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A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

The child is 17, and at this point likely to keep doing so well into his forties

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Neito
Feb 18, 2009

😌Finally, an avatar the describes my love of tech❤️‍💻, my love of anime💖🎎, and why I'll never see a real girl 🙆‍♀️naked😭.

ghost emoji posted:

Why is this point of view so common! There is more to life than working and parenting!
A lot of people really buy in to the capitalism brainworms of "You exist to produce labor, and produce the next generation of labor"; also, dude's only 17, so it's possible that the only thing that's been modeled for him are people who believe that and act on it. I genuinely hope he's able to work his way out of that situation and into a better relationship with sis.


Bruceski posted:

A brain in a jar cannot sneeze, but still feels like it needs to.

This is almost as bad as telling me I'm aware of my tongue in my mouth.

Hughlander
May 11, 2005

AITA for ruining someone's morning coffee?

quote:

Ok a little back story, I get Starbucks every day for breakfast. I drive a older Audi S4, its my dream car and I take very good care of it. I never set any cups or food on the car. Now on to rear end in a top hat possible moment.

So I get my usual breakfast (coffee and sandwich) and I walk outside. The Guy that was in front of me in Starbucks is parked next to my car and his door is open and he's changing his shirt/sweatshirt between our cars, I wasn't really paying attention to that what caught my eye was his 9 dollar cold brew coffee sitting on the roof of my car. I politely asked him to remove so I could leave and go to work. His response was " he didn't want a coffee ring on his car, he'll get to it when he's done" with a lovely attitude, mind you he is driving a mid size Nissan SUV that has at least 4 cup holders. So reacting to his attitude and being lovely placing things on my car I jumped in started my car and pulled out quickly (area was safe parking lot was nearly empty and no incoming cars) that his coffee flew off my car landed on the ground hitting him (remember its cold coffee) and his car. and I head to work. Now as I drive to work I wonder was I the rear end in a top hat or was i just reacting to one?????
Don't care it's fake, I want to see a video of it.

Cobalt-60
Oct 11, 2016

by Azathoth
Virginity is a social construct. Ascribing virtue or vice to whether or not one has bumped genitals is one of the dumber things humanity has done.

empty whippet box
Jun 9, 2004

by Fluffdaddy

quantumwell posted:



Tell me you'll never retire without saying it

I am american

Anticheese
Feb 13, 2008

$60,000,000 sexbot
:rodimus:

quantumwell posted:

"money is made to be spent"

Tell me you'll never retire without saying it

I'm a millennial

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


wizardofloneliness posted:

AITA for cancelling someone's Airbnb reservation because they used to bully my sister?

tell her it was a mistake and she can rebook it, then cancel it again

Antivehicular
Dec 30, 2011


I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for using my ex wife’s maiden name?

She kept my last name because we have kids or something like that

I originally read this as the OP not being sure if he had kids with his ex or not, and having read the whole story, dude is dumb enough that I'd believe it

sullat
Jan 9, 2012

Mx. posted:

tell her it was a mistake and she can rebook it, then cancel it again

Seems like the pro move would be to wait until she's landed and at the airport and then cancel it? IDK if that's possible with AirBNB or not, but that's what the scammers used to do.

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


Employee refuses to save her work and threatens to sue us when we tell her to

quote:

We’re a mid-sized architectural firm that relies heavily on technology to complete our work. We have one employee who is extremely secretive and outright refuses to save her files to company servers. When confronted, she refuses, says the employee handbook doesn’t say she has to do this, and mentions that she will have her attorney husband look at suing us for harassment and invasion of privacy if she is compelled to share her work. It has gone as far as her taking her laptop to the bathroom so nobody can see what she is working on.

Our policies are clear on no expectation of privacy and work product being property of the company, and she consistently cites what she sees as “loopholes” to justify her behavior, along with the “I’m married to an attorney” reminder. Files have been lost as a result of her behavior which has led to cost and expense of re-doing work. She is threatening to sue for hostile work environment if we discipline or terminate her for these refusals. We have consistently documented these circumstances and have no reason to believe we are exposed to any risk or have engaged in any discriminatory or hostile conduct. However, our ownership does not want to spend money on legal advice to address the concern. What advice do you have for us?

lol

darkwasthenight
Jan 7, 2011

GENE TRAITOR

Mx. posted:

Employee refuses to save her work and threatens to sue us when we tell her to

lol

The virgin Boss versus the Chad no-saver

:goonsay: "Show me your screen now! You can't work in secret forever!! You're an employee and I own that work."
:c00lbert: "No"

Neito
Feb 18, 2009

😌Finally, an avatar the describes my love of tech❤️‍💻, my love of anime💖🎎, and why I'll never see a real girl 🙆‍♀️naked😭.

