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Mr. Grapes! posted:You'll never succeed in an admin job. We have school meetings over Zoom (Covid). You must use your school email to log in to Zoom. DUDE! You just reminded me that one time downtown reset everyone's passwords on like a Tuesday evening when everyone had to give standardized tests on Wednesday. It was absolute mayhem. I loved it.
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Cowslips Warren posted:I have no clue. After I blew up on him, he uttered the best words ever to say in an argument: Calm down. Totally normal reaction to somebody asking to see pictures of your cats. Isn't the most likely scenario that your friend said something like "Oh cats are great you should definitely get one, my friend Cowslips Warren has the cutest little guys, here look..."?
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Escape Goat posted:ESH + YTA for being weirdly passive and roundabout instead of just saying "I'm not going to work on the weekend" Nope, NTA. The OP is very carefully deflecting unreasonable requests while offering perfectly reasonable alternatives, like the 3 weeks notice in advance for weekend work or calling out the use of their personal cell instead of their work cell to get in touch with them on short notice - the "1 business day" but is pure gold in this category. An obviously petty manager has absolutely zero recourse against an employee doing this, and that's the point. Nothing OP does can get them legitimately fired for cause. In the long term all that's going to get them is winning the challenge to their unemployment claim, but it's the good fight and more power to them.
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Yeah, there's nothing wrong with making poo poo up when people don't respect your time. We were a subcontractor on a project and we were waiting for the customer to figure out when they wanted their weekend long upgrade scheduled. The prime casually mentioned the upgrade being "this weekend" in an email sent on a Wednesday afternoon. Apparently they scheduled it with the customer and never told us! So I replied back letting them know no one ran this date past me and I was unavailable. The prime freaked out and emailed our COO because the customer thinks it's happening in two days. He ends up calling me. I tell him I have plans. He goes back to them and relays that I am unavailable. They offer to pay $5k if I can make myself available. COO offers to give me half of that if I can make myself available. Sure. So I cancel my nonexistent plans and made $2500 to do what I would have ended up doing at no additional cost had I been given advance notice.
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AITA for telling my baby's mother she only breastfeeds to keep me from having visitationquote:My ex and I have a baby who is almost 3 months. I come and visit her at my ex's home for 3 hours at a time once or twice a week. I've been itching to get alone time with the baby so we can bond better, but she breastfeeds only, won't take a bottle and won't take formula. I've tried numerous times to get baby to eat the bottle so I can have visits at my place with her but she just screams. All through her pregnancy my ex said she might try breastfeeding but wasn't sure. Then covid got bad again and because of her job (she's a nurse) she freaked out and wanted baby to have antibodies since she's vaccinated and has also had covid before.
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GI_Clutch posted:Yeah, there's nothing wrong with making poo poo up when people don't respect your time. We were a subcontractor on a project and we were waiting for the customer to figure out when they wanted their weekend long upgrade scheduled. The prime casually mentioned the upgrade being "this weekend" in an email sent on a Wednesday afternoon. Apparently they scheduled it with the customer and never told us! So I replied back letting them know no one ran this date past me and I was unavailable. mind the walrus fucked around with this message at 06:10 on Dec 3, 2021 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my baby's mother she only breastfeeds to keep me from having visitation holy poo poo lol the brain on this one
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the holy poopacy posted:r/relationships: Hind site is AWESOME https://www.businessinsider.com/marine-corps-looking-for-russian-mi-24-hind-mi-17-hip-helicopters-2018-5 (Way at the bottom of the article) There are currently at least two Mi-24 Hind attack helicopters privately owned in the US by the Lancaster Air Museum in Lancaster, Texas. The aircraft fly frequently at events and airshows around the country. The Hind site is Lancaster Air Museum which is probably an AWESOME place.
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Dec 3, 2021 06:17
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thunderspanks posted:AITA For buying clothes from charity shops and selling them for more that I bought them for? Dunno why the ladies decided to be Jr. Detectives about this. Why do they care what happens as long as the clothes are bought?
