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deep dish peat moss posted:I tried to file for unemployment, because I resigned from my last job when they stopped paying me. I requested unpaid leave, my request was denied and then they locked me out of our timecard system. I worked for 3 more weeks emailing back and forth with Payroll and HR every day and they just told me they didn't see the issue. Two consecutive paychecks went unpaid so I quit and had to file an unpaid wages claim with the state industrial commission to get paid. this is incredibly dumb. did you contact the unemployment office and explain the situation? I realize that this may get you nowhere and I'm not saying you should spend your mental health hammering at a wall of bureaucracy but it's worth seeing if you can get in touch with a human being with a bit of rationality.
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deep dish peat moss posted:I tried to file for unemployment, because I resigned from my last job when they stopped paying me. I requested unpaid leave, my request was denied and then they locked me out of our timecard system. I worked for 3 more weeks emailing back and forth with Payroll and HR every day and they just told me they didn't see the issue. Two consecutive paychecks went unpaid so I quit and had to file an unpaid wages claim with the state industrial commission to get paid. I'm not sure why but for some reason this makes me think it's Florida. Maybe it was some news article I read, or maybe I'm just imagining things. Anyway, that sucks, I'm sorry. |
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Dec 3, 2021 23:30
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I haven't. I think I can just file again either way which will start the 5-day mailing process again and I can have a response to the questionnaire pre-written, but it's probably more worth my time to just double down on the job search - I've been being pretty lazy about it 
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Running out of meds and the pharmacy having a back order on them suck. Was able to get a few of the prescriptions today after being without meds for the past 72 hours, but still missing two of them. To say that I have been backsliding in my recovery is an understatement. It's just so frustrating, I tried to do the right thing and refill earlier but it was too soon for insurance to cover. And then when I was allowed to refill the pharmacy was out. Just sucks. |
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I just realized last night that when somebody gives you a gift, you're expected to observe it and make some remark about it. It took 47 years for me to figure this out, and it wasn't until cruft jr commented on how funny it was that the person literally read the title of the box of chocolates aloud and said "huh". I guess people have probably been thinking I was pretty fuckin' weird about receiving gifts my entire life. I'd feel pretty self-conscious about this if I hadn't recently realized that when someone visits your house and brings a bottle of wine, they expect you to open it right there. We were piling up bottles of wine and wonder what the hell, we clearly have more than enough bottles of wine at this point. I have no cringe left for myself about receiving gifts. |
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Dec 13, 2021 22:44
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Dec 14, 2021 00:04
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I realized I need to rock hop to another job and it’s bumming me out. I sort of knew I would have to at some point after moving to the new house. My commute extended by quite a bit and that’s been a drag on all of us. And I haven’t been given the tools to do my job. I can’t hire anyone because the Human Resources department is a mess. I can’t review cameras for incidents or complaints because the security department refuses access to the cameras. There doesn’t seem to be any interest in promoting from within. It’s all just been getting tougher and tougher, wearing at the edges, making it harder to be in a solid place mentally to deal with my residents, all of whom have their own issues. But the real kicker was recently when they almost forced me to work Christmas morning for some dumb misguided press event. Never in my life have I worked Christmas Day. My father was a homicide detective with the NYPD and he never worked Christmas Day. And the fact I almost had to go to war over it and maybe miss the morning with my family has me exhausted. So off to sending out resumes and making calls I go. |
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Bo-Pepper posted:I realized I need to rock hop to another job and it’s bumming me out. best of luck. you do important work and deserve better. ---------------- |
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Dec 14, 2021 20:00
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I hope I find something soon because the realization I need to go somewhere else set off a burnout bomb inside me, making dealing with with things here ... tougher. |
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Dec 14, 2021 20:28
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I hope you find a new place soon, too, Bo-Pep. This hell world of job hunting sucks but it's something we have to do in order to keep doing the things we do to survive. And, I know you love helping people. And you're incredible at it. Be kind to yourself right now. |
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Dec 15, 2021 12:08
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I'm so homesick that I started selling off stuff I don't need or want, just so I have an excuse to pack lighter in the next few months. I think I'm really going to do this. I just hope the other drastic life decisions work out, too. |
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Dec 15, 2021 12:09
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Tl;Dr on this please don't click the spoilers if you are going to be upset by violence. My sister's ex bf got out of jail and made a beeline to her house within an hour, kicked in the door, attacked her, strangled her, shoved potting soil in her mouth and tried to suffocate her. She was able to kick him in the balls and get away, ran down to the church and got the preacher man who called 911 and her ex took off on foot. His grandma picked him up and patched him up and hid him. They arrested him and his grandma, who apparently drove him there to commit the act. My sister's jaw is broken, all her teeth are broken out, and her left orbital is shattered. Her neck is hosed up. Her left arm is broken. She will be ok physically with work but mentally she is not going to be ok for a very long time. I am livid. This is the same one I clocked a long while back. I am pushing on the state--a thing I don't do, you know me--about this and I have called in heavy lifters for this. All my favors are being cashed in and he's going to prison probably forever as is his mom and grandma because they helped orchestrate this. I'm done. I'm angry and I don't get angry but you don't hurt people i love. I can tank. I can take a lot. You don't hurt my baby sister. This ends here. Don't hurt people. Think good thoughts for my sister please. |
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Dec 15, 2021 23:50
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gently caress, i'm sorry. i've got complicated thoughts on the state and incarceration but i'm at least glad that hopefully you and your sister don't have to worry about this piece of poo poo anymore
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Dec 16, 2021 00:00
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wow hamjobs that is hard-core horrible. sending my very best thoughts/vibes to your sister and you and hoping that her recovery, both physical and mental, is quick and thorough, and that she is troubled no more by these violent cretins.