Mx. posted:

Employee refuses to save her work and threatens to sue us when we tell her to

lol

She's absolutely planning on taking something and running, or she's committing some sort of fraud.

Bruceski
Aug 21, 2007

The tools of a hero mean nothing without a solid core.

Neito posted:

She's absolutely planning on taking something and running, or she's committing some sort of fraud.

Doesn't rule that out, but it came out in the comments that she has a lot of hangups about people seeing her work while it's in-progress. I can certainly sympathize with that, but if that's the only thing going on this is an extreme reaction to it.

BIG FLUFFY DOG
Feb 16, 2011

On the internet, nobody knows you're a dog.


if you have a boss who's scared of lawyers you can do basically anything you want if you're willing to play chicken.

the holy poopacy
May 16, 2009

hey! check this out
Fun Shoe

Neito posted:

She's absolutely planning on taking something and running, or she's committing some sort of fraud.

she's probably just shitposting and watching Netflix all day :shrug: those files weren't "lost", she just didn't do them

haveblue
Aug 15, 2005



Toilet Rascal
Give her the most lucrative assignments and let her gently caress them up until ownership agrees the projected cost of keeping her exceeds fighting the termination lawsuit

Azuth0667
Sep 20, 2011

By the word of Zoroaster, no business decision is poor when it involves Ahura Mazda.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

If I believe hard enough this one will have actually happened, for it is righteous.

AITA for barking at my ex?

I hope this ezra is that lovely person from NPR.

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

ponzicar posted:

I am not saying that. I am saying that virgin stigmatizing is the same sort of toxic masculinity that incels wrap themselves in. And I agree with you on the response.

Complete with the whole idea that 'if you don't have sex before 20, you are irreversibly broken' is literally standard incel line, leading straight into 'And it's the fault of those teenage girls for having sex with everyone but you'.

Especially since I'm pretty the average age of losing your virginity is already in the twenties and has been steadily trending higher over the decades.

Is it better to lose your virginity in your teens- or earlier- to a sexual predator?

Barudak
May 7, 2007

The right time to lose your virginity is after the slasher who has been murdering your friends has been killed and right before the series gets rebooted with an all new cast so you don't die in a sequel

BigHead
Jul 25, 2003
Huh?


Nap Ghost
She's subcontracting her job to China or India is my guess. Which, hell, that's just capitalism.

AngryRobotsInc
Aug 2, 2011

Ghost Leviathan posted:

Complete with the whole idea that 'if you don't have sex before 20, you are irreversibly broken' is literally standard incel line, leading straight into 'And it's the fault of those teenage girls for having sex with everyone but you'.

Especially since I'm pretty the average age of losing your virginity is already in the twenties and has been steadily trending higher over the decades.

Is it better to lose your virginity in your teens- or earlier- to a sexual predator?

I haven't found any recent studies, but last I saw (a few years ago) average age is about 17, in the US.

Invisible Clergy
Sep 25, 2015

"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

Mx. posted:

Employee refuses to save her work and threatens to sue us when we tell her to

lol

loving fire her, what the hell?

AITA for refusing to get my father his beer?

quote:

A little contex: I (22F) despise drugs, including cigarettes and alcohol. I feel really strongly about this and while i don't intervene in anyone's drug consumption, i refuse to support it.

Now, the majority of my family smokes, so i'm used to getting ask to pass the cigarettes, the lighter or the tray... And for years now i refused. At first my family was pretty pissed about that, but they've learned to accept it (though they sometimes still get annoyed), except for my father.

This type of situation happens alot, but here's promoted me to write this post: My father came home today and started making food for the both of us. And he ask me to get his beer, because the forgot it in the car and he is busy with making something to eat. And i naturally did not (since i don't want to support him drinking alcohol).

Now my father is upset. He feels like i'm an ungrateful brat, like i don't appreciate what he does for me on the regular and am unwilling to anything in return for him.

And i am very conflict about this. I know that for him getting him a beer is not a big deal and i don't want to make him sad and feel not appreciated because of such a "small thing".

But i'm also pretty mad that after years he still does not get that this is a big deal to me and keeps asking me for that kind of thing. And i refuse to abandon my principals because it upsets my father.

Am i an a**hole for making a big deal out of this?
How has the dad not fired this turd into the sun?

