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Credulous Skeptic posted:So you're "something wrong" is her being overweight? In the post, she seemed to be saying she was personally uncomfortable with her body. So while being overweight is not an inherent barrier, to her it was, and therefore was something wrong in her personal case.
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Blastedhellscape posted:He really goes out of his way to avoid explaining *why* his daughter doesn't want to eat her step-mother's cooking. Which...seems like the most crucial piece of information needed to figure out what's going on with this hosed up family. This is what's called a "missing missing reason" and is the number one identifying mark of an absolute garbage parent.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 17:12 |
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Mormon Nailer posted:Obviously he's just going to have to stand to poop. Real men etc. so on and so forth it just sounds different etc. lolling imagining her with ear glued to bathroom door, notebook in other hand feverishly taking down qualitative data about splash and trickle.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 17:15 |
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AITA for being angry that my Coffee was swapped with Decaf?quote:So my boyfriend (28 M) and I (26 F) have recently moved in together, due to some health issues I am always tired and struggle to have energy (Editing as some people have expressed concern, I know what my health conditions are and am currently on medication from my Doctor for it, the coffee simply helps bring me up to a semi-normal level of energy when taken in addition to my medication) this has meant I end up drinking a few cups of coffee a day to keep myself up and going.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 17:15 |
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Tampering with coffee is absolutely a breakup worthy crime.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 17:17 |
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you do not gently caress with someone's 1.) automobile 2.) coffee
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 17:19 |
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Yeah I was prepared to be about "just coffee" but honestly the bf is showing serious arrogance. Tampering with food is a half-step away from tampering with medication or other social engineering and indicates a really untrustworthy partner. "Oh but her Doctor couldn't possibly tell her to..." shut the gently caress up. It's not about authority. They've chosen to live their life this way and you don't need to understand it in order to respect it. If you really think you know better then fine, go gently caress with their poo poo, but that's called "high risk, low reward." loving dumbass. Hope she breaks up with him.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 17:22 |
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Piell posted:AITA for being angry that my Coffee was swapped with Decaf? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VdQKVDUBu2g
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 17:22 |
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Piell posted:AITA for being angry that my Coffee was swapped with Decaf? That would be the end of the relationship.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 17:44 |
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Piell posted:AITA for being angry that my Coffee was swapped with Decaf? I wouldn't normally advocate violence but this is a special case. Call his mother. Go nuclear. Do not gently caress with coffee.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 17:53 |
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Like, genuinely though, what kind of bullshit is "oh haha I switched your coffee to decaf because I'm worried about you" and then not bothering to even have a conversation about why the person is worried? That's asinine as gently caress. If you're actually worried, try talking to the person, rear end in a top hat.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 17:55 |
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Coffee can be dangerous if you are having 7-10 cups a day or something insane. Caffeine can cause high blood pressure and heart problems but you need to have like 600mg+ of caffeine per day for real adverse affects to show up, 2 or 3 cups is pretty much harmless. But you should definitely talk about it if you are concerned and not just secretly throw a wrench into your partner’s work schedule for a whole week. That’s definitely a crazy move without asking someone about it. Hope she keeps her birth control pills and other stuff out of reach!
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 18:07 |
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Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:My grandma had a WWII story where they were potentially dealing with German spies while all the men were off at War where she and any of the other kids over nine spent a night locked, loaded and ready to light up anything that might try to come through a window or door. My grandmas ww2 stories involved fleecing the young, handsome german soldiers out of their petty cash, cigarettes and stockings
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 18:10 |
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The real worry is that if he's ok with secretly switching foods to something more "healthy" instead of communicating, there's a risk he might pull the same trick with something more important like medication.
