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Sisal Two-Step posted:I've heard more people have started doing this as it allows kids with allergies to enjoy trick or treating too, which I never thought of. I'll probably do something like this next year. this was my wife's rationale for wanting to do it, and while I'm not sure how relevant it is the kids seem to like it anyway I think it's because a 5-year-old is smart enough to understand that a lovely little toy is a more permanent acquisition than a piece of candy and that they can continue enjoying it after the candy is gone, but not smart enough to understand they'll just get bored with it in 30 seconds anyhow
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA? I got uninvited from my friend's wedding and everyone says it's my fault. OP posted:Am I not allowed to be hurt and upset when that change involves the fact that she doesn't care as much about me anymore as she does for that man? So there's nothing wrong with the fact that she's not gonna be her own person anymore and her whole life will be about that man and any possible kids? She'll lose herself, how's that not concerning??? for some reason it's normalised that she's going to put a man before our friendship despite the fact that she knows him for a shorter period simply because she's going to have kids with him? Partners come and go but friendships cannot be replaced for the world. In what world is that ok??? Are we justifying forgetting our friends just to be with our partners now? I thought this was an outdated mindset and people judged those who put their gfs or bfs before their friends and now we've come full circle to justify it?? No. I am a straight woman
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His Divine Shadow posted:Rich people living in a gated community. rear end in a top hat-o-meter is going wild. somehow, even before this update, i knew this ultimately came down to "WE CAN'T HAVE ROACHES, ONLY DIRTY POOR PEOPLE HAVE ROACHES"
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 17:03 |
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While it is definitely a thing and can be annoying when people just ditch friends because they have someone to gently caress now, OP just doesn't come across sympathetic at all.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA Leaving my husband with the baby for 4 hours? This is sad as hell
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Sisal Two-Step posted:I've heard more people have started doing this as it allows kids with allergies to enjoy trick or treating too, which I never thought of. I'll probably do something like this next year. yeah, its definitely not an uptight church thing. in my froo froo fancy liberal neighborhood there were lots of people who had pre-packaged treat bags with categories like, allergen candy, gluten-free, no nuts, toys and stickers, etc.
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littleratbastard posted:“I am a mother to five, 12m,12f,14m,15f,15m. When I started dating my husband the kids were 2,4 and 5. Their father died when I was pregnant with the youngest twins.” Yeah it's easy to not notice that she has two sets of twins there. Which, gently caress that.
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 17:24 |
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA? I got uninvited from my friend's wedding and everyone says it's my fault. quote:she's lost herself to that man and her pretendious hobbies. dear strong bad, how do you be the rear end in a top hat with boxing gloves on?
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Combo posted:Yeah it's easy to not notice that she has two sets of twins there. I don’t see how any human beings could have a multichild birth and then decide they want to have more kids.
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people are loving crazy when it comes to kids, man. my own mom has a story about how she started bleeding out real bad after my older brother was born, and the doctor saying they'd need to take dramatic action and give her a hysterectomy or die, and her saying no gently caress you, I'm not done having kids. He obviously figured it out and she didn't die, but goddamn, mom. That's intense.
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I doubt the total veracity of that story tbh (how were you able to say no when supposedly bleeding out?) but I share it because it's told as a story about how strong her desire to be a mom was
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA? I got uninvited from my friend's wedding and everyone says it's my fault. I really want pretendious to become a word now.
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 17:59 |
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Pretendious: someone too dumb to be pretentious
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 18:05 |
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AITA for suggesting to my fiancée that we make our honeymoon inclusive to our friends?quote:I'm getting married in 7 months and one week after the wedding we will plan our honeymoon which will be in a resort of our country, around a 2 hour flight.
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 18:06 |
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Funktastic posted:AITA for not letting my bf cook in my kitchen since he always throws away the food he makes? what the gently caress
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 18:07 |
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Hughlander posted:AITA for suggesting to my fiancée that we make our honeymoon inclusive to our friends? The origin story of the guy who doesn't understand why getting a paternity test on his 3 year old resulted in his wife divorcing him.
