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Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

the holy poopacy posted:

Ex's gf asks me why I broke up with her man

Just respond with an emoji of a marijuana leaf

# ? Dec 2, 2021 18:28

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Arsenic Lupin: Apr 12, 2012; This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.

A guest appearance from r/dementia.
Tests for dementia - what is the benefit in knowing?

quote:

My mother is 92. She has been showing signs of dementia for several years. At least two years ago, she became convinced that her housekeeper stole from her and told an elaborate story with details. We did not believe her.

She had a stroke and a heart attack earlier this year. She lives alone, but so far, family members have stepped up to be with her all the time. I have four sisters. One problem is the main caregiver, one of my sisters. She stays all day and all night, Mon morning until Fri evening. This sister denies that Mom has dementia. Says she only has a little memory problem and her evidence that the primary care doctor asked her to remember three words at he beginning of the appointment and she still remembered them at the end of the appointment. And so she is fine, according to that sister. Other sisters want her to have a full assessment.

I begrudgingly admit that my mother's situation has not brought out the best in the family members since none of us think alike. The sister who is the care provider does not have any POA but she now thinks she should have it. My mother, when she is agitated, threatens to take everyone out of her will. She is not wealthy. And except for the care provider sister, the rest of us have enough money. The care provider sister is getting paid a reasonable amount of money for her time, a flat rate, although she originally wanted to be paid by the hour and for 24 hours, which my mother cannot afford. This sister also does not have much money for her own retirement and has always struggled for money. But she and my mother are very tightly bonded.

Because of their tight bond and their time together, that sister has many opportunities to influence my mother's thoughts to bend to that sister's way of thinking, including changing the POA. I have examples that I am not going to list here.

The sisters with the POA consulted an attorney and discussed conservatorship. Before going that drastic route, I wanted us to slow down and decide what was the most important issues of disagreement and attempt negotiation about how to best care for Mom. One issue is an assessment.

I would like to have information about the types of testing that can be done AND what is the benefit of knowing what she has and where she is on the scale? I know that if she went into assisted living, they would want to have information about her to know the best placement, but so far, she can be taken care of in her own home. What will we gain from having a diagnosis? I need some ammo to convince my other sister.

And in comments:

quote:

She, the caregiver sister (#3) is being paid $900 a week which is $46,800 annually. At one point she was asking for $25 an hour for 24 hours a day, because that is what it would cost to have a service send a stranger to the house. I was never sure if she truly expected that amount or if it was just her own way of bargaining or because she felt unappreciated. And right now, the caregiver sister is writing her own check to herself for the caregiving. And she expects it to be paid as a gift to her so she doesn't have to pay payroll taxes.

And of course, there is a long backstory to the family relationship and squabbles and disagreements which is pertinent to how everyone feels now. I am trying to keep it concise, but the details matter. So this is long.

About twelve years ago, #4 sister (the bossy one) got mad at the whole family and cut everyone off, including our mother who had done nothing to deserve that treatment. Lots of mean things were said and done. My mother was very hurt by this behavior and finally, after several years of being shutout, decided to disinherit sister #4. Mom gave POA to #1 and #5. Maybe about 5 years ago, sister #4 approached the caregiver sister and through her, got back into Mom's life. She never attempted to make peace with the rest of us, and I am not sure it would have succeeded anyway. Mom was happy. Put sister #4 back in the will. All the rest of us said was please don't put her in charge of anything. She doesn't like us.

Sister #4, while coordinating with the caregiving sister and no one else, submitted an application to the Veteran's Administration for Aid and Attendance and included what I consider to be a fraudulent statement, although it could be argued that it maybe technically legal. My mother had about $180K (all her money) in a joint bank account and sister #4 claimed that half of the money belonged to the joint owner and that put her under the VA limit ($130,773) for A&A. And claimed that even though the VA considered 1/2 the money to belong to the joint owner, Mom could still spend it. The second questionable document submitted was a care contract between mom and caregiving sister. In that contract, caregiving sister agreed to monthly payment of $2500. But apparently, she never had any intention of following through with that agreement. She always wanted more. I thought for sure the VA would reject the claim, but I was wrong. They approved it. Sister #4 and caregiving sister kept this entire process secret from the others. I have spoken to various independent sources, and the advice I have gotten is to just to leave it alone and hope the VA doesn't audit the case.

