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My wife and I have been together for a long time. She’s been the homemaker, and I the breadwinner. We have 3 kids together.

My wife has been responsible for basically everything that isn’t bringing home the paycheck. I help her when I can, but by the time I get home there isn’t much to do. When the kids were younger they were already in bed, and she was waiting for me when I got home. She’s balanced our checkbook, and decided what goes into what account, she’s done all the shopping for groceries, gifts, and home appliances. She has been responsible for taking our children to appointments, friends houses, and after school activities. She’s been my confessor who I share all my pent up feelings with, and get things off my chest that I wouldn’t do with anyone else. And I assume she does the same with the kids. Meaning she handles 100% of the emotional labor, and probably 75% of the housework. The kids don’t have chores.She got the kids ready for school, and put them to bed.

She’s woken me up, started the shower, made my breakfast, ironed my suit and laid it out, before she ties my tie, hands me my lunch and kisses me goodbye. She’s done this for over 20 years.

I guess somewhere along the way I stopped thanking her, since I was so used to it. It wasn’t intentional and I genuinely appreciate her. But I just didn’t think to express it.

About a week ago she wasn’t feeling well and didn’t wake up before me, meaning I was basically screwed since I rely on her to get me ready in the morning (it’s pathetic, I know). But it’s just my routine and has been for decades. I managed to make it to work, and I was upset with her even though i realize I shouldn’t have been. But I wasn’t expecting to have to wake up on my own and get ready without her. It’s sad, but it’s all I know.

Due to me expressing my displeasure over her not getting up in time - she has unformed me I’ll be on my own for, “the foreseeable future”. Look, I made a mistake and was wrong for getting upset. But I feel like I do have a right to be angry since I rely on her for that.

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I (20f) am a college student. In my country a lot of students hunt for internship cuz it helps in getting a better pay package during placements.I’ve been casually talking with this guy ‘R’ who’s also my classmate. He was all friendly at the beginning but started flirting recently. I never once flirted with him and always just ignored his moves but last week he asked me out and I said no. In fact, I apologized to him to have him think that somewhere in our conversation I might have led him on. He ghosted me and I didn’t think much of it.

But 2 days later, he texted me again, asking me out. I told him that I already said no to which he replied he gave me time to think over and that I should be grateful for it. Ngl, I got pissed and told him to F off. And he got pissed and called me all the names under the moon and just slut shamed me for it. I blocked him but he made his friends to cuss me out too. I got super frustrated and called him out on my story along with attaching the ss of our chats. Around 300 ppl saw and one among them is placement mentor (4th year student). I didn’t think much of it cuz after the story as I blocked them all and went ahead with my day.

The placement head saw this kind of behavior unacceptable and appalling. So he reported this to our department head. apparently in my college, this kind of behavior is labeled as harassment and punishment can lead to suspension. The department head (DH) and placement mentor called me to DH’s office to get my statement and I did. I showed them everything. Well he got suspended for 3 months for his behavior. He was about to get a very good internship in a Govt company but since he got suspended that internship is also gone. Our professor P loves him and he called me to his office to go and make another statement to DH that I forgive him and there’s also wrong in my part. Our DH, called me, R , his parents and our two professors (P and Q). DH asked me if I’m willing to forgive him(this will get him off the suspension). Somewhere inside of me wanted to see him suffer so I told him no. I was harassed and I want him punished. His mother berated me in front of everyone saying that I’m the one who led her son and I’m doing this purposefully cuz he’s my competitor. And her son is the victim here. DH didn’t listen to her and gave R his rightful punishment well at least according to me.

Well now, Our internship started and few of my friends said I took it too far. He just called me names while texting and I got him suspended for that. Some of my other classmates called me a bully and AH for ruining his bright future and Professor P called me outside the class today and told me that he’s extremely disappointed in me and it’s becuz of girls like me, potential careers of men are ruined. This actually made me cry and I’m rethinking whether what did was actually extreme. So, Reddit, AITA

ghost emoji posted:

AITA: I got mad at my wife, and now she has informed me that she will no longer be getting me ready for work in the morning (self.AmItheAsshole)

cumshitter posted:

AITA for potentially ruining my classmate’s career.

cumshitter posted:

AITA for potentially ruining my classmate’s career.

