Megillah Gorilla posted:

the holy poopacy posted:

I (M33) went on a date with my gf (F31) to makeup for transgressions of the previous weekend. Things didn't go well and I'm not sure if it's appropriate for me to think she was being somewhat unreasonable.

welcome to hell posted:

so the plan was to split some nachos and have 3 shots of tequila and 2 margaritas each, then drive home?

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I (F 24) have a sister (F 32) who has a husband (M 38) who is the poster child of weaponized incompetence. They have 4 kids (F10, M8, M5, F3) and she’s pregnant. My sister works a full time job (40+ hours a week, cleans her entire house, cooks, takes care of all her children without him doing ANYTHING. It is seriously mind blowing that she wakes up at like 4 am, cooks breakfast, does chores, gets all of her kids ready for school, takes them all to school and daycare and all he does is stay home and work and when his kids get home (after my sister picks them up of course) he will play with them for a little and play video games until he falls asleep. she actually makes MORE than him! My fiancé (M 26) and i had to stay with them for 6 weeks while our home was being renovated and since we both wfh, we helped her and it is AMAZING how much happier she is when she has help. I helped with the kids and my fiancé even drove her to doctors appointments. Her husband literally only acknowledges he is a parent when his family is around, then he is a god fearing, hard working, father of 5. he is the one that wanted more kids, she wanted to stop after her last baby but he “needed more boys”. I am seriously concerned not only for her, but her kids as well because now her oldest is seeing what’s happening and trying to help but my sister is prideful and refuses to let her child do anything.

Me and this man have never gotten along. He’s been acting like this since their 8 year old was born. I’ve tried talking to her about leaving but she doesn’t want her kids to grow up in a broken home, and unfortunately her experience with our parents divorce was completely different than mine so she doesn’t understand that a divorce would benefit her kids here because she thinks they need their mom and dad together.

Cut to this past weekend, her and her husband threw a pre thanksgiving pot luck where our entire family + his was there. I stayed with my sister a few days before because i knew he wouldn’t help. So we’re at dinner all talking and i mention we are trying for a babyand my BIL makes an off handed comment to him about how hard fatherhood is, and i snapped and said “like you would know” he looked taken aback and asked me what i meant and i unloaded on him, calling him a pathetic excuse for a man who makes my 8 months pregnant sister do everything for their family. i went off for a solid 10 minutes and he sat there shrinking in his seat. i left.

Last night my sister called me and thanked me for standing up for her and told me she appreciated me. Although today i got a very nasty text from him telling me i’m a terrible person and because i “lied” in front of his family his mom is angry at him and is moving in with them to help her out and i’ve made him the laughing stalk of his family. He certainly thinks so, but AITA for doing this?

limp_cheese posted:

This post reminds me of another post that explains real love. Something about how the husband has had to replace the thermometer a few times a year for 30 years and she refuses to listen. I think the last line is something like "So I repair the thermostat again, knowing full well she will break it AGAIN, because I genuinely don't want her to be cold." Anyone have that handy?

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gently caress all the pop song puppy love bullshit. Your heart skipping a beat
isn't love, it's cardiac arrhythmia. It's not about shortness of breath,
either, or how turned on you get or whether you tell yourself you'd
throw yourself in front of a bus for her or whatever. You can convince
yourself of a lot about how you feel and what you would do in exchange
for regular oral sex.



Love is when she drives you insane sometimes. And I don't mean merely
"aggravating" or "annoying," I mean flat-out loving in. Sane. And in a
way nobody else can do it in a million years. She'll drive you to the
point where you'd gouge out your own eyeball with a melon baller or
smack your scrotum a half-dozen times with a ball peen hammer if it
means you can be done with this conversation. She'll make you want to
chew your own arm off to get out of talking about this. And I don't care
how many loving times you've had this conversation, each time, you
know you'll have it again:



Her: I thought you turned the heat on.

You: I did.

Her: Well, I'm still cold. Are you sure you did it right?

You: Yes, I'm pretty sure I know how to turn on a thermostat.

Her: 'Cause you know you have to flip the switch to "heat" and....

You: Honey! I know! How to turn on! A thermostat! I went to college for it and everything.

Her: Well, I don't feel any heat blowing in here.

You: I know. I think you broke the thermostat again.

Her: I didn't break it.

You: Yes, you did, you put that halogen lamp right next to it again.

Her: That doesn't do anything.

You: Yes, it does.

Her: I thought you fixed it?

You: I did fix it, and you broke it again.

Her: Are you sure you fixed it right?

You: Yes, goddammit, I fixed it right.

