Evil Willow posted:

That "friend" sounds so bloody exhausting to be around, and it's about time someone called her out on it. There's a time and a place, yelling "poop" after being told your friend's dad is in hospital is neither the time nor the place. Plus, the friends telling OP to just say "yes, of course you're hilarious!" are just as bad as poop girl.

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Please hear me out.

I(29f) own a house with my boyfriend that me and a friend live in. My boyfriend is currently away for work. My friend moved in a few months ago with her dog, and does not help with the bills. She said she was planning on getting her own place in mid/late December.

I made Christmas plans. It was my turn to host Christmas and my sisters family, parents, and boyfriend were all going to come. It is a total of 5 visitors.

I told my friend in advance so that she could make plans. I said that she was welcome to stay at the house if she wanted to but let her know the plans that I had if she didn't want to be here, including dates everyone would be getting here and leaving.

She was very upset that I hadn't consulted her and had made the plans without asking. She said that I should know better to invite people, especially an older man, because her dog is nervous around other people and gets aggressive.

I said I was giving her plenty of time to prepare(about a month) and that if she needs to she can board her dog for a week or so. She said she shouldn't have to do that when she is living here.

I told her it was my house and I could invite who I wanted to and that I wasn't changing my plans for her dog.

She says I'm being an rear end in a top hat and should understand she has nowhere else to go.

AITA?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for telling my friend “you’re not loving funny” and making her cry?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for telling my friend “you’re not loving funny” and making her cry?

Trimson Grondag 3 posted:

The best thing about being 18-20 is that you are no longer obliged to put up with tedious people from high school. Just cut em out and move on.

Involuntary Sparkle posted:

how does their entire sex life revolve around this??

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for telling my friend “you’re not loving funny” and making her cry?

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Our daughter(18F) is in 12th grade, but has decided she doesn’t want to go to college and wants to obtain her real estate license instead, the way her uncle did. She turned 18 recently, and is now confused as to why we aren’t giving her the money that we’ve saved since she was little. We’ve put 1500$ towards her post HS education and/or adult life every month since she was born, to the month she turned 18. We did the same thing for her brother.

And even though it was called a college fund we simply gave it to our son who enlisted in the marines like his dad did, instead of going to college right away. She wants us to do the same. But we feel that was different, she’s now upset cause she feels it’s unfair that we gave the money to her brother even though he had no plans to go to college. But the way I see it, it is our money to do with what we want. Sure it was meant for her, but if she isn’t going to college then she doesn’t need a college fund. Our son intends on eventually going to college or so he says, our daughter has no plans to.

I’ll add that, “We”, is my husband and I. Before I get, ”sO mUcH mIsSiNg InFo, LiKe WhO’s “We”? “

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA: we had a college fund for our daughter, but since she’s not going to college we’re not giving her the money. Even though we did for our oldest son

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Growing up my dad had a small construction company flipping houses. My brother (20 M) and I (18 F) both worked for my dad on and off while we were growing up. One summer, upon speaking to my brother who had just quit construction and gotten a new job, I discovered my dad had been paying my brother $2 more an hour than me (I was making minimum wage). When I asked my dad about this, he admitted it, saying that he should get more because he is older, and “gives him less grief” (my dad and I are both outspoken personalities and don’t always get along), even though he has admitted on more than one occasion that my work is more skilled than my brothers. When he refused to match my pay to his, I quit on the spot. He approached me several times after to try to convince me to come back to work, as I was his only grunt man at the time and my quitting left him in somewhat of a bind to complete deadlines, but I refused. My mom said she agreed with me, but refused to pick sides and stayed out of it. It’s been 5 years since, and it was brought up today at a family event. It still hurts to think about it, but my dad still stands by his decision to pay me and my brother differently. Was I the rear end in a top hat?

Serephina posted:

Its poorly disguised bait.

Why yes, a woman who is around 40 years old totally writes like that, and is confused why a half million dollars being retracted on a whim is upsetting.

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for making Christmas plans my roommate is uncomfortable with?

Tobermory posted:

So wait....

Dude watched six hours of porn while talking to his wife about his fantasies of voring his coworkers, needed her to participate in picking which coworker to vore, threw a tanrum because he had to stop watching porn and/or fantasizing about random women that he knows, and then vanished for multiple days? And she feels guilty for not indulging his kink?

