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“Of course I’m hosting everyone. What did you expect? I’m the patriarch now!”
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And when I say that I'm hosting, I mean that you're hosting while I drink whiskey and tell stories about my dad until I weep, like a man.
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# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:27 |
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Under the moose head
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# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:28 |
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If she at all understood her role as the wife of the patriarch and wife of someone experiencing grief she should have planned for this already perhaps with catering lined up and some temporary portable housing rented. It's a shocking display of both insubordination and borderline emotional abuse of a grief-stricken victim. Absolutely the rear end in a top hat.
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# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:29 |
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Pleads posted:Clearly it would be her fault for not adequately anticipating the actions and needs of the new patriarch of the clan. while pregnant and employed
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# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:43 |
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MarcusSA posted:The T-Pain song about this is pretty catchy is the the one where they took out an ant and crushed it with their dick then hosed their aunt?
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# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:47 |
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I know we’ve beat Christmas patriarch to death but imagine if his plan worked and she came home after work to expecting to eat, take care of the kids and rest and instead found 26 additional people who think she’s their servant tapping their feet asking when dinner is going to start.
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# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:53 |
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I don’t even know 26 family members of mine off the top of my head, much less 26 I’d want to spend five days straight with
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# ? Dec 2, 2021 23:54 |
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Variable 5 posted:“Of course I’m hosting everyone. What did you expect? I’m the patriarch now!” The patriarch also does not babysit his own children. Because that's what he has a wife for. In a way, I almost feel bad for some dudes nowadays, because they hear about the golden age or they see it in mad Men of the 50s, and think yeah that's totally what I want to have. A wife who does whatever I tell her, kids who are quiet and only speak when I speak to them, a hot secretary or two on the side. An age where men were men and it was good to be a man. Never does it occur to these gentlemen, and I use the term loosely, that they are nowhere near wealthy enough to pull any of that stuff off. In the theme of Give Me Your Thing, I just had a friend of mine text me asking for pictures of my personal cats. I thought maybe he was going to get some kind of canvas made for me for the holidays, because that's what I did for him last year of his pets. No, he told me he was at a customer's house today, and they're super nice couple and wanted to adopt a cat, and he wanted to show them some. Not the cats I'm fostering, my personal cats. He doesn't understand why I'm rather pissed off at him right now. Give me your spouse, kid, job, house, pet, organs...what else are we missing?
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Baronjutter posted:If she at all understood her role as the wife of the patriarch and wife of someone experiencing grief she should have planned for this already perhaps with catering lined up and some temporary portable housing rented. It's a shocking display of both insubordination and borderline emotional abuse of a grief-stricken victim. Absolutely the rear end in a top hat. Cowslips Warren posted:In a way, I almost feel bad for some dudes nowadays, because they hear about the golden age or they see it in mad Men of the 50s, and think yeah that's totally what I want to have. A wife who does whatever I tell her, kids who are quiet and only speak when I speak to them, a hot secretary or two on the side. An age where men were men and it was good to be a man. Halloween Jack fucked around with this message at 00:03 on Dec 3, 2021 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:The patriarch also does not babysit his own children. Because that's what he has a wife for. AITA if I (f25) refused to lend my engagement ring to my SIL (f20)? quote:I recently got engageddddd (yaayyy!) The proposal was really intimate and sweet. I have always been very picky about rings. They're my absolute favourite type of jewellery so obviously i was sure on what kind of engagement ring I wanted even before I had a boyfriend. My fiance proposed with the exact ring that I wanted and I was so so so happy he respected my wishes. (This is going to be important later)
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# ? Dec 3, 2021 00:13 |
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The person that hosts spring festival in my family has an 11 bedroom 3 bath home just for it where they can house about 30 people and a dining hall that seats about 50. Spring Festival lasts about a week
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# ? Dec 3, 2021 00:53 |
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Mr. Fall Down Terror posted:you know she'd be constantly bombarded with texts and calls accusing her of being unsupportive for not hosting two dozen people in her home quote:My youngest child, my daughter became angry with me when her father passed away about 18 mos ago. She cut off contact with me for about 6 weeks but we managed to get back on track. Then in September of 2020, she got mad at me, for what i’m still not sure, and she cut me off again and has refused to let me see my 4 yr old granddaughter who i had a wonderful relationship with. So good in fact, she used to bug my daughter to take her to see nana. I left it alone for a few months. I saw her at Christmas and that was the last time. I’ve never known a pain like this. I’ve tried a few times to talk to her, most recently today but she told me if i tried again, she’d file for a restraining order to keep me away. This is the same daughter who just 2 years ago said she could never move to another state because she couldn’t be that far away from her mom. There were times when she’d call me to thank me for being a good mom and when she was pregnant, she said she wanted her daughter to spend as much time as possible with me because there are things about life that only i could teach her. From the day she moved out at age 19, no less than 3 nights a week, she’d send me a text that simply said i love you mom. I have no idea how to deal with this pain or how to fix it. I’ve had days that i cried so much i ended up dehydrated. I have dreams where she’s little and i’m begging her to not hate me when she grows up. quote:I can sympathize with all the parents who are in the same situation as I am. Fortunately, my daughter and her husband have set up a page on their phone where they can post pictures/videos of my two grandchildren for various members of their family which includes 4 grandparents, aunts and uncles. I will give them credit for that because that at least allows me to see updated pictures of my two precious ones and I love it. Periodically they will do Facetime with me and my husband which they did on/about Halloween and Thanksgiving. We haven’t been around our grandkids since about February due to COVID, so they already have pulled away from us, not much interested in talking to us on the phone or being excited to see us. We had established a fairly close relationship with the kids as they only live about a 3-hour drive from us but now the parents won’t let us come around at all, even with masks. And I like this one because it's such a good insight into how these people think: quote:Hi Everyone and I hope this finds you all OK. Just some thoughts after a couple of interesting happenings around Father’s day.