Caregiving sister, using the advice of bossy sister #4, opened her own bank account and is now transferring money from mom's bank account and writing checks to pay mom's household bills. And no one gets to see any of that.

So, it is almost like a coup. Bossy sister #4 doesn't have any direct power over mom, but she has almost complete power over caregiving sister. If caregiving sister gets POA, then she has shown that she will most likely defer to bossy sister. The two of them have also said that when the cash runs out, Mom can get a reverse mortgage to keep paying caregiver sister. Doesn't want to listen to anything else. I have no problem with mom using all her money to pay for her care. The biggest issue is that she did not appoint bossy sister to be the POA, but bossy sister's wishes are being carried out by caregiving sister.

Sister #1 was sharing in the relief caregiving on weekends, but last month she had a big argument with caregiving sister. Mom kicked her out and told her to never come back. Over the past few years, I have heard words out of my mother's mouth that trace directly back to bossy sister #4 who has a history of using mom to nag other family members. Years ago, bossy sister complained that mom spend more time with sister #1 kids than bossy sister's kids and that her nanny was a better grandmother than our mom. Now my mom often talks about how much she did for sister #1. She didn't do that before sister #4 came back into her life. Smacks of undue influence to me. Can't prove it.

Sister #5 with POA did take some action to reduce mom's bank account to under the VA limit by prepaying for some of mom's funeral, but she made the big mistake of not including mom in the decision. And that was wrong also.

All five of us had been helping with Mom's care, respite on the weekends, but only one is getting any money. And when she negotiated her pay, one of caregiver sister's arguments was that she needed to pay her mortgage and that she wasn't sure she could go back to her old job as a waitress any more. So she has two motivations; one is mom and the other is her own pocketbook.

I am hoping the five of us can meet somewhere and hash this all out and come to some agreements. The tension between us is high. It might not work. But I also think the conservatorship step is drastic and would lead to even more bad feelings. But it would keep bossy sister from taking over.

Like one poster said, we need to figure out what we want to accomplish and try to do that without going the next step. Hence the question about assessment. Caregiver sister doesn't think it is necessary, but I think it is to document whether or not mom has the testamentory capacity to make changes in her POA and/or her will, at this point. Right now, the inheritance is divided by five. All I am hoping for is mementos and photos. I don't want or need cash.

My family consists of my mother, me, and my four sisters. My mom sucks. Care provider sister sucks. Bossy sister sucks. Sister #5, for whom I cannot find a dismissive label, also sucks. How can we arrange my mother's care? Also, why is the sister who spends all her weekday time with my mother the one my mother is close to?

I suggested an elder-care mediator, because yowza is there a lot of baggage that is getting in the way of OP's ability to coordinate on decisions.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 18:40

haveblue: Aug 15, 2005; Toilet Rascal

I have only one question about patriarch dude- what kind of house did his father-in-law own that could host 26 people for 5 days? Did he let them all live in spare bedrooms in his hotel-sized megamansion, or did he just throw 5 big parties in a row, which is also kinda insane?

# ? Dec 2, 2021 18:44

Baronjutter: Dec 31, 2007; "Tiny Trains"

Is this a thing people actually do, host large numbers of people for multiple days?? I remember as a kid on Christmas there'd be maybe 15-20 people visiting throughout the day, or sometimes someone would host a christmas party or dinner or something that could see large attendance but it was never like... a multi day thing. Who wants to hang out with the same 15-25 family members for multiple days?? I never heard of anyone doing this. Maybe they'd be hosting a single family member who had to travel, but only for a couple days. But the entire family 24 hours a day for 5 days?!

# ? Dec 2, 2021 18:52

Blorange: Jan 31, 2007; A wizard did it

Credulous Skeptic posted:

Her ex's girlfriend created a fake account (in her ex's name), then called her up for details of a relationship that ended FIVE years ago!

