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Clark Nova posted:under different circumstances, with a less horrible family, adopting out to the infertile sister could be an arrangement that benefits everyone, because being 18 with two kids loving sucks In yet another time and place, the entire family would have lived together as a group and everyone would have helped raise the children. And the parents would probably still have found some way to be horrible people.
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Raising one of your siblings children as your own used to be fairly normal in Anglo Saxon times, when birth control didn't exist and people were making GBS threads out kids left and right. Hence Sweostor Nifts being a special relationship and turning up a lot in things like Arthurian literature. But people are psycho as poo poo on AITA, so people doing open family adoption with sensible arrangements and boundaries are not going to turn up there.
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Nov 16, 2021 17:04
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Neito posted:Why is "Give me your kid" such a common thing? Like, I can understand "Give me your car", I can almost understand "Give me your house", but "Give me your kid" is just insane to me. It's probably because I see a kid as a human being with a soul and a connection and a thing that loves and can be loved, and the real answer is "You're not a psychopath who views kids as a checklist item and property at best", but loving hell. Reddit moves in big fashionable waves, if someone posts a mundane thing that does well (eg 'I found a cat, what shall I name him guys?' or 'I just quit my job and told off my boss') there'll be a surge of copycats with variable quality/effort. These relationship subforums -AITA especially- have their local writer's lobby that are always hard up for inspiration, might as well poach someone else's topic.
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Nov 16, 2021 17:08
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There is a type of person who does think in only gains and loses to themselves, and they are nightmares to deal with if you’re forced to interact with them, because they don’t have reason like a person should
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Nov 16, 2021 17:14
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Neito posted:Why is "Give me your kid" such a common thing? Like, I can understand "Give me your car", I can almost understand "Give me your house", but "Give me your kid" is just insane to me. It's probably because I see a kid as a human being with a soul and a connection and a thing that loves and can be loved, and the real answer is "You're not a psychopath who views kids as a checklist item and property at best", but loving hell. Fairy tales?
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Nov 16, 2021 17:27
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for not letting my daughter go to her homecoming dance? My favorite part is how he knew well in advance but didn't say no until she was safely in his custody so she and her mother couldn't do something sneaky like change when the daughter's time with the dad is. What a massive rear end in a top hat, I guarantee the only reason she shows up to visit him is because she and her mom know he will attempt to make their life hell if she doesn't.
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Nov 16, 2021 17:49
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Lmao “I want to spend time with my daughter! No I don’t want to be present at major milestones in her life, how would she pay attention to me during those times?”
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Nov 16, 2021 17:56
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for not letting my daughter go to her homecoming dance? Why yes, I am a controlling psycho why do you ask?
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Nov 16, 2021 18:00
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It's where he says he feels like his daughter will sever all contact with him as soon as she is able. Yeah genius, wonder why that would be. Also that he did exactly the same thing with her dance recital the previous year.
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Nov 16, 2021 18:15
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"man it's lovely when my b**** ex wife makes me use my parenting time to do things our daughter cares about"
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Nov 16, 2021 18:21
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quote:I’m her dad, I am the boss of her am I not? quote:Her mother is particularly manipulative and I’m trying to show my daughter that she won’t get away with acting like her mother quote:She did do something to deserve punishment, and yes I made a quick assumption about my ex. She’s extremely manipulative and she’s done stuff like that to me a lot in the past (buying things to put pressure on me). My daughter shows signs of similar behavior to her mother’s and I don’t want her turning out like that. quote:She testified against me last year and still put her and her sister with me about 50% of the time, does that paint a better picture as to how terrible her mother is? quote:The reason her mom is my ex is because she lied and cheated. I didn’t do anything wrong. quote:I would have better contact with my daughter if she didn’t refuse to speak to me when she’s staying with her mother. It’s not my fault she won’t talk to me quote:How was coming in and writing “homecoming” on the calendar and showing off her dress she’d already bought NOT manipulative? That’s manipulating me into letting her go and I wasn’t giving in to that. quote:I used to pick up the phone and text her while she was with her mother, but she never replied to me. I’m almost certain her mother blocked my number in her phone. quote:Yes, I would feel the same about those things. I barely got to see my daughter for YEARS am I an rear end in a top hat for wanting to spend as much time with her as I can? Because I know her mother has convinced her that I’m the villain and I DO fear she’ll leave me when she turns 18. quote:No, she testified against me because her mother told her to. I wanted custody because her mother is a narcissist and she deserves to have parents that put her before themselves. Her mother is so self-absorbed that my daughters hadn’t been to the dentist in years and they were constantly being fed fast food garbage. My ex doesn’t know how to take care of anyone but herself. My oldest daughter has perfect grades and everyone thinks she’s an angel, but that’s the only reason why. She’s just like her mother and I’m trying to stop that.
