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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for yelling at my boyfriend and telling him he acts like a needy 5 year old Why are so many people dating cats? She should have just grabbed a laser pointer to distract him.
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exmachina posted:I'm getting a strong Asian family vibe That or some flavor of ultra-fundamentalist. Mormons. Orthodox Jewish. Weird Christians who aren't Mormon but dress in prairie dresses and button-up shirts anyway. Also I've met a few people who come from the richest family in a tiny, podunky town who would probably have this attitude towards someone with lots of tattoos. Biggest fish in the tiniest pond people can often be cartoonishly snobby in ways that actual rich people wouldn't even think about.
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Dec 8, 2021 02:58
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vonnegutt posted:Can someone explain to me why it doesn't make sense to just repeat the same schedule every pay period? I have never understood this. Point in case about businesses trashing their staff rather than allow unions have this from today. https://twitter.com/QasimRashid/status/1468362504065765379?s=20
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Dec 8, 2021 03:05
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AITA for not wanting my gf to get Botox?quote:My gf grinds her teeth at night and has been wearing a night guard but still manages to wear down her teeth. She thinks it’s out of stress and she insists she’s had it since she was in her early teens. She has massive jaw muscles that most people probably wouldn’t find attractive but that I love. She came to me after a dentist appointment saying they found another cracked tooth and her dentist recommended Botox. Her dentist referred her to some specialist dentist who evaluated her and said she was a good candidate. I looked online about Botox for grinding and found while it works for some people there are definitely risks and she is also focused on how it will shrink her jaw muscles. (My para breaks)
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Dec 8, 2021 03:20
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not wanting my gf to get Botox? From the title: YTA From the post: Wow even bigger AH, it's for medical reasons but he'd rather have her either be in pain or take mood altering meds she doesn't want, just because he wants her to look more attractive to him
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Dec 8, 2021 03:39
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not wanting my gf to get Botox? "No, she's the one being shallow not me!!" Scumbag
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Dec 8, 2021 03:41
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The entire "I think her jawline should look one way and she hates it and would like something else" thing is ... classic, but at least it's a new body part to obsess over, I guess? Also, as an aside: if she does manage to get the anxiety under control, and that does reduce stress and teeth grinding, won't that eventually lead to her jaw muscles shrinking down a bit anyway?
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Dec 8, 2021 03:45
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not wanting my gf to get Botox? Seems kind of similar to guys who don't want their SOs to get breast reduction surgery to reduce back pain. "That feature that made me find you attractive turned out to be detrimental to your health, and now I'm mad that you're doing something about it!" Also someone should maybe tell OP that his girlfriend can get botox treatments *and* take time out of her day to do stress reducing mediation *and* take stuff for her anxiety (if she prefers all natural stuff there's always kava) all at once. Guy seems like a controlling dickwad.
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Dec 8, 2021 03:58
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My friend has some bad acne (and combined with her being short, makes her look like she's in high school still), and her parents keep pushing her to get this insane medicine that made her feel like poo poo, but did make the acne subside a bit. Her husband, also my friend, told her not to take the poo poo if she didn't want to (and she didn't, from the side effects), and when her parents found out that their expensive "gift of treatment" wasn't being used, they threw a poo poo fit, saying her husband didn't want her to look better because then she would leave him. AITA for feeding my toddler extremely spicy food? quote:I come from a family who love spicy food. Oh yes, toddlers, known for being super not picky.
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Dec 8, 2021 04:01
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I know how she can reduce her anxiety level instantly and permanently 
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Dec 8, 2021 04:03
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WoodrowSkillson posted:While there are exceptions, nearly any job that would involve traveling for 2 weeks at a time would make accomodations for a birth. That implies white collar, where the edge gets dulled a bit as everyone has vacation, sick time, and even maternity leave, not paternity though. Either he was cheating, or is a psycho who chose to travel, he was not forced to. He's definitely a psycho. It's okay for his *stepmother* to see the baby before he does, but not OP's mother? Yeah. Trying to isolate her from the people who love her. See also moving her far away from all her support systems.
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Dec 8, 2021 04:15
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for yelling at my boyfriend and telling him he acts like a needy 5 year old I have met a number of people like this, including an ex of mine who wouldn't stop talking when I was getting a call from my dad who was in critical care in the hospital. You cannot escape them, they don't understand the hand signals to wait a moment, be quiet, or go away. If you tell the person on the phone to hold on a moment and explain that it's an important call and you'll tell them about it when you're done, they will just ask more questions. The only solution is to get into a vehicle and drive away. If you just go into a room, they'll knock on your window and get their face right next to the window to keep asking. If you go into a room with a locking door they'll bang on the door. And it isn't necessarily malicious or controlling, some people are just incredibly nosey and aren't mentally capable of thinking of things from other people's perspectives without prompting.