B-Rock452 posted:

Cool the last part about the professor made me so mad I got a headache. gently caress anyone that thinks like that he ruined his own loving life.

zokie posted:

She should report the professor too, we need women like her to ruin their own careers in the feeble hope that it will ruin the careers of shits like him.

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Yesterday was my birthday. My(30M) wife(28F) and I had made reservations at this really nice Korean BBQ restaurant for dinner. My wife is 4 months pregnant.

However, her friend wanted to hang out with her and had called her the night before my birthday. My wife said that this was a childhood friend of hers and that she really wanted to spend time with her. I reminded her that it's my birthday but she just dismissed it saying my birthday comes every year but her friend will be leaving for Germany in a few weeks. I told her that she could go after my birthday as well but she did not listen and just went to a sleepover at her friend's place.

I got really mad at her and instead of waiting for her to return home to talk things out, I asked my friend if he would like to hang out with me. He was fine with it so we spent the day fishing, grilling, hiking, and went to the Korean BBQ for dinner.

When she came home after spending time with her friend, she apologized to me saying it was an unavoidable circumstance. I told her that it wasn't a problem and that I spent the day with my best friend. She got mad that I'd take him to the restaurant that we had booked for ourselves. I said that it was originally for us but since she prioritized her friend over me, I took the person who prioritized me on my birthday. She said that I'm controlling and that I shouldn't be deciding who she spends time with.

Now she's neither talking to me nor coming out of the room. I think I went too far by telling her whom she should be spending time with.

AITA?

Piell posted:

AITA for leaving a bra on the floor to stop my brother from coming into my room?

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I(27M) and my wife(24F) have been married for 3 years. She is 6 months pregnant.

I have been looking for a job with a better pay since my wife said that she wanted to be a SAHM after the birth.

Today, I had this interview for a position at a very good IT company which would be paying triple my current salary.

There were a lot of measures taken to prevent malpractice. I was not allowed to look anywhere but the screen, etc. The test was conducted on an online platform.

I had told her numerous times before the exam about the strict invigilation.

Just 15 minutes after the test started, my wife started knocking on my study door and calling out my name saying she wanted me to open a jar. I ignored her because I would be disqualified from the interview if I looked anywhere else or spoke... I figured she'd get the hint that I couldn't talk. But she didn't she yelled at me calling me an AH and went on to talk to her friends on call. It didn't stop at the calls, she played loud music for her online dance yoga class. It was extremely distracting and I made a lot of mistakes in the exam

It was a multiple choice questions based test so I got the results immediately and as expected I had miserably failed it.

I was livid at my wife. This was the 5th interview that she ruined like this. I told her that I give up on trying to make her life easier and that I'm not ready to go looking for any more jobs since she doesn't even want to maintain silence during important interviews. I told her to start working again after the birth and that I am ok paying for a nanny/babysitter.

She said that in being unreasonable in expecting perfect silence at home.

AITA?

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A'right folks, Hope I'm doing this right. Here's some context:

We recently moved into a new house. Expectedly, there's still a lot of mess to clean up and my wife and I have been working non stop to get everything ready before the holidays.

So this incident took place last night at around 9ish pm. My wife and I decided to go to our room to rest and get some privacy leaving the kids watching a movie together in the livingroom.

Well, while me and my wife were....you know, suddenly I noticed movement near the door and saw a finger slipping a small piece of paper then disappearing. Later on I went to check it out and got extremely pissed. I shouted my 14 year old daughter's name and told her to come stand before me and read what she wrote out loud. The note said "keep it down! there are kids in this house!" I then responded with a "I know, how did you think you and your brother and sister got here?". Then told her how her behavior was out of line completely to disrespect me and her mom like that and interrupt our privacy. She said we were really loud and she and the other kids were getting uncomfortable but she didn't know how to tell us after she tried to call her mom's phone but it wa turned off so sliding the note was her "only choice". I told her she never should've done that and that it was rude of her to address me and her mom like that and grounded her by taking away her phone and no visiting friends or allowing them to come for a month. She threw a 3 year old tantrum and said I was being unfair and just looking for an excuse to limit her time with her friends. I refused to argue about this anyfurther I told her any attempts to complain will extend her punishement period. She stormed off crying and my wife said I was too harsh on her and overreacted over a small incident. She is trying to talk me out of punishing our daughter but I refused.