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Nov 16, 2021 18:50
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[SC] My Elderly Neighbor is Destroying our Propertyquote:I live in SC, USA and own 5 acres of land. One property line was originally made to run down the center of a natural creek, my neighbor owns the 50 acres of property on the other side of the creek. He is 86 years old and when we built our house in 2019 seemed friendly. I don't know what the gently caress it is but the "good ol' boys" culture here in the southeast always leads to some absolute fuckwits like this popping up every now and then. Pretty much every old southern dude I've met has been some kind of crazy rear end in a top hat like this. Granted, if I had to hang out in camo in a deer stand all night to catch you digging out my side of the creek bed and putting the rocks and dirt on your side I would have jumped out like a crazy person and tried to put the fear of god in them, but also I've dealt with enough of these dipshits to know that the only thing that gets them to leave you alone is making them aware that there will absolutely be consequences for their poo poo.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:01
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AITA well are WE the AH's for eloping?quote:Throwaway bc of obvious reasons I suppose.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:01
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Uncle ShortyB posted:[SC] My Elderly Neighbor is Destroying our Property Filing a criminal/civil complaint for trespass/vandalism (or whatever the local statute is) might work if the husband can get video of them doing it and document everything. Rural legal systems are loving wrathful about protecting property and water access.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:13
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AITA for hiring bridesmaids and then kicking my fiance's brother from our wedding cause he called me a bridezilla ?quote:I'm (24F) getting married to my fiance (25M) next month and I ran into a big problem before the wedding : I have no bridesmaids to speak of. All my high school friends backstabbed me, so I have no contact with them anymore and my sister isn't even invited to begin with ( And I even made sure that she doesn't find out that I'm getting married ), so I had no choice left but to hire bridesmaids to attend my wedding. My fiance got mad when he found out about me hiring bridesmaids, saying we don't need them and we may be coming short of the honeymoon if we keep them. I told him that it's easy for him to talk, cause he still has his 3 brothers as groomsmen and a large family and lots of his old high school friends attending our wedding and that if we need to sacrifice our honeymoon for my bridesmaids, then we'll do it, but without my bridesmaids I'm not walking down the aisle. He said I could still make amends with my sister and have her as my bridesmaid, but I told him clearly that my sister isn't putting foot in my wedding even over my corpse and I'm willing to hire even security guard in order to stop her in case she somehow finds out about my wedding. I then heard his older brother calling me a bridezilla and I quickly told him off and kicked him out of our wedding. He said that he didn't want to attend anyway with a crazy bride like me and some of my fiance's family members sided with him and dropped out from our wedding as well. My fiance said that I can't kick his brother and should reconsider my decision, but I told him that if I found out that his brother is somehow at the wedding, then he'll be known in his family as the groom whose bride never showed up. However, maybe I'm really just being unreasonable and I should loosen up with our wedding planning.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:17
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spacetoaster posted:Filing a criminal/civil complaint for trespass/vandalism (or whatever the local statute is) might work if the husband can get video of them doing it and document everything. If tree law is a thing (which might also apply as she says their trees are dying) I would imagine loving around with the flow of an existing river or stream on someone else's property has to also be a crime, right? Especially since it can cause major flooding and other issues. I am not a lawyer but I am a river enthusiast so I am just imagining based on the fact that practically every time someone screws with the way water flows, even when they know what they are doing, it tends to end poorly.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:17
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Uncle ShortyB posted:[SC] My Elderly Neighbor is Destroying our Property Shoot the neighbor and claim you thought he was a deer.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:19
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Shoot him for trespassing.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:22
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Is this how you get people turn up with titles like 'Watershed Management Office Junior Surveyor', and turn out to be a heavily armed federal alphabet agency who take zero poo poo from anyone?
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Nov 16, 2021 19:23
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for hiring bridesmaids and then kicking my fiance's brother from our wedding cause he called me a bridezilla ? I'm...almost kind of on her side?
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Nov 16, 2021 19:23
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SilvergunSuperman posted:I'm...almost kind of on her side? How? She sounds like an absolute psychopath.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:27
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SilvergunSuperman posted:I'm...almost kind of on her side? Yeah how
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Nov 16, 2021 19:29
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The comments for that one reveal the beef with her sister at least seems to be legit (sister slept with her ex-boyfriend while they were still together) but everything else she's pretty silent on.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:30
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Weddings are dumb as poo poo money sinkholes any way you slice it, so not wanting to be embarrassed by no bridesmaids seems reasonable to me. I don't know if hired guns is something I'd do but  Other than that she's a psycho because she doesn't want her sister there and barred someone that insulted her?
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Nov 16, 2021 19:30
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Same but I'm skeptical that every woman she has ever met turned out to be a backstabbing rear end in a top hat. You know what they say.