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Dec 8, 2021 04:19
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Computer viking posted:The entire "I think her jawline should look one way and she hates it and would like something else" thing is ... classic, but at least it's a new body part to obsess over, I guess? From what I've been told by several women who want/got this for cosmetic reasons, no, not really.
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Dec 8, 2021 04:19
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not wanting my gf to get Botox? "But honey, you're beautiful just the way you are. Your jaw isn't too big." *Boyfriend absent-mindedly cracks walnuts in one of his collection of lady nutcrackers*
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Dec 8, 2021 04:28
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Arsenic Lupin posted:He's definitely a psycho. It's okay for his *stepmother* to see the baby before he does, but not OP's mother? Yeah. Trying to isolate her from the people who love her. See also moving her far away from all her support systems. Also telling her to rely solely on the stepmother who explicitly doesn't do infant care. No way in Hell he didn't know that beforehand.
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Dec 8, 2021 04:37
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Late Fees posted:
A woman I knew from undergrad split up with her husband a couple years ago. They had two sub-5 year old kids. She was really evasive as to why they'd split, just that he was trying for sole custody. I'd only met her husband a couple times, one of which was when he helped me move, and I couldn't see him doing anything jerkish. She told me about a year in to this ongoing tale of woe that the reason they'd split was because she'd suggested opening up the relationship, and when he said no, she left him. We don't talk anymore.
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olylifter posted:A woman I knew from undergrad split up with her husband a couple years ago. They had two sub-5 year old kids. She was really evasive as to why they'd split, just that he was trying for sole custody. I'd only met her husband a couple times, one of which was when he helped me move, and I couldn't see him doing anything jerkish. You're free to not talk to her, but what do you think she should have done? People change and stop being compatible for whatever reason and separate. Would it be better for her to cheat or for them to suffer a miserable marriage in front of their kids? I think cheating is a lot worse than being honest with your partner that it's not working for you.
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Dec 8, 2021 04:58
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lidnsya posted:You're free to not talk to her, but what do you think she should have done? People change and stop being compatible for whatever reason and separate. Would it be better for her to cheat or for them to suffer a miserable marriage in front of their kids? I think cheating is a lot worse than being honest with your partner that it's not working for you. I think if you're being honest that it's not working you should probably just be upfront about it rather than trying to have it both ways with the open relationship talk.
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Hankering to sleep with other people is not going to garner a lot of sympathy as a reason to blow up a marriage + family.
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Dec 8, 2021 05:06
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the holy poopacy posted:I think if you're being honest that it's not working you should probably just be upfront about it rather than trying to have it both ways with the open relationship talk.
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Dec 8, 2021 05:08
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the holy poopacy posted:I think if you're being honest that it's not working you should probably just be upfront about it rather than trying to have it both ways with the open relationship talk. Basically, polyamory shouldn't start with "I want to sleep with other people, so I'll call it polyamory."
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Dec 8, 2021 05:09
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the holy poopacy posted:I think if you're being honest that it's not working you should probably just be upfront about it rather than trying to have it both ways with the open relationship talk. Alright I definitely agree with that.
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Dec 8, 2021 05:13
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BabyFur Denny posted:Well the exclusive relationship didn't work for her so she suggested something that would, can't really say that would be the wrong course of action Yeah but it didn't work for both of them and it was clear it was explained to him very poorly("I thought it would be more of a group thing"), probably in order to make sure there were no reasonable boundaries
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Dec 8, 2021 05:15
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Plus, as the person to bring it up, she absolutely had someone picked out that she was going to call/text immediately to gently caress once the husband agreed. That's not really polyamory moreso then wanting a free pass to gently caress around for a while.
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Dec 8, 2021 05:16
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AITA for refusing to snow blow my neighbor’s driveway for free?quote:I (27 M) live next to this guy in his 80s and he’s honestly a nightmare, but he’s old. So in like 2015 or so, I told him I would snow blow his driveway for free. Can you hurry it up with the snowblowing? I'm going out to breakfast for some hand that feeds me!
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Guildenstern Mother posted:Yeah but it didn't work for both of them and it was clear it was explained to him very poorly("I thought it would be more of a group thing"), probably in order to make sure there were no reasonable boundaries wait are you referring to the reddit thing or olylifter's story? Because the latter is what we were talking about. And I don't get that from their retelling. Plus if it didn't work for both of them then splitting up is the best thing to do. It's just like children, if one side wants to have them and the other doesn't, and neither want to sacrifice, there really is no other sane option.
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Dec 8, 2021 05:41
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Not wanting to be around someone who demanded a cheating pass years into a relationship with kids is also a valid personal decision OP You can make all kinds of decisions about how to treat people that will affect how others perceive you in ways you do not get to control, if that's a problem perhaps consider how much getting some strange is really worth to you A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 06:02 on Dec 8, 2021 |
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Dec 8, 2021 05:47
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Not wanting to be around someone who demanded a cheating pass years into a relationship with kids is also a valid personal decision OP I don't think cheating was ever on the table there, quite the opposite actually??