Her: How do you know you fixed it?

You: 'Cause it worked when I fixed it!

Her: Well, it's not working now.

You: 'Cause you broke it again!

Her: How'd I break it?

You: You put the goddamn, loving lamp next to it!

Her: I don't see why a lamp would break a thermostat.

You: OK. I'm going to explain this. One more time. Slowly. Thermostats
have a coil inside them that expands and contracts based on the
temperature. This is how they know when it is hotter than the setting of
the A/C, so it can cool the room off, or colder than the setting of the
heating, so it can heat the room up. Halogen lamps generate heat.
Halogen lamps generate a lot of heat. That's why you burn your fingers
when you touch the bulbs after they've been on for a while. So when you
put a halogen lamp next to a thermostat, it causes the coil to keep
expanding and expanding and expanding past the point it's intended to
expand. This makes the thermostat think it's really, really hot all the
time, and it makes the coil less sensitive in the future, and it'll
eventually break the coil so I'll have to replace the thermostat.

Her: That doesn't sound right.

You: Trust me. It's right.

Her: How do you know?

You: BECAUSE I TOOK SIXTH GRADE loving PHYSICS, OK?!

Her: Well, I don't think they should make thermostats that can be broken by something little like a lamp.

You: Fine. Don't think that. Write a letter to the manufacturers. Write a
letter to universities and tell them to build a better thermostat. I
don't loving care. But that's how they make them. That's why I keep
moving the lamp, that's why I keep telling you not to put it back to the
right of the bookcase, that's why I've had to fix the thermostat four
loving times now. Stop! Putting! The lamp! Right! Next! To the
thermostat!

Her: But on the other side of the bookcase, the front of the hallway is dark, and I can't see inside my gift closet.

You: Well, you can turn on the hall light to go through your gift closet, or you can sit here and be cold! Your choice, honey!

Her:

You:

Her:

You:

Her: I don't think you fixed the thermostat right.

You: GOD-MOTHERFUCKING-DAMMIT, I'M GOING TO FIX THAT MOTHERFUCKING
THERMOSTAT TOMORROW, AND I SWEAR TO MOTHERFUCKING CHRIST IF YOU PUT THE
LAMP NEAR THE THERMOSTAT AGAIN, I WILL SMASH IT TO A MILLION loving
PIECES AND SHOVE THEM DOWN YOUR GODDAMN THROAT!!! MOTHERFUCK ME,
JESUS!!!!!!



And if the seventh time you have that conversation, knowing full well
there will be an eighth time, you'd still rather have that conversation
again than imagine a world she's not in, you're in love.



Especially if you do fix that thermostat... again... the next day, and
not just so she'll shut up about it, but because you really don't want
her to be cold anymore.

Nooner posted:

This dude rules

"Sorry i got hammered and hosed up your parents driveway. Let me take you to a bar and drink until i cry to make up for it"

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I was staying with my best friend who lives in Washington state, she has a jet black cat, I am mobility-disabled enough that I walk with a cane (but can do so easily enough). One night, I got up during the night, walked down the hall to the stairs to get water from the kitchen (they live in a split level, bedrooms above kitchen/living room above basement), started downstairs, and about one step down, the cat was APPARENTLY lying across the stairs. I did not see it until after I landed, but the stairs were NOT clear and are not lit with any light, and later my boyfriend's husband mentioned that he's almost tripped over the cat elsewhere in the house. This was NOT MENTIONED to me beforehand. The railings on this section of the stairs DO NOT go all the way to the top of the stairs (bedroom hallway) so a person has to take a couple of stairs holding on to nothing but my cane. I don't know if I went airborne or just bounced down the stairs, I stopped when my head slammed into the side of the wooden entertainment center in the living room. Much hollering for help later, my best friend called 911, fire dept came, they brought an ambulance, who took me to the nearest hospital for my HMO, thankfully NOT FAR. At the hospital, they did CTs on my head and neck and released me without addressing my INCREDIBLY painful formerly-good-leg. I'm going through various xrays and Dr appts for that leg now that I'm home in CA.

So. Ambulance bill has arrived, my HMO is going to be sending me forms, her homeowners insurance (which I had to TELL HER to call, sigh) is calling me at a preset appt in a few days. Here's my question: whose legal fault is this? Who SHOULD pay if the insurance companies determine someone has to pay some copay? I DON'T want to sue my best friend, how do I make sure I'm NOT on the hook? I know from a friend's experience in WA state that if your dog bites a guest on your property, you have to pay for it; is it similar/same if a cat trips a guest on dark stairs? Thanks for your help!

