Bruceski posted:

This is why I'm glad my family's naming tradition is just to put a y in there somewhere that fits. And by tradition I mean "Mervyn and Gladys decided it'd be cute a hundred years ago, and nobody's disagreed yet. No biggie." Sometimes it's first name, sometimes middle. Sometimes it's the more common spelling, sometimes less but still doesn't stand out. Just a bit of a family easter egg.

Cowslips Warren posted:

It does make me wonder, if the mom is out of it from pain meds after labor, and the dad were to write down the name he wants, could she contest/have the hospital undo it? or would she have to tell the nurses first so the admin is aware?

Mx. posted:

My husband (31M) of 5 years said he would leave me if I (29F) don’t carry on his family naming tradition (that he previously said he did not want to participate in) for our baby. I don’t want him to do that but I also don’t want to name my potential son an awful name. What should I do?

Seth Pecksniff posted:

I have my mom's maiden name for my middle name. It's a fun party trick because the name is a common word people use all the time

Seth Pecksniff posted:

I love the tiny triangle of land that's near the top of the river but belongs to France because you cannot, under any circumstance, cede that land to Belgium because it's strategically vital

Gnossiennes posted:

same, it's reason #1 i'll take a diet coke/coke zero over a regular coke any day, it makes my teeth and tongue feel just disgustingly fuzzy. even juice or aguas frescas, despite being about the same level of sugar, don't leave near as much of a gross film imo

spacetoaster posted:

Isn't it a man's name either way? Either her husband's or her father's.

Invisible Clergy posted:

The site won't let me post it as an embedded image or attachment but this bridezilla post is very funny.

kimbo305 posted:

Whoever the Coke scientist is -- I know you said the blind study showed people couldn't tell a difference in taste, but what about mouth feel? Is it in our heads?

Gadzuko posted:

I am not a doctor or food scientist but the descriptions of mouth feeling fuzzy or filmy sounds like how my sister used to describe bananas before she found out she has a mild banana allergy. Maybe worth checking out.

Invisible Clergy posted:

Oh, of course this reasonable out isn't at play and her husband is just being a huge piece of poo poo for literally no reason at all. I don't know what I expected. Carry on.

Seth Pecksniff posted:

I have my mom's maiden name for my middle name. It's a fun party trick because the name is a common word people use all the time

Quackles posted:

Google asks me to log in when I click it, which is probably why.

op posted:

Like this, but down to the individual seeds: https://i.imgur.com/Z0c6ZKE.jpg

I've been pulling them apart with tweezers and it's really time consuming. I have about 10 pounds to get through this weekend.

commenter posted:

I am beyond curious as to why you need to do this - please explain!

op posted:

It is a really, really stupid reason. Suffice it to say that someone is willing to pay our venue a lot of money to do it.

commenter posted:

Vegan caviar looking thing?

op posted:

No, that would actually be less stupid. I didn't want to share this because it's going to derail me getting some actual technique suggestions with a million follow-up questions, but since you all are too curious: It's a bridezilla "artist's" amazing idea for confetti.

To preempt the inevitable questions:

Yes, we have attempted to convince her that there are other forms of biodegradable confetti that would be less expensive and just as harmless.

We have done tests with the bride and only completely disassembled raspberries "float through the air" in the manner she wants. Any chunks ruin the effect.

No, she is not worried about her dress. In fact, she considers the red stains a feature.

Besides "looking amazing," she wants her wedding to "feed the local animals" (our venue is in the woods). Yes, we have confirmed that the "local animals" eat raspberries. She has actually paid for an environmental study to ensure no lasting impact. Yes, we are worried that the animals are going to keep coming back to us for food. The environmental firm she hired said that due to the nature of the raspberries, it won't create lasting dependency as long as we otherwise clear all food scraps from the venue (we always do).

The "confetti" will be hand tossed using scoops to protect the guests hands. We will have the scoops pre-loaded so the guests aren't mashing a big bucket of raspberries.

Yes, she is absolutely 100% certain this is what she wants. No, I won't tell you what she's paying us. Yes, it is worth it even if I have to hire 20 temps to help us pull the damned things apart. But we need better technique we can train them with first because what we're doing now is slow and is mashing the seeds a little.

Yes, we already tried freezing them. Didn't really help and they were mushy when they thawed.

No, the wedding is not this weekend. The 10 pounds we're doing this weekend are for the first rehearsal. Depending upon how that goes, we'll either be doing another 10 pounds in a few weeks, or possibly much more.

FML

AmiYumi posted:

I decided “yeah, not reading that” from the title and kept feeling more and more vindicated as I scrolled, and scrolled

…and scrolled

Invisible Clergy posted:

That's weird. I'll just do it manually. I was gonna do an image because the meat was in a couple of comments:

What's the best way to disassemble raspberries?

Invisible Clergy posted:

That's weird. I'll just do it manually. I was gonna do an image because the meat was in a couple of comments:

What's the best way to disassemble raspberries?

RenegadeStyle1 posted:

I've known several parents who name their kids then call them by their middle name. It always perplexed me. If you wanted to call them that why didn't you make it their first name?

titty_baby_ posted:

I dont believe anyone would ever hire a consulting firm to do an impact report for a wedding

Invisible Clergy posted:

kimbo305 posted:

Whoever the Coke scientist is -- I know you said the blind study showed people couldn't tell a difference in taste, but what about mouth feel? Is it in our heads?

Das Boo posted:

A million pages back, but I've always hated Coke for the film it leaves in my mouth. Never had an explanation for it and I'm surprised more people don't notice/hate it, but I feel vindicated.