Gnossiennes
Jan 7, 2013


Loving chairs more every day!

Mx. posted:

Employee refuses to save her work and threatens to sue us when we tell her to

lol

i can definitely see this happening, just because architecture and design schooling can be weirdly competitive/secretive, to the point of hiding work from classmates (and later colleagues!) so that they don't steal your poo poo and/or poo poo on it as a bullshit psychology power play. at the same time, anyone who's been thru architecture or design school should be used to critiques, including of in-process work.

my own schooling dodged the worst of that poo poo, but there were a couple people i avoided sharing work with because they would steal it and/or use it to dump on other people's work (eg, pre-emptively refuting other people's work during critique or presentations with like, "well, some people might have taken the design in this direction but as you can see it's bad for these 3 cherrypicked reasons").

it's still a poo poo reason to not save your fuckin work to the server tho

AngryRobotsInc
Aug 2, 2011

Invisible Clergy posted:

loving fire her, what the hell?

AITA for refusing to get my father his beer?


How has the dad not fired this turd into the sun?

She sounds incredibly annoying, and that's in her own telling.

Cowslips Warren
Oct 29, 2005

What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?

Grimey Drawer

limp_cheese posted:

Sounds like my ex. Before I was with her I had only had sex twice and it was many years ago. I was for all intents and purposes a virgin. I was understandably nervous and would ask her for advice or guidance but she refused to give it. Usually with an excuse "Having sex is primal knowledge everyone just knows. You think lions need to be told how to have sex?" She would then get frustrated when I didn't know what I was doing. The worst was shen she wanted me to go down on her, which I was absolutely all for, but I couldn't see what I was doing because it was dark and I was trying to apply what I've seen in porn since she refused to give me advice or guide me. It didn't go well and she stopped me after a minute or two.

Its been long enough since I've had sex I've lost what little knowledge I had and am essentially a virgin at 35. Good to know that means I've lost my chance at sex and am an unfuckable loser.

Fun fact: animals DO need to learn how to have sex. Ever seen a virgin hamster go after a female hamster? Working a pet store, I saw males try to stick their dick in the female's ears, along the sides, on top of the tail, even when the female was still and ready.

Elephant sex is something that can be fatal for the ones involved. Studies came out recently from wildlife parks in Africa that lots of rescue vehicles were found hosed up, misc dead animals found trampled, and the reason finally found was that poachers had killed the older male elephants, so the ones just ousted from their family groups were wandering around without a teacher. So they acted like juvie fuckups because there were no older male elephants to teach them how to behave. The researchers were rightly worried what will/has happened since those juvies are now adults going into musk, and haven't been essentially given The Talk.

So yeah, lions DO learn how to have sex from watching the older ones. People who think animals "just know" ain't never seen the bloopers of animal porn.

edit: I mean just think of the poo poo we are not told in sex ed. Not just consent/coercive behavior, but what kinds of lube to use, and why. Foreplay and why it's important. Why spit and water make bad lubes. How to use toys. gently caress, there really needs to be beginner porn for sex ed, so kids can see safe poo poo instead of "whore gets railed by four dudes."

Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 03:51 on Nov 20, 2021

Nancy
Nov 23, 2005



Young Orc

Invisible Clergy posted:

loving fire her, what the hell?

AITA for refusing to get my father his beer?


How has the dad not fired this turd into the sun?

I think this post hinges on whether the beer he forgot in the car is a six pack/similar or just a beer he was slurpin' while driving home, frankly.

If it's the latter and he can't cool it even when driving I wouldn't pass him poo poo.

OhAreThey
Oct 12, 2012

I like your nurse's uniform, guy.

Dik Hz posted:

You literally just did that.

Lol, fair point.

Johnny Truant
Jul 22, 2008




Cowslips Warren posted:

Ever seen a virgin hamster go after a female hamster?

that'd be a great thread title

The Maroon Hawk
May 10, 2008


Not to mention that yeah, sure, the basic mechanics of just having sex might be something that comes fairly quickly and easily, but having good, satisfying sex absolutely is not. Last I checked, lions don’t give a poo poo if the sex is good.

Silly Newbie
Jul 25, 2007
How do I?

Charles Get-Out posted:

I think this post hinges on whether the beer he forgot in the car is a six pack/similar or just a beer he was slurpin' while driving home, frankly.

If it's the latter and he can't cool it even when driving I wouldn't pass him poo poo.

Look into your heart. You know the answer.

The Bandit
Aug 18, 2006

Westbound And Down

Silly Newbie posted:

Look into your heart. You know the answer.