Don't answer, block everybody. That's crazy stalker poo poo.

I read this the other way, her ex created a fake girlfriend with a sob story to contact OP.

The same advice clearly applies.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 18:56

Kenshin: Jan 10, 2007

boop the snoot posted:

His dad died.

People act out when their goddamn parents die you heartless assholes.

Mental health issues aren't your fault but they are your responsibility.

The dude is being a tremendous rear end in a top hat, even if he's grieving. He doesn't get a free pass to abandon his responsibility to his wife and kids, even if that's what his lovely family has taught him.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 18:57

Grimdude: Sep 25, 2006; It was a shame how he carried on

Some people like being around their families for multiple days.

I don't know why. I assume they just didn't really make any friends that weren't forced to tolerate them.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 18:57

New Coke: Nov 28, 2009; WILL AMOUNT TO NOTHING IN LIFE.

Kenshin posted:

Mental health issues aren't your fault but they are your responsibility.

Exactly. By 39, you're approaching an age where most people will have lost a parent. It's still hard, but the idea that nobody who's experienced this can be considered responsible for their actions a year later just doesn't work.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 19:08

Halloween Jack: Sep 12, 2003; I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

thotsky posted:

Is demanding an apology for an awkward moment or joke a uniquely American thing?

American culture is based on the hell of consumerism replacing every meaningful social bond. lovely people tend to treat everyone like customer service employees that they can abuse for fun. But like the others said, yeah, it's about establishing superiority rather than mending a relationship between peers.

BIG FLUFFY DOG posted:

Master P is actually a really big philanthropist in both time and money. He's shown up at events to help black teens in Louisville impacted by gun violence for years now and he has zero connection to Louisville at all. Just picked the city at random and started doing poo poo. He's a really solid dude.

I think P was one of the first musicians to fully realize the potential of being a "mogul." Ran his own label, invested in a ton of lifestyle brand products, became megarich. For a long time I just thought of him as a guy who was lovely in World Championship Wrestling.

thunderspanks posted:

AITA for flipping out on my parents over yellow mustard and sour cream?

I'm 100% on OP's side here. Why are some people insane about other people's food preferences? What difference does it make if OP eats mustard or not? Like, I don't like ketchup on hot dogs or hamburgers, and all my family does is make fun of me for drowning them in mustard.

(My weird food thing is raw tomatoes. Now that I'm pushing 40, most people have given up on the notion that I've just never had a "good" tomato. There are only two kinds of tomatoes: cooked tomatoes, and tomatoes that taste like lawn clippings.)

Hellblazer187 posted:

This one is really weird because the comments unambiguously say "NTA" and here she edits it to say "yes I was an rear end in a top hat I will be a good little wifey now." So the question is how did husband get her reddit pw?

The Stepford Waifu.

Halloween Jack fucked around with this message at 19:22 on Dec 2, 2021

# ? Dec 2, 2021 19:19

CannonFodder: Jan 26, 2001; Passion’s Wrench

Cowslips Warren posted:

Which rom-com movie is this because it reeks of that poo poo.

The Royal Tennenbaums.

Yeah I loving went there.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 19:25

Zulily Zoetrope: Jun 1, 2011; Muldoon

haveblue posted:

I have only one question about patriarch dude- what kind of house did his father-in-law own that could host 26 people for 5 days? Did he let them all live in spare bedrooms in his hotel-sized megamansion, or did he just throw 5 big parties in a row, which is also kinda insane?

My grandparents' huge-rear end house had four children's bedrooms that were repurposed to being guest rooms, and could make room for a couple people on the office and living room couches as well. One Christmas some of us kids got mattresses on the floor of the master bedroom. Five days sounds insane to me and that's with a family that's not awful and sexist.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 19:25

zakharov: Nov 30, 2002; Tater Love

Grimdude posted:

Some people like being around their families for multiple days.

I don't know why. I assume they just didn't really make any friends that weren't forced to tolerate them.

Lmao. I know every True Poster detests every moment they spend with their families but some of us like them!

