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StrangersInTheNight posted:People who take it on themselves to be community watch are the loving creepiest, that guy deserves to be mega-owned by his community. Get a loving hobby rather than policing gay teens, goddamn. Like, even if it was a bike theft, the community doesn't need you on watch 24-7 to prevent such 'heinous' crimes, you're winding yourself up in your own idleness. I'm just glad people there see it as bad, bc in plenty of places in the US, hyper-anxious vigilance is considered not just normal but preferred I left the neighborhood Facebook group because people were constantly winding themselves up about the dumbest poo poo. Someone standing on a street corner in the middle of the day? Casing houses to rob or getting ready to kidnap people. Doubly so if they weren’t white. Telling them if they were THAT concerned, they should consider calling it into the non-emergency line really pissed them off as they “just wanted the neighborhood to know”.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 17:52 |
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Me [30 F] with my husband [32 M] of 8 years, found possible evidence of cheating. I'm devastated.quote:I don't know where exactly to start. He is working late tonight (or that is what he says) so I thought I'd take some time to write in and ask for advice. Sorry for this being disjointed, I've been pretty emotional and crying a lot this evening. UPDATE (added in the original post) quote:I immediately freaked out because I did NOT feel ready to talk to him. I was super pissed at my sister for calling him and to be honest I felt like the entire world was falling down around my ears. I broke down. I didn't even know where I was but when I heard the front door open I realized I was on my knees in the kitchen sobbing.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 17:59 |
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With the bike "theft" picture combined with the "I just wanted to check if they should be out at night!" 'excuse', I wonder if she is also not white in a predominantly white area, but I figure that would have probably been mentioned.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:02 |
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the united states was built by telling people "go live over there and kill everyone who defies our recognized order, they aren't really human" these nextdoor snitches think they're being good people, because in their hearts they think they have the right to decide who lives and dies, and they still aren't directly killing the people* who deserve it, they're respecting all the rules! they're raising their hands and waiting for teacher to call on them! gold star, you genocidal fucks.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:06 |
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I want to put in a little camera to see the front of the garage (that's where they leave packages, and it's close to the street) but I'm trying to figure out an angle and such so it's NOT pointing out into the street or at my neighbors house. I really don't want to be one of those people.Hughlander posted:Me [30 F] with my husband [32 M] of 8 years, found possible evidence of cheating. I'm devastated. A travel agent sent an email titled "Our Trip!" ?
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:09 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:People who take it on themselves to be community watch are the loving creepiest, that guy deserves to be mega-owned by his community. Get a loving hobby rather than policing gay teens, goddamn. Like, even if it was a bike theft, the community doesn't need you on watch 24-7 to prevent such 'heinous' crimes, you're winding yourself up in your own idleness. I'm just glad people there see it as bad, bc in plenty of places in the US, hyper-anxious vigilance is considered not just normal but preferred I was delighted to discover those assholes don't change one bit when you move into a neighborhood that gets actual crime either, stalk and harass anyone walking on the sidewalk and vanish like a loving ghost for a week when there's a shooting.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:12 |
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Rescue Toaster posted:I want to put in a little camera to see the front of the garage (that's where they leave packages, and it's close to the street) but I'm trying to figure out an angle and such so it's NOT pointing out into the street or at my neighbors house. I really don't want to be one of those people. You do realize that "our" could mean the trip that she, the husband & his sister set up...right?
