Sisal Two-Step posted:

I've heard more people have started doing this as it allows kids with allergies to enjoy trick or treating too, which I never thought of. I'll probably do something like this next year.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA? I got uninvited from my friend's wedding and everyone says it's my fault.

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His Divine Shadow posted:

Rich people living in a gated community. rear end in a top hat-o-meter is going wild.

Xakura posted:

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA Leaving my husband with the baby for 4 hours?

Sisal Two-Step posted:

I've heard more people have started doing this as it allows kids with allergies to enjoy trick or treating too, which I never thought of. I'll probably do something like this next year.

littleratbastard posted:

“I am a mother to five, 12m,12f,14m,15f,15m. When I started dating my husband the kids were 2,4 and 5. Their father died when I was pregnant with the youngest twins.”

The youngest kids were two years old when she met the new husband, she wasn’t still pregnant, but it’s pretty weirdly worded, honestly.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA? I got uninvited from my friend's wedding and everyone says it's my fault.

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she's lost herself to that man and her pretendious hobbies.

Combo posted:

Yeah it's easy to not notice that she has two sets of twins there.

Which, gently caress that.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA? I got uninvited from my friend's wedding and everyone says it's my fault.
Another friend of mine and I were discussing how she's centered her whole life around planning that wedding for a whole hear and how she's lost herself to that man and her pretendious hobbies.

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I'm getting married in 7 months and one week after the wedding we will plan our honeymoon which will be in a resort of our country, around a 2 hour flight.

The place we were going has always been a dream destination of me and my friends. When I told them where we'd plan our honeymoon they said how jealous they are and how they wish they could also go. I told them that we could consider the idea of making this a friend inclusive honeymoon and they were very excited with the idea. Sadly for many years we hadn't been able to plan the trip with the guys to that place because our conflicting schedules but now pretty much is easier for us to be able to align our vacation days. So I thought this was a great chance.

I announced it to my fiancée the other day and I thought she'd find it a cool idea but she got completely mad at me and started crying and telling me how much of an inconsiderate AH I am. I tried to explain to her I didn't do it with malice I simply thought it would be a good chance for the guys to experience it and I even told her she can tell some of her own friends of they want to join.

She told me that I'm ridiculous for insisting that this is a good idea and how she felt horrible because I'm inconsiderate because I made my honeymoon into a friendship trip when it's supposed to be about us two. She also says I'm an even bigger AH for discussing it with my friends and getting them excited about it when I didn't consult her and honestly I think she's right on that part and I might be TA.

On the idea though, I didn't think she'd mind that much. I thought it sounded fun.

Funktastic posted:

AITA for not letting my bf cook in my kitchen since he always throws away the food he makes?

Hughlander posted:

AITA for suggesting to my fiancée that we make our honeymoon inclusive to our friends?

StrangersInTheNight posted:

I doubt the total veracity of that story tbh (how were you able to say no when supposedly bleeding out?) but I share it because it's told as a story about how strong her desire to be a mom was

Hughlander posted:

AITA for suggesting to my fiancée that we make our honeymoon inclusive to our friends?

1stGear posted:

If you are capable of making informed decisions, you are allowed to refuse any and all medical care.

ShootaBoy posted:

Also its nothing like the movies, it takes like 10 minutes to bleed out from something major.

Biplane posted:

What the hell kind of friends even want to crash your honeymoon, what the gently caress?

RenegadeStyle1 posted:

10 minutes doesn't seem like enough time for the doctor to suggest a hysterectomy multiple times and be denied then figure something else out.

pentyne posted:

What kind of destination honeymoon are a bunch of guys super jealous of and bemoaning their inabilty to go?

Like, inviting them is I assume they pay for the flight and hotel, so clearly affording it isn't a problem. Why does the honeymoon suddenly look like their only chance?

1stGear posted:

If you are capable of making informed decisions, you are allowed to refuse any and all medical care.

Fil5000 posted:

Ok, I get THAT but then sending them away at the door seems pointless.

the holy poopacy posted:

dear strong bad, how do you be the rear end in a top hat with boxing gloves on?

StrangersInTheNight posted:

Reading between the lines, I'm thinking this isn't the first time poo poo like this has happened, and the only reason the mom wants to come in to 'talk' is to try and spin poo poo for why the stepdad doesn't need to apologize and everyone should just put this behind them and move forward 'for the family' or some poo poo. OP is not going to give enough ground to let that happen, which may seem dramatic or confusing, but it's the only way to handle people who use chances for dialogue as moments to manipulate. It's the apology or no contact.

I applaud the OP for growing a backbone, but they may be saddened to learn they might not get the apology and it's just gonna be no contact. When you've never played hardball with defending your boundaries before, you can fool yourself into thinking that just being bold enough to do it will get you the results you're aiming for.

El Spamo posted:

All of these become much better if you read them in strong bad voice

Grimdude posted:

While it is definitely a thing and can be annoying when people just ditch friends because they have someone to gently caress now, OP just doesn't come across sympathetic at all.

Grimdude posted:

Mom here is both stupid AND an rear end in a top hat. Why even bring this up? He wasn't going anyway, so just don't say anything about not going.

Completely avoidable, but she just HAD to get that dig in.