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trickybiscuits posted:Okay but consider: just serving him papers isn't funny I can't imagine what happens when people become parents to so thoroughly break their brains that the idea that children are people never crosses their mind.
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# ? Dec 3, 2021 01:34 |
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r/relationships: Hind site is AWESOME
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# ? Dec 3, 2021 01:45 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:In the theme of Give Me Your Thing, I just had a friend of mine text me asking for pictures of my personal cats. I thought maybe he was going to get some kind of canvas made for me for the holidays, because that's what I did for him last year of his pets. No, he told me he was at a customer's house today, and they're super nice couple and wanted to adopt a cat, and he wanted to show them some. Not the cats I'm fostering, my personal cats. He doesn't understand why I'm rather pissed off at him right now. Wait wait wait... he wanted pictures of your pets, thinking he could adopt them out from your house to his customers? He wanted pictures as specific examples of "Yes, this particular cat is one example of a cat you could have"???? If it's just "Yup, here's some cats, look at how cute cats in general can be! Let me refer you to an excellent shelter I know of now that you're sold on the concept of having a cat" I don't see the problem. But if it's like, trying to take your babies away to score a sale or something, jfc, never be friends with him again.
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AITA for telling my boss "no" to working weekends, when my coworkers don't?quote:I got hired for this salaried job where they really hyped up the work life balance and reasonable hours in the job interview. Like the way that they never expect people to stay late or work on weekends or holidays. lol
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Hellblazer187 posted:If it's just "Yup, here's some cats, look at how cute cats in general can be! Let me refer you to an excellent shelter I know of now that you're sold on the concept of having a cat" I don't see the problem.
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Mx. posted:I'd always not answer then when he'd ask on Monday why I wasn't answering my phone, I'd pull out my work phone like "sorry, are you sure you had the right number? I'm not seeing any missed calls" and he'd often say he called my own cell so I'd say that I don't really use it much, I leave it home a lot, and when I do check it I've usually got like 40 missed calls and my voicemail is always full so I probably miss stuff unless I'm expecting a call at a certain time. And that if he needs to reach me he should try my work phone because I'm very careful to follow up on any call to that within 1 business day. ESH + YTA for being weirdly passive and roundabout instead of just saying "I'm not going to work on the weekend"
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my boss "no" to working weekends, when my coworkers don't?
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AITA for putting up my Christmas lights early even though the HOA that I’m not a part of says it violates the rules and upsets the people in the HOAquote:I’ve had a previous experience with this group as I live in a neighborhood that has an HOA but I was there before the rest of the houses were built and before they formed this group. I’m not a member in anyway and that has been verified by a real estate attorney.
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# ? Dec 3, 2021 02:12 |
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cumpantry posted:admittedly i'm very nervous about going into teaching professionally next year, especially with all the Brand New Phone App horseshit my mentor gets dumped on his desk, but this post gives me hope i can stand my ground should the time come (assuming i'm a decent teacher besides the Phone App Refusal). i'm surprised though they terminated you mid semester instead of at the end where they could've quietly shuffled you away It was probably because they invested a ton of money into developing a new app branded specifically for our school, and I flatly refused to use it and was happy to explain why to any parents and students who asked me (because it sucks). They let the app limp along for awhile, and now it kind of co-exists with the other half dozen lovely apps that were once thought to be the solution to all of education's problems. All in all 99% of them are just some clunky way to post photos of children and balkanize the communication to parents so if they want to stay up to date on their children, all the have to do everyday is check their email, Class Dojo, App 1, App 2, App 3, and App 4! Simple! The only parents who can keep up with it are the busybody unemployed rich overinvolved moms who are exactly the sort of people you do not want to have extra ammunition. They're preparing to launch a new one soon. I get away with a lot at school because I am immensely popular with the students but I assume I would be quietly shuffled away if I was not. I get to occupy the 'quirky weird teacher who doesn't follow norms' niche and I dunno how many spots like that are available at every school.