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(thermostat.txt)

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Okay, okay. I know what you're thinking. "of course you are, op, that's disgusting!"

I know it is, but hear me out.

The water pressure in my house is abysmal. The shower drips down rather than actually spraying, it's cold even on a hot setting but if you wait long enough it turns scalding. The faucets a good few seconds to start after you turn it. Not to heat up, no to START.

But this particular problem is with the toilets. There's two in this house.

They are VERY temperamental.

Sometimes they will flush like a normal toilet. Other times it will fill up as if blocked and drain to sit where water normally sits without flushing the contents. Other times it will flush for minutes and the actual poo poo will NOT GO.

It once took 6 flushes for it to go.

So let's set the scene. I live with 3 other guys in this house and the one who called me TA is the longest living in the house, that being 2 years. Let's call him Michael.

Michael has had his girlfriend over multiple times. Nothing wrong, but he cooks full meals for them both. But Michael just leaves his dirty dishes. There is a pot crusted with whatever he used it for just left on the oven. There is a pan filled and crusted with grease and oil. Neither have been cleaned. I understand leaving them to cool and letting the dirt to soak in water but he didn't do that. It's been 3 days since he used them. He leaves his milk to curdle and mould in the fridge, he leaves raw chicken on the top shelf and leaves it to rot. He takes up 3 shelves in a fridge used by 4 people and still lets that food to rot! We had to get a second to stick in the main room!

When the toilet doesn't flush I make it a point to set toilet paper over it, leave it for half an hour or so and then flush it again. That USUALLY takes care of it.

Michael knocked on my door, irate. He started badgering me for it.

I told him how the toilets barely work, what I always do and I asked if he had never encountered this problem since it's been quite frequent since I've moved in and even seen someone else do this with the upstairs toilet and I flushed it for them before I used it.

He called me disgusting and said that I'm an inconsiderate nuisance to the others in the house and I'm a bad roommate.

This pissed me off and I went off about his food habits, calling him inconsiderate and disgusting. His dirty dishes, the communal pots and pans with food left to crust, the literal health hazards left in the fridge.

He got offended at that and said that I was deflecting from the conversation, again calling me a disgusting rear end in a top hat and saying that I'm not much better food wise because I once left a pot on the oven overnight. I had cooked instant pasta and I put hot water in it but I fell asleep so then did clean it when I got home from college that day.

I said that once he learns to clean up after himself I will too he stormed off.

So.. AITA for leaving the bathroom to wait to flush the toilet again?

Evil Willow posted:

My best friend's black cat tripped me on the stairs at night

Cowslips Warren posted:

My brother, when a toddler, used to freak the gently caress out at seeing crickets. My dad's idea was to show him how one stomps on a bug, screaming DEAD MEAT. This proved very effective, and many years of DEAD MEAT ensued. My dad and brother, of course, left the smashed bugs for others to clean up.

Now I do not think that would work with a stinkbug, but this level of phobia needs loving therapy.

olylifter posted:

he's loving 33 acting like this. Jesus had followers and poo poo by this point and you're still loving up a concrete pad ya drunken halfwit, get your poo poo together.

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

My sister is absolutely terrified of spiders, and also very devoted to avoid passing it on to her kids, asking her partner to escort the "little cutie" from the bathroom to outside, where it'll be happier. Once when we were visiting, my parents were watching the Hobbit, and my niece came over during the spider scene and giggled at the giant silly spiders.

She's a good parent.

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

My sister is absolutely terrified of spiders, and also very devoted to avoid passing it on to her kids, asking her partner to escort the "little cutie" from the bathroom to outside, where it'll be happier. Once when we were visiting, my parents were watching the Hobbit, and my niece came over during the spider scene and giggled at the giant silly spiders.

She's a good parent.

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

My sister is absolutely terrified of spiders, and also very devoted to avoid passing it on to her kids, asking her partner to escort the "little cutie" from the bathroom to outside, where it'll be happier. Once when we were visiting, my parents were watching the Hobbit, and my niece came over during the spider scene and giggled at the giant silly spiders.

She's a good parent.

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

Julius Caesar famously wept when he turned 33, because he had lived longer than Alexander the Great and not accomplished a fraction of what he did, and look at him now! He's got a salad and a pizza franchise named after him!

It's never too late to turn your life around.

empty sea posted:

AITA for reacting with disgust to my boyfriend sharing an experience he had as a paramedic?