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babe, hey, babe? babe, listen. saturda- hey? babe? saturdays are ferda. saturdays are ferda. come on put your bag down and ask me what ferda means. babe. baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaabe.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I doubt the total veracity of that story tbh (how were you able to say no when supposedly bleeding out?) but I share it because it's told as a story about how strong her desire to be a mom was If you are capable of making informed decisions, you are allowed to refuse any and all medical care.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for suggesting to my fiancée that we make our honeymoon inclusive to our friends? lol
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 18:16 |
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What the hell kind of friends even want to crash your honeymoon, what the gently caress?
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1stGear posted:If you are capable of making informed decisions, you are allowed to refuse any and all medical care. Also its nothing like the movies, it takes like 10 minutes to bleed out from something major.
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10 minutes doesn't seem like enough time for the doctor to suggest a hysterectomy multiple times and be denied then figure something else out.
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ShootaBoy posted:Also its nothing like the movies, it takes like 10 minutes to bleed out from something major. Those are rookie numbers dude, I bet I could bleed out way faster.
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 18:24 |
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Sitting at my desk whispering "pretendious" to myself in a Strong Bad voice and giggling.
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 18:25 |
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Biplane posted:What the hell kind of friends even want to crash your honeymoon, what the gently caress? What kind of destination honeymoon are a bunch of guys super jealous of and bemoaning their inabilty to go? Like, inviting them is I assume they pay for the flight and hotel, so clearly affording it isn't a problem. Why does the honeymoon suddenly look like their only chance?
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 18:29 |
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RenegadeStyle1 posted:10 minutes doesn't seem like enough time for the doctor to suggest a hysterectomy multiple times and be denied then figure something else out. He's not sitting there with his hands up his rear end while asking, two things can done at once. Also note how I said major, not any old bleeding, and also you lose consciousness long before the death point. If you're talking still, you're not dying just yet.
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 18:31 |
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pentyne posted:What kind of destination honeymoon are a bunch of guys super jealous of and bemoaning their inabilty to go? Probably some beach resort. Yeah, if they can afford to go now, why can't they just go together some other time? Unless there's a baby on the way or this couple is one of those "NOW THAT WE ARE MARRIED WE CAN NEVER DO ANYTHING APART! EVER!!!" types.
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1stGear posted:If you are capable of making informed decisions, you are allowed to refuse any and all medical care. this is what I really take from it. I'm sure I've just messed up the details since it's not my tale to tell, but mostly what I got from it was that sometimes doctors will tell you that you absolutely need to do something as a woman re: your reproductive health, and you have the right to say no and if you're able, get a second opinion. this is NOT the same as not ever believing doctors, but it means you have to be the advocate for your own care. my mom's a stronger woman than I am, bc honestly I'd just get the hysterectomy, but I don't want kids so I've got the opposite problem where I'm like, please make me sterile, but that's easier said than done for someone with a womb deemed of child-bearing age StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 18:42 on Dec 16, 2021 |
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I assume they are demanding prima nocta.
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 18:38 |
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Fil5000 posted:Ok, I get THAT but then sending them away at the door seems pointless. This is a really lovely take. If you tell someone "I want an apology" and they refuse to acknowledge anything and just complain about you, you have every right to turn them away when they show up at your house. She said in the comments that even a text from her mom would be all she needs. But apparently that's too much and she should just let the mom waltz into her house any time she likes?
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 18:51 |
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My late mother-in-law was told that her fourth pregnancy would probably kill her and that she should abort. She didn't, she lived decades after that, and my youngest sister-in-law is a great person. I would never have made that choice.