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He did not care and kept talking about stupid it was. I still wanted to go see him inducted at the ceremony, he threw a fit about how it was boring and like a punishment. I told him it's just an hour and I'd reward him later by taking him out to his favorite restaurant. He still kept bashing it and at one point made me upset by saying he would intentionally lower his grades this semester so he wouldn't qualify. After seeing how upset that made me he said he wasn't serious but it still kind of put a damper on the whole thing.

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Now honestly I probably wouldn't have cared if he had just worn the shirt to the ceremony to start since I doubt the school would've denied him entry and frankly I've liked Nirvana since before he was born, but his general attitude just kind of ruined the thing for me and left a bad taste in my mouth. I still fulfilled my promise and took him out, but decided not to discuss the honor society at all once he replied at first about how stupid it was.

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Well he told me he's on track to make it again this semester. I told him fine, whatever, I'm not attending the ceremony if he does. He told me he doesn't want to attend it anyway, but why wouldn't I? I explained to him how his behavior and attitude the last time completely ruined it and I don't want to go through with that again. It's entirely his choice to attend the ceremony or not, but either way I won't be going. And even that got him kind of upset. He told me that if he chooses to attend parents should go too, he was just angry at being kind of forced to go. He also asked if this applies to future years. I told him simply I'm never attending an honor society ceremony for him again.

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My husband and I have been friends since middle school, dating since junior year of high school, and got married as soon as I graduated college. We’ve been married for two years now, we just found I’m pregnant with our first child.

When we got married, I hyphenated our last names, with my last name being first, because I believe marriage is a union, and taking his last name felt like him claiming ownership over me. My husband was frustrated with this decision, but I stood my ground and was not going to budge. He eventually accepted this, but he did not hyphenate his last name. This bothered me for reasons I can’t explain, but I never brought it up as something I had a problem with because I honestly understand.

Now I’m pregnant, and I wanted to tell him now, while we still have eight months to discuss it, that I want to hyphenate our child’s last name. He BLEW UP on me, telling me I’m being ridiculous and I can’t actually expect him to be okay with that and he just won’t stand for it. I told him I want OUR child to have OUR last names. He told me it wasn’t his last name, it was mine. I then told him that HE is the ridiculous one for not realizing how silly he sounded by saying my hyphenated last name wasn’t ALSO HIS NAME.

Side note: Before we even got married, he told me he wanted his hypothetical son to have his first name. I agreed, with some reluctancy if I’m being honest, but I love my husband and I love his name.

I brought this fact up to him. If we had a son, my husband wants him to have his first AND last name, and even if we have a daughter, she’ll still have his last name. I told him that it wasn’t fair. I even told him that we could put his last name first when we hyphenate, but he was not having it.

I went on to say that my sister has constant problems because her son doesn’t have her last name, even though the father has never been in my nephews life. She gets questioned by doctors and teachers if she’s really his mom, and since she’s gotten married, she even has problems with getting him under her husbands Tricare. I told him if we ever separated, I don’t want those problems.

Then he blew up on me again for “assuming” we would separate, and THATS when I finally snapped and told him he was being a stubborn-self centered, man child. He knew that that wasn’t what I meant and he was being extremely obtuse. He left to cool down and now I’m getting texts from my MIL saying that I was being unreasonable and manipulative, and had to reduce to insults and throw a fit to get what I want. (Even though I didn’t get what I wanted)

I can understand he wants his child to have his last name, but I feel like hyphenating is still giving the child his last name. Am I the rear end in a top hat?

EDIT: I am AWARE we should’ve discussed this before, but no one is perfect and we still have eight months to work this out. I’m not going to divorce my husband over this but I’m not backing down.

To people saying it’s “emasculating,” I don’t care. I’m not going to prioritize anything over my husband’s ego. To people saying that I’d be giving my child my fathers name, why are you so focused on how men are going to influence my child’s name? It’s not about giving my child a name that is non-male oriented, it’s about sharing my heritage, my history, and my identity with my child through their name. To people that are saying I’m taking away my husbands ability to claim the child as his, the baby would ALSO share his last name and children are not possessions!

To the person that said it’s weird to give my child my last name unless I’m accomplished in my field, why don’t you think the same thing about men? Also, people saying that men are the head of the household, what era are you living in?? The sexism in those particular comment is unreal.

EDIT 2: I’ve gotten a lot of people commenting “what’s your children going to do when they get married???” And that’s up to them. There are plenty of options, they can have a third last name, keep their last name, take their spouses last name, come up with a completely new last name!!! It’s up to them!! And that’s assuming they ever even get married. But I’m not going to decide what to name my kid over their hypothetical marriage and hypothetical children that are decades from being a possibility

EDIT 3: people that use feminism/ feminist like it’s a dirty word are immediately irrelevant. The only people bringing up being “woke” or “feminist bullshit” are people calling me the rear end in a top hat. I never once said sharing my name with my baby was to be “woke” or “feminist”

EDIT 4: I agree we should all have the same last name!! If only my husband would hyphenate!

Uncle Enzo posted:

I mean yeah I did nothing but criticize her education, employment, training, hobbies, romantic partner, and her wedding but she's def overreacting to uninvite me!