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Dec 3, 2021 06:21
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The charity store should be selling at least some of it's valuable stuff in order to bring in more money for more stuff to help people! That's on them, though. Also the person says that they need money themselves! NTA
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Dec 3, 2021 06:26
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The point of charity shops / secondhand stores is affordable items for people who don't have the means to buy brand new items. It is a trend on tiktok and other sites to buy from second hands stores and resell online for maximum prices. Taking resources away from poor people is bad. The charity store people are right to do this. They don't and can't know about the OP's backstory. All they know is that this is another person appropriating resources intended for poor people. LRADIKAL is right in that the charity store should be selling some brand name items for higher prices, but there's no info about how that business works so who knows if they are or aren't already doing that.
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AITA for changing my Netflix password?quote:My sister asked for my Netflix account a few months ago and I though it was for her, but then I found out a few days later that it was for her bf to use (she uses her other friend's account). This was fine, I never asked him to pay because it wasn't a big deal, he used his own profile. dog why would somebody calling you a bitch make you more likely to help them you buffoon
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Dec 3, 2021 07:23
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value-brand cereal posted:The point of charity shops / secondhand stores is affordable items for people who don't have the means to buy brand new items. If people who were going to buy the items and wear them directly had bought them, would any more money have gone to charity, or would the items been more worn? Seems like the ethical outcome here would be the OP partnering with the resale shops to get the most money funneled to good places and improve their own situation, since OP has the skills to do that. If the shops want to take their ball and go home because someone produced more money from the second hand items than they were able to (although they still got what they were asking for them), seems like that's on them. OP wasn't buying out their entire inventory and flipping it, depriving the locals of affordable clothing.
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AITA for being mad at my girlfriend for ruining our anniversary and taking away her present?quote:This is a throwaway account.
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Many of these stores exist to raise revenue, not specifically to serve poor customers, and don't want that notion to drive away customers.
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Halloween Jack posted:Many of these stores exist to raise revenue, not specifically to serve poor customers, and don't want that notion to drive away customers. Yeah, Ive never seen one of these genuinely trying to help poor customers so much as making money off of rich people thinking they're helping poor people
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Silly Newbie posted:If the shops want to take their ball and go home because someone produced more money from the second hand items than they were able to (although they still got what they were asking for them), seems like that's on them. OP wasn't buying out their entire inventory and flipping it, depriving the locals of affordable clothing. You seemed to have missed the whole point of the post. Some charity shops aren't raising money for charity, they're attempting to directly serve people. OP is literally denying those clothes to the people the charity is trying to serve by flipping them. The shops aren't trying to maximize profit, I know the concept can be hard for some people to understand, they're trying to clothe people who have difficulty affording clothing.
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Dec 3, 2021 07:43
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for being mad at my girlfriend for ruining our anniversary and taking away her present? babies aren't allowed in medical school, i think the ages are wrong
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Dec 3, 2021 07:44
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MisterOblivious posted:You seemed to have missed the whole point of the post. Some charity shops aren't raising money for charity, they're attempting to directly serve people. OP is literally denying those clothes to the people the charity is trying to serve by flipping them. The shops aren't trying to maximize profit, I know the concept can be hard for some people to understand, they're trying to clothe people who have difficulty affording clothing. I feel like this might be a post-username gimmick I'm missing, but do you have anything from the text to support your theory that the OP was patronizing one of these stores, and also that they purchased enough clothes to impact the target community if that was the case?
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Most op shops I've seen have got absolutely no shortage of stock.
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Silly Newbie posted:I feel like this might be a post-username gimmick I'm missing, but do you have anything from the text to support your theory that the OP was patronizing one of these stores, and also that they purchased enough clothes to impact the target community if that was the case? Have you ever patronized one of the stores that's attempting to directly help people rather than a store that's "raising money" for some hand-wavy "charity" purpose? Flipper shitheads found out about one of my regular shops and prices skyrocketed. It's the kind of place that gives away bread daily and bags of groceries every Saturday. Some of the prices on goods have increased over 1000%. There are literally phone apps to scan bar codes to figure out if something is worth flipping.