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:25 |
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Rescue Toaster posted:
Travel agents are just sales people so they tend to use a lot of "we" and "us" so you associate them with the good trip and come back to them, because repeat business is the big moneymaker.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:29 |
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Unless Deborah from Indianapolis was really into me in which case sorry I missed the signs but you're like twice my age 😟
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:31 |
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I didn't know travel agents still existed, so I'd assume the worst.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:39 |
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These days travel agents probably serve almost exclusively old people who expect that kind of language from service personnel
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:46 |
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Doc Hawkins posted:the united states was built by telling people "go live over there and kill everyone who defies our recognized order, they aren't really human" are you ok
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:57 |
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Rescue Toaster posted:I want to put in a little camera to see the front of the garage (that's where they leave packages, and it's close to the street) but I'm trying to figure out an angle and such so it's NOT pointing out into the street or at my neighbors house. I really don't want to be one of those people. Yeah, whatever the motivation that guy has a camera pointed at a playground and monitors it regularly. Even with the "best" of intentions don't tie your shoes in a watermelon patch, like my momma used to say.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:58 |
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Rescue Toaster posted:
Presumably that was the subject line. If he showed her it should have been totally obviously a form letter or even contain her reservation. Hi JAMES SMITH, Your trip to MIAMI FLORIDA with CAROL SMITH on US AIRLINES is a go! Click here to change or cancel your reservation -Alison
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 18:59 |
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sugar free jazz posted:are you ok more or less, considering. i did get a moderna booster yesterday, so maybe that's to blame if i sound loopy.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 19:06 |
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duffmensch posted:I left the neighborhood Facebook group because people were constantly winding themselves up about the dumbest poo poo. Neighborhood Facebook groups seem like the worst possible idea ever. All the annoyance of an HOA minus the fees, but with the addition of technically-illiterate morons posting things to the entire world. Oh, and the Nazis are gonna break up when they each find out they don’t hate the same people the exact same amount. “Why are you friends with Chuck? Don’t you know he’s one of the gays?”
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 19:10 |
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Nasty nosy busy bodies exist everywhere. In Russia they take the form of a gang of older ladies who would spend all day on chairs outside of the apartment door gossiping with each other and tracking and commenting on every single person that came and went. They would report everything they could to the authorities to get anyone breaking any sort of rule in trouble, and took delight in spreading rumours and causing fusses over petty minor poo poo. It was just pre-internet nextdoor. The same malicious gossip and snitching culture.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 19:15 |
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haveblue posted:These days travel agents probably serve almost exclusively old people who expect that kind of language from service personnel eh i can see the appeal of having a person just do things for you. if i was planning something that required a lot of effort to set up and someone could do it affordably i'd consider it, and then do it myself. But i can see other people making that choice.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 19:20 |
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Bruceski posted:Yeah, whatever the motivation that guy has a camera pointed at a playground and monitors it regularly. Even with the "best" of intentions don't tie your shoes in a watermelon patch, like my momma used to say. Oh, I like that.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 19:24 |
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Rescue Toaster posted:I want to put in a little camera to see the front of the garage (that's where they leave packages, and it's close to the street) but I'm trying to figure out an angle and such so it's NOT pointing out into the street or at my neighbors house. I really don't want to be one of those people. Could it be that the husband started the email thread with that subject?
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 19:25 |
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Variable 5 posted:Oh, and the Nazis are gonna break up when they each find out they don’t hate the same people the exact same amount. “Why are you friends with Chuck? Don’t you know he’s one of the gays?”
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 19:32 |
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My Mom (60s) wanted to force a reconciliation between me (35F) and my sister (32) but it backfired. I don't know if I want her in my life anymore.quote:Background: I started dating my brother’s best friend when I was 16. We were together until I graduated high school when he proposed and I rejected it. There was a lot of drama, with my family asking me to reconsider because “we could have a long engagement“ or make a promise to reconcile. My relationship with my brother (36) suffered for a while, but the one with my sister (32) never recovered. She was sure my ex was the best fit for me and became unbearable when she started dating my ex’s brother. My ex was invited everywhere by my siblings, even to some family holidays, but I didn’t say anything since he was their friend too. That is until my sister started to push for us to get back together.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 19:48 |
