby daddy 1 year ago after dating for 4 years. We have a 2 month old together. The problem is my husband always seems to prioritise his mom over me. Always.
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Nov 12, 2021 15:32
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A Moose posted:You're also not paid to put up with your terrible family the way you are with your terrible boss But in this case they literally are, at least in kind? It's a story as old as this thread - someone goes to family for help supporting themselves, the relative offers to help but gives them a couch to stay on while their cats occupy the master bedroom/Warhammer collection takes up the spare bedroom/doesn't allow opposite gender guests/whatever other insane thing. The person taking the help blows up at the conditions and finds themselves without the help they needed in the first place. These people helicopter parenting their adult children are clearly crazy, but taking charity from crazy people is setting yourself up for failure. The simple answer here (for an adult) is to give the back the tracking device that is being provided and use your own phone. They're cheap as dirt these days unless you insist on the latest flagship model. And if the family member makes carrying around a tracking device a condition of staying in their house, well they're crazy people and there is universal advice for that: 
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JeremoudCorbynejad posted:Apologies if this has already been posted (though I doubt it has) but the BBC had an article a few days ago and I thought this thread might get a kick out of it. I have a light level of tracking where we can authorize what apps she downloads and check a map if necessary. She bikes to school and back though, so it's more of a "wasn't hit by a car" situation and I pretty much only check if she's running late. She has unfettered internet access though, so who knows what she's getting up to. She knows not to use social media, but there's all sorts of nonsense on Roblox, and the "everyone online is not the age they say and always assume they're a creeper" talk has occurred multiple times. Give them space, don't judge, and hey they, will talk to you and you can help them on the front-end. Malcolm Excellent posted:My grandparents sat side by side at the dinner table for like 50+ years. Maybe I don't have enough people at dinner or didn't need to play footsie, but I always go for sitting across from each other so it's easier to talk. I guess I could whisper sweet nothings in her ear as I spill food on her though. Previewing my reply, I will preemptively say: The first post is about my kid and the second is my wife.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:But in this case they literally are, at least in kind? It's a story as old as this thread - someone goes to family for help supporting themselves, the relative offers to help but gives them a couch to stay on while their cats occupy the master bedroom/Warhammer collection takes up the spare bedroom/doesn't allow opposite gender guests/whatever other insane thing. The person taking the help blows up at the conditions and finds themselves without the help they needed in the first place. Last year my spouse couldn't work and we lived on my income. What conditions am I allowed to impose if they get sick and it happens again? I'm thinking about devleoping a personality disorder for fun.
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OGDanDogg posted:there's all sorts of nonsense on Roblox, and the "everyone online is not the age they say and always assume they're a creeper" talk has occurred multiple times. Creepers are in Minecraft, silly!
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There is a big difference between a person asking for help and being offered help with reasonable conditions attached and an abuser using financial resources to coerce concessions and demand compliance with outrageous and intrusive behavior. In general the sort of person forcing other adults to use the remote tracking and control apps, and specifically the parent logging into the computer prepared to remotely deactivate an phone while screaming "don't gently caress with me" is an abuser fully embracing the "I pay for you so I own you" mentality.
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BIG FLUFFY DOG posted:Every time someone asks how you met give them the meet cute of a different romcom. If called on it, play it off as a joke then give a different romcoms meet cute as the real story. Always be a couple of mystery. Do you want to know how I got these rings, Batman?
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:The minor children in this story have a point about privacy, but if you are an adult and someone else is providing and managing your phone that pretty much goes out the window. Do these people also watch porn on their work phones then complain when their employer can see their browsing history? This thread attracts some odd goon takes but this has got to be one of the weirdest.
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Anyways content. AITA for sitting in the front seat with my friend and telling his gf to sit in the back? quote:We were heading somewhere with my friend and his gf and I called shotgun and runned in front of her and took the passenger front seat. My friend said we're not doing shot guns and the front seat only goes to his gf or his grandma when either of them is present and that even his mom gives up the front seat out of respect for the gf and their relationship.
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Brawnfire posted:Creepers are in Minecraft, silly! Nice. She only got standalone Minecraft creepers and moved to Roblox later. Also, MultiMC was a godsend. Getting mod install requests the second I hit the door and dealing with version incompatibilities was a nightmare.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my husband I expect him to put me above his mom? Congratulations on having two children!
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA For lugging in my husbands over sitting at the head of the table? There are two more updates.  quote:Update 2: 1st I’d like to say I’m not just going to up and divorce him. I want to understand the origin of this. We talked again and I asked why he felt he was the head, and he said because publicly he is seen that way. If we go out that is what people see because he’s the guy, which he said is not necessarily his belief. I told him that people didn’t come into our house and make that point and ask me to move, that was him. He said that it’s not about being a guy, he’d feel that way even as a woman. I said the thing is he’s not a woman, so his comparison isn’t good. He said felt like the leader but not that I was inferior and we are able to lead in different aspect (Hes great at maths, and analysis. Im artistic and creative). I think that’s a good thing and we are closer to the bottom, and I know there was no malice behind it, but am still concerned. But It was late and I have work, I ask him to think to about two things for us to talk about 1) why it’s an important role for him and why he wants to perpetuate it in our family. 2) how he thinks it makes me feel to be in this situation. We’re gonna talk after I get home from work and I think we’ll reach resolution. TLDR: we almost at a resolution.
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As a 40y.o I do roll my eyes at 20 y.o who are still tied to parental purse strings but then I shake myself and say "it's a different loving world out there for young people nowadays" and count my blessings.
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Yeah, it's literally the economy being set up to squeeze as much out of everyone who isn't rich, through high rents, high house prices, low wages etc. You live with your parents till you're 35 or you'll never afford a house, or you just have to have a multi-generational household and be poor your whole life in places like America where everything is trying to gouge you for as much as possible.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:The minor children in this story have a point about privacy, but if you are an adult and someone else is providing and managing your phone that pretty much goes out the window. Do these people also watch porn on their work phones then complain when their employer can see their browsing history? I have a late stage toddler so I'm not there yet, but I think my ideal parenting app would have 1. location service but not snitch to me unless and until I hit a panic button that also let the kid know that I looked it up. 2. a panic button on their end that immediately sent their location. It's a weird parenting moment when you realize you're kid is too honest and that deceit is a legitimate and necessary social skill.
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