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I would have edited it for spacing but I felt like the giant block of breathless text was important context.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:37
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hallo spacedog posted:If tree law is a thing (which might also apply as she says their trees are dying) I would imagine loving around with the flow of an existing river or stream on someone else's property has to also be a crime, right? Especially since it can cause major flooding and other issues. Yeah just a cursory glance at some websites seems to suggest that they would have a case to just absolutely rake this motherfucker over the coals for the river alone since his reasoning seems to be "I lost an argument 50 years ago and I can't just let poo poo go", though I'm not a lawyer either tbh. Also, StormDrain posted:Shoot him for trespassing. is a legit solution here since NC is a castle doctrine state. Ain't no reason to be acting like a loving child because you lost a fight with a dead person half a decade ago.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:42
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People who talk about 'backstabbing', unless they are literal teenagers or professional assassins, get an instant eyebrow raise from me. Like what context in a normal life can you even betray someone? Is it normal to have enough drama and secrets swirling around that backstabbing is a possibility?
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Nov 16, 2021 19:48
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Pretty sure toxic work environments foster all sorts of opportunities for metaphorical backstabbing. For the literal sort you'd need a wedding.
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Nov 16, 2021 19:52
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Harold Fjord posted:Same but I'm skeptical that every woman she has ever met turned out to be a backstabbing rear end in a top hat. You know what they say.
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Nov 16, 2021 20:01
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for hiring bridesmaids and then kicking my fiance's brother from our wedding cause he called me a bridezilla ? I'm surprised this is the first time I've heard of the concept of hiring bridesmaids. So many of the wedding stories in this thread would've been less painful for everyone if they had ordered bridesmaids from a catalog instead of putting their friends/relatives through hell Strategic Tea posted:People who talk about 'backstabbing', unless they are literal teenagers or professional assassins, get an instant eyebrow raise from me. she said it was her high school friends, so I'm guessing they did typical mean girl poo poo, or maybe turned on her if she got out of a small town and/or went to college
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Clark Nova posted:I'm surprised this is the first time I've heard of the concept of hiring bridesmaids. So many of the wedding stories in this thread would've been less painful for everyone if they had ordered bridesmaids from a catalog instead of putting their friends/relatives through hell Wasn't there one in the last thread where someone ordered models as their wedding party because their friends weren't attractive enough for the bride's taste in the photos?
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Nov 16, 2021 20:10
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spacetoaster posted:Filing a criminal/civil complaint for trespass/vandalism (or whatever the local statute is) might work if the husband can get video of them doing it and document everything. They have to make sure the old rear end in a top hat's children and kinfolk don't dominate the local government / sheriff
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Nov 16, 2021 20:24
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Clark Nova posted:I'm surprised this is the first time I've heard of the concept of hiring bridesmaids. So many of the wedding stories in this thread would've been less painful for everyone if they had ordered bridesmaids from a catalog instead of putting their friends/relatives through hell Had a gang bang with her sister and ex, obviously.
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Pigsfeet on Rye posted:They have to make sure the old rear end in a top hat's children and kinfolk don't dominate the local government / sheriff That's a possibility, but if they had those kinds of connections they would have been using those connections to do the damage instead of what they've been doing.
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spacetoaster posted:Filing a criminal/civil complaint for trespass/vandalism (or whatever the local statute is) might work if the husband can get video of them doing it and document everything. Yeah generally the options are "the law steps in" or "somebody shoots somebody" Also lol property lines almost certainly don't move with a body of water and most assuredly not when it's being maliciously tampered with.
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Nov 16, 2021 20:33
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AITA for unknowingly setting my friend out with an autistic girlquote:So about a week ago I had the idea to set out my two friends with each other because they both thought each other were cute. They start talking for about a week and then out of the blue i get a text saying that i am an rear end in a top hat and a sick gently caress for doing that even though i had no clue she was autistic but he keeps saying i should have been able to see it and that i am in the wrong for not noticing that she has aspergers, it has never been told to me and never even brought up in conversation AITA. Top comment, deleted by moderators: YTA and need to apologize to your friend for setting her up with an ableist.
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Nov 16, 2021 20:36
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They were friends from high school who betrayed her but it didn't have to occur in high school. The sister animosity is legit but her going from 1 to 100 on every other thing is suspect.
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Nov 16, 2021 20:36
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Runcible Cat posted:Had a gang bang with her sister and ex, obviously.
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SilvergunSuperman posted:Weddings are dumb as poo poo money sinkholes any way you slice it, so not wanting to be embarrassed by no bridesmaids seems reasonable to me. I don't know if hired guns is something I'd do but If you don't have people you want to be bridesmaids you just... don't have bridesmaids. Hiring actors to pretend to be your friends is not on the same sanity level as having an overpriced cake.
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