I mean, it's not like there's a kink that would make this okay. I'm sad that Reddit needs to know the kink before they can judge whether this is okay. But what the gently caress is wrong with people?

Runcible Cat posted:

I don't think anyone needed to know what it was to know he was an rear end in a top hat; we were all just desperate to know what this highly-Thanksgiving-specific kink actually was out of sheer nosiness.

Tobermory posted:

So wait....

Dude watched six hours of porn while talking to his wife about his fantasies of voring his coworkers, needed her to participate in picking which coworker to vore, threw a tanrum because he had to stop watching porn and/or fantasizing about random women that he knows, and then vanished for multiple days? And she feels guilty for not indulging his kink?

I mean, it's not like there's a kink that would make this okay. I'm sad that Reddit needs to know the kink before they can judge whether this is okay. But what the gently caress is wrong with people?

Serephina posted:

Its poorly disguised bait.

Why yes, a woman who is around 40 years old totally writes like that, and is confused why a half million dollars being retracted on a whim is upsetting.

Mx. posted:

AITA for quitting a family job without notice after I found out my dad was paying me less than my brother?

i think your dad shouldn't hire 13-year olds

DreamingofRoses posted:

Have you read some of these estranged parent posts?

Hellblazer187 posted:

It's so bizarre to me that people can be estranged parents at 40.

Hellblazer187 posted:

It's so bizarre to me that people can be estranged parents at 40.

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

Stealing six figure sums from your kids is an estrangement speedrunning strategy.

BIG FLUFFY DOG posted:

A person who has a kid at 20 is maybe prone to impulsive decisions that lead to estrangement

ChickenOfTomorrow posted:

have they considered incorporating ham into their sex life

mind the walrus posted:

This is why I always warn the subsection of my friends who still want to be tradwives/stahm/whatever and let their spouse be the breadwinner-- if you give a spouse financial control, they're going to assume they have total control. Goodwill between parties in a capitalist system does not exist when one party is financially subservient to the other. Hubby is a massive POS, but this is a very expected outcome from anyone who feels like they're "the boss."

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Also, the reason I said it's my house I meant that it's my house too and not as if it's mine alone or hers alone. My wife has huge part in it and she definitely gets a say in what goes on and what doesn't and we don't usually diasgree except for this issue.

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

Stealing six figure sums from your kids is an estrangement speedrunning strategy.

Mx. posted:

AITA for quitting a family job without notice after I found out my dad was paying me less than my brother?

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I don't know if this is the right subreddit for this but here we go.

I (m27) started living with my GF (f28) this year. We have been together for 8 years total out of which 7 years we were LDR. In the LDR portion of the relationship, we each used to visit each other twice a month. At the beginning of this year, she lost her job and was facing difficulty in finding a new one, so I asked her to move to my city and move in with me. Living together has been great. Other than one thing, she wastes so much food.

Her problem is that she is a very picky eater of homemade foods. I'm talking like if salt is a little extra, she won't eat it. If pasta isn't perfectly Al dente, she will literally leave food on the table and go order food. Ngl pisses me off sometimes and if I would have done the same as a child, my mum would have whooped my rear end. While ordering food, she always orders a little too much "in case she gets hungry later" but then doesn't eat leftovers. I have lived by myself and I get that we always can't finish the food we order but I always used to eat it in the next meal. At the beginning of November, I was away for 10 days because of my job and when I came back, all I saw was leftover food. 3 boxes of pizza, pasta, Indian food, all half-eaten. I asked her if she planned on finishing it all and she just told me to chuck it in the bin. I threw away $200-250 worth of food. For those 10 days, she obviously ordered all the food since she can't/don't like to cook.

Since we have been living together for a short while, I just found this about her. I asked her when she lived alone if she did the same thing and she said she did because she doesn't like stale food. For me, food at lunch isn't stale by dinner and I have eaten leftovers all my life.

I'm not saying that she has to eat anything I make, but at least she could tell me in advance so I don't make it for 2 people. Right now, both food and my money are being wasted.

While we were LDR and I used to visit her, she never had anything in the pantry. Maybe that should have been my sign. Thinking about it, there were many cues that showed her lifestyle, but I didn't notice any.