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# ? Dec 3, 2021 02:14 |
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It's so pathetic and awful to see how thoroughly stockholm syndrome'd so many workers are there days. The whole world of tech is specially bad for that. Like everyone has solidarity with their boss and sees their fellow workers only as potential rivals and people who aren't carrying their weight.
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MagusofStars posted:Except...why would he need to ask for photos of Cowslips' cats to show off "these are cute cats" for that rather than looking up literally any website? When you’re showing people pictures to make sure they’re familiar with the general idea of cats you want to make sure they’re real instead of CGI.
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Escape Goat posted:ESH + YTA for being weirdly passive and roundabout instead of just saying "I'm not going to work on the weekend" Wrong! OP owns, actually
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The proper thing to do is answer the phone drunk whenever the boss calls outside of normal hours.
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Mx. posted:AITA for putting up my Christmas lights early even though the HOA that I’m not a part of says it violates the rules and upsets the people in the HOA He pro
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Mx. posted:AITA for putting up my Christmas lights early even though the HOA that I’m not a part of says it violates the rules and upsets the people in the HOA Lmao sit and spin, petty tyrant
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# ? Dec 3, 2021 02:29 |
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my boss "no" to working weekends, when my coworkers don't? NTA We got a new manager on our team a few years ago. I was on PTO one week and a PM emailed him asking if someone else on the team could answer a question since I was out of the office that week. There were no replies on the email. Monday morning he says to me on our weekly team call "I tried calling you on Wednesday, but you didn't answer." I tell him, "Yeah, I typically don't answer my phone when it's turned off." He hasn't tried again. He's a boomer and it shows sometimes. Like how he just took his first PTO after two years with the company a couple months ago because "they've done so much for him". And what does he do? He ends up calling people on Monday, responding to emails, sending Teams messages, etc. throughout the week.
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The Maroon Hawk posted:I don’t even know 26 family members of mine off the top of my head, much less 26 I’d want to spend five days straight with I wonder if 26 is including kids, or if this is 26 adults plus kids. Either way, she'd be dealing with a decent-sized classroom as well as playing maidservant to the clan.
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my boss "no" to working weekends, when my coworkers don't? I got asked to work the weekend not long ago and just refused outright. The manager totally did not expect that and was mad as hell and blustering like crazy lol. I was quite proud of myself for not giving in to that nonsense, and I don't think I could live with myself if I did. gently caress sacrificing your life for literally nothing. Even worse here is the bait and switch. That's some serious bullshit.
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Hellblazer187 posted:Wait wait wait... he wanted pictures of your pets, thinking he could adopt them out from your house to his customers? He wanted pictures as specific examples of "Yes, this particular cat is one example of a cat you could have"???? If it's just "Yup, here's some cats, look at how cute cats in general can be! Let me refer you to an excellent shelter I know of now that you're sold on the concept of having a cat" I don't see the problem. But if it's like, trying to take your babies away to score a sale or something, jfc, never be friends with him again. I have no clue. After I blew up on him, he uttered the best words ever to say in an argument: Calm down. He did admit he "almost had them sold" on getting a cat. He was surprised when I reminded him one cat has a heart defect, so, you know, not adoptable outside the rescue. I am still levels of WTF about this all. AITA For cancelling my brother's wedding quote:** reposted with the mods permission
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For the reception you have a choice of chicken, beef, or the hand that feeds
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:It’s amazing the absolute dogshit quality of apps some organizations will pay for. Like bored teenagers make better designed and more functional apps that some of the poo poo I’ve seen the institutions use. Half the time it’s basically a lovely wrapper around a better existing system. I read an enlightening book (David Graeber's Bullshit Jobs) which stated that in the US at least, the number of admins at schools has quadrupled while the student-teacher ratio remains roughly the same. Many (most) of these admins have no real important job to do, so their job becomes justifying their own paycheck in order to feel important, survive any budget cuts, and just alleviate their own boredom and knowledge that they are parasites. The solution is to gently caress with the teachers by telling them they are doing it wrong, Surely these idiots who have been teaching for only 20 years would surely do better if they had the benefit of more alphabet soup acronyms from some jackass who just finished educational theory grad school. Just use the wonky app, and your kids will LEARN GOOD. Then they can pad their resume by claiming they spearheaded some new app initiative that REVOLUTIONISED LEARNING at their school when it is time to jump ship and spread their misery somewhere else. If they didn't spend all their time shilling bullshit solutions to non existent problems, then some Budget People might notice that they are just a parasitic drain on the school at large.