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Fruits of the sea posted:The real worry is that if he's ok with secretly switching foods to something more "healthy" instead of communicating, there's a risk he might pull the same trick with something more important like medication. Plus it’s loving with someone’s bodily autonomy. It’s a huge red flag.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 18:25 |
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It also doesn't help that after he was called out on it instead of apologizing he doubled down and made HER out to be the bad guy. I would say that's the more worrying behaviour. Either way she needs to leave because this is only the tip of the hosed up iceberg.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 18:36 |
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Yeah, like, there are legit health reasons to go off caffeine. I'm a decaf-only person for years now because I have terrible anxiety which caffeine makes worse, and now it fucks me up a bit if I go out for coffee and they give me regular. I do think caffeine is a more potent drug than we give it credit for, just because it's so culturally acceptable and most people have a certain amount of tolerance to it. Cutting out real coffee should be a conversation between her and her doctor, though, not a decision unilaterally made by her partner without her consent.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 18:38 |
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AITA for calling my twin stepsons codependent?quote:Throwaway. This is turning into a real issue between me (35f) and my fiance (40m), and I could use perspective on if I did something wrong. In comments: quote:Thank you! Their mother died when they were babies, and all they know of her is from the notebooks and things she wrote before she died. Jack does see a therapist but he's not serious about it.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 18:47 |
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AITA For Walking Out of a Restaurant Twice after My wife made me the 3rd wheel again?quote:I (30m) my wife (29F) planned a date night tonight as our kids were at my IL's
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 18:54 |
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Piell posted:AITA For Walking Out of a Restaurant Twice after My wife made me the 3rd wheel again? Maybe I'm broken, but I don't blame this guy at all.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 19:28 |
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it's not okay to be rude to strangers but all bets are off with hubby
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 19:41 |
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How do I tell my boyfriend his hygiene choices are a deal breaker So for context I 21 female am dating a 21 male and we have been together for five years so when we moved in together I started to notice more about how he doesn’t brush his teeth very often and after a year of living together I would notice that he wouldn’t wash his hands and a little after that I noticed that he doesn’t wash his butt in the shower because I would find streak marks on his underwear or I would be rubbing his back and I could smell his rear end through his jeans so I would start telling him I would join him in the shower or if he would like to brush his teeth with me and it worked for a while until we started working different shifts now he doesn’t brush his teeth, wash his hands, or clean his rear end and today I asked him please wash your hands and he said why do I have to wash my hands every time and I explained to him that it’s gross and inconsiderate because he will leave pee particles everywhere and he continued to say he did not see an issue how do I tell him that him not brushing his teeth or washing his hands or cleaning his rear end is a problem I want to kiss him but his breath can be so bad and it grosses me out to be able to smell his rear end and just knowing he doesn’t think it’s necessary to wash his hands please help
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 19:43 |
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Beachcomber posted:Maybe I'm broken, but I don't blame this guy at all. Not broken at all, what in the gently caress. Husbands only mistake was going back in and not leaving.
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Piell posted:AITA for being angry that my Coffee was swapped with Decaf? I would lay money on coffee lady having some form of adhd given the mention of medications. Consuming prodigious amounts of caffeine to self medicate isn’t uncommon, gently caress her idiot bf.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 20:12 |
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Piell posted:AITA for being angry that my Coffee was swapped with Decaf? That's only slightly more : murder: than below... quote:AITA for telling my girlfriend she technically stole from me when she went grocery-shopping using my Credit-Card while I was asleep? Here's the situation; I m27 have been with my girlfriend f24 for 7 months. We don't live together and she has sleep-overs at my place regularly. 2 days-ago, She spent the night at my place and in the morning while I was sleeping in she got up, got dressed, took my credit-Card and went grocery shopping with it. I woke up to a massive breakfast made by her as a surprise and when I asked how she got money and time to prepare all that she told me she took my Credit-Card while I was sleep and headed to the super-market to get the stuff she needed to make me a suprise breakfast. I was stunned I asked why she didn't ask before taking my Credit-Card and she said I was sleeping and she didn't want to bother me besides that she wanted this to be a surprise. I just stared and said " I don't know, You do realize you technically stole from me when you took my Credit-Card and went shopping with it with-out my consent, right?". She looked at me in complete shock and confusion and said that she was just trying to do something nice for me and I just implied that she was a thief. I just shrugged and said it was technically true. She was so upset she got and stormed out the kitchen crying. She collected her stuff and left after she said she spent time and effort to prepare me break-fast and I was out of line to say she stole from me just because she forgot her wallet at home. She kept hanging up when I tried calling her and later sent me money for the stuff she bought although she didn't take anything with her. My sister came over and when I told her she called me an ungrateful jerk with no manners to react this way after this display of affection by my girlfriend. She suggested I get over myself and apologize as soo as possible but I decided to take my time. AITA?
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 21:01 |
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That is so loving funny to me. Yeah I got you a present but you persinally paid for it, and unwillingly too! ...wait why arent you happy about it?
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 21:22 |
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I think if she would have like Venmo’d the money back it wouldn’t be any issue. I wouldn’t ever think about taking someone else’s card without telling them. Not even my partners.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 21:24 |
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1900 pages too late, but rememberInvisible Clergy posted:AITA for listening to worm music? I found it, I found the worm music https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_kyM_MBjz4 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lb4jOCAr8ow
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codswallop posted:1900 pages too late, but remember THANK you
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 21:38 |
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blackmet posted:Credit-Card
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 21:40 |
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rear end-hole
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 21:41 |
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Breakfast thief gf is a much smaller scale version of the wife who surprised her husband with a 10k watch for his birthday using his own money from his bank account. She was similarly aghast that he didn’t appreciate it. Gifts truly are acts of aggression, I guess. Like, maybe this guy actually needed the money for bills and stuff and can’t afford to drop it all on a fancy breakfast. It sounds like the girlfriend wouldn’t have been able to afford it by herself, which makes it even worse.