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Dec 16, 2021 00:08
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God that’s terrible, hamjobs. I hate that that happened. I’m glad your sister has someone like you in her corner though. Nurse her through it and kick all their asses. |
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Dec 16, 2021 00:27
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oh gently caress, i am so sorry this happened - sending good thoughts to you both and as bopep said glad she's got you in her corner. i hope that she's able to begin healing now physically and mentally even if it's a long road. much love to you and her and wishing very unBYOB things upon the rear end in a top hat who did this but i'll just leave it at that |
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Dec 16, 2021 15:54
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Cardi BYOB posted:Think good thoughts for my sister please. Most definitely. And poo poo dude, that's heavy stuff. I know you're both strong enough to handle this, but that sentence doesn't take away what happened and not sure if it helps at all. Ex sounds like he really want to see what the inside of Petosi looks like for the rest of his life. |
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Dec 16, 2021 19:04
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If someone even thought about doing that to my sister, save time and call the coroner. what happened is truly one of my biggest fears, and I’m so sorry you had to live it out. bury him under the jail for all I care. it doesn’t have to be the state to do it.
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Dec 16, 2021 19:24
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Thank you. Really. This is hosed. She's physically just in really bad shape but will get better. They pulled the stumps of her teeth and are doing massive dentistry when she heals enough. Jaw is now immobilized. Orbital is stabilized. Arm pinned and cast on. Trachea has been stabilized. Lacerations stitched, massive antibiotics because of what he used on her to hurt her. This is my nightmare. This is exactly my worst fear, this is something I have been through a few times in a slightly different flavor myself. I have never been this scared or angry and yet. I'm happy for her that maybe she's out now. |
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Dec 16, 2021 21:16
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Like what do you do when this happens but just try to do your job and keep pushing on people and take care of everyone and focus and eat food when you can and maybe make a joke when you can and then when you're in the shower you can scream. |
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Dec 16, 2021 21:17
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Cardi BYOB posted:Like what do you do when this happens but just try to do your job and keep pushing on people and take care of everyone and focus and eat food when you can and maybe make a joke when you can and then when you're in the shower you can scream. yeah, make sure you're taking care of yourself
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Dec 16, 2021 21:21
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Hi, I didn't have this thread bookmarked, I wonder what sort of glurge people have pos... You have a right to be pretty dang mad, orb. That's horrifying. I always feel like I want to help people in these situations, but there's not really anything I can do other than long-distance shoulder rubs, I guess. And make stupid jokes so that when folks feel like they need stupid jokes in order to take their mind off things, well, there they are. ILU HJ |
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Cardi BYOB posted:
wishing your sister and your family all the best, what the gently caress that's terrible |
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realized the depth of my current depressive episode when i noticed that i'm not excited about xmas i loving love xmas and am usually super hyped about it heck, orbs! heck!
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I didn't realize I had responded in the sincerepost thread! My brain had picked this as the general chat thread where such jokey responses are less poor... Sorry about Xmas being a bummer this year. Hopefully the warmth of the BYOB crew can help spark some joy back. It doesn't even feel like December here this year and it makes it almost surreal that it is Christmas time for me. Im.more dreading the January to come, I feel like my wife and I usually get a lousy post holiday crash. Zurtilik fucked around with this message at 18:37 on Dec 21, 2021
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biosterous posted:realized the depth of my current depressive episode when i noticed that i'm not excited about xmas  fwiw merry xmas my friend, hope that it turns out better than expected but it's okay not to be feeling it
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biosterous posted:realized the depth of my current depressive episode when i noticed that i'm not excited about xmas My wife and I noticed we're not that excited about xmas either. But our reaction was like "huh, weird. I wonder why". So, you're not alone in feeling this way, but also it doesn't need to bring you (further) down. Maybe it's something about lockdown, or the weather, or both. |
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Christmas has always been A Big Deal to me, but less so this year considering everything. Maybe next year. |
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Code Jockey posted:Christmas has always been A Big Deal to me, but less so this year considering everything.