# ? Dec 2, 2021 19:26

RenegadeStyle1: Jun 7, 2005; Baby Come Back

I've never done it either. I've gone to stay with my grandparents before but it was usually I'm the summer and by myself or with my one cousin. For holidays we would go the day of. Stay there and leave that night. It seemed like what everyone else there was doing too.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 19:32

Motronic: Nov 6, 2009

Halloween Jack posted:

I think P was one of the first musicians to fully realize the potential of being a "mogul." Ran his own label, invested in a ton of lifestyle brand products, became megarich.

Yeah, I mean first other than like.....The Beatles, Led Zep, Rolling Stones, Prince, Frank Sinatra........

# ? Dec 2, 2021 19:32

Halloween Jack: Sep 12, 2003; I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

Many artists have started their own label, most sell merchandise, and any sufficiently rich person will have investments. He actually manages a business empire of brands he created. The Beatles didn't sell their own line of Chelsea boots and Shea jackets, let alone open brick-and-mortar stores to sell them.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 19:40

LanceHunter: Nov 12, 2016; Beautiful People Club

Halloween Jack posted:

Many artists have started their own label, most sell merchandise, and any sufficiently rich person will have investments. He actually manages a business empire of brands he created. The Beatles didn't sell their own line of Chelsea boots and Shea jackets, let alone open brick-and-mortar stores to sell them.

This is Jimmy Buffett erasure.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 19:49

Motronic: Nov 6, 2009

Halloween Jack posted:

Many artists have started their own label, most sell merchandise, and any sufficiently rich person will have investments.

This is my point.

Halloween Jack posted:

He actually manages a business empire of brands he created.

Because other famous artists making money on their brand aren't doing this? Or is it just that you don't realize they are and you have a particular interest in THIS artist?

Halloween Jack posted:

The Beatles didn't sell their own line of Chelsea boots and Shea jackets, let alone open brick-and-mortar stores to sell them.

This is merely methodology. Why would one do that if you could get other people to license at the terms you want? You have to be legit phenomenally famous for that (like the artists I mentioned are), not "Master P" famous. So he likely didn't even have that option.

This isn't bagging on the guy. He's obviously talented, smart, and smart in business. But famous artists, or really anyone with any fame/money, have been doing the business mogul thing for as long as there have been famous people.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 19:49

Soylent Pudding: Jun 22, 2007; We've got people!

AITA for blurting out a secret my best friend told me after she sent the voice memos I sent her to my boyfriend?

quote:

So, yesterday my boyfriend did something that really hurt me. And since it was the second time he did that in a short time, it hurt even more. We had a talk about this type of behaviour before and how it really hurts me. Back then he promised it'll never happen again. Well, it did.

I didn't confront him immediately since I would've been talking from a place of hurt and anger and I feel like its important to cool off and think rational again before you confront somebody. So I just left his place and told him we'll talk tomorrow.

I was very hurt and cried a lot. I sent my best friend several voice messages explaining the situation and what he did to hurt me so much and how I feel. I wasn't being nice in my voice messages. I was angry and hurt and honestly pissed off that he hurt me once again, with the same thing he promised to not do again. I didn't insult him or anything, I was just seriously questioning my relationship and saying that it feels like he doesn't care about me at all.

My best friend and boyfriend have been friends for a long time. I've met him through her. She's in a relationship with his best friend.

She kind of took his side and told me that he's under a lot of stress right now, that he's a nice guy and that I shouldn't be so harsh. Which honestly, made me even more sad. I didn't expect her to tell me to just "suck it up"

She told me that I need to talk to him about it and let him know what he did wrong. I told her I will but that I'll need some time to cool off before talking to him.

So, somehow between all of this, she decied that he needs to know right now and sent him the voice messages. She didn't tell me anything about it.

I only realized when I was at her place to have coffee with her and her boyfriend and my boyfriend stormed in, asking me why I would "gossip" with his friends about him. (I only talked to my best friend about it. We didn't gossip, I just told her what happend and how it made me feel)

I told him to calm down and asked what he's talking about. My best friend suddenly blurted out that she's sent him the messages and that she's sorry but he deserves to know what's happening in our relationship.

