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Apologize to your wife, but never apologize to the sister or mom, and see if you can work up a deal where you don't have to be around her, in advance. If you don't talk it out now, it makes you the rear end in a top hat the next time there's some event and you try to get out of it. You and your wife need to have a mutual understanding that it does no one any good to put you in proximity to her sister You can smell the family dynamic of mom always favoring lovely sister, and the wife always playing peacemaker, though.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 15:36 |
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AITA for getting my mother in law maple syrup for her birthday?quote:Over thanksgiving, my MIL came over as well as a bunch of other family members. For context, I don’t like my MIL. she’s rude, and I just find her annoying. She makes unnecessary comments and has a stick up her rear end. My siblings and their kids were there, etc. My family has always had a pretty late thanksgiving dinner, by late I mean like a normal dinner time, but I know a lot of people like to eat super early on Thanksgiving. Anyways, one thing we always do is have a nice breakfast with these super yummy honey crepes. It’s a family recipe, we have a whole bunch of toppings, as well as honey.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 15:38 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for getting my mother in law maple syrup for her birthday? She gets an awesome gift that's exactly what she wants and decides to be disrespected anyways. gently caress that bitch
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 15:46 |
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Yes you're an rear end in a top hat. Continuing a feud is a thing assholes do. Almost certainly even from the limited info we have mil is far worse, but you don't gotta hold on to every petty grievance.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 15:47 |
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ikanreed posted:Yes you're an rear end in a top hat. Continuing a feud is a thing assholes do. Almost certainly even from the limited info we have mil is far worse, but you don't gotta hold on to every petty grievance. Someone being an rear end in a top hat to you is not a feud.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:02 |
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Grape posted:Someone being an rear end in a top hat to you is not a feud. No, a feud is when you take something someone else did to you, and you use it as a basis for another aggressive (or in this case passive aggressive) act. This thread lives and breathes for assholes getting their comeuppance, but a lot of it just seems to be people who can never let slights go and must escalate or perpetuate. And shut the gently caress up, I hear you assholes calling that being a doormat already. You know there's a difference. Standing up for yourself and getting really petty revenge aren't the same thing.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:08 |
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AITA for telling a co-worker to shut the gently caress up for making fun of my stutter?quote:Ok so I've never made a post like this before so I'm sorry if things seem out of place.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:16 |
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Hope the hiring manager makes the correct executive decision there
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:20 |
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ikanreed posted:No, a feud is when you take something someone else did to you, and you use it as a basis for another aggressive (or in this case passive aggressive) act. Well I wasn't going to say anything. But yeah you're a doormat lol.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:23 |
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Pomme de Terror posted:AITA for telling a co-worker to shut the gently caress up for making fun of my stutter? Literally what he was doing.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:24 |
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ikanreed posted:No, a feud is when you take something someone else did to you, and you use it as a basis for another aggressive (or in this case passive aggressive) act. Abloo bloo, someone got a gift that was materialistically beneficial while still being harmlessly clever enough to make fun of how ridiculously fussy they were. Guess the other person is an rear end in a top hat.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:24 |
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ikanreed posted:No, a feud is when you take something someone else did to you, and you use it as a basis for another aggressive (or in this case passive aggressive) act. Lmao
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:25 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for getting my mother in law maple syrup for her birthday? Respect is earned, finicky hag
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:26 |
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Dazerbeams posted:Abloo bloo, someone got a gift that was materialistically beneficial while still being harmlessly clever enough to make fun of how ridiculously fussy they were. Guess the other person is an rear end in a top hat. I was gonna say, is this still about getting syrup? dog nougat posted:I want someone to gift me fancy-rear end maple syrup. That poo poo's expensive. loving empty quote, gimme syrup Brawnfire fucked around with this message at 16:53 on Dec 18, 2021 |
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I want someone to gift me fancy-rear end maple syrup. That poo poo's expensive.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:51 |
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Okay, we're going to stop with this "Guess the Slur" game that some of you seem to love playing every few days. And no, putting it behind a spoiler bar doesn't mean you somehow didn't participate.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:56 |
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Okay, we're going to stop with this "Guess the Slur" game that some of you seem to love playing every few days. And no, putting it behind a spoiler bar doesn't mean you somehow didn't participate. *sadly erases bullet-pointed list of slurs*
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 16:59 |
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Brawnfire posted:I was gonna say, is this still about getting syrup? It's about goons in the relationship thread being petty people who will constantly suggest the most destructive response to everything that offends, rather than forthrightedly speaking about your concerns, and then cutting people who continue to mistreat you out of your life. It reads a lot like people who are afraid of confrontation cheering for victory against the people they won't just talk to by proxy. Like it's pretty obvious that this mother in law in an entitled, rude guest who may be narcissistic. What does a passive aggressive gift do to resolve that? Zip, zilch, nada. It's just a dick move to make yourself feel better about being mistreated.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:00 |
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I was gonna make a joke about that ethnic group in france we have record of people trying to persecute but we have no record of what like, uh, defined them or made the different than other French people so we have no record of whether they actually got persecuted much less if they even existed since we have not attestations of them other than screeds saying "I hate those guys"' but I can't for the life of me remember their name so now I guess I'm hoping somebody can tell me in this thread.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:08 |
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Foo Diddley posted:*sadly erases bullet-pointed list of slurs*
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:10 |
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Barudak posted:I was gonna make a joke about that ethnic group in france we have record of people trying to persecute but we have no record of what like, uh, defined them or made the different than other French people so we have no record of whether they actually got persecuted much less if they even existed since we have not attestations of them other than screeds saying "I hate those guys"' but I can't for the life of me remember their name so now I guess I'm hoping somebody can tell me in this thread. Cagots
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:10 |
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Okay, we're going to stop with this "Guess the Slur" game that some of you seem to love playing every few days. And no, putting it behind a spoiler bar doesn't mean you somehow didn't participate. drat, I was waiting for the bonus round of "Wheel of Slurs"
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:11 |
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Barudak posted:I was gonna make a joke about that ethnic group in france we have record of people trying to persecute but we have no record of what like, uh, defined them or made the different than other French people so we have no record of whether they actually got persecuted much less if they even existed since we have not attestations of them other than screeds saying "I hate those guys"' but I can't for the life of me remember their name so now I guess I'm hoping somebody can tell me in this thread. fr*gs
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:18 |
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Brawnfire posted:Cagots Thank you!!!