AITA?

Piell posted:

AITA I went with my friend to a restaurant that was originally reserved for me and my wife.

trickybiscuits posted:

AITA I got mad at my wife because she caused me to fail an important interview

Arsenic Lupin posted:

FTFY. For an undergrad to make trouble for a senior professor in her department while she's still in his department is extremely dangerous. Academia is vicious. There was a story just last week that the woman who created the mRNA virus pissed off her research supervisor by taking another job, so he called the INS to try to get her deported.

I'm not saying "don't report", I'm saying that reporting isn't an automatic win for the reporter.

hawowanlawow posted:

it is possible to have sex without hooting and hollering

Piell posted:

AITA I went with my friend to a restaurant that was originally reserved for me and my wife.

the holy poopacy posted:

I have a really hard time reading this as anything except "my wife cheated on me using a friend as a cover and then got mad because she assumed I was using a friend as a cover to cheat on her due to projection"

Serephina posted:

And the thing is, all she wanted to do was walk away from a guy who took rejection too hard, but everyone keeps chasing back up to her and stirring up more poo poo. Imbeciles.

trickybiscuits posted:

If they're so concerned with Biblical stuff, you'd think they would be more concerned with preserving their daughter's purity from male intrusion ha ha ha, I'm just kidding, these people are inherently garbage.

AITA I got mad at my wife because she caused me to fail an important interview

cumshitter posted:

AITA for punishing my daughter for sliding this note underneath the bedroom door?

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My partner and I are both divorcées who married young into a conservative religious faith, and each got a bad sexual roll of the dice in our first marriages. However, apostasy and divorce allowed us to make up for lost time, and a few slutty, audacious years of dating led us happily to each other. From the very start, sex has been fiery, frequent, fulfilling, fun and … very, very vociferous. Our bodies shake the bed and rattle the windows. Her orgasms are operatic. She comes long and hard, and it’s no secret to the neighbors on the block that she’s sexually satisfied. We’ve been together for 2½ years, and the commotion has not ebbed in the slightest.

The problem is that together we have six kids between the ages of 8 and 15, and increasingly, our regular thumping, bumping, yawping, and yelping happens under the same roof as our kiddos. They hear it. They imitate the vocalizations. They joke about the ruckus. They sometimes seem annoyed. It even keeps them up at night. Recently my 10-year-old son, whose bedroom is unfortunately positioned directly beneath us, confided to me that the racket makes him uncomfortable. He told me that there have been nights when he has had difficulty sleeping and felt powerless to make it stop. Our hearts broke when we heard that, and we have both done everything we can to validate his feelings, repair with him, and empower him to voice his concerns.

Some sound abatement is possible. We attempt to keep the volume down until after the children are all tucked in their beds and sleeping. We moved the mattress onto the floor. We play music in the background. And we try to reserve the most raucous sex for when we are both kid-free. Nevertheless, some nocturnal noise is totally inevitable, and we’re resigned to the racket. In general, we have wonderful relationships with these amazing kiddos, and we’re conscientious parents. We just hope that love, trust, strong relationships, and an open line of communication will prevent any damage.

The sound of parents thumping and humping away in the night is a classic childhood nuisance, but I’m seeking advice on behalf of kiddos of blended families. What about children who overhear their parent with a sexy new partner? How important is it that our sex life remains a mystery? What damage are we doing by being so audible? What hang-ups are we creating for their future therapists to unravel? We’re modeling a healthy sex life, right? Or do we have a blind spot about this? For the benefit of the children, do we really need to keep it down?

Piell posted:

AITA for leaving a bra on the floor to stop my brother from coming into my room?

pentyne posted:

Finally found the loud sex havers

My Sex Life Is Keeping My Kids Up at Night

mind the walrus posted:

Definitely possible but not how I read it. I read it more as overgrown children who never had a difficult conversation about mutual relationship values before getting pregnant.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

FTFY. For an undergrad to make trouble for a senior professor in her department while she's still in his department is extremely dangerous. Academia is vicious. There was a story just last week that the woman who created the mRNA virus pissed off her research supervisor by taking another job, so he called the INS to try to get her deported.