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wizardofloneliness posted:Breakfast thief gf is a much smaller scale version of the wife who surprised her husband with a 10k watch for his birthday using his own money from his bank account. She was similarly aghast that he didn’t appreciate it. Gifts truly are acts of aggression, I guess. He doesn’t mention needing the money (which I imagine he would have if it was the case) and she left her wallet at home. She transgressed a boundary but with good intent. He acted like an rear end in a top hat.
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 22:05 |
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i do not own a gun because i get sad sometimes, but being a trans woman in America i won't pretend i haven't considered getting a Saturday night special or something to carry for defense... but even if i did, it would be my profound hope that i would never have to use it; if i did, that the sight of it would be enough to scare off the attacker so i didn't have to actually shoot them; and if, as an absolute last resort, i did have to shoot them, to aim for the leg, and call them an ambulance afterward. i do not want to take a life, not for their sake, but for my sake. i don't think i could cope with it. i hope i never have to find out. AITA for not changing the way I kiss my cat to accomodate for my housemate’s autism quote:I (20F) moved in with my best friend (21M) a few months ago. Around that time he also found out that he is most likely autistic (he is still searching for a cheap diagnosis option but is working through things with his therapist).
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 22:06 |
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Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:My grandma had a WWII story where they were potentially dealing with German spies while all the men were off at War where she and any of the other kids over nine spent a night locked, loaded and ready to light up anything that might try to come through a window or door. Are spies known for burgling random houses?
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 22:12 |
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Piell posted:AITA For Walking Out of a Restaurant Twice after My wife made me the 3rd wheel again? NTA, I have had to do this before. If the SO is that much more interested in their phone/other people then why did they agree to have date night?
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 22:16 |
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Chloe Jessica posted:AITA for not changing the way I kiss my cat to accomodate for my housemate’s autism Being uncomfortable about how someone else kisses their own cat (not your cat) is your own problem. Work on it in therapy, don't take it out on your housemate, who has bent over backwards to accommodate you, who is kissing their own cat. I say this as a person with strong sensitivities.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for calling my twin stepsons codependent? Piell posted:AITA For Walking Out of a Restaurant Twice after My wife made me the 3rd wheel again? Chloe Jessica posted:AITA for not changing the way I kiss my cat to accomodate for my housemate’s autism My last roommate would fry garlic directly below my bedroom at 2300 hours while I was sleeping and respond to my requests to not have my room smell like a Chinese restaurant overnight with "lol it's my house I'm going to do what I want." They turned the house into a literal workshop with drill presses and employees working around the clock for their online store. More than once I woke up to the kitchen covered in epoxy supplies airing out, blocking the stove and sink. This went on for months. When I'd batch cook once a week for eight full days for 3 hours on a Sunday, my roommate would literally get in my way and say "Oh but when you do this it's ok?" And I ate poo poo and picked my battles, keeping my dog and property safe, until I could move out at the first opportunity. Because even though I'm leftist as gently caress and have a sensory processing condition that actually does need accommodation, I also didn't grow up in a loving bubble and was taught at-length how little the world is obligated to give a gently caress. You don't have to tough out everything, but that dude still has a bad case of "protagonist syndrome."
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# ? Nov 21, 2021 22:33 |
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therattle posted:He doesn’t mention needing the money (which I imagine he would have if it was the case) and she left her wallet at home. She transgressed a boundary but with good intent. He acted like an rear end in a top hat. Using someone else's credit card without their permission is a pretty big boundary to cross imo. If they were married or in a long-term relationship with shared finances that would be one thing, but it sounds like they have not talked about it at all based on his reaction. Whether she forgot her wallet at home or she just didn't feel like waking him up or whatever, I think it shows pretty bad judgment to do that unless you've had previous conversations about it. I know I would be uncomfortable if a fairly new boyfriend thought it would be ok for him to take my card without my knowledge even if it was to buy something nice for me, just because it was more convenient for him. The guy should've just been direct with her about it instead of going "well, technically you're a thief", so I'd settle for an ESH.
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Batterypowered7 posted:Might as well just buy a prop gun and fire blanks if you're trying to scare 'em with a loud sound. Safer for everyone involved. Alec Baldwin would like a word
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