Six pack, still in the rings, one open for the ride home?

OhAreThey
Oct 12, 2012

I like your nurse's uniform, guy.

Ghost Leviathan posted:

Complete with the whole idea that 'if you don't have sex before 20, you are irreversibly broken' is literally standard incel line, leading straight into 'And it's the fault of those teenage girls for having sex with everyone but you'.

Especially since I'm pretty the average age of losing your virginity is already in the twenties and has been steadily trending higher over the decades.

Is it better to lose your virginity in your teens- or earlier- to a sexual predator?

I think it's weird that some people are like "a 21 year old virgin?? What a creep!" but think a 14 year old having sex is A-OK!

(to be clear, I'm not saying that you're going to be hosed up if you become sexually active at a young age, especially if it's consensual...just that people seem more comfortable with literal children loving than a virgin in their 20s))

blight rhino
Feb 11, 2014

EXQUISITE LURKER RHINO


Nap Ghost

Hughlander posted:

AITA For not letting my boyfriend use my dishes?


AITA For not letting my boyfriend use my dishes?
quote:
So a little back story. My boyfriend (20M) and I (20F) usually have dinners every weeknight together. I struggle with making food for myself but when it’s with him it’s easier and slightly fun. Lately I’ve been struggling to keep up with my dishes and they would sit in the sink ranging from days to weeks on end because I just can’t get the mental energy to deal with them. I’m in college and graduating this year and my classes are beating my rear end and so is my depression, so I came up with a solution to not have as many dishes in the sink. I only kept out 2 of everything like 2 plates, forks, spoons, bowls, and then only a few kitchen utensils like a spatula and a big spoon. I even bought styrofoam plates and plastic forks so if I’m not feeling like doing the dishes, I can use those.

So far it’s been working pretty well but since I cook with my boyfriend a lot I always have all of those dishes in the sink. He seemed to think that my strategy was pointless bc I’d just “end up letting it get disgusting again” because “that’s just how I am”. Anyways, one night he comes over for dinner but my two plates were already in the sink because I used them earlier. We make dinner with no problems and I pay the dishes no mind but when I asked him to serve the food on the styrofoam plates I bought he got really upset. He didn’t say a word after I asked him and went reaching for where I stored the other dishes that I wasn’t using, I asked him what he was doing and he said that he was getting us real plates for dinner.

I didn’t get why he was going for the ones I specifically put away and I said if you want real plate I can just wash one from the sink really quick. He denied letting me do that and insisted we use the plates from the ones I put away because in order for me to “get better” I had to use all of my dishes and then wash them. I told him no, That I had perfectly good plates we could use already out or we could use the styrofoam ones and that it wasn’t a huge deal. He told me I was being ridiculous and then started grabbing the other plates out of the cabinet. I tried to grab the stack of plates with bowls on top trying to get them back and he ended up letting go of the bottom and letting them drop to the ground. They shattered all around my feet and he just said “if you won’t use them then you don’t need them anyways” and he let himself out of my apartment. Luckily I was wearing shoes but my leg got a few cuts.

He proceeded to not talk to me for a few days and when he did he asked me if I was done being dramatic and blowing the situation out of proportion. I had texted him explaining I was super upset that he did that and that it was borderline crazy that he dropped them because he didn’t get the outcome he wanted. He told me I was the crazy one and that the plates just slipped and he didn’t even mean for them to cut me or fall, he was just trying to help me combat my depression and come out of it stronger.

UPDATE: I went and talked with him tonight at a restaurant to figure out if this was a one time thing or an indication to worse behavior in the future. I’ve decided that even if it was a one time thing I don’t really feel safe/I can trust him anymore. So at dinner I told him I’m gonna think about it but honestly I’m just going to text him and break up so I don’t have to deal with it In person. I still feel kind of bad breaking up a with him over dishes, but as many of you pointed out it’s much more serious than that.

Thank you to those who are PMing me, there’s quite a few but don’t worry I do plan on breaking things off with him. Any suggestions on how to do that safely?

UPDATE 2: I’ve decided to break up with him at some coffee shop tomorrow and I’m having my sister come and sit outside in case anything goes wrong.

As a single dude that was gifted an 8 plate/bowl/glass etc set. I've literally packed away 6 of everything. I have very little company, so I would have dishes for an individual. But, if they're in the sink, then you're getting disposable. Judge me from here to Wednesday, and you decide to dip out yourself, if that's an issue.