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 18:52 |
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Reading between the lines, I'm thinking this isn't the first time poo poo like this has happened, and the only reason the mom wants to come in to 'talk' is to try and spin poo poo for why the stepdad doesn't need to apologize and everyone should just put this behind them and move forward 'for the family' or some poo poo. OP is not going to give enough ground to let that happen, which may seem dramatic or confusing, but it's the only way to handle people who use chances for dialogue as moments to manipulate. It's the apology or no contact. I applaud the OP for growing a backbone, but they may be saddened to learn they might not get the apology and it's just gonna be no contact. When you've never played hardball with defending your boundaries before, you can fool yourself into thinking that just being bold enough to do it will get you the results you're aiming for. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 18:56 on Dec 16, 2021 |
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the holy poopacy posted:dear strong bad, how do you be the rear end in a top hat with boxing gloves on? All of these become much better if you read them in strong bad voice
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Reading between the lines, I'm thinking this isn't the first time poo poo like this has happened, and the only reason the mom wants to come in to 'talk' is to try and spin poo poo for why the stepdad doesn't need to apologize and everyone should just put this behind them and move forward 'for the family' or some poo poo. OP is not going to give enough ground to let that happen, which may seem dramatic or confusing, but it's the only way to handle people who use chances for dialogue as moments to manipulate. It's the apology or no contact. Yeah I got the same impression. In the comments, op clarifies that her mom came over to call op immature over not dropping this issue and this isn't the first time she's pulled a stunt like this. El Spamo posted:All of these become much better if you read them in strong bad voice
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Grimdude posted:While it is definitely a thing and can be annoying when people just ditch friends because they have someone to gently caress now, OP just doesn't come across sympathetic at all. She didn't even ditch her friends, she just stopped hanging out with them quite as often. You know, because she's an adult with a job and a relationship and some hobbies that don't include obsessively clinging to the same people she grew up with.
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Grimdude posted:Mom here is both stupid AND an rear end in a top hat. Why even bring this up? He wasn't going anyway, so just don't say anything about not going. Disagree mainly because: quote:He did not care and kept talking about stupid it was. I still wanted to go see him inducted at the ceremony, he threw a fit about how it was boring and like a punishment. I told him it's just an hour and I'd reward him later by taking him out to his favorite restaurant. He still kept bashing it and at one point made me upset by saying he would intentionally lower his grades this semester so he wouldn't qualify. After seeing how upset that made me he said he wasn't serious but it still kind of put a damper on the whole thing. quote:Now honestly I probably wouldn't have cared if he had just worn the shirt to the ceremony to start since I doubt the school would've denied him entry and frankly I've liked Nirvana since before he was born, but his general attitude just kind of ruined the thing for me and left a bad taste in my mouth. I still fulfilled my promise and took him out, but decided not to discuss the honor society at all once he replied at first about how stupid it was. She takes the hint that her kid hates/hated the ceremony, doesn't bring it up & still takes him out to dinner after. Understandably disappointed in the kid, but nothing major. quote:Well he told me he's on track to make it again this semester. I told him fine, whatever, I'm not attending the ceremony if he does. He told me he doesn't want to attend it anyway, but why wouldn't I? I explained to him how his behavior and attitude the last time completely ruined it and I don't want to go through with that again. It's entirely his choice to attend the ceremony or not, but either way I won't be going. And even that got him kind of upset. He told me that if he chooses to attend parents should go too, he was just angry at being kind of forced to go. He also asked if this applies to future years. I told him simply I'm never attending an honor society ceremony for him again. So why's the kid so mad about his mom not going to a ceremony he clearly hates & won't be attending anyways? Stupid teen poo poo yes, but he has no grounds to get mad when (A) they're not forcing him this time due to the previous event & (B) he didn't want to go anyways. Closest I can vote is ESH but only because mom said she'd never go to ANY future events; even then she sounds pretty justified with a bratty kid. I'm guessing he thought he'd get "rewarded" again if he agreed to go, but now that mom & dad bowed out, he won't get the chance to "be rebellious" & get a free dinner for it.
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AITA for telling my husband I don’t want to give our child his last name?quote:My husband and I have been friends since middle school, dating since junior year of high school, and got married as soon as I graduated college. We’ve been married for two years now, we just found I’m pregnant with our first child.
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 19:37 |
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Yeah well what did she expect, she posted the m word
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# ? Dec 16, 2021 19:44 |
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I'm a lady and I want my partner and children to take my name . Surprised at how many dudes really prefer their last names in these Reddit stories
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Uncle Enzo posted:I mean yeah I did nothing but criticize her education, employment, training, hobbies, romantic partner, and her wedding but she's def overreacting to uninvite me! People are static. They like the same things they liked when they were kids and teenagers and never change. If they do change it's due to some nefarious outside influence who forces them to change against their will
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