Thank you.

spacetoaster posted:

Isn't it a man's name either way? Either her husband's or her father's.

Invisible Clergy posted:

That's weird. I'll just do it manually. I was gonna do an image because the meat was in a couple of comments:

What's the best way to disassemble raspberries?

Quackles posted:

As interesting a plan as this is, don't bats bring risks of rabies and coronavirus?

(I'm completely serious!)

Biplane posted:

Just don't lick, eat, suck on, or gently caress the bats???

Biplane posted:

Just don't lick, eat, suck on, or gently caress the bats???

Quackles posted:

As interesting a plan as this is, don't bats bring risks of rabies and coronavirus?

(I'm completely serious!)

Shithouse Dave posted:

Freeze dried raspberries would solve this.

Invisible Clergy posted:

Of course the stupid OP, after making a post tearing her hair and rending her garments about how awful and disgusting the name is doesn't tell us what the stupid name is in the comments.

The name's been in the family for 5 generations? And the husband's doing a 180 on this after years of being on OP's side? Maybe the family are Vanderbilts or something and if they don't name their son Cornelius Pnurtis Agammemnon Johnson-Vanderbilt V, he'll be disinherited but they only dropped this bomb on the husband after he told the Corny III that he isn't playing ball. That would be an unenviable situation but just name him that and call him something else, that's what all various scions of the Rockefeller family, who are compelled to name their first male heirs "John" do:



Oh, of course this reasonable out isn't at play and her husband is just being a huge piece of poo poo for literally no reason at all. I don't know what I expected. Carry on.

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I have a coworker who is very attractive. Seriously beautiful. Over the past 5+ years that we've both been at our jobs, I've watched other coworkers encourage her to try modeling/youtubing/etc about fashion and beauty, which she tried, and she's now kinda famous in social media spheres. As far as I know, she's not actually like "movie star" or "famous actor" famous, but she has millions of followers and has made quite a bit of money off of her channels. She also gets into clubs a lot for free these days, and gets a lot of VIP treatment in certain places. As she's gotten more perks, she has stayed sweet, but she's gotten more and more of a "bad things can't happen to me" attitude, and a kind of "oh, I don't have to worry about that" kind of attitude about certain things. Like, she's started to believe her own bullshit and just image that her life is always going to be perfect and amazing. It's made her harder to work with, but she's generally still sweet, even though she talks about herself a lot.

She recently went on a vacation to Mexico and got bitten by a bat. She did get 1 rabies shot immediately. However, when the doctors told her she needed to take more, and that the shots would make her feel crappy and she'd need to rest after each shot, she decided to opt out of that and get the rest back in the US after her vacation was over.

Obviously, that's not how rabies shots work, and when she got back here and called to schedule the shots, apparently, her doctor told her that she could get them, but that it was too late for them to be helpful now, so...that's that.

Needless to say, she's freaking the gently caress out. Because she didn't know how fatal rabies could be, or how serious the injections should be taken. She also swears that the doctors in Mexico didn't tell her that the follow-up shots were that important, which might be true, but I've watched her blow off other medical/"real life" problems that need to be taken seriously before, so honestly, I don't know if I believe her. But at the same time, she might be really hosed, but won't know for something like 2 years.

Now she's talking about doing fund-raisers and stuff to look into experimental research or treatments and also kind of on a rabies crusade to inform her followers about rabies, which is kinda nuts and...ok, I know that she and I are about 15ish years apart, age-wise, but do people in their 20s seriously not know how dangerous rabies can be? Is that really a thing?

Anyways, the important thing is that she's asking for money and always accenting what a life-and-death situation it is. I am NOT giving her money for a lot of reasons, but I don't know how to tell her that I'm not giving her money, especially since she keeps saying things like "without this money, I could die".

Let's be honest, even with all the money in the world, she could die. Or she won't. No way to know.

How should I phrase my "no" to her?



edited to add that I do believe her, because she's never lied to my knowledge and she's never asked for money before in the office. Even if this is nuts, I don't think she made up what actually happened, and she has never tried to get money from the office before, so this isn't a habit or an on-going problem with her.


update: to make a long story short, some coworkers (including me) went to HR and complained that she was making us uncomfortable. By the time I went down, they basically said "are you here to complain about the rabies thing? We're working on taking care of it". HR called her down to their office, and a little later, my boss sent an email saying "Hey everybody, RabiesWoman had to go home today. Please direct anything important about her work to me. She will be back in a day or two". The speculation is that HR told her she can't be freaking out and soliciting money at work, and sent her home to pull herself together. I do feel really bad for her, because like I said, I do believe this is genuine, in part because she has NEVER come to work freaking out and crying like this before. She's occasionally came to work drama-freaking out over some ridiculous social thing for attention, but she was really looking panicked and horrified and miserable the last time I saw her. If anything else happens in the next week or so, I'll update, but I don't know if she'll be at this job (or I'll be at this job) or the next two full years to know for sure if she doesn't have rabies. As dippy as she can be, I really hope she's fine and finds a therapist, because I wouldn't wish this kind of situation on my worst enemy, much less someone who can be annoying self-involved, but it otherwise sweet and pretty good at her job


TLDR: My social-media famous, "like is always going to be perfect for me" coworker got bitten by a bat on vacation, and didn't get rabies shots as she should have. She's now freaking out and asking for money for "experimental treatments". How do I say "no" to her without sounding like the world's coldest rear end in a top hat?