Invisible Clergy
Sep 25, 2015

"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

Charles Get-Out posted:

I think this post hinges on whether the beer he forgot in the car is a six pack/similar or just a beer he was slurpin' while driving home, frankly.

If it's the latter and he can't cool it even when driving I wouldn't pass him poo poo.

I sincerely doubt he was drinking beer in the car or does so habitually. Not because I don't believe this type of character would act that way, but because if it were at play, OP would've mentioned it to make him look worse.

I checked the thread's comments to see if she clarifies to no avail but found she chose not to use a burner and also posted this.

Am i the only one who thinks this?

quote:

I don't really know how to put this into words, so people get what i mean and i don't offend anyone, but i'll try my best.

I kind of think being asexual is "superior" (for lack of a better word).

Like if you could choose not having to eat, wether that meant you still could eat, but just don't have to or you don't like it (and miss out on the joy of eating), i think the majority of people would choose not having to eat.

So if i could choose not "needing" sex over needing sex, i would.

(Also if everyone on the planet had one sexuality, asexuality would probably be the most chill option.)

Every problem that comes with being asexual is only caused by how other people perceive and deal with it and have nothing to do with asexuality itself.

I know you can't choose your sexuality, that's why every sexuality is valid and i'm not trying to invalidate anyone. I just don't get why people pity me for being asexual, when i feel like i've been delt the better cards.

Am i the only one who thinks like this?

The Maroon Hawk
May 10, 2008

Tbh it would be pretty rad to not need to eat, while still being able to when the food’s good

blight rhino
Feb 11, 2014

EXQUISITE LURKER RHINO


Nap Ghost
I don't know if i'd call myself asexual. I'm heavily medicated on happy pills, so that doesn't really help.

But I just got so sick of the drama that always comes with relationships. Like I know there are relationships out there that have little, to no (hah no), no drama.

But it just isn't anything I want to deal with at this time. I was married, and i've had multiple 2+ year relationships. So, I'm not someone that never experienced it.



It just seems like so much work, now a days, and having a poor self image of myself doesn't help. It's kind of easier to just cruise through flying solo. But, I still kind of feel separate from the Reddit's asexuals. Just because..
well, because they seem to have different reasons, than me.

who knows.

EIDE Van Hagar
Dec 8, 2000

Beep Boop

blight rhino posted:

I don't know if i'd call myself asexual. I'm heavily medicated on happy pills, so that doesn't really help.

But I just got so sick of the drama that always comes with relationships. Like I know there are relationships out there that have little, to no (hah no), no drama.

But it just isn't anything I want to deal with at this time. I was married, and i've had multiple 2+ year relationships. So, I'm not someone that never experienced it.



It just seems like so much work, now a days, and having a poor self image of myself doesn't help. It's kind of easier to just cruise through flying solo. But, I still kind of feel separate from the Reddit's asexuals. Just because..
well, because they seem to have different reasons, than me.

who knows.

This is like when they found fish populations dying off because the fish were getting antidepressants from sewage runoff and were just happy swimming around and not loving.

Which is to say, really sad.

Slowpoke Rodriguez
Jun 20, 2009

Arsenic Lupin posted:

If I believe hard enough this one will have actually happened, for it is righteous.

AITA for barking at my ex?

She should time travel to the 90s so she can date Better than Ezra.

Motronic
Nov 6, 2009

Invisible Clergy posted:

I sincerely doubt he was drinking beer in the car or does so habitually. Not because I don't believe this type of character would act that way, but because if it were at play, OP would've mentioned it to make him look worse.

I checked the thread's comments to see if she clarifies to no avail but found she chose not to use a burner and also posted this.

Am i the only one who thinks this?


Let's go with your take, which is maybe even 50/50 to be correct: That just sounds like a really sad kid who has a bad parent(s) and that's really awful. This isn't the kind of idiot reddit content I come here to find.

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Jun 22, 2005

Dogs reading from an artifact buried in the ruins of our civilization, "We were assholes- " and writing solemnly, "They were assholes."
Soiled Meat

Runcible Cat posted:

r/relationships: she was convicted of assaulting her brother with three sticks of rhubarb in an unrelated family spat is probably too long...

There's an influential right wing politician from the biggest nationalist/family values party in the country I'm originally from who is notorious for having been beaten up with a bunch of rhubarbs by his then wife to the point where he filed a police report. So, whenever his name comes up, Twitter etc blow up with rhubarb jokes.

I'm never sure how to feel about that. On one hand, gently caress that guy and his party is directly responsible for blocking legislation that would help DV victims. On the other, making fun of a domestic violence victim just for that is lovely in itself.

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