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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for having my wedding on brother's "divorce anniversary" Yeah, no, my "get drunk and cry about sleeping around and ruining my marriage" day is a sacred and healthy ritual. Better not override it with anything happier, me and the bottle got plans.
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Das Boo posted:Yeah, no, my "get drunk and cry about sleeping around and ruining my marriage" day is a sacred and healthy ritual. Better not override it with anything happier, me and the bottle got plans. And considering it’s the family go-to excuse for why he cheated anyway, what can we do but encourage and enable his clear substance abuse issues?!
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Dec 8, 2021 16:15
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$400 a week is bonkers for a regular person and would mean she is high out of her mind while watching kids. Get as high as you want at night with a sober partner there, otherwise dude is entirely too lenient as it is.
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Dec 8, 2021 16:23
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Maiden posted:Generally when it works it's because the pair both want to welcome the third into the relationship. Usually it just crashes and burns though, 'cause it's generally not about being poly and one wants to just sleep around. Which rarely works out 'cause most people in a committed monogamous relationship aren't emotionally able to handle the other sleeping with other people because of societal norms with regards to relationships and sex. Implying that monogamous people are emotionally immature is an annoying trait of poly people that probably isn't doing them any favors.
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Dec 8, 2021 16:23
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Well gee I wonder if any of those siblings are the golden child who grew up being taught that consequences happen to other people. If only I could get a read on those family dynamics.
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Dec 8, 2021 16:27
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sorry that you're not able to emotionally handle me playing video games 100 hours a week while you take care of the bill and the house and the kids. come back and talk when you're ready to break free of society's artificial expectations.
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WoodrowSkillson posted:$400 a week is bonkers for a regular person and would mean she is high out of her mind while watching kids. Get as high as you want at night with a sober partner there, otherwise dude is entirely too lenient as it is. $400/MONTH. Not a week. Which is actually a pretty normal amount to go through for someone who uses premium stuff at night after the kids are asleep.
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Dec 8, 2021 16:40
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WoodrowSkillson posted:$400 a week is bonkers for a regular person and would mean she is high out of her mind while watching kids. Get as high as you want at night with a sober partner there, otherwise dude is entirely too lenient as it is. To clarify, it was $100 a week/$400 a month. But like other posters have already mentioned, if she's going through $100 of wax/shatter every 7 days, she might be getting way more blitzed than is reasonable for a person who is also supposed to be taking care of kids. efb
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AITA for not letting my MIL spend time with my baby unsupervised?quote:I (31) and my husband, J (34) have a daughter, C (10 months). Since she was born my MIL has been on at me asking me when I’m going to have her ears pierced. C will not be having her ears pierced until she asks for it (so definitely not yet when she can’t even speak). She says it’s hypocritical of me considering all the piercings I have (several piercings on both ears, plus my nose), but my own mother wouldn’t let me even get my earlobes pierced until I was 10. MIL had both SILs pierced when they were tiny, and she keeps going on about how “it’s better because they won’t remember it”. J says he supports whatever decision I make on the matter because I’m the one who would have to clean it (I stay home with C, J works full time).
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Dec 8, 2021 16:41
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It's a lot if it's cheap or moderate stuff, but if she's splurging on the fancy stuff from the dispensary, you can actual sink cash fast that way I'm imagining someone buying fancy booze for a high price and sipping it nightly over time vs someone who buys a $10-15 bottle of wine or cheap spirits every day. They may end up spending the similar amounts in the long run, but in vastly different manners and approaches. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 18:23 on Dec 8, 2021 |
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Dec 8, 2021 16:42
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StrangersInTheNight posted:It's a lot if it's cheap or moderate stuff, but if she's splurging on the fancy stuff from the dispensary, you can actual sink cash fast that way OP clarifies in the comments they're not in a legal state, so not going to a dispensary. $400/month is a lot of money. There's got to be a way to get a nice weed high regularly for less than that. My ex an I used to go through almost that much in herb 10 years ago. I've never had concentrates so I don't really know how the price to highness ratio works there. But like, we were definitely smoking way too much in those days. It was absolutely a problem behavior.
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Dec 8, 2021 16:47
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Cream-of-Plenty posted:To clarify, it was $100 a week/$400 a month. But like other posters have already mentioned, if she's going through $100 of wax/shatter every 7 days, she might be getting way more blitzed than is reasonable for a person who is also supposed to be taking care of kids. Ah yeah that is a bit more reasonable, but even then, for someone with childcare bills $5,200 is a lot of cash
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Dec 8, 2021 16:47
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I'm a pretty heavy weed dabber, and a gram of wax lasts me a month, easy. If I switched to being high all day every day, I can't imagine needing more than two grams. Each gram is $25-40 here in Washington. I knew people that spent in the $400 dollar a month range when it was illegal, but sheesh. She's either paying way too much or has a hell of a tolerance. We're not going to get that information out of hubby in any case.