I was pissed. Pissed like I've never been before. Of course he deserves to know, but he deserves to hear it from me. I words not coming from a place of anger, hurt and pain. And thats why I needed time to cool off.

I told her that she's being way out of line and that what she did really sucked and that she's not really being a good friend right now. I trusted her with my feelings and she just went and sent all of it to my boyfriend.

She told me its just so important to be honest to each other in a relationship.

That tipped me over the edge and I blurted out something that she's been keeping from her boyfriend for years - a secret that directly affects him and he deserves to know as well.

I know I shouldn't have done that. You don't fight fire with fire. But honestly, in that moment I couldn't believe her hypocrisy and was just really hurt about her using my trust like this.

I feel like I wasn't doing the right thing, but I also feel like it was justified.

So.. AITA for blurting out her secret?

TL;DR:

Had a fight with bf, told my best friend about it, she sent him the voice messages and when confronted she was defensive and said its important to be honest. So I blurted out a secret she's been keeping from her boyfriend that directly affects him and their relationship.

What did OP's boyfriend do?

quote:

My boyfriend tends to be a know-it-all. Its usually fine, but sometimes it gets really annoying.

I'm a young female working in IT. I'm drat good at my job and climbed the career ladder pretty quickly. My boyfriend works in a technical job but not IT.

But he tends to want to correct me on things I tell him. (Like 1+1 is 2 and he's like oh honey noo, 1+1 is 3) in a really condescending way. He did that to me before and I told him that him looking down on my knowledge like I'm just an idiot is really hurtful. Especially since he's literally always wrong about the stuff he tries to correct me on.

I told him that I get enough poo poo in my field for being young and female and that I know what I'm talking about. I'm happy to learn if I do something wrong - but to just correct me even if I'm right just for the sake of correcting and condescending me is hurtful.

He told me he means it in a playful way and that he'll stop if it hurts me. Well yesterday he did it again.

And what is the secret?
(CW: sexual assault)

quote:

About a year ago a very good friend of my friends boyfriend started acting like he's very into her. She was not at all interested in him since she's very happy with her boyfriend.

We were all out at a bar together, my and her boyfriend left early since they had to get up early. So that me and my best friend with that guy.

It was all good and he "behaved" until we decided to leave and he kissed her. She didn't "kiss back" but also didn't say anything. She was probably very surprised and shocked. When we got in our Uber she begged me to not say anything to her boyfriend since she's not at all interested in that guy and he kissed her and she didn't want it.

I told her that I think since he's a VERY good friend of her boyfriend, she should tell him anyways. Otherwise he'll never know of his friends betrayal.

Well she said she doens't want to and I let it go. I did tell her to break off any contact with that friend and just make an excuse to never invite him to parties again. (He's a bit of a dick when he's drunk so not inviting him wasn't a surprise to anyone)

When I revealed her secret she went very quiet. Her boyfriend just left the room. Then she ran after him trying to deny that this ever happend and that I just made that up.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 19:52

Variable 5: Apr 17, 2007; We do these things not because they are easy, but because we thought they would be easy.; Grimey Drawer

the holy poopacy posted:

Ex's gf asks me why I broke up with her man

She's having buyer's remorse. Literally anything the OP says will end poorly.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 20:00

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

I thought that story was about a bunch of teenagers.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 20:07

BIG FLUFFY DOG: Feb 16, 2011; On the internet, nobody knows you're a dog.

master p has a net-worth of 200 million dollars but also phones-in low budget ads for local law firms like hes in desperate need of money. he is truly a man of contrasts. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FcWNEGa8yzY

# ? Dec 2, 2021 20:13

thunderspanks: Nov 5, 2003; crucify this

AITA For buying clothes from charity shops and selling them for more that I bought them for?

quote:

So my family has been struggling with money, we are living hand to mouth at this point and jobs just aren�t an option for my mom right now due to mental health. And my father isn�t around.