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I'm a vet tech at an ER and I have to do paw prints and body care on a lot of animals each shift. At no time did I say, 'look at his cute cat/dog!" while displaying the body. Every dead pet is treated as respectfully as we can. I shave excess hair and trim nails for clay paw prints so they will look better, not for my own preferences. It the client wants hair, I brush it until it looks nice, then trim it off. I have clipped and bathed a dead pet's feet, then blow dried them just to get a decent print.

If your man has less respect for a human body than I have for an animal, he's hosed up.

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I'm a vet tech at an ER and I have to do paw prints and body care on a lot of animals each shift. At no time did I say, 'look at his cute cat/dog!" while displaying the body. Every dead pet is treated as respectfully as we can. I shave excess hair and trim nails for clay paw prints so they will look better, not for my own preferences. It the client wants hair, I brush it until it looks nice, then trim it off. I have clipped and bathed a dead pet's feet, then blow dried them just to get a decent print.

If your man has less respect for a human body than I have for an animal, he's hosed up.

Evil Willow posted:

AITA For Calling My BIL Out For His Weaponized Incompetence And Calling Him Pathetic At Dinner?

quote:

My (29f) brother (31m) and his wife (34f) got married two months ago, they had a destination wedding

Unfortunately none of our side expect a cousin could attend due to multiple valid reasons which I list a short few

grandparents (95f,98f,89m) = too old

our parents= mom has breast cancer and my dad takes full care of her

me and our youngest brothers gf = heavily pregnant/newborn

our older brother and aunt = busy doctors who have to be extra careful

Everyone else ether couldn’t afford it or couldn’t afford to take two weeks off.

We tried to explain to them the situation months before the wedding but where hit with “our wedding,our rules. Don’t like it don’t come”

We asked to be able to help in anyway we could but a few weeks before the wedding their attitudes changed we where told they’d prefer to go low contact because we weren’t coming to the wedding ,which meant we didn’t support their marriage. I even begged to pay for the bridesmaids dresses but my brother told me he didn’t want my money he wanted me at his day I tried to explain to him,his wedding was 4 days before my due date. He ended up screaming at me calling me a spoiled entitled brat than blocking me.

They did similar stuff with everyone else, they even went as far getting my extremely sick mother upset to the point my father stopped talking to my brother.

So onto the situation after months of passive aggressive posts on social media and bride/groomzila tantrums they wanted to make up with everyone due to my mother finding out extremely heartbreaking news (6 months left)

We all ended up having dinner at my family home tonight with everyone being extremely cold to my bother and his wife. No one really cared to listen to about their wedding nor looked at their photos

My brother ended up getting us(siblings) alone to ask us why we where being dicks. My youngest brother told him tonight wasn’t the time than walked out, oldest said when mom died he would never speak to him again but due to the fact I’m his only sister he seem more mad/upset at me I told them “you got your big day now you have to deal with the consequences”

My bother and sil got extremely upset than left. My mother asked what happened but we told her he had the runs (Diarrhoea) and needed to leave

My bother sent me a heartbreaking email afterwards on how he felt so rejected that we weren’t at his wedding nor apologised afterwards

Sorry for my bad grammar but with the news of my mom and having a newborn Plus the situation with my brother,my mind is like a noodle rn

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling my brother and SIL “you got your big day now you have deal with the consequences”

oooof

Alchenar posted:

gently caress anyone who plans a tropical destination wedding and isn't either a) rich and paying for everyone to fly out and stay, or b) willing to accept that a huge number of invitees are not going to come.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for not even eating a spoonful of this woman's cake?

mllaneza posted:

Thermostat

Gadzuko posted:

I found footage of this incident:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zP-uqXZogc

I like to imagine that these people are now living in domestic bliss after having replaced the halogen bulb with a LED

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling my brother and SIL “you got your big day now you have deal with the consequences”

oooof

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling my brother and SIL “you got your big day now you have deal with the consequences”

oooof

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling my brother and SIL “you got your big day now you have deal with the consequences”

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I even begged to pay for the bridesmaids dresses but my brother told me he didn’t want my money he wanted me at his day I tried to explain to him,his wedding was 4 days before my due date. He ended up screaming at me calling me a spoiled entitled brat than blocking me.

They did similar stuff with everyone else, they even went as far getting my extremely sick mother upset to the point my father stopped talking to my brother.

duck trucker posted:

I'm wedding planning and goddamn do I live for wedding stories right now.

haveblue posted:

What kind of wedding requires guests to commit to traveling for TWO WEEKS?

haveblue posted:

What kind of wedding requires guests to commit to traveling for TWO WEEKS?

haveblue posted:

What kind of wedding requires guests to commit to traveling for TWO WEEKS?