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Barudak posted:Yeah, Ive never seen one of these genuinely trying to help poor customers so much as making money off of rich people thinking they're helping poor people Depends on the shop. In the small town I grew up in we knew the folks running the local thrift shop and it was pretty much "someone else in town might find this useful" with prices just to keep the place running. The Habitat place next town over was great as well, though I don't know if they're good folks nationally or it differs from venue to venue. Lots of ranchers and such in the area and it was a great place to look for scrap lumber of the odd home kludge repair doodad. In contrast, Goodwill? Garbage.
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MisterOblivious posted:Have you ever patronized one of the stores that's attempting to directly help people rather than a store that's "raising money" for some hand-wavy "charity" purpose? Flipper shitheads found out about one of my regular shops and prices skyrocketed. It's the kind of place that gives away bread daily and bags of groceries every Saturday. Some of the prices on goods have increased over 1000%. There are literally phone apps to scan bar codes to figure out if something is worth flipping. Ok, so...do you think OP was patronizing one of these shops or not? Doesn't seem like they had an effect on price if they did. Is this just a thing that hits too close to home and you're responding based on your lived experience rather than anything in the story in the r/relationships something awful thread?
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Silly Newbie posted:Ok, so...do you think OP was patronizing one of these shops or not? Yes, that's why they were banned. All of the shops called around to similar shops to have them banned. You don't get banned from a commercial shop like Goodwill: they already run their own online auction site to sell valuables. MisterOblivious fucked around with this message at 08:30 on Dec 3, 2021 |
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Wearing a kill all landlords t-shirt as i buy all the nicest looking clothes at a charity shop to sell online at 500% markup.
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I work with a lot of charity shops - several thousand, over the past few years. This issue is a common bone of contention for people who work or volunteer, because they’ve got the wrong end of the stick with regard to the point of charity shops. They are there to sell the goods, to make money for the charity that can then be used elsewhere. If you don’t like someone flipping your stuff online, then you should set up to sell it online directly yourself. Many if not most charity shops now do this, or are moving towards it. If the idea is to provide low-cost goods into a deprived area, a charity shop is not a good way of doing it except in very particular circumstances (generally very high volumes of low-value goods). Deliberately depressing your prices to serve the community will just be exploited, in one way or another.
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"The only ethical capitalism is *my* capitalism. gently caress altruism."
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Is this a UK vs US thing? In the UK, a charity shop is a store set up by a charity like Cancer Research, British heart foundation or Oxfam, with the explicit goal of raising money for those charities. They are not there to serve communities with cheap clothing, in fact many dying high streets out in the districts of my town have *too many* charity shops because other bricks and mortar retail is dying, and they also often end up with a huge excess of stock. Skimming the "good poo poo" off the top, buying it cheap and selling high is win-win: the charity gets the money they would have anyway, the person flipping them gets to have a small business they enjoy, and the final buyer gets the clothes they want without buying new and contributing to manufacturer demand. Charity shops can and do employ volunteers who know their poo poo and price luxury goods at more realistic prices, either in store or online
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Yes, its a us thing were talking about. Im not sure if that op was from a different country. In the end, lol she has bitten the hand that fed? Maybe she can try her hand at shoplifting next. Much better cost / profit ratio.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for being mad at my girlfriend for ruining our anniversary and taking away her present? Dear Reddit, I just couldn't stop repeatedly shooting myself in the balls,
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for being mad at my girlfriend for ruining our anniversary and taking away her present? Love that "ruined our anniversary" means "gave me a nice thoughtful present and caused me to implode"
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Similar to and often comorbid with 'everyone must follow my script' narcissist brain, there's also the idea that every single encounter is a contest that must be 'won', that there's always a winner and loser and you can't ever be the loser. This is where gifts become acts of aggression, because everything is an act of aggression, and apologies are constantly demanded and never given as displays of contrition and weakness.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Similar to and often comorbid with 'everyone must follow my script' narcissist brain, there's also the idea that every single encounter is a contest that must be 'won', that there's always a winner and loser and you can't ever be the loser. This is where gifts become acts of aggression, because everything is an act of aggression, and apologies are constantly demanded and never given as displays of contrition and weakness. All contest must be won on the day too! None of this I'll get you something really special next time that will make it up to you crap for these modern day supermen.