I noticed I had some clothes that I didn�t wear and decided to sell them on this all for unwanted items. I made good money and realised I actually got those clothes from a charity shop last year which gave me the idea to buy cheap unwanted clothes from charity shops and sell them for their original prices or less than depending on it�s condition.

I�ve been doing this for about 4 months, every Friday I got to some local charity shops and sell the clothes over the weekend. I�ve been using the money to pay for our electric and gas bills and we even could afford to go out and have a nice meal.

So last Friday I went into the charity shop and the lady at the desk/till says

�ma�am, you can�t shop in here anymore, you need to leave�

I said �excuse me, why not? I come here all the time�

She says �we saw online that you have been selling the clothes here for extra profit, this is a charity and what you�re doing is disgusting, please leave�

I was shocked. I went to a different charity shop down the road and apparently she had already been there and told them what I�m doing and they said the same thing, I can�t shop there. I finally went to the last charity shop a few blocked away and I asked them if they had a lady tell them I�d been selling charity clothes. They said they hadn�t heard but they don�t care, as long as someone is buying the clothes and the money I give them goes to charity then they don�t care what I do with them after that.

I feel a little conflicted. On one hand I feel bad because I�m using charity�s cheap clothing to make a profit but on the other hand, I�m not talking money from the charity, I�m just reselling them so my family can eat.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 20:27

Zulily Zoetrope: Jun 1, 2011; Muldoon

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for blurting out a secret my best friend told me after she sent the voice memos I sent her to my boyfriend?

What did OP's boyfriend do?

And what is the secret?
(CW: sexual assault)

Girl you need an all new social circle.

I genuinely don't understand the whole "please don't tell people their friends are sex pests" thing. I'd want to know if people I trusted were actually monsters so I could stop associating with them; you're not protecting anyone other than the sex pest and their enablers by keeping mum.

E: Like, there are scenarios where the sex pest is institutionally protected and I won't be the one to judge whether you should speak up, but fuckin hell if your boyfriend's friend assaults you, you either let them know and they kick the friend to the curb, or you get the hell away from the enabler before you find out what else he's fine with.

Zulily Zoetrope fucked around with this message at 20:31 on Dec 2, 2021

# ? Dec 2, 2021 20:27

Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

Girl you need an all new social circle.

I genuinely don't understand the whole "please don't tell people their friends are sex pests" thing. I'd want to know if people I trusted were actually monsters so I could stop associating with them; you're not protecting anyone other than the sex pest and their enablers by keeping mum.

E: Like, there are scenarios where the sex pest is institutionally protected and I won't be the one to judge whether you should speak up, but fuckin hell if your boyfriend's friend assaults you, you either let them know and they kick the friend to the curb, or you get the hell away from the enabler before you find out what else he's fine with.

There's a non-zero chance all the blame falls on the victim and she becomes ostracized from her entire friend group for speaking up. Women are taught to suffer in silence or face even worse consequences. Also there's rarely any justice or validation in it for coming forward.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 20:36

Zulily Zoetrope: Jun 1, 2011; Muldoon

I mean, yeah, but is getting ostracized from a gaggle of sex pests and their enablers really such a big loss?

(I know it often is, but I want it to not be)

# ? Dec 2, 2021 20:39

BooDooBoo: Jul 14, 2005; That makes no sense to me at all.

https://fi.somethingawful.com/images/gangtags/severancemdr.gif

BIG FLUFFY DOG posted:

master p has a net-worth of 200 million dollars but also phones-in low budget ads for local law firms like hes in desperate need of money. he is truly a man of contrasts. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FcWNEGa8yzY

That's awesome, I bet they donated some good cash for that.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 21:19

Halloween Jack: Sep 12, 2003; I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

Mx. posted:

AITA for not switching rooms?

Give me your room!

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for kissing my husband at a friend's event?

My husband's dead! Give me your husband!

Cobalt-60 posted:

AITA for asking my sister to contribute half the expenses of maintaining my mom's house?

Buy me a house, sodomite!

spinst posted:

AITA for telling my parents I would not care for my obese brother?

Give me your future! Your brother almost didn't have a future!