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Dec 8, 2021 06:07
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Tbh, your partner even bringing up opening the relationship could be a deal breaker for some people.
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Beachcomber posted:Tbh, your partner even bringing up opening the relationship could be a deal breaker for some people. Yeah thats a "well this is over". Its the same as your company saying they're gonna put you on a PIP, hit the bricks shits over
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Dec 8, 2021 06:31
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BabyFur Denny posted:I don't think cheating was ever on the table there, quite the opposite actually?? gently caress off.
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Beachcomber posted:Tbh, your partner even bringing up opening the relationship could be a deal breaker for some people.
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Beachcomber posted:Tbh, your partner even bringing up opening the relationship could be a deal breaker for some people. Because it usually means they've already cheated.
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Dec 8, 2021 07:26
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Unilaterally breaking marital fidelity will get you shat on. This isn't some sort of contemporary fad, doing the whole marriage/monogamy/children thing then acquiring a seven-year-itch is not ok.
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Dec 8, 2021 07:27
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Has anyone seen a marriage that opens up in the middle WORK? Every open/poly deal I know about that works started out that way because you set rules to begin with and... then everyone goes with them and it's fine!
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Hughlander posted:AITA for refusing to snow blow my neighbor’s driveway for free? I don't know how the hand that feeds tastes, but that story is delicious.
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Wife (31f) says she has crush on a friend (37m) but wants to continue to hang out with him in a group setting.quote:Me (31m) and my wife Jenna (31f) have been together 10 years. She has had multiple close male friendships during our relationship but none made me feel like this one. A few weeks ago we started getting together with some friends from work for a weekly bowling night. Jenna quickly hit it off with Henry (37m) and they have been getting close. I had to leave town on business for a week and in that time they hung out together one on one after everyone but them canceled. Then he gave her a custom bowling ball as a gift. I already had my suspicions but after that I thought he might have feeling for Jenna. I talked about it with her and she said she also had feelings for him and thought it was best they didn’t hang out one on one anymore. However she doesn’t want to give up the bowling night. Im not sure what to do, I can’t imagine I’ll have fun knowing Jenna has a crush on Henry and suspecting he feels the same way. and I would prefer we not go, but I don’t want to be overbearing and keep her from hanging out with people. Should I just let her go alone?
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PringleCreamEgg posted:I have met a number of people like this, including an ex of mine who wouldn't stop talking when I was getting a call from my dad who was in critical care in the hospital. You cannot escape them, they don't understand the hand signals to wait a moment, be quiet, or go away. If you tell the person on the phone to hold on a moment and explain that it's an important call and you'll tell them about it when you're done, they will just ask more questions. The only solution is to get into a vehicle and drive away. If you just go into a room, they'll knock on your window and get their face right next to the window to keep asking. If you go into a room with a locking door they'll bang on the door. Mm, no, it's necessarily malicious and controlling. Same as Lundy Bancroft says in his workshop for domestic abusers: "Hey fellas, who among us here has ever slugged his old lady or called her a bitch?" (dozens of hands proudly shoot up) "Okay, okay, okay, now who's ever called his mom a bitch?" and everyone's hand shoots down faster than the Flash. "Dr. Bancroft, are you crazy? I couldn't treat my mommy that way! She's a person!" Sever immediately from anyone's who's so loving stupid they have literally not even attained theory of mind. Halloween Jack posted:AITA for telling my boyfriend that he should’ve covered up his tattoos if he wanted ANY respect from my family? Gee golly gosh gloriosky, I wonder if OP and her shitheel family are white and her beau is not white, and these tattoos are merely a proxy for something else.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for not wanting my gf to get Botox? When my dentist recommended a night guard for my teeth grinding, I watched some videos of what happens to your mouth when this sort of thing goes untreated. It’s pretty god drat horrifying. gently caress this guy with a blowtorch is what I’m saying. e: I was grinding my teeth and not little defenseless fishes. Flared Basic Bitch fucked around with this message at 09:57 on Dec 8, 2021 |
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Invisible Clergy posted:Gee golly gosh gloriosky, I wonder if OP and her shitheel family are white and her beau is not white, and these tattoos are merely a proxy for something else. Yeah I kinda wondered if there's an unspoken racial element to it as well. Side note: an "unspoken racial element" always reminds me of that classic legaladvice story from threads past where the OP had convinced his sister to ignore their late gay brother's will, defrauding the brother's husband of a 7-figure inheritance, almost entirely because they were a family of homophobic bigots. But it also included the phrase "my father made some minor racial comments, and" which randomly pops into my head every couple of months and always makes me chuckle
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