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AITA for saying it's my grandparent's fault I don't embrace my culture?quote:I (16f) am half Korean and half German. However I am white-passing, I don't look Asian at all, I look 100% caucasian. My mom was an addict, she and dad divorced when I was 2, mom left for Germany and left me with dad. I am my family's greatest shame. My father is the firstborn son, his marriage to my mom was his rebellious stage and while he could pretend he never married her, he couldn't pretend I don't exist. I am a reminder of his failure. He quickly married a nice Korean woman and they had my siblings, 12f,12m,9m,7m.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 19:53 |
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I was curious what the comments were and what else the OP had to say. I found that the post was deleted for some reason? Would anyone mind explaining what the hell this means for someone who doesn't use reddit? "This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below." Why is there even a limit on comments? What the hell is karma? Wtf. Anyways, some choice quotes. OP posted "Yes we are almost the same age! The most ridiculous and scary thing is he still has the mix tapes (CDs) I made him when we were dating. Those things are about 20 years old and he still hold onto them." The ex is loving insane. Honestly the crazy sister should just marry him. Though that might be incestuous since she married the ex's brother already. NoBallroom4you posted "OP posted They wanted to have an intervention since my childish tactic has gone for so long." Oh man... I can't believe the treatment you have received. Keep everyone on a tight leash, I'm betting your mom pulled this stunt without your father's knowledge otherwise it would have immediately stopped." Op · She told him she was making me my favorite tea and sweets but he couldn't stay since we would have quality time together. My dad left to go hang with my uncle since he thought it was a nice sentiment from my mom. He is very pissed off. What a way to confront how insane your wife and daughter is. Goddamn.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 20:02 |
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Until I got to the "Issue" section, I was wondering where the ex-boyfriend is in all of this. Turns out he's a gleeful participant. He's stalking her, and I hope OP gets a restraining order because it sounds like she had a good case for it a long time ago. God only knows how much personal information her sister shared with him.value-brand cereal posted:The ex is loving insane. Honestly the crazy sister should just marry him. Though that might be incestuous since she married the ex's brother already. OP posted:My sister had this idea we would be best friends married to brothers. Halloween Jack fucked around with this message at 20:11 on Dec 9, 2021 |
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packetmantis posted:My cat absolutely loves golf, she goes nuts when they do a zoom in on putting into the hole. packetmantis posted:Oh gently caress my cat is bougie She may be having a predator response watching the tiny white round mouse escape into the hole. Either way, adorable
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Kuiperdolin posted:It's not often r/relationships posts get a trailer. yeah i am reeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaallll curious what her "narcissistic attackers" have to say about their conflict with her.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 20:37 |
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value-brand cereal posted:Why is there even a limit on comments? What the hell is karma? Wtf. Karma is a scoring system, you can upvote or downvote a post and individual comments. "Reached a karma limit" is code for "this is getting downvoted to poo poo so we're going to take it down to curb the inevitable drama". Same thing for number of comments. Reddit is a massive website, so if people from outside of a subreddit catch wind of a popular post you can get a huge torrent of comments that the mods might be unable or unwilling to deal with.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 20:38 |
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The Glumslinger posted:My Mom (60s) wanted to force a reconciliation between me (35F) and my sister (32) but it backfired. I don't know if I want her in my life anymore. I kind of skimmed this but holy gently caress, bringing in the ex and his mother to the "intervention" to a fully grown adult woman in a unrelated marriage about to have a kid...my first thought was that the sister was still angling to get the OP to leave her husband and get with the ex.
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 20:57 |
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Uh...is there any doubt?
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 21:19 |
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I've seen quite a few along those lines. People are dating and get to know the family, they break up and the family goes insane demanding they get back together. Like who you date isn't a personal choice but something the whole family needs to consent to. I always wonder if there's something more going on but can never figure out what. I actually had a real life friend go through something a little like this. Dated a lady for a few years but the relationship wasn't good and the reasons of course were private. She really ingratiated herself with his family, specially the mom who already saw her as her daughter in law and the daughter she never had. They broke up for good reasons but it was all stuff the family didn't know about since its personal, but the ex kept her relationship with the mom and family. Next thing you know there's massive pressure to get back together and "How could you have been so selfish and not thought of me and MY relationship with my daughter in law!" poo poo from the mom. Guy ends up going low contact with his mom and family because they simply will not let up on trying to get them back together and the ex is invited to every single family dinner or event. Eventually the mom and family figure out the ex was broken up with because she's loving nuts and just good at hiding it. Then get mad at my friend for not explaining why they broke up in greater detail and warning them that she was a manipulative psycho. He did of course explain a lot of that when they broke up but of course they didn't listen or accept. In this case I understood what was going on, the mom saw the ex as the daughter she never had and always wanted and clung to that. In other cases though I just don't get it.