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My darling little kitty Oz has been limping lately and I got him into the vet hospital yesterday. It was a whole big complicated thing because it ended up being something totally unexpected, they kept him overnight. He has a condition that made one of his hip joints atrophy, which made muscles detach and for the last week he has had his femur rubbing bone-on-bone against his hip. They only caught it after studying the xray for quite a long time. I'm going to spend my christmas week administering pain medication drops to him from a little syringe but I am just glad we know what it is and that I was able to get him into a vet short notice (Most animal hospitals said they had 30+ day waits when I was calling around!!!) and that I have him in the first place. He and I are basically surgically attached to each other, I adopted him during the pandemic while I was living alone and never leaving and we spent pretty much every waking moment playing or cuddling for the last 18 months, and jesus this is probably the most emotionally difficult thing I've ever been through watching him limp and suffer and hiss at the floor in pain for the last few days and I can't even think about it without tearing up. Next I need to schedule a surgery for him in the next few weeks to file away part of the femur and insert metal pins in to keep the bones from rubbing against each other and then there's going to be another six weeks of recovery where I'll still be syringe-feeding him pain meds and probably/possibly spoon feeding him and stuff and I just hate that he has to go through all of this without understanding it  The vet wouldn't say he would make a "full recovery" but the surgery is apparently very effective at relieving pain and restoring some mobility. He is the absolute sweetest and most loving living creature I have ever met on this earth and auuuugh it's not fair  Anyway I was looking at pictures of him all day today while waiting to hear back from the vet so here are a few pictures of his sweet lil self so that this post isn't 100% sad        
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deep dish peat moss posted:My darling little kitty Oz cats are so good and important and i am  ing good vibes to your bud as hard as i can
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Hey good luck in cat surgery! Can BYOB get a potted plant to put by the recovery bed in the hospital? I've heard it really lifts cat spirits to have something to eat, dig up, or knock over while they're on the mend. |
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my sister just showed up with her boyfriend and while it was to be a surprise (though I knew), I was in the shower and heard her actual voice not over a phone for the first time in two years. just ugly cried in the bathroom. I knew she was coming but like a whole bunch of emotions just clobbered me from nowhere, like my mind was like “let’s just process all this nnnnnnow” it’s been a rough two years for her and she’s here and home and I just don’t want anything to hurt her again. ….and now I need to keep the bathroom clean and not engulfed in my makeup for a few days so help me
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teen witch posted:my sister just showed up with her boyfriend and while it was to be a surprise (though I knew), I was in the shower and heard her actual voice not over a phone for the first time in two years. just ugly cried in the bathroom. I knew she was coming but like a whole bunch of emotions just clobbered me from nowhere, like my mind was like “let’s just process all this nnnnnnow” You are a good sister and this was really touching 🙂 |
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well stop making it touching because now I gotta SHARE the car with her and this is BULLSHIT, MOM
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teen witch posted:well stop making it touching because now I gotta SHARE the car with her and this is BULLSHIT, MOM LOL, siblings |
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teen witch posted:my sister just showed up with her boyfriend and while it was to be a surprise (though I knew), I was in the shower and heard her actual voice not over a phone for the first time in two years. just ugly cried in the bathroom. I knew she was coming but like a whole bunch of emotions just clobbered me from nowhere, like my mind was like “let’s just process all this nnnnnnow”  this is the good poo poostraight into my veins love u love ur sis |
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Bingo Bango and I are both sick and decided that with everything up in the air and no ability to get rapid tests done on short notice the right thing would be to cancel our holiday travel plans, especially since my dad is very very ill and in extremely fragile health. So I called my mom to tell her and it went about as poorly as it possibly could. Things had been going really well between us since I came out to her and I feel like I just wrecked it all. At the end of the call I said "I love you" and she just hung up. I feel like such a loving rear end in a top hat.
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How Wonderful! posted:Bingo Bango and I are both sick and decided that with everything up in the air and no ability to get rapid tests done on short notice the right thing would be to cancel our holiday travel plans, especially since my dad is very very ill and in extremely fragile health. So I called my mom to tell her and it went about as poorly as it possibly could. Things had been going really well between us since I came out to her and I feel like I just wrecked it all. At the end of the call I said "I love you" and she just hung up. I feel like such a loving rear end in a top hat. Nah, dude. You know you're doing the right thing. Emotions are tricky and she is letting hers get the better of her right now. The alternative is you potentially give your dad covid and that's not the option you want. Remember, every choice we make has good and bad consequences. We have to weigh them and make the right choice. To me, you made the right one. |
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