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for helping my friend play a joke on her POS man?

Give me your friend's vagina!

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling my neighbors their kids could not sled on my hill after they insisted on me not letting my dog outside while they're out there?

Give me your yard!

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for outing my ex as gay to get his mother off my back?

Give me your entire life while I cheat on you!

(The YTA replies to this one ITT are insane.)

# ? Dec 2, 2021 21:39

lidnsya: Nov 14, 2007; <img src="https://fi.somethingawful.com/customtitles/title-lidnsya.jpg"><br>All aboard the sleepy train!

I really wish people would stop using the term "sex pest". It downplays rapists and other sexual predators as though they're no worse than a little fly buzzing around someone's ear.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 21:52

mossyfisk: Nov 8, 2010; FF0000

It's much harder to sue someone for using the term sex-pest, because it conveys no specific allegation.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 21:59

Halloween Jack: Sep 12, 2003; I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

Propaniac posted:

AITA for keeping an unedited wedding photo in my personal space and not having any sympathy when it upset MIL?

This is dangerous territory. You have to keep an eye on that photograph to make sure it doesn't seem older and older while MIL stays the same.

greazeball posted:

Yeah if there's a person who knows the biggest secret about you, a secret that would absolutely ruin your life if people found out, maybe don't gently caress them over and tell a bunch of lies leading to intense emotional confrontations when they're at their most vulnerable?

Yeah this is like loading a gun, putting it in your mouth, pulling the trigger, and complaining to God that you were murdered by a homophobic gun.

OGDanDogg posted:

Dude is totally going to research the hell out of this and then his wife will accuse him of cheating when he pulls off a good performance.

I'm thinking he shows up in a gold lam� suit, top hat, platform boots, painted nails.

the holy poopacy posted:

How do I (29F) tell my partner (31m) that he is not as handy as he thinks he is?

I've saved a lot of money by learning how to do minor household repairs from YouTube, but you have to know your limits. Like, I figured that I could install the new dishwasher myself. And I could have, but the guy who installed the last one took some "extra" wires and just wrapped them up in a fistful of plumber's tape, so I couldn't even figure out which was the grounding wire. That's the point where I decided to not gently caress around with both water and electricity and called a plumber/electrician.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 22:25

holtemon: May 2, 2019; Dancing is forbidden

BIG FLUFFY DOG posted:

master p has a net-worth of 200 million dollars but also phones-in low budget ads for local law firms like hes in desperate need of money. he is truly a man of contrasts. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FcWNEGa8yzY

Always hustlin.

I remember reading something about Eddie Murphy taking a really bad role/film (I think Beverly Hills Cop 3) and he said something like yeah I grew up poor as hell, of course if they're gonna offer me $20 million to do something I'm gonna do it. I'd assume Master P was thinking something along those lines too but who knows.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 22:34

Halloween Jack: Sep 12, 2003; I WILL CUT OFF BOTH OF MY ARMS BEFORE I VOTE FOR ANYONE THAT IS MORE POPULAR THAN BERNIE!!!!!

Arsenic Lupin posted:

Tests for dementia - what is the benefit in knowing?

This is like if Julian Fellows made a series out of Three Tall Women.

IANAL but I imagine that Caregiver Sister paying herself a salary under the table is going to be a problem for the estate, even with the consent of her mother and sisters.

Baronjutter posted:

Is this a thing people actually do, host large numbers of people for multiple days?? I remember as a kid on Christmas there'd be maybe 15-20 people visiting throughout the day, or sometimes someone would host a christmas party or dinner or something that could see large attendance but it was never like... a multi day thing.

My upbringing was similar to yours in that regard. But it is a thing. When I worked for a contractor, we installed some windows in a house way out in the country. It was owned by a FL real estate developer and it was the holiday house for the entire family. They had two large rooms full of bunk beds for the kids.

This was definitely the wealthiest house I've ever been in, and easily the one with the worst taste. Their decorations were a combination of cowboy stuff, fishing stuff, and stuff that looked like set-dressing from a low-budget sci-fi show. (Scene: a little bonsai tree in a pewter dish surrounded by a miniature rock garden, underneath a carved wooden sign for a bait shop. This sits on a bar where the stools have piebald cowhide upholstery, overlooked by a watercolor painting of cowboys with a poem about cowboys.)