I sit her down and talked to her about this and how this is not okay and her response was it is who she is and I need to accept her flaws because she would've done the same for me.

How should I deal with this? Is there therapy for this kind of stuff because her actions don't seem normal?

Hellblazer187 posted:

Yeah, no doubt. It's just really weird to me at 39 years old. Of my friends who have kids, which is a minority, most waited until 35+. I think I know one person I graduated HS with who has a teenaged kid. You see tons of out of touch 45 year old parents in these reddit stories. I know I'm out of touch in the sense that I don't know what music or TV is cool but I hope I'm not boomer brained in the more disastrous ways displayed in this thread. I guess it won't matter since I'll never have kids, though.

Hellblazer187 posted:

Yeah, no doubt. It's just really weird to me at 39 years old. Of my friends who have kids, which is a minority, most waited until 35+. I think I know one person I graduated HS with who has a teenaged kid. You see tons of out of touch 45 year old parents in these reddit stories. I know I'm out of touch in the sense that I don't know what music or TV is cool but I hope I'm not boomer brained in the more disastrous ways displayed in this thread. I guess it won't matter since I'll never have kids, though.

The_Franz posted:

my mom's best friend spent her career teaching at an elementary school in the ghetto, and it was typical to have a couple of students every year whose "mom" who was actually their 38 year old grandmother

wheatpuppy posted:

how mad her mom was that my friend's older sister was pregnant. Not because of the pregnancy itself, but because it would make her a 29-year-old grandmother.

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My husband and I would be moh and best man in my brother's and his fiancée's wedding.

As we have these roles we're responsible for organising many stuff, including the bachelor parties of course.

While organising the bachelor/bachelorette parties I told the bride, aka my future SIL that I told my husband to take the groom to a strip club for his bachelor party. The bride said no, that's not gonna happen because both she and the groom don't want that tradition on their wedding celebrations. I called her silly but said I will see what I can do.

For the bachelorette I arranged to go to a live music restaurant with the bride and her friends. My husband and I agreed that the original plan of taking the groom to a strip club is still on. As a best man he arranged to go with the groom and his friends for some drinks first and then surprise him with either a stripper or get him to a strip club. We managed to hire two strippers and they'd have an "after party" to our own house.

The bachelor and bachelorette parties went on really well until my brother, the groom,called my SIL all pissed off about what my husband did with the strippers. He got in his car and drove home and he was extremely mad at my husband but I said I was also part of this. Both him and SIL started scolding me and my husband that we didn't respect their wishes.

I responded that I didn't want my husband to have strippers in his bachelor party in our wedding either but its a tradition and we should suck it up, if I sucked it up then they should do the same.

They announced to me right there that we are fired from the moh and best man roles just two weeks before the wedding.

I've received mixed messages, some say the bride is insecure and the groom is trying to cover for her, others say that they're both overreacting but some people claim my husband and I are TA in this situation.

Hellblazer187 posted:

I know I'm out of touch in the sense that I don't know what music or TV is cool but I hope I'm not boomer brained in the more disastrous ways displayed in this thread.

Grape posted:

Millennials are in many ways not as out of touch as we might normally be due to the connective tissue of internet culture, though of course we're still plenty out of touch.

There is this insane cultural chasm between like... any younger Gen X who hopped on the internet train early enough, and anyone older than that.
For now we are on the right side of that.
Though the old side of that lol.
Like we're the toothless coots of the same tribe that includes modern kids I guess (and older Gen X up are an entirely different species).

Piell posted:

AITA? I got fired from the MOH role and my husband got fired from the best man role

Grape posted:

Millennials are in many ways not as out of touch as we might normally be due to the connective tissue of internet culture, though of course we're still plenty out of touch.
Though the old side of that lol.

camoseven posted:

This is wildly incorrect unless you're some kind of creep that subscribes to a bunch of teenagers tiktok accounts

AnoHito posted:

In America, it’s Very Normal to have kids sometime in your 20s. A bunch of you are just weird olds.

Grape posted:

I work in education but do go on.

I don't think you're grasping that even having an idea about the concept of Tiktok as a thing, and a general idea of that kind of internet phenomena, is connective tissue missed by lots of boomers and the like.

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spacetoaster posted:

My thoughts exactly. I can't imagine being in my 30's/40's and going: "This is it, this is when I need babies." lol