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Baronjutter posted:I've seen quite a few along those lines. People are dating and get to know the family, they break up and the family goes insane demanding they get back together. Like who you date isn't a personal choice but something the whole family needs to consent to. I always wonder if there's something more going on but can never figure out what. I went through something like this. I've told this story before on here... I dated my sister's very close friend for three years. I broke it off because we weren't aligned on children or religion, he was too dependent on his mom, he took me for granted, and I didn't think I should marry the guy I started dating at 18. (I wanted to go have a slutty phase.) When I met my now-husband after a good slutty phase, my sister would not acknowledge his presence, not even say hello. I think she was just pissed at me for ending my relationship. When we got engaged, she sent a screenshot of my "I'm engaged!" text to my ex. They also gossiped about me a lot and made snipes at my husband. 14 years later, she's still never said a word to my husband. I always thought if she thought the ex was so great, SHE should have dated him. I ruined her image of him becoming her BIL I guess.
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AITA for asking my friend to not make carrots in the oven? (self.AmItheAsshole)quote:Me and my friends are hosting a dinner party for about ten people. We have only a small oven with one rack. I originally told her she could make her carrot recipe in the oven. However, after buying the ingredients it became clear that there was not space in the oven to make carrots along with roast potatoes and chicken. Given that of the three things carrots are the nicest to do on the hob rather than the oven (as agreed by everyone in the group we asked) I said we should do them on the hob rather than the oven. I even said I’ll show her a way to do them on the hob if she still wants to make something. She got very annoyed after I said there isn’t the space in the oven and said I was being selfish. I said there is just constraints when cooking for ten people with a small oven. Eventually I offered she makes them a few hours in advance and we heat them up. She agreed to this but is still angry with me, left our flat and won’t pick up my calls. AITA here? This is easier than the puzzle with the fox and the goose and the grain and they managed to gently caress it up
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Evil Willow posted:Closet dude is back at it! I enjoy* the "im not a bad person" line. IMO being adamant about that is a subtle detail characteristic of a manipulative person. Instead of the topic being about the thing they did, it becomes about trying to establish what kind of person they are which subtly drags the discussion to a place where they're the victim here somehow- Clearly it must be some kind of misunderstanding because theyre clearly not a person who would do that thing. How dare you suggest that theyre the kind of person who would etc etc. Refocusing the stakes this way can be very effective since many people with a sense of pity are hesitant to say “you are a bad person” even to a person who has done a bad thing. It also means any action they take to remedy things will be focused not on repairing the damage they did or avoiding similar events in the future , but establishing to all parties they are a Good Person who Doesn’t Mean It - gifts and favours and so on that deepen the cycle of abuse until the next event. massive spider fucked around with this message at 09:04 on Dec 10, 2021 |
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massive spider posted:I enjoy* the "im not a bad person" line. IMO being adamant about that is a subtle detail characteristic of a manipulative person. How DARE you imply I'm the kind of person who would do the thing I did
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 22:41 |
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so, with that psycho sister and ex story, who wants to bet OP didn't marry white enough or rich enough?
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# ? Dec 9, 2021 22:43 |
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Speaking of which... AITA for confronting my Ex about him abandoning his child for 6 years suddenly? quote:I(40f) got married to Matt(39m), my ex-husband when we were 19 as were highschool sweethearts after he joined the military. I got lonely and had an affair with Max (42m) around the time our daughter was conceived, Emily(19f). I never told Matt as it was only once. When Emily was 5, he was honorably discharged and disfigured being a SAHD to Emily with no intimacy. When she turned 12, he asked me Emily ours and I said she Yes but Matt pulled out paternity tests results and divorce papers.
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Halloween Jack posted:Speaking of which... lol "I love you but looking at you is painful therefore I left you 100% unsupported and struggling after 12 years of being in your life" there's like a 50% chance this starts one of those derails about making paternity tests mandatory at birth
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pentyne posted:lol "I love you but looking at you is painful therefore I left you 100% unsupported and struggling after 12 years of being in your life" I think there's some missing reasons there given he moved to a different state and changed his name, she mentions she's still single, and she doesn't do any intermediate steps between finding his new identity and turning up on his doorstep. Looks like the cheating mom had a fantasy of putting the family back together as things didn't work out with the bio father, who the daughter sees but is a bit of a dead beat. I think it's a bit different with a situation where people are actively supporting someone leaving you and then you stalk and ambush them in their own home six years later.
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Halloween Jack posted:Speaking of which... Uh?
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