# ? Dec 2, 2021 22:48

Zulily Zoetrope: Jun 1, 2011; Muldoon

lidnsya posted:

I really wish people would stop using the term "sex pest". It downplays rapists and other sexual predators as though they're no worse than a little fly buzzing around someone's ear.

Does it? I�ve literally never heard it used in a context where it�s not clear that the person and anyone defending them can go straight to hell.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 22:55

BOOTY-ADE: Aug 30, 2006; BIG KOOL TELLIN' Y'ALL TO KEEP IT TIGHT

Blastedhellscape posted:

From a few pages back, and I get the impression this whole post is exaggerated for dramatic effect, but the idea of even waiting two weeks to change bedsheets kind of grosses me out. Personally I've got to wash my sheets and sleep on new ones at least twice a week, and if I were rich and could just buy unlimited, high threadcount cotton sheets I'd be changing those things every day.

I guess it's one of those weird hygienic things that different people have radically different tolerances for. I've always had issues with insomnia and have a princess-and-the-pea relationship with laying down and trying to sleep, whereas there are other things that I'm way less persnickety about, but hearing stories about people's gross unwashed sheets always gets me.

From a bit back but I'm the same way - change sheets once a week pillowcases every other day. I've lived with & known a few disgusting people & it only takes seeing, smelling, or experiencing that kind of filth to be like "yeah, that's NOT normal". Some people were outwardly normal, would wash their clothes & shower daily, but something about changing their sheets/blankets more than once a month was a foreign concept.

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for not wearing a shirt in a too-hot apartment?

Not the most interesting story ever, but "Oh no, danger boobs!" just has me cracking right the gently caress up.

that wife rules

# ? Dec 2, 2021 22:57

A Wizard of Goatse: Dec 14, 2014

lidnsya posted:

I really wish people would stop using the term "sex pest". It downplays rapists and other sexual predators as though they're no worse than a little fly buzzing around someone's ear.

iirc the point was that "sexual predator" is way too cool sounding a term for the kind of whiny persistent sexual harassers who like to imagine themselves as some kind of alpha wolf or sex panther or whatever

if people are applying it to actual rapists now well lol guess that's Twitter finding its word of the month

# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:03

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

holtemon posted:

Always hustlin.

I remember reading something about Eddie Murphy taking a really bad role/film (I think Beverly Hills Cop 3) and he said something like yeah I grew up poor as hell, of course if they're gonna offer me $20 million to do something I'm gonna do it. I'd assume Master P was thinking something along those lines too but who knows.

If i had to guess based on nothing it was probably a charity thing, or he got $10k for 1 minute of work and said "poo poo, okay"

# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:04

Elissimpark: May 20, 2010; Bring me the head of Auguste Escoffier.

Halloween Jack posted:

I'm thinking he shows up in a gold lam� suit, top hat, platform boots, painted nails.

Works for my friend William:

# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:04

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

How the gently caress did the 26 person party family husband expect his wife to handle all this if he didn't even loving tell her it was going to happen? SURPRISE! My entire extended family is here! What's for dinner?

# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:17

Zeeman: May 8, 2007; Say WHAT?! You KNOW that post is wack, homie!

Midnight Voyager posted:

How the gently caress did the 26 person party family husband expect his wife to handle all this if he didn't even loving tell her it was going to happen? SURPRISE! My entire extended family is here! What's for dinner?

I assume he was planning to tell her the day before or something, whenever would be past the point where decorum would prevent her from backing out

# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:19

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# ? May 30, 2024 07:51

Pleads: Jun 9, 2005; pew pew pew

Clearly it would be her fault for not adequately anticipating the actions and needs of the new patriarch of the clan.

A week-long 26-person holiday sounds like my personal hell.

# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:22

The Something Awful Forums > Main > General Bullshit > r/relationships: I have nothing against this baby.

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