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:20 |
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Invisible Clergy posted:In addition to what's been offered, you know in anime where the woman who is an adult will do like a "cute" voice and sound whiny like a baby and say "tan" for "chan" to her boyfriend? Or like in western media where an adult woman will do the betty boop voice and pronounce Rs as Ws to sound like a little girl? It's that poo poo. I had one ex-gf who sometimes did that and I hated it. When she was sad she would sometimes also still sit in her mother's lap (she lived at home with her parents). She was 23 and almost 6' tall.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:25 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:rigging up some nightmare panopticon inside your own house like you're a fuckin SCP is insane poo poo. realizing what you've done and removing all that garbage posthaste is a brief stroke of sanity Hope you don't own a cellphone.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:26 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for snitching on my stepdad to his ex wife which basically ruined Christmas for him and my mom loving legendary burn, god drat. She was burned so hard she was incandescent enough to light up the Marianas trench.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:34 |
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Barudak posted:I was gonna make a joke about that ethnic group in france we have record of people trying to persecute but we have no record of what like, uh, defined them or made the different than other French people so we have no record of whether they actually got persecuted much less if they even existed since we have not attestations of them other than screeds saying "I hate those guys"' but I can't for the life of me remember their name so now I guess I'm hoping somebody can tell me in this thread. Jews
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:35 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for snitching on my stepdad to his ex wife which basically ruined Christmas for him and my mom the "my stepdad flirts with anything in a skirt" part of the story reminded me of this PBF: https://pbfcomics.com/comics/bully/
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:36 |
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I’ve noticed that this thread has become a bit more hostile than our overall flippancy. Sometimes negative emotions are warranted, as some of these topics are pretty intense. HOWEVER, we need to have some semblance of control here, regarding the thread and the participants. I will cop to being a lovely IK the past few days, as I’ve travelled to my moms and dealing with family things, holiday things, and so on. Hell, even my anger has spiked by being back in the US (been here for three days and have been outwardly aggressive to those smugly ignoring the mask mandate, also lovely slow drivers WHO CANT USE A loving SIGNAL HOLY poo poo YOU HAVE THE RIGHT OF WAY). I thank my amazing, fantastic co-IK for picking up the slack, and if I get my lazy rear end westward I should buy them a drink. anyway Let’s cool it a bit in here. We don’t need to be at everyone’s throats, especially for something like this.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:38 |
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Barudak posted:Thank you!!! Np, I'm pretty interested in them as a group; having an example of an oppressed minority group we can't explain just lays bare how arbitrary all our outgroupings and underclassings are
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:43 |
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Dazerbeams posted:Abloo bloo, someone got a gift that was materialistically beneficial while still being harmlessly clever enough to make fun of how ridiculously fussy they were. Guess the other person is an rear end in a top hat. extremely correct take people aren't cheering because someone incinerated their bridges with an orbital nuke. it's a legitimately good gift idea and people are cheering at the OP's cleverness in giving a thoughtful funny gift that would only be taken as an by the most absolutely unreasonable people.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:43 |
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ikanreed posted:Yes you're an rear end in a top hat. Continuing a feud is a thing assholes do. Almost certainly even from the limited info we have mil is far worse, but you don't gotta hold on to every petty grievance. Wrong! OP owns ikanreed posted:No, a feud is when you take something someone else did to you, and you use it as a basis for another aggressive (or in this case passive aggressive) act. Advocate being a doormat, but aggressively
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:53 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for snitching on my stepdad to his ex wife which basically ruined Christmas for him and my mom This OP is pretty cool. Hope he gets out of that lovely house. Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for going after my child's school? The husband is also a completely spineless coward.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 17:54 |
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As everybody is pointing out, the evil stepteacher almost certainly destroyed the necklace. And OP says it's irreplaceable because it was blessed by all her family members, some of whom are now dead. I am horrified that the principal backed the teacher up. Not necessarily surprised, but horrified.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 18:01 |
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ikanreed posted:It's about goons in the relationship thread being petty people who will constantly suggest the most destructive response to everything that offends, rather than forthrightedly speaking about your concerns, and then cutting people who continue to mistreat you out of your life. Have you personally dealt with people like the MIL? She’s the kind of person that can sit through a forthright discussion a million times and never change. And just lol at suggesting you go low contact over something so minor. She’s obnoxious as hell but definitely not estrangement worthy. Getting a few dunks in is just about all OP can do to cope.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 18:02 |
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Evil Willow posted:I'm going with midget Is it really necessary to play Guess the Slur?
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 18:06 |
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Hughlander posted:Oh hey stupid derails you say? You chose... poorly
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 18:08 |
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High road mockery is a fine art. Getting someone a genuinely nice present to tell them they're an rear end in a top hat and just making them look like a bigger rear end in a top hat if they dare find fault with it is the perfect way to deal with a person with whom you cannot reasonably sever.
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# ? Dec 18, 2021 18:08 |
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That was a really bad probe, given that the person they were arguing with is seriously calling the guy breaking spy cameras domestic violence.
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