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Dec 8, 2021 16:48
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AITA? My boyfriend made me dinner and I added toppings/condiments to my dish. Is that rude?quote:So basically what the title says. He made salmon, rice and veggies for dinner. When it was time to eat, I made sure to taste everything how it came out. Complimented him and then added chili oil and furikake to my rice. It’s a habit to add toppings and I usually add these to whenever I make salmon dinner. He got upset and said it’s as if I didn’t like how it originally tasted and he was offended. I was confused and I explained it’s like adding hoisin and sriracha to pho or asking for hot sauce at a diner. I brushed it off and that made him apparently super pissed so he picked up my plate while I was eating and demanded I stop giving off an attitude and apologize. Obviously I was shocked and pissed when he did that. At the end he threw the food in the trash and now we’re just in separate rooms fuming. AITA?
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Dec 8, 2021 16:48
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Ah so that's why then. It's grey market so there's a cost to acquire added on. Shatter is different from flower, it's much more concentrated. She could absolutely buy just weed for less, but likely her experience would be way different and not as pleasant for her due to the lower thc content. And yes, poo poo really can be that much more expensive in places where it isn't legal, sigh. I don't smoke shatter for that reason, it costs a lot here.
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Dec 8, 2021 16:49
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA? My boyfriend made me dinner and I added toppings/condiments to my dish. Is that rude? Yeah, that's stupid. My parents used to get all high and mighty about it like "taste it before you decide it needs salt/soy sauce" and I'm like it always does, everybody's food is bland as gently caress, I know what I like Chili oil and furikake don't cover anything, they add nice layers of sensation. just gently caress off dude
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Dec 8, 2021 16:51
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That said she could totally be getting too blitzed to be around kids, sounds likes a shatter version of wine mom tbh, but his problem actually just seems to be the cash amount is a sticking point and not the potential for her to be not sober which is lol
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Dec 8, 2021 16:53
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LRADIKAL posted:I'm a pretty heavy weed dabber, and a gram of wax lasts me a month, easy. If I switched to being high all day every day, I can't imagine needing more than two grams. Each gram is $25-40 here in Washington. I knew people that spent in the $400 dollar a month range when it was illegal, but sheesh. She's either paying way too much or has a hell of a tolerance. We're not going to get that information out of hubby in any case. Yeah I’m not sure how this guy is getting 3.5 grams for 100 bucks in an illegal state, it seems pretty cheap. I can only get 2 for that.
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Dec 8, 2021 16:55
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honestly $400 worth of shatter a month is the floor for how high stay at home parents should be, they typed, stay-at-home-parentishly.
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Dec 8, 2021 16:57
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for not letting my MIL spend time with my baby unsupervised? My sister would not give up on piercing both of her daughters' ears when they were infants because "What if someone thinks they're boys?" You know, because that kind of confusion is so much worse than constant infections or one of them pulling the earring until it tore through the lobe and needed surgery.
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Dec 8, 2021 17:00
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MarcusSA posted:Wife (31f) says she has crush on a friend (37m) but wants to continue to hang out with him in a group setting. 
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Dec 8, 2021 17:01
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AITA for leaving a family vacation early?quote:I (27F) was invited on a family vacation to vegas. It included me, my mom and her husband, and my brother (8M). We had a couple family activities planned but obviously, it’s vegas, I wanted to go to a show or two and to the casinos.
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Dec 8, 2021 17:15
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Lieutenant Dan posted:Well poo poo, I retract my previous statement, I didn't realize it was that much more potent than regular ol weed. Dang The best shatter will be about 3x as much THC as the best weed.
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Dec 8, 2021 17:27
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Midnight Voyager posted:Has anyone seen a marriage that opens up in the middle WORK? Every open/poly deal I know about that works started out that way because you set rules to begin with and... then everyone goes with them and it's fine!
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Dec 8, 2021 17:31
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Brawnfire posted:Yeah, that's stupid. My parents used to get all high and mighty about it like "taste it before you decide it needs salt/soy sauce" and I'm like it always does, everybody's food is bland as gently caress, I know what I like My grandmother used to make soup (affectionately referred to as "chicken gut soup" because it was full of hearts and livers) without salt so that everyone could salt it to their taste at the table. "No, that's too much salt," my parents chided me, as I attempted to add as much salt as I wanted. Now I am grown and I can make my soup as salty as I crave! Anyway, taste the food first so you know how much you need.
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Dec 8, 2021 17:35
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Every poly person I've ever known has been a hot mess, maybe sane ones exist but definitely they're the exception not the rule. The one I still hear about sometimes because he's a friend of a friend is happily married and also is just horrifically aggressive in his wanting to gently caress anything that moves. Like trying to break up relationships so he can gently caress the girls, trying to get women drunk and take advantage of them, specifically targeting women with low self esteem and mental illness because it makes them "vulnerable", shaming people for being monogamous if you try to get him to back off, and way too willing to share nudes of his "conquests" without their consent. He's more dramatic than most but he's certainly not the only guy like that I've met.