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Cowslips Warren posted:I have no clue. After I blew up on him, he uttered the best words ever to say in an argument: Calm down. Mmmmm delicious hand that feeds Vintage
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Cowslips Warren posted:
Looks like hands are back on the menu
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spacetoaster posted:An app on your personal phone? You'll never succeed in an admin job. We have school meetings over Zoom (Covid). You must use your school email to log in to Zoom. After the meeting, the admins take attendance to show who sat through 90 minutes of crap during their lunch that should have been an email. Now, Zoom has a recording function, and also it checks our emails. Surely that's a good way to check attendance (which is loving worthless in itself). No. It is not. We have highly paid attendance checkers. They have devised a QR code. They display the QR code on Zoom, and then you use your phone to scan the QR code, which provides you a link to a google doc. You go into the google doc and enter one of the 40 passwords we have to remember (which must be changed every month by school decree) to show that you went into a meeting. No, they cannot copy-paste the Google Docs link into the meeting chat, the admins worked very hard on this QR code, isn't it cool and high tech?
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Baronjutter posted:It's so pathetic and awful to see how thoroughly stockholm syndrome'd so many workers are there days. The whole world of tech is specially bad for that. Like everyone has solidarity with their boss and sees their fellow workers only as potential rivals and people who aren't carrying their weight. So, last year our school (which is incredibly ridiculously rich) openly expressed its intent to downsize a bunch of the lower paid service workers like teacher's assistants for some bullshit reason or another (probably wanted to hire someone's cousin to develop an app). The teachers all thought this was incredibly stupid, so they held a 'secret meeting' in order to plan some sort of resistance to be enacted by the teachers as a united front. This meeting was called by the longest-serving teacher, who I previously thought was a spineless piece of poo poo. But wow, a secret resistance meeting? This guy is awesome! Sign me up! I proposed immediately that we all just refuse to teach until the school backed down on this dumb issue, and honestly inform any parent who asked about how the school was loving over its most vulnerable workers during a pandemic. I was shouted down. "What about the children?" "We should be fortunate we have jobs at all during a pandemic!" "That would be unprofessional behavior!" and other such drivel. The majority-agreed upon solution after a vote was for all of us to voluntarily suggest that we receive pay cuts so that the school would have room in the budget to pay teacher assistants. I really wanted to kick that guy's rear end more than anyone I have ever met. What a loving worm.
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# ? Dec 3, 2021 03:33 |
There's a tenant at my apartment complex that has been complaining to my complex. Today, he made up a heniois lie about my roomate and I...OP posted:So I live in a really luxurious apartment complex. I'm a web developer that makes good money. However, I grew up poor and "trashy" all my life, so I don't look like I belong here. And it seems like there is at least one tenant wanting me out of there. Sounds like typical OP probably leaving the real details out stuff so far, but nothing obvious, just that he looks trashy and apparently let a dog get out once? Lets see some of his replies OP posted:Idk why you're making it out to be as if I'm doing something wrong. I came here saying I have never done anything wrong except the occasional loud music (before midnight mind you) and I've made sure to not let it happen. Loud music would definitely get me upset, especially since his definition of okay is "before midnight". OP posted:As far as not looking poor anymore. I do need some very expensive dental procedures to get my teeth to look normal. Unfortunately, my insurance won't cover it and I need to pay about $10k out of pocket and my credit isn't good enough to get care credit. Hmmm I wonder what's wrong with his teeth? Let's check his most recent post OP in a different thread posted:I don't shoot, I just snort, so maybe that's where I'm missing the mark. But I noticed if I smoke speed, it will waste the dope. Like I don't feel the dope, just the meth. So I always gotta make sure I wait a while after smoking before doing dope. Oh, I think I might have an idea why OP's neighbors a worried about having him living there. wilderthanmild fucked around with this message at 03:52 on Dec 3, 2021 |
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he didn't. matter of fact he planned to sit at the table and tell stories about his dad while I handle everything. not only that but my inlaws are known to be selfish and believe that as 'guests' they don't have to help out the host since it's my responsibilty. I mean I've been there before serving his family when they visit while he sits with them. but the whole family while working and pregnant and taking care of my son? that was a no from me. his family are of course aren't happy as well. posted:Whole family of winners.
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