I'm not saying "don't report", I'm saying that reporting isn't an automatic win for the reporter.

Breetai posted:

I'm not sure what I hate the most: the writing style or the blatant one-handedness.

pentyne posted:

Finally found the loud sex havers

My Sex Life Is Keeping My Kids Up at Night

pentyne posted:

Finally found the loud sex havers

My Sex Life Is Keeping My Kids Up at Night

pentyne posted:

Finally found the loud sex havers

My Sex Life Is Keeping My Kids Up at Night

The Glumslinger posted:

Invest in ballgags

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I live in apartments with terrible parking. They overbuilt without considering that maybe one parking space per unit isn’t enough. They charge $25 a month for unassigned parking and $50 for an assigned covered space. I work evenings and get home at 1am. There is never unassigned parking available at that hour so I pay extra for an assigned space.

A family with a son in a wheelchair recently moved in and they have 2 wheelchair accessible vans. The complex provides them one handicap spot for free.

I met them when they parked in my assigned spot and asked them to move. The mom apologized and explained my spot was perfect for the family’s needs because it’s at the end of the row and the passenger door opens onto the sidewalk. It’s not officially a handicap space but they can make it work.

I went to the leasing office with her to see if I could get a different spot and transfer mine to her because I’m not trying to make life harder for a kid in a wheelchair or his family. Unfortunately, they have ZERO assigned spots currently available for rent.

They used to allow people to rent as many spots as they wanted as long as they were willing to pay. They’ve now instituted a policy that you can only rent as many parking spaces as your unit has bedrooms, but because the parking spots are currently written into people’s leases, they can’t tell revoke them until the leases end.

There is NOWHERE else to park. There’s a bank nearby but they’ll tow you if it’s there when the manager comes in. The next closet option is a Safeway parking lot almost a mile down the road.

I’m on a waiting list and should have a new spot by March. Until then, I’m not giving up my current spot. The mom cried and said she really needed my spot and doesn’t understand why I’m being so heartless.

There is unassigned handicap parking by the leasing office, but it’s on the other side of the complex. And it really shouldn’t inconvenience her son, because the family DOES still have their assigned handicap spot right in front of their door. Seems to me that whichever parent actually has the kid in tow should coordinate with the other one to leave their spot open so their son can get in and out easily and the other parent can park the other van by the leasing office and walk.

Since then, the mom has parked in my spot a few times and each time I left notes asking her to move or I’d have her towed. She’s always moved by morning. She’s so combative that I can’t really stand the thought of talking to her.

Last night I got home and her van was in my spot. I had to park at the bank and walk. The mom hasn’t moved the van. It’s not like she doesn’t know it’s not her spot and it’s not like I haven’t left notes warning her I was going to have her towed.

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we have both done everything we can to validate his feelings, repair with him, and empower him to voice his concerns

Mx. posted:

WIBTA if I have a mom’s wheelchair accessible van towed?

pentyne posted:

Finally found the loud sex havers

My Sex Life Is Keeping My Kids Up at Night
Our hearts broke when we heard that, and we have both done everything we can to validate his feelings, repair with him, and empower him to voice his concerns.

the holy poopacy posted:

What "values" could he have violated, though? He wasn't spending time alone with a member of the opposite sex and he wasn't spending any time with his friend that he could have spent with her. Her accusations of him being "controlling" are just outright bizarre, too. It's entirely possible he's omitting something big but otherwise my money is on her being guilty about something.

wizardofloneliness posted:

This guy is such a piece of poo poo. What a worthless sentence. You don't even need the context to know this guy just does not give a poo poo.

Hughlander posted:

wizardofloneliness posted:

This guy is such a piece of poo poo. What a worthless sentence. You don't even need the context to know this guy just does not give a poo poo.

StormDrain posted:

He's weaponized the language of therapy to use it for emotional abuse. It's not his problem anymore, the kid refuses to play ball.

OhAreThey posted:

I'm in an open relationship (2 years, going strong) and it's kind of embarrassing to tell people about it because of all the poly-gone-wrong stories out there. Of course, you never read poly-that-works stories because no one posts stuff when poo poo is going well!