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Dec 8, 2021 17:48
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Dik Hz posted:Maybe they crash and burn because most people in monogamous relationships picked monogamous relationships because that's the type of relationship they prefer? What a weird thing to take away from my post. Nowhere did I call them immature, nowhere did I say poly is better. Perhaps you should read less into posts on the internet.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for leaving a family vacation early? My first trip to Vegas wasn't quite "you're the babysitter bad" but the net experience was similar with a lot of sitting in a hotel room. If I hadn't been 15, I would have bailed on that trip so loving hard.
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:honestly $400 worth of shatter a month is the floor for how high stay at home parents should be, they typed, stay-at-home-parentishly. nah i'm smart enough not to have kids while being the sort of hot mess i am
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ranbo das posted:Every poly person I've ever known has been a hot mess, maybe sane ones exist but definitely they're the exception not the rule. That's not a poly person, that's a sexual predator. I've known a handful of sane poly people, and what they all have in common is that they establish the ground rules at the start of a relationship rather than attempting to open them up later. Maiden posted:What a weird thing to take away from my post. Nowhere did I call them immature, nowhere did I say poly is better. Perhaps you should read less into posts on the internet. What exactly did you mean by "emotionally unable to handle their partner doing X because of societal norms?" I don't know how to read that as anything but uncharitable. Zulily Zoetrope fucked around with this message at 17:59 on Dec 8, 2021 |
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Halloween Jack posted:I'm going to go against the grain here: from what I've seen, wanting to gently caress other people is a lot easier for a relationship to digest than being in love with other people. (I cannot fathom why someone with a job, marriage, and kids would want another serious romantic relationship.) And there probably aren't a lot of people who come out to their spouse as theoretically poly; they want to be in a relationship with another, specific person. It's not analogous to coming out--when I came out as bi to my spouse, it wasn't because I wanted to gently caress Jason from spin class. Yeah, opening things up for sex tends to work better than opening things up for full-on romantic relationships between one partner and another person. The whole swinging scene is filled to the brim with monogamous couples who've been together for years and have decided they want to have some fun/scratch that 7 year itch, and the success rate there is fairly high. EDIT: And poly can definitely work, but as stated above it tends to work for people who start out that way. I've got some friends who are a throuple, live together, and recently celebrated their 5-year anniversary. Two of them were together about two years before the third person came into the picture, but they were always poly and each of them always dated other people throughout the relationship (and all of them continue to do so). LanceHunter fucked around with this message at 18:03 on Dec 8, 2021 |
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I don't consider myself a "swinger," though, probably because I don't have a moustache and take off my jewelry before I get in a hot tub.
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Maiden posted:What a weird thing to take away from my post. Nowhere did I call them immature, nowhere did I say poly is better. Perhaps you should read less into posts on the internet. I think we can all agree we should read your posts less! StrangersInTheNight posted:Ah so that's why then. It's grey market so there's a cost to acquire added on. Given how potent even just highschooler-grade poo poo has gotten needing to pound through the equivalent of, what, an ounce a week sounds absolutely wretched good lord A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 18:16 on Dec 8, 2021 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I think we can all agree we should read your posts less! Half an ounce per month of shatter at her rate of 1/8th a week. Unless you were trying to calculate a comparable thc intake through flowers instead? Edit: yeah just noticed the word equivalent, my bad Tenkaris fucked around with this message at 18:23 on Dec 8, 2021 |
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Dec 8, 2021 18:19
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weed flower is roughly 15% thc levels shatter and concentrate can be in the 90% levels of thc, so they're significantly stronger. it's like the difference between wine and spirits as for it being like smoking an ounce of weed a week, drat I dunno that ~28g of flower = 3.5g of shatter but I guess I could be wrong there StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 18:26 on Dec 8, 2021 |
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I could certainly give a go at ingesting $400 a month, but it would be buying super primo poo poo, like fancy edibles and drinks, specialty oils and waxes or super premium buds. Not worth it to me!
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AITA for pointing out the fact that my ‘friend’ had to have scrolled all the way to 2016 in my tagged photos to get a specific picture of me after her apology?quote:I (21f) eat only halal. I’m an international student and I made a new friend, let’s call her B from my course recently. We’ve been out to eat a few times with people from our course and a few mutual friends.
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I just don't understand how a person spends more than 20 dollars a month on weed, that gets me blasted out of my mind 3 times a week every week in a month. Flower heating vape pens work very efficiently. Or maybe I am just blessed with low tolerance? Anyway, content: AITA for getting my neighbors arrested over weed? quote:So let me preface this, I don't agree with what happened as I believe recreational use of marijuana should be legal.
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Mr. Lobe posted:I just don't understand how a person spends more than 20 dollars a month on weed, that gets me blasted out of my mind 3 times a week every week in a month. Flower heating vape pens work very efficiently. Or maybe I am just blessed with low tolerance?
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