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That’s my brother. Gift too good, kick off because you’re making him look bad. Gift not good enough, kick off because you’re selfish. Get him exactly what he wants, you’ve not put any thought in. Get him a nice surprise, you didn’t listen to him and got him something stupid. Then whatever you got him, he’d destroy it in a fit of pique within about a fortnight. I was maybe 13 when I realised getting him nothing saves money/time and results in exactly the same experience, so gently caress it. Unfortunately it took another twenty years before I realised I could simply never see him or speak to him ever again.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Similar to and often comorbid with 'everyone must follow my script' narcissist brain, there's also the idea that every single encounter is a contest that must be 'won', that there's always a winner and loser and you can't ever be the loser. This is where gifts become acts of aggression, because everything is an act of aggression, and apologies are constantly demanded and never given as displays of contrition and weakness. As an aside: This is why I finally bailed on USPOL because this is exactly what it's turned into. Just turn "gifts" into "any disagreements".
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My family never really did gifts, not just because we were poor but because my dad was a fucker and would have regular holiday meltdowns. So as an adult I have no concept of normally giving gifts and no skill at it. I do some gifts for people I like and I've gotten a lot better at it but I still don't do any trees or decorating because it was normal to me to not do those things. My dad was really a dick about holidays for someone who never had to hang any lights or do any decorations or any family visits or anything, really but his regular life. It's almost funny now. I miss my best friend's family. I'd go over and there'd be tons of people, tons of food, me and her would get high and cook at like 3am, then help wrap her nieces and nephews gifts with her mom and pass out after dinner. We'd leave with random plastic tubs full of food. God, I wish she was still alive. I'm spending this Christmas dog-sitting by myself, no contact with family because they suck.
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AITA for insisting to invite someone to the wedding when my fiancée is against it???quote:I'm 26m and my fiancée who I'm getting married to in few months is also 26f. "I fully expect this woman to ruin my wedding because she hates my fiancée but it would be so awkward to tell my cousin not to bring her, what can ya do"
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haveblue posted:I have only one question about patriarch dude- what kind of house did his father-in-law own that could host 26 people for 5 days? Did he let them all live in spare bedrooms in his hotel-sized megamansion, or did he just throw 5 big parties in a row, which is also kinda insane? Mx. posted:AITA for putting up my Christmas lights early even though the HOA that I’m not a part of says it violates the rules and upsets the people in the HOA Fatkraken posted:Is this a UK vs US thing? In the UK, a charity shop is a store set up by a charity like Cancer Research, British heart foundation or Oxfam, with the explicit goal of raising money for those charities. They are not there to serve communities with cheap clothing, in fact many dying high streets out in the districts of my town have *too many* charity shops because other bricks and mortar retail is dying, and they also often end up with a huge excess of stock. Skimming the "good poo poo" off the top, buying it cheap and selling high is win-win: the charity gets the money they would have anyway, the person flipping them gets to have a small business they enjoy, and the final buyer gets the clothes they want without buying new and contributing to manufacturer demand. Charity shops can and do employ volunteers who know their poo poo and price luxury goods at more realistic prices, either in store or online 
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how dare this woman flip stuff from the charity shop as a last resort to keep the electric and water on, doesn't she know those clothes are for those in need???
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The last charity ship has it right - anything that keeps money flowing to them is good. That woman who is reselling is putting in work both going out to select and curate her goods, then taking time to photograph and individually list them for sale on clunky-rear end websites, and likely isn't even making minimum wage back for that effort when you look at how much time all that takes. Plus then other people have access to cool stuff at a discounted price and don't have to search through bins of crap themselves to find it. It's a real common thing folks do on the net and honestly if you're a charity shop you want those Etsy and eBay seller